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Are you a black sheep too?
  • Sabzzy
    Posts: 677Member
       
    We buy things we don't need
    With money we don't have
    To impress people we don't like
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,742Guest
    It was probably the best thing you could do, distance yourself from your mother. I don't know the circumstances but I feel where you are coming from. All you can do is what's best for you and your daughter. If your extended family fell under your moms spell then fuck 'em. You don't need them anyway.
  • undercoverbanana
    Posts: 7,743Member
    definitely a black sheep. But, because of it, I have happy well adjusted kids that I have a great relationship with. And I just dont talk to my family a lot. Other than my sister, my family thinks my dh is perfect and wonderful. So, the less they know, the better.
    i'm nekkid.
  • babablacksheepbabablacksheep
    Posts: 130Member

    Hence the name

     

  • KiinuKiinu
    Posts: 1,160Member
    The last Easter before I moved out on my own my mother gave us each a little chocolate lamb. She was watching us trying not to laugh while we looked in the baskets. She had apparently found a set of five at the store, four white and one black, and being the mom she is thought "OMFG this is PERFECT!! It will be SOFUCKINGFUNNY!" She put a little white lamb next to my siblings baskets and put the little black one by mine.

    The running joke is I'm the only one without major health problems out of the five of us. Asthma and seasonal allergies do not cut it in my family lol. When we realized she had labeled me the black sheep she nearly died, we all gave it a little chuckle, and she had tears running down her face she was laughing so hard.
  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    I'm definitely the black sheep of my family. I don't really get along with any of them, and even when we are getting along, they all think I'm weird. My mom used to say that I live on my own planet...lucky for me SO is on the same planet with me. :)
  • Mommyliciousx4Mommyliciousx4
    Posts: 1,769Member
    I am and kinda made myself the blacksheep. My older three siblings are asses and have been jealous of me since I was born. They are in their 50s, I'm 32.
    My father is a major control freak w anger issues.
    He's not afraid to curse you out or be hateful, even w the kids.
    Because of those issues I distance myself from them as much as possible.
    My mom and other three brothers are pretty cool and mellow.
  • VegantasticVegantastic
    Posts: 3,475Member

    Baaaa!!

    Black sheep over here too :) I'm a crunchy vegan, and my dad owns a BBQ restaurant and my entire family hunts and fishes. They're all Catholic Republicans, and I'm ... not. Ever hear the song "Born on the Wrong Planet"? That's me lol The best years of my life were living in Canada, 1200 miles away. Now I'm within daily-visiting range and it's HORRIBLE. Constant reminders that I don't fit in with my own family (to be fair, I think they're nuts lol) And I'm lucky like MorganD- my hub is from the same planet as me (his family too!)

    "Be the change you wish to see in the world"
    "Don't Panic"
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,164Member
    I have a feeling that MOST of us are black sheep. I'm not exactly in my own family, we all get along fine but I am certainly the "weird" one of the bunch. My DH definitely is in his, so I guess I am by default. I 100% feel the "poisoning the well" syndrome, MIL is constantly talking shit..

    SMSM_s_5

  • MorganD
    Posts: 3,451Member
    @SAHM1020 We're lucky to have guys that get our weirdness. :)
  • Rosie08
    Posts: 494Member
    Truthfully, and you all will probably hate me, but my immediate family doesn't have a black sheep. We are all quirky, strong- willed, independent thinkers who tend to do things our own way(while respecting ourselves and others.

    However, my parents love us all, and thankfully, we are all pretty well adjusted. Far from perfect, have our problems, etc., but we all get along. Even though my parents are active Lutherans, the accept my sisters girlfriend, understood when we experimented as teenagers, didn't care when I chose to take my time getting married. They were the ones our friends turned to when they had problems, the ones who helped my sisters bff tell her mom when she got pregnant at 16. We tend to be screamers, hah, but my parents rock. Maybe my whole family s weird? We do tend to root for the underdog.
  • OUCHOUCH
    Posts: 1,888Member
    I am the black sheep. My mom is sooo proud of my brother for working his way through college and of my sister for her "certificate of completion" for construction management that she will never use. My mother goes to my sisters house every week to visit her and her kids. For about 18months this meant driving right past me to get to my sisters. She stopped at my place twice. I am also the only one with tattoos and piercings. And, get this, I am the only one to have never done drugs. 
    I am in college now, at 33, halfway through an associates degree. After that I will likely go for a bachelors. I wonder if she will be proud of me then. 
    "Promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate." - UNK
    "The amazing thing about life is that you choose what you allow into it, you choose how things affect you, you choose how you react. Happiness is a choice. Make it." - UNK
    "Tattoos don't define the person, the person defines the tattoos." - Me
  • WildandFree
    Posts: 1,599Member
    Black sheep right here. *shrug* anymore, I just don't care.
  • Sabzzy
    Posts: 677Member
    Well, at least I'm not alone. 


    @MorganD I think I occupy a planet all my own. Sometimes I wonder if I AM an alien. 
    We buy things we don't need
    With money we don't have
    To impress people we don't like
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,757Member
    I was the black sheep, but my family has come around. I moved out of my parents' house at 18, bounced around from place to place, did a lot of drinking and drugs (somehow always kept a job), and had lots of pre-marital sex. Then I met DH, who had felony charges pending against him when we met and was convicted about a year later. Gawd, my family hated it. I didn't speak to them for about 6 months. Then I finally worked up the nerve to write letters to them all to defend myself and DH (then BF). It all worked out pretty well, I guess. Now my little sis is on her way to claiming the black sheep title...I feel sorry for her.
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,795Administrator, Moderator
    Me too, at least out of my immediate family.

