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What do you do on Weekends?
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    Just wondering. I live paycheck to paycheck. Hand to mouth. I'm proud of myself just for getting where I am. But my ex still w his judgmental self, says I'm a bad mom bc I only sit at home w kiddo on the weekends I have him.

    I HAVE to have Saturday just to wind down, relax, regroup. I use the day to drudge through laundry (and I really mean drudge. I hate it. And never successfully get through it all and it's only the two of us!). Clean. Read. Whatever.

    Saturdays his best friend usually spends the night. They play outside, ride bikes, play wii some. But mostly play outside. In the evening I may rent a $1.99 movie for them to watch, eat popcorn (which ends up all OVER my freshly cleaned house!)

    Sundays I cook/bake for the week.

    I can't afford to go to the movies. I can't afford to go bowling. We've done that. But I can't do it all the time. I live in the Kountry. It's a drive into town. I grew up in the country and I just thought it was normal.

    Am I odd? What do you do on the weekends? What's your routine like?
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,646Member
    You actually do more than me. Lol. I usually have to work 9-6 on Saturday so by the time Sunday comes, I just do some laundry, clean a bit and watch football. Im glad my kids are older and dont need me to entertain them.
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

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  • missmama5missmama5
    Posts: 3,658Member
    I think you're doing just fine mama :) kids these days are way too over scheduled anyways. Weekends are supposed to be for down time and family time. Board games and movie nights and shit.
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    The 1st half of Saturday is spent in therapy lol. No, seriously. Then we go to the store if I need something & then go home. The kiddos play outside. I try to watch a movie. Clean or laundry if needed.

    Sundays, we just chill at home. Whatever pops up. We live in the country too & we end up just playing outside. If I'm feeling adventurous, we may go & put our toes in the lake & play on the playground right there.
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    It just seems like I'm the only one who sits home and stares st the wall on the weekends. Surely I'm not??
  • missmama5missmama5
    Posts: 3,658Member
    Nope. Most certainly not. :) to me, that's what weekends are for.
  • alexsmommy
    Posts: 62Member
    Saturday is usually just like Sunday because DH works most Saturdays so it's kinda the same routine. We don't go anywhere just sit around the house. If he is home, sometimes we will go do something. Sundays we have dinner with my in laws, so we sit around until dinner time or I spend the day cooking for family diner just depends on where dinner is. We really don't do much on weekends. We are boring!

    Your ex sounds like mine. When we split he said he didn't want either of us to be the "cedar point parent" (the parent to take their kid everywhere on the weekends they have them). Then he bitched not long ago that the kids just sit here on the weekends I have them and do nothing. I just told him I was leaving it up to him to be the cedar point parent unless he felt like funding my weekend with the kids too and walked away. Jackass.
  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,475Member
    The weekends I don't have my son... Usually I drink at night and sleep in the next day lol. I usually have some sort of homework so I'll do that in the afternoon so my evenings are free. Sometimes I go out, sometimes I stay in...depends on my mood... I usually don't cook either unless I actually want to.

    The weekends he's with me...still sleep in because the kids do too, but not as late. We're usually pretty busy those weekends. I'm expected to actually cook on these weekends lol... The kids live for big huge weekend breakfasts... Sundays we try to take it easier, we loaf as much as we can lol. Always a big Sunday dinner and then The Simpsons, it's tradition!
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  • ragingredhead
    Posts: 50Member
    i think the way you spend your weekends is just fine it seems like a good way to do things to me, my weekends usualy consist of trying to get caught up on all i couldnt do during the week, hubby works two jobs so he tends to try to sleep as much as possible and help when he isnt sleeping we also have five snakes to feed every weekend and ofcourse there is still all the normal stuff like laundry and cleaning, and i totaly know how it feels to not have the money to go out and do things very often certain things have to take priority and going out isnt usualy one of them
  • Chocoholic
    Posts: 976Member
    Well, we tend to go out a lot. I like getting out with my 2 year old since I work all week. We go to museums, festivals, parks, picnics etc. I sometimes wish we could just veg out, but DD is not cool with that.... And a whiny toddler is worse than an exhausted one ;)
    The answer is chocolate. I don't care what the question is.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,221Member
    No, you're not odd, it's pretty much what anybody who works does on the weekends.  I really don't get people who always have to "go" somewhere or "do" something, I like being home relaxing!
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    I do homework and laundry. That is pretty much it...
  • VegantasticVegantastic
    Posts: 3,461Member
    Nothing wrong with what you're doing! We use weekends to catch up on yard work and bigger projects sometimes, and sometimes we just veg and have family time. About once a month or so we'll go somewhere interesting, but we're on a budget lol
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  • [Deleted User]
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    I do NOTHING but laundry and relax. Sometimes I even change into real clothes and get some things at the store. I MAY shower myself. Maybe not. There is nothing wrong with your Saturday at all.
    Get me a damn beer.
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    @notaohotmomma. I had to do a double take on you response! I swear to gawd it said laundry and sex! I was like... Ummm... A) can't do THAT w kids around. B) kinda hard to do by urself.
  • Luvlyssa
    Posts: 2,962Member
    @primalbitch lol I read the SAME thing ;)

