As some of you know, I'm going to be a surrogate next year. I've had a lot of time to think about the fact that I'm going to be pregnant almost all of next year and it occured to me that maybe I should be getting a jumpstart on potty-training. I don't know if I want to be pregnant with twins and changing diapers. But I don't know where to start.
When DD5 was about 2.5 I was working two jobs and my babysitter got fed up and potty-trained her. So I really have zero experience, and I've heard boys are harder?
I've looked up ideas but everyone says that the potty-training age is closer to 3 and I'm like, in 3rd world countries they have their kids potty-trained by 18 months so why can't I? DS just turned 18 months today. He was showing some interest in the potty a month or two ago so one day DH took his diaper off and sat him on the toilet. DS completely freaked out and is terrified of being naked or without a diaper now. So that threw a monkey wrench in my plans a little. Any help? I'm really starting from the beginning here.
It really does vary kid to kid. While I myself was apparently toilet trained at 18 months, I have 5 siblings (both older and younger), who were all trained at different ages.
My DS8 was toilet trained between 3 and 4.
My sister has 6 kids under 7, 5 of them boys. Here's where it gets complicating lol Her 2 eldest, currently 6 and 7, have been trained for a few years. But her next 2, aged 3 and 4 & a 1/2, are only reluctantly starting now. Her next boy, 20 months, is already showing signs.
It's just sooo different. I was single when DS needed potty trained so I really had no idea how too teach him. But it all worked out.
I will reiterate that it depends on the child. If they are not ready, you will make two people bonkers. Fortunately for us, DS4 wanted to be like us when he was just over 2, and he trained pretty quickly. DH did most of the work, because he thought he'd be better at it (who am I to argue something like that, lol? Go crazy guys, I'm gonna go read a magazine!) DH spent several hours in the bathroom with DS on the toilet, drinking water and reading books.
We kept him in night time diapers for about a month after that, until he pitched a fit about putting them on at all. I thought, "ok, if he wants to wet the bed, that's his choice" but he never did. He knew at 2yrs, 3 mo that he was DONE.
We did get a toddler seat for the regular toilet, one that is a slow closer and is attatched to the regular seat. DS likes to feel he is just like the rest of us. He had seen both of us on a toilet and knew *we* didn't wear diapers, plus we all (parents and grandparents) spoke freely of how we get regular underwear and he could have them too, so that was an incentive as well.