    I am not in the mood to rant about all the why's, but we'll keep it short and sweet, and say that I live in northeast Mississippi, where straight conservative republican baptists propagate, and none of those adjectives apply to me, and I'm not quiet about it--much to my family's chagrin.

    community-manager


  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,486Member
    On my mothers side - yes. Although I'm probably the most responsible and "together" I don't put up with her BS so I'm pretty much ousted from the family.  There was a big family reuinion in July.  I found out about it 2 weeks ago.  So be it.  
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • SchweddyBallsSchweddyBalls
    Posts: 3,256Member
    I refer to "them" as parental units, big ol' black sheep riiiight here......
    I'm the nicest person you will ever meet, UNTIL you fuck with me or the betches I love.......
  • Sabzzy
    Posts: 677Member
      
    We buy things we don't need
    With money we don't have
    To impress people we don't like
  • WickedBitchoftheEastWickedBitchoftheEast
    Posts: 912Member

    Baaa Baaa Baaa. I refuse to take responsibility and apologize for my 'womb donor's' feelings ever again. I've realized it's her problem, not mine.
  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,366Member
    I am the black sheep. My mom wanted only one baby a boy and she got boy/girl twins... I'm the screw up and the fuck up.. everything I do is wrong... but that's life. . I asked her once why she hates me so much and her responce was you didn't love me as ababy. Babies are incapable of love... they model what's shown to them..
    mom of wild children
    going to the chapel 7/5/2014
  • Sabzzy
    Posts: 677Member
    meandmy243 said:

    I am the black sheep. My mom wanted only one baby a boy and she got boy/girl twins... I'm the screw up and the fuck up.. everything I do is wrong... but that's life. . I asked her once why she hates me so much and her responce was you didn't love me as ababy. Babies are incapable of love... they model what's shown to them..



    I'm sorry  >:D<
    We buy things we don't need
    With money we don't have
    To impress people we don't like
  • lostinthewindlostinthewind
    Posts: 1,075Member
    Depends on what side of my family ya talk to. My dad's side I'm a wonderful asset to the family... my moms well I don't make enough money and I teach my kids things like hunting fishing shooting and dirt bike riding. So I'm not ladylike enough either.
  • boring_nameboring_name
    Posts: 667Member
    I don't know about black sheep... maybe invisible sheep might be more appropriate for me. I'm one of 8 and while I didn't have a BAD childhood (my parents are amazing people) I spent a lot of time alone and lonely. My interests never meshed with my siblings.. They love(d) sports... I like ballet.  Also being the youngest of 8 kids AND the youngest of all of the cousins (probably 30+ total) I was (and often still am) treated like 'the baby'. It's rare that I am invited along on a 'night out' usually I was asked to babysit instead. 


    B
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,254Member
    hell, i dont think my family has a WHITE sheep...lol. lets see

    alcoholic grandfather

    neurotic grandmother

    mom, pregnant in high school, three kids, two different men

    sister-on second husband

    brother 1. from my mother, recovering heroine addict

    brother2. from dad, guitar and tattoo junkie, garage bands more than i can count

    father- dead, alcoholic and addict. any and every drug. absent since i was 18 months

    and me. two kids, two 'dads' wasnt married to either, no real trouble, just not go with the flow. i not only march to my own beat, i usually dont even hear it...lol
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • Sabzzy
    Posts: 677Member
    Wellll....My H came home from a trip back home and I was told some things that make me VERY VERY grateful to be the black sheep. I feel better now :D
    We buy things we don't need
    With money we don't have
    To impress people we don't like
  • MommiFriedMommiFried
    Posts: 10Member
    Oh, hell, I'm definitely the black sheep - which is okay with me. I've had to make some difficult decisions for my own wellbeing and mental health. Some of these decisions involve distancing myself from certain people in my family. Listen, if you were and are a good mom - that child is yours to raise. She is your responsibility. Don't ever let anyone tell you how you should and shouldn't raise her if you are doing right by her. Keep your chin up. :)
  • bombkittybombkitty
    Posts: 306Member
    My whole family's nuts.  I'm glad I'm on the other side of the world when the drama train gets rolling!  I am an only child, but my parents are pretty weird, too.  IT's the gramma, aunts, cousins that are all drama queens.
  • Mama07Of10Three11Mama07Of10Three11
    Posts: 121Member

    I'm the black sheep too, but only to my mother. My mother loves to control and I don't put up with it.

    "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence."-Helen Keller
  • momofeveryonemomofeveryone
    Posts: 1,716Member

    baaaa!!! yep im one too. i like clothes, i dont do 'fashion'. i like music, i dont do pop. ect. so i was always close, b ut not quite what they wanted. i also know alot of stupid random ass shit. they like to make fun of me for it. they liked to make fun of me for alot. i got over it. now dh and i are raising our kids to be little metal heads w/ two brain cells to rub togther....

     

    we got the house!!!!! i have worked so hard for 5 years to get us in a spot to buy! isnt it cute?!?!?!?
  • Mama07Of10Three11Mama07Of10Three11
    Posts: 121Member
    I don't even let my mother see my kids. She went off the deep end a year ago. She's 55 thinking she is 20.
    "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence."-Helen Keller
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