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unruly preschoolers
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    Some of you already know, I have 2 little boys. L is almost 5, and J is almost 3.

    That right there tells my hands are beyond full!

    Lately, these 2 have been driving me hardcore bat shit insane with preschool-age NONSENSE.

    Typical behaviors like tantrums, (J is just starting on the serious hour-long tantrums, L is tapering off with smaller outbursts) but its becoming so FLIPPIN HARD!
    It's constant! I'm constantly fighting them over every little thing, every single 'NO' is another meltdown. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.
    I want to say yes more, but how can I when the question is "can I bash your camera with daddy's hammer?" or "can I do something that causes limb loss, like zoom are the living room with your open fabric scissors in my hand?" (Obviously not direct quotes but you get the idea)

    All the neighbors are close together and a lot of people walk by to take their dogs and/or kids to the park right near my house, so I know our shouting and screaming is heard by all. And its doing nothing for the boys. It just embarrasses me and causes my throat to be sore and my voice to be raspy..

    Time outs do nothing. Spanks do nothing. Taking things away. Nothing.
    I have taken away everything they have at different times and you know what little kids do when they are bored and have nothing to play with or watch on tv?

    They scream. And cry. And beat up each other. And somehow find a way to fuck up one room while I'm cleaning another.

    Thus is life with tiny tots.

    I love these goof balls, they are super smart and talk SO MUCH and crack me up with their crazy ideas and silly thoughts.
    WHEN they are actually being good.
    Honestly, not exaggerating, the tantrums and fights are most than the quiet good times (excluding sleeping, which we all know is mommy HEAVEN xD )

    I guess I just want you scaries with older kids to tell me gets better. And how do/did you deal with your unruly toddlers/preschoolers???

    SMSM_s_5

  • AutumnAutumn
    Posts: 898Member

    I have no advice, but I'll be bookmarking for future reference!  :D

    Don't you wish they could still sit in a johnny jump up or exersaucer??  LOL

  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    @autumn YES OMG those things made everything so much easier! Ps I miss you! And love you :*

    SMSM_s_5

  • AutumnAutumn
    Posts: 898Member

    Aww I love you too!  :x

  • shate98shate98
    Posts: 2,751Member
    @Autumn OMG I SO wish. I just lent mine to a friend this week :( where are the toddler containment devices???
    "As you wander through your life, whatever be your goal,
    keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole."
  • AutumnAutumn
    Posts: 898Member

    Right?! @shate98

    Someone should invent that ASAP!

  • shate98shate98
    Posts: 2,751Member
    @Autumn I would! But I'm pretty sure we'd have to wrap the toddlers in bubble wrap first to keep them safe (from themselves...)
    "As you wander through your life, whatever be your goal,
    keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole."
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    They have skin to keep them safe xD
    Seriously though, where are those containment devices??!! Mine have been too big for the high chair for a year, all I got for containment is the car seats when we go somewhere...
    Hhmm..
    @autumn @shate98 let's do this. I think we got something here!
    xD xD xD

    SMSM_s_5

  • shate98shate98
    Posts: 2,751Member
    @batti I'm in!
    "As you wander through your life, whatever be your goal,
    keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole."
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,749Member
    Alas, the toddler bullshit only gives way to school-aged bullshit, then pre-teen, teen...you get the picture. Ya'll keep me in the loop if you do invent some awesome toddler containment device. The bathtub is my current go-to.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • AutumnAutumn
    Posts: 898Member

    @shate98 my first response to @batti's question was "Wrap them in bubble wrap, give them foam bats, and let them work it out."  :))

    DS is getting too big for his high chair; the seams on the sides are unraveling.  :(

  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    @grits I use the tub too, but I'm still worried about DS2 alone, I keep the door open if I step out.
    Plus they fight LOL
    @autumn I do take them outside to duke it out sometimes, they are always hitting each other with things, maybe foam bats would be a good investment xD

    SMSM_s_5

  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,749Member
    Yeah, I could see that with a two year old. Mine's almost 4 and starting preschool soon. Her big sis has been back for two weeks now. My house is much quieter.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • shate98shate98
    Posts: 2,751Member
    @Batti just get some of those fake sumo wrestling suits in toddler size :P
    "As you wander through your life, whatever be your goal,
    keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole."
  • stinkersmommystinkersmommy
    Posts: 1,322Member
    I have one ds (4.5) and damn I Hate the everyfuckingtimemommysaysnoIscreamlikesheisrippingmytoenailsout!!!!
    Glitter Words
    [Glitterfy.com - *Glitter Words*]
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,849Member
    Do they make toddler/preschooler sumo suits? Course I'd buy a few of those! I've read the books and know the lack of control is normal, along with wanting babying, independence, and general brattyness, but by all that anyone had ever held holy, it's exhausting!
  • toadintheholetoadinthehole
    Posts: 1,010Member
    @unforgiven has an awesome recipes for calm down jars, have u tried them?
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,889Confessional Manager
    http://www.scarymommy.com/message-board/index.php?p=/discussion/9674/quietdistraction-discovery-pods#Item_11


