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Can I be that Mom?
  • SonsX3
    Posts: 11Member
    I have a question for all of you moms out there..

    Tonight at my sons' Bitty (meaning 3-5 year olds) Flag Football game, one of the guests, not another mom, was chain smoking and gossiping, not even paying attention to the game. Would it be appropriate for me to ask her to please not smoke near the game because my son has asthma and is highly allergic to cigarette smoke? If so how would be the best way to approach the subject. I don't want to be rude but I really, really have a problem with people smoking around kids.
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,354Member
    I would be that mom ! No smoking near the kids !!!
    " Wibbly wobbly timey wimey ......." The Doctor
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  • ChristyJChristyJ
    Posts: 902Member

    I am new non-smoker and even when I did smoke, I always smoked well away from the kids, even at outdoor events.

    That being said, this was outdoors and the smoke will dissapate rather quickly and unless the smoke was being blown by the wind towards the kids, your son should be okay.  Next time I would just ask her to move back a little, nicely, and if she does not, try to move away if you can.

    Imperfect and proud of it.
  • KiinuKiinu
    Posts: 1,160Member
    I'm that mom.. he's not old enough for sports yet but, the park and whatnot, I dontgiveafuck if little johnny doesn't like you to leave him... get out of the park or put that shit out.
  • mommyof2_76
    Posts: 358Member
    Where I live it is illegal to smoke around people outside such as parks, amusement parks, outside concerts, spotting events, festivals etc. So yeah I would. I used to be a smoker and I always thought it was rude to smoke close to non smokers.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,716Member
    I would.  There are certain times when smoking is just simply inappropriate, kid's events are one.  I have been on the committee for the American Society's main fundraising event and the last time I was able to attend, I was completely appalled that we had set up smoking tables...I thought of all places to put your habit on hold for a couple of hours, this was it.

    The next year, I made the comment that we should be putting out "Thank you for not smoking" signs at the event.


    Bite me, cupcake!
  • BeachyBeachy
    Posts: 4,044Member
    I am sure you weren't they only one upset, so next time maybe ask the other mums how they feel and you can recruit a partner in crime to speak to the person?
    Sometimes I am a chickenshit (sometimes not) and that's probably what I would do.
    Searching for my lost shaker of salt.
  • SonsX3
    Posts: 11Member
    Thank you all for your support! I am always afraid I am a little too aggressive when it comes to smoking. I have never actually said anything to anyone because my husband says I am a little crazy and I am afraid I would not be respectful. I know everyone has rights, but my son's life is actually at risk. Probably if I had explained, instead of shooting death stares her way, she would happily put it out or moved away. We have another game Thursday night and hopefully it will not be an issue.
  • AnonUser29
    Posts: 1,169Guest
    <THAT mom. I have been known to go up to a group of teenage boys and ask them to watch their mouths as there are children around.
  • mommaomommao
    Posts: 174Member
    Totally tacky for smoking at a kid event.  Go across the street or something...anything..just away from the little people.
  • PenguinsMommaPenguinsMomma
    Posts: 1,491Member

    As a smoker of 13 years, I have made that mistake before becoming a mommy.  And I had someone say something to me about it.  But, I just appologized and went and hid behind a tree with another smoker.  Far away from the kids.  Maybe she just wasn't aware that is was an issue.  I mean, I'm going to be 28, and I am from the generation wear parents would smoke with their kids on their laps cause they didn't know any better. 

    Seriously, there is a picture from my christening with my uncles, aunts and cousins all smoking.  With my 9 month old cousin sitting on my uncle's lap.  I was just like WOOOOOOOOOOW!

    But, i'm just rambling now, my point was, asking couldn't hurt she just may not be thinking.  If she ends up being a bitch about it...be a bitch back, i'm sure the other parents will have your back 

  • undercoverbanana
    Posts: 7,904Member
    I'm a smoker, but I dont smoke around little kids. Say something to the referee or the coach. Most likely they will send a letter out.
    i'm nekkid.
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