    I'm a nonmom... and *I* sit at home all weekend most weekends and frankly? I'm happy to do so. I am gone monday-friday 7am-6pm (or so) working. then have to make dinner when I get home.

    Saturdays and sundays are laundry days.. I don't even typically cook on saturdays. Sunday I make dinner with leftovers for monday/tuesday. and laundry.

    Today I slept til 11am (aren't you bitches jealous!?) got up. had toast. watched mythbusters (on my computer) started hart of dixie (again. computer) took a nap. then walked to 711 and got a diet coke. subway got a sammich. ate at home. took a shower... now more hart of dixie. this is the most tv I've watched in months... I have a LOT of catching up to do.
    Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do? We swim, swim.
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    Whew! @luvlyssa!
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 2,528
    Lol @primalbitch! Today it WAS a laundry and sex day, but that is NOT the norm 'round here! :))
    Get me a damn beer.
  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member
    I dont think what your doing is wrong at all.  And from one single mom to another, Id say its not only NOT wrong but pretty damn good.

    For the most part I stay home with them to.  If we do go out, its usually to a near by park (I do live in town, so yes this is easier), or I might visit family or some friends.  The fact that he is having fun, and he has his best friend there... nothing wrong with that at all, and with the odd outting tossed in is perfect.

    Your ex is just being an ass.  If he was Oh so concerned that you werent doing enough with your kid, then why not give you a little extra money once and a while to do something with him.  JMHO.
    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • TranquilTranquil
    Posts: 450Member
    I work full time during the week so I try to do fun things with my son on the weekends. A picnic, a bookstore, library, a mall for lunch, play dates, or we just hang out at home, but the next few weeks will be spent at home as we're trying to get lots of things done. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing at all!
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    @dreamer please edit ur post to remove bane!!!!

    Bane? I swear my phone has something against me!

    Ty!
  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member
    My bad.  All fixed.  Sorry hun
    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,221Member
    @Luvlyssa:  yes, I am, bitch, though I couldn't sleep till 11 if someone put a gun to my head!  DD got me up at freaking 6 a.m. this morning!!! DEMANDING breakfast...so much for Saturday sleep ins.
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • Luvlyssa
    Posts: 2,962Member
    @bellabefana I haven't been able to do that in a few months... I double dosed my melatonin... I was up a few times (meds at 7:00am... peeing etc)
    Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do? We swim, swim.
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    I take u down beeyatch! Lets go! >:/
  • GrainneGrainne
    Posts: 862Member
    We work during the week so weekends are for most times being at home. Some weekends are busy others we let the boys stay in their pjs all day and play.
  • Sabzzy
    Posts: 677Member
    We mostly chill out...Lately I've had birthday parties and such to attend. But, I'm a boring person. I wanna drink moscato and watch History channel all day...
    We buy things we don't need
    With money we don't have
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  • bombkittybombkitty
    Posts: 306Member
    We don't do anything special either.  I get up at 7 (that's sleeping in round here) and we go out on a walk look for nature, cook breakfast, slog through laundry and housecleaning, grocery shopping.  That's my time to relax and do shit I want to do.  Oh, sometimes I take NAPS. BEST EVER.  I'm going to bake today, putting a pot roast in now!  
  • AnonUser33
    Posts: 743Guest

    Laundry, housework, hanging with the kids (DH works Sat and Sun) baking, errands, grocery shopping. Kids try to play lots of video games and watch a lot of tv.

    We rarely go anywhere to do something. If we do it is almost always free or something dirt cheap like 2/$1 ice cream cones at McDonalds

  • sidsmommy3sidsmommy3
    Posts: 2,203Member
    Saturdays I usually hang with my sister and 13 year old and we go to yard sales. (Exciting, I know)

    There have been a couple of free festivals lately that we have gone to as well.

