Ok...so a "family vacation" with the bf, his 11yr old son and my 3 kids didn't exactly go so well. My personal opinion is that his son is rude and totally disrespectful and I'm just not sure how I get past this. I asked him to put his son in check, which resulted in a big fight infront of my family about the issue...(mind you my own mom grabbed his son by the back of his shirt and told him he does NOT talk to me the way he did because it was not being respectful and his father did nothing to correct him) I know blending two families with young kids can be tough, but HOW do we get past the "my kid is better" issue?
...when i told him he could go downstairs and grab a bottle of water he told me "you can use a little exercise why don't you go get it"...
When kids say stuff like that it horrifies me. No kid learns to say things like that to people unless they learn it from someone. You have to teach them to be nice in some cases.
When the girls came here, the shit that came out of their mouths (not necessarily towards us, but towards other people) was appalling. Gay people, overweight people, people who weren't "cool" enough, whoever. Mean, nasty words. I kind of stayed out of it and tried to encourage DH to remind them about tolerance, but the day one of them asked him, "DAD, why are you so STUPID??" all hell broke loose and it was game on. I went crazy on them and told them every time they treated someone like that I was going to give it back to them (they are teens). Took one or two blasts and they've mostly gotten over it.
Did hear one comment in the car the other day about people who are gay. I turned around and said,
Me: Remember all the people you met when we went to my hometown for Christmas?
Me: Did you like everyone?
Them: Yes! We want to go back and see them!
Me: Well, news flash - about a third of the people you met there are gay. So now you are talking shit about your friends and family.
Them: You should have told us!
Me: Bullshit I should have told you. It makes no difference. They're not different people now that you know.
They cried a little and said they were sorry. Good. I'm sorry their idiot mother taught them it was fashionable to be a nasty asshole to people.