DH and I have a debate: What is considered "normal" or "typical" behavior regarding masterbation. Our DS4 has been going at it lately. We remind him that he is welcome to go in his room if that is what he chooses to do right then, that is not living room activity. (Or maybe it is, lol) And DS is fine with it, goes to his room and has his time.
DH thinks it is weird for a 4yo to have such awareness and to want to masterbate occasionally. I think it's pretty typical and normal exploration. We are NOT worried that he is being abused; he stays with us, his grandparents or at preschool, which is in our neighborhood and we have known them for 30+ years. (not that it isn't possible, but we have total trust in these two other places, and DS isn't exhibiting any other sexual behaviors that would be worrisome.) This is really just a debate between DH and I over when sexuality begins to make itself known.
Thoughts, experience, how you dealth with it? Also, suggestions on how to gently begin the sex talks, because I think as long as you have open, age appropriate discussions, then someday when they are 16 and have their first bf/gf you will be able to talk to them more easily, and more importantly, they will want to talk to US!
So, what I hear you guys saying, is that I am right? lol.
I think a lot of this just boils down to my and DH's different upbringings: I had pretty liberal, openly affectionate parents and he has much more private parents. I don't think I have ever seen his parents even hold hands. Ironically, I think his parents like each other more than my parents like each other (they are all still married)
DS is 5 & doesn't normally mess with his pee pee but I have seen him laughing & playing with it in the shower twice but in a laughing manner. I know that it's the popular thing to do to tell them to do it in their room but I wasn't raised in a sexually open household & neither will my son be. I just said "boy stop playing with that & get out of the shower" If he starts doing it in a pleasuring himself way ( including in his room) then we will have a problem. I don't know personally yes I think it's weird so I'm on your DH's side.
regp said: When they get to puberty, you are going to want that communication...to help them avoid drama, diseases and pregnancy.
When they get to puberty, you are going to want that communication...to help them avoid drama, diseases and pregnancy.
undercoverbanana said:i agree with the other moms on the masturbation thing, but don't let them hog all the damn hot water while they are messing with their pee-pees.................they will stay in their forever!
i agree with the other moms on the masturbation thing, but don't let them hog all the damn hot water while they are messing with their pee-pees.................they will stay in their forever!