    :D

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • toadintheholetoadinthehole
    Posts: 1,010Member
    (thank you @unforgiven, i'm on my phone and cant search!!)
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,889Confessional Manager
    No problem! Thanks for tagging me! 

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • catt
    Posts: 1Member
    My 6 yr old and 3 yr old girls drive me CRAZY!!!! All summer was fighting!! They NEVER share. My hubby is good at remaining calm and talking them down. WE usually do time outs but they only work for him. I yell at them and I hate doing that. I've tried swatting their butt but they swat each other. It has gotten more physical. When my 3 yr old is exhausted from avoiding fights, then I step in and send the 6 yr old to her room.
  • mamaofboysmamaofboys
    Posts: 387Member
    @batti I'm in the same boat - DS5 and DS2 are driving me bonkers with their constant bickering and beating of each other. I have been working very hard trying to calm myself down by counting to 10 before going after them. I feel like I'm unraveling at points and this has helped. Just counting down the days until they start school...
    BTW, at least the car seats still contain yours. Oldest one buckles and unbuckles himself, sometimes a little too soon. Now he's trying to figure out how to free his little brother.
    There definitely needs to be something to contain these crazy monsters!!
    Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift; that's why they call it the present.
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,301Member
    Mine are 6 and are the same way plus they steal and lie... The only thing keeping me from being drunk all the time is the price of alcohol... I need to learn how to make vodka...
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,301Member
    When the hell is marijuana going to be legalized... I'd be so much calmer and loving...
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • BeachyBeachy
    Posts: 3,888Member
    Lol you funny @meAndmy243
    Searching for my lost shaker of salt.
  • BeachyBeachy
    Posts: 3,888Member
    I have 2 and 3 yr old DDS and I swear when cps comes aknockin I will not be surprised. My girls are hell on wheels. I will invite cps in, offer sweet tea, and invite them to Bet on who wins that particular bout.
    Searching for my lost shaker of salt.
  • mommyof2_76
    Posts: 340Member
    Just one more reason I am glad that mine are 13 years apart. I don't have to deal with the fighting.
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    @mamaofboys OMG I'd flip if they figured out the car seats, I'm screwed when that happens!
    @meandmy243 I just learned how to make wine, I haven't actually made any yet but it appears to be pretty simple :D

    SMSM_s_5

  • Emmie
    Posts: 277Member

    What helps a lot with my 3 y/o grandson is getting him outside to get some exercise.  Wear him out!  Also, talking dd into using 123 Magic with him helped alot.   http://www.123magic.com/

    He still drives me batty sometimes.  I don't know how I would manage him and a five year old fighting!  I know when my kids were older than that, giving them "social isolation" (where they didn't get to interact with each other for a while if they were just fighting) helped a lot.

  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,188Member
    We're going through that here, and I only have ONE!  Bat shit crazy is definitely the feeling of the moment, and I can't wait for them to be over!  Yesterday dd3.5 got into my collectible dolls on display in my guestroom.  She had to stand on the bed to get at them. 

    I wouldn't have been half as angry except that every time she's in there, she's told to "only look, never touch," and she got in trouble for touching them just a couple of days ago.  

    She's never been like this before, in fact I brag all the time that she doesn't get into shit she's not supposed to, guess I'm eating those words!!!
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,178Member
    @emmie I do separate them and it seems to help, but its hard when my house/yard aren't very big. Once DH gets home from work its easier, he'll play with one, I'll take one for a walk or something, and we switch.
    @bellabefana I've been known to brag about how good mine are about staying out of things they aren't supposed to touch but this morning before waking me up they cut up all their drawing paper with outdoor plant cutters. All these things WERE well out of their reach but DS2 figured out he could drag his chair in the kitchen and reach EVERYTHING. DS4 did NOT do this at this age!
    PS I found a cool vintage doll for .79 at the thrift store the other day, maybe you know something about it if I send you a pic or something??

    SMSM_s_5

  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,188Member
    @batti:  sure I'll take a look at it.  Look on the back of her neck or the bottoms of her feet, that's generally where you'll find manufacturer hallmarks.
    Bite me, cupcake!
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