Alright so my brother in law visited with his wife and son from China. It was so unpleasant! He was rude, selfish, degrading of women, put us down at every chance he got! Was just the worst guest a person could imagine. His wife puts up with him but she follows him around, and is the submissive type. I liked her and her son but due to the last experience with his last wife.. he would not allow her to be around anyone without him..yea! The last relationship he asked for a sponsorship from our uncle and his wife came.. he lied to her about everything. One thing to know this guy is a fraud he made a fake diploma in the us, and took it to china to teach. YEP! His wife did not know so when his mother told his secrets ..umm she left him. She is still in the US, he is back in China. See he is a real winner (total sarcasm)!! He treats his new wife like shit.. and this is where it gets difficult. We had him stay at our house when he came for a month and within a week he was just a asshole and we were soooo ready for him to leave. Sorry for the language but I cannot stand him. Now he wants to ask us to sponsor his wife. I read some stuff and it scares me. My husand and I have a child, and just are at the point were doing okay. I am terrified he will fight with her and were stuck taking care of his wife, and son..I like them but we cannot afford to do so yet. It would be different if we could but cant..were just beggining to be able to afford our own needs lol. I also know we would fully responsible for her and her son.. so with that said I know he will not be able to provide here like in China since he has not even graduated high school!.. and they cannot go on assistance and if they do it comes back to us and we can be sued for it..yep. I feel it is too much risk and let another family member handle it. How would you tell them..and the family is close knit how do we explain it to other members like his dad. My husbands mom is not this mans bio mother and she cannot stand him, and none of the other kids can. Only my husbands father does..but how would we not hurt peoples feelings and such. I want to help but dont want to. Would any of you scary mommys do it? Am I feeling the right way? Would you feel hesitant as well?? It would be different if this man were trustful, and in a strong relationship and such but he is not. The whole time his wife and him fought, and he was a dick. He lies and is rude. I dont know what to do.. please offer some advice, or opinions on this please! Thank you so much and sorry it was so long, but I needed to add in information! lol..
Thank you sooooo much ladies! Okay I am not overreacting lol. It has been tough since my husband is all about family, but he even does not want to lol. He was such a jerk to me and everyone my husband says even if he visits he wont stay with us, yet alone a sponsorship. It feels great to have people understand lol. My mother is like ah hell no as well!! lol. I just dont trust him and feel that he will get us for something if we do sponsor them.. and we cant do it. Seriously it feels good to know others have the same thoughts and would do the same thing.. :)! I just had to ask though. I told them we do not make enough money.. lol. He can sponsor his own wife but wants to come with her, and his son and not wait. He might just have to do it this way this time due to what happened the last time. It would make sense to me for him to get established before he moves them over. Anyways thank you again ladies!! :)