    Sunday is laundry day, homework day for dd, and football.  And a big Sunday dinner too.
    Mary :-)

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  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,498Member
    Grocerieslaundryhousecleaningswimclassohlookit'sMondayagain
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  • Chocoholic
    Posts: 976Member
    Just got back from a crazy morning at the Children's museum, time for lazy football time....
    The answer is chocolate. I don't care what the question is.
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member
    Museums are open on Sundays?! I really so live in the sticks!
  • AnonUser25
    Posts: 547Guest
    My weekends used to be pretty random depending on if there were any local activities going on or if we were going to visit DF's family that lives about 30 miles south of us. Now it's pretty routine. Saturday's we usually do something fun whether it be shopping, the park, the zoo or some other activity. Our mall has a kids club that has activities on Saturdays also about twice a month. Saturday night after dinner(6:30) we take DS3 to my moms for their 'date night' and he sleeps over so DF and I can have a date night for ourselves. We don't always have the money to go do too much, but even a frozen pizza and a movie is nice, or like last night, we webt miniature golfing. Then first thing Sunday morning we pick little man up and just relax. Usually we go for a walk and sometimes in the afternoon run a few errands or go grocery shopping. It all depends really.
  • BassmomBassmom
    Posts: 245Member
    I have the typical m-f job so on the weekends i mostly stay home and do laundry and cleaning, and make a trip to the grocery store. Im a homebody so i love it and look forward to the weekends to just veg. Ds9 usually finds something do, sometimes plays with the neighbor kids.

    I think there is nothing wring with staying home most of the time. i love it!
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,245Member
    Since I work Mon thru Fri and DD here only every other weekend, I try to take them or do something fun every other weekend. And its nit always a costly outing. We do have a zoo membership, and we go there some. We go shopping, to the park. Yesterday was the pumpkin patch. The weekends when just my DS is here ate usually spent cleaning, laundry, and running errands.
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  • WildandFree
    Posts: 1,597Member
    Sigh. The weekend is my work week so while everyone else chills, I'm busting ass 13 hours each day I'm here (shhhh I'm on break sneaking to read on here!). Fuck weekends. Is it Tuesday yet?!
  • PigeonPigeon
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    Jack all. As usual. Saturdays are cleaning days and sundays are errand days. So nothing too exciting here.
  • CrashCrash
    Posts: 8,206Member
    Saturdays are hockey and grocery shopping.

    Sundays is laundry and baking.

    The weekdays are more relaxing.
    See ya in another life, sister!
  • LLB
    Posts: 3,306Member
    Weekends are usually spent cleaning or vegging out around the house. The kids play outside unless its raining. If the weather is nice we will go to the park or beach or grandmas house to play. Dhs parents come over for dinner every Saturday and my parents come over every Sunday. Other than that not much goes on here over the weekend.
  • LoveLove
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    Kid-free weekends (every other weekend, my two go to their dads, and his two are at their moms, and we find a kennel for Spawn) = drink and dance all night, sleep most of the next day, and then go pick up the kids, cook supper, get ready for Monday morning

    Every other weekend = pick up the boys on Friday evening, rent a movie, we all watch together, and then we go to bed, while they stay up and play video games, and then sleep til noon on Saturday lol at which point I run them out of the house to play outside, while I clean up the god-awful mess they made the night before. We might go to their grandma's house, or we might go to the park, or a car show, or something, if there's anything happening around, but mostly we chill at the house and play ball. If they weather's bad, we stay in and fight over the remote, until I have enough, and then I turn the TV off and make them play dominoes or monopoly LOL

    In the summer, you can replace all of the above with "go to the beach" or the aquarium or the zoo...

    This month, actually starting this weekend, you can replace all of that with "hit every haunted house/field between here and Georgia every weekend until November 1" LOL depending on how long the funds hold out, you know? That shit's expensive for 7 people!

