Nothing brings out the worst in people like baby showers and wedding showers!!! The only drama I've ever seen in my calm, proper, polite Canadian family was when it comes time to throw showers! Holy shit, everyone wants to do it, the people who don't get to do it want to "help" but they have their own ideas, and there's always hurt feelings and eye rolling!
I think your friend is probably trying to keep everyone happy, and she's stuck in the middle. And yes, you are her best friend, but she's having a baby- she's starting a family and she wants to stay on the best side of her in-laws, who will forever be part of that family. By all means, tell her it's getting out of hand and you aren't comfortable throwing a co-worker party. But maybe cut her a little slack- she's probably just trying to keep everyone happy.
I agree with the ladies. If the original plan was for you to throw a friend shower and that you were cool with, but are uncomfortable throwing instead a work shower, just let her know but then also offer to help with one of the two other showers. Be gracious. Be understanding. Be kind. But let her know how you feel too.
If you can't get her in person try to tell her on the phone. Emails can sound snarky without meaning to and then she has the words in front of her to mull over. So, if you do have to put it in writing, be careful about what you say. She's preggo, she's stressed already.
Ophelia said:why can't all 3 showers be consolidated into 1 big one? then everyone that wants to throw her one can chip in and probably save a lot in the end.. and there'd be no "i wanted my shower to be first" cause they'd all be the same date/time/place
why can't all 3 showers be consolidated into 1 big one? then everyone that wants to throw her one can chip in and probably save a lot in the end.. and there'd be no "i wanted my shower to be first" cause they'd all be the same date/time/place