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  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,849Member
    Your weekends sound fine to me.
    We or I usually grocery shop, I or we go out to my parents every other weekend because I work from home and need to get out of here, dd has dance 9-10 Saturdays (paid for in August), we try to go swimming on Sunday afternoons so she can learn to swim ($8).
    We have a zoo membership, so all we have to pay for is gas, and snacks if we don't bring them.
    We live in town, when we lived in a little village with no kids my mom didn't nag about seeing us as much, and if I grocery shopped after work, I'd go all weekend without leaving the house/yard.
    I do home daycare, dd goes to school only Tuesdays, Thursdays and some Fridays, and I still think our weekends are too busy sometimes.
  • deviantqueendeviantqueen
    Posts: 328Member
    Your weekends are fine. On the weekends with the kids we go to /the big park next to our apts or walk the trails next that are there too. Sometimes we go to the zoo. At night we go to my best friend's house to bbq and watch movies. The kid free weekends my friends and I will go mountain biking and hit a local pub to hang out. Nothing crazy but its a nice break from reality. We do laundry and cleaning during the week after I get home from work.
  • LA_PygmyHerderLA_PygmyHerder
    Posts: 1,239Member
    We do our shopping on saturdays, clean, do the tasks we couldn't/didn't have time to do during the week, herd squirrels (aka kiddos) the usual. Once a month Dh and I have instituted a "date night" where we go out to eat, the movies, down to the peir or beach to walk and hang, whatever. This coming weekend we got invited to a burlesque show which we're both psyched for. Vintage clothes, hair, makeup, the whole speil. The other 3 weeks we have at home date nights. Picnics in the living room after the kids go to bed, play cards, watch a movie, etc. We're very concious of our money with 3 kids, 4 pets, bills and whatnot.
  • GirlsOnly
    Posts: 142Member
    fatchickonabike said:

    Grocerieslaundryhousecleaningswimclassohlookit'sMondayagain



    ^^^this is my life!!

    We take our girls to the park or farmer's market each morning, preferably somewhere they can get physical activity prior to napping, and preferably free! Then we do lots of chores during naptime, and in the afternoon we take them grocery shopping or visit family. If we stay home they get bored and fussy.
  • Aylla
    Posts: 5Member
    DH and I both work M-F and the 3 boys are in school...Saturday is a chore day, catching up on all the housework that fell through the cracks during the week (an unfortunate amount usually!) and spending time with each other and our pets. By Sunday, we're all pretty much caught up so anything goes! Time with friends and with each other, whether we go out or stay in...whatever we feel like doing.

    We're a blended family (1 mine, 1 his, 1 ours). His ex is completely out of the picture, no contact at all (I wish mine were too). I am constantly hearing about all the fun stuff he does at his dad's (we went to the pool, we went to the city and stayed in a big hotel, we did this and we did that). Sometimes I get jealous that real life gets in the way of us doing all the fun stuff too, but I refuse to compete. Besides, instead of spending my hard earned $$ on hotels, we've bought a house for my kids to live in, and a reliable vehicle for them to ride in, and good clothes for them to wear, and educational toys for them to play with. Take that A-HOLE! That, IMO, trumps hotels and junkfood ANYDAY
  • rorysmom1
    Posts: 64Member
    We dont have much to do here or much money to do it on lol
  • dmgokey
    Posts: 53Member
    Laundry and cleaning on Saturdays, cooking and relaxing on Sundays. Don't have money to do much else lol
  • JayAndXansMomJayAndXansMom
    Posts: 51Member
    Our Saturdays tend to be busy...seems there is always something going on---sports, family functions, etc. Sundays are spent catching up on housework, laundry, grocery shopping. It's nice to have a day to be lazy!
    *~Angie~*
  • PrincessPeach
    Posts: 240Member
    I usually don't have the extra money for activities or "fun" but I set aside money for DD6's dance class on Saturday ($10 a class). Otherwise we wouldn't leave the house on weekends. Saturday turns into grocery shopping and errands-an all day affair. Sunday is laundry and cleaning (all day) and I feel I never have down time.

    I feel bad that we can't do fun stuff. Unfortunately, DD's father makes no contribution other than the once in a blue moon call/visitation. Of course, when he does show he has "suggestions" that piss me off. OK, jackass, should I buy food and have lights on or should I buy a DS, laptop, or go to whatever event that he thinks is great but doesn't pay for?

    Ok I'll shut up now...So, no, you are not alone.
  • SidneyMarieSidneyMarie
    Posts: 7Member
    I sit on my butt and read while ds plays. I eventually do some housework, but not nearly as much as I should. I have way too much junk in my 500 sq ft apartment for it to ever really look clean, anyways. Cleaning almost makes me depressed because it still looks awful when I'm done. Then I go over to my bff's house so we can eat cookies and drink coffee while our boys crawl around together.
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