I found this article at http://www.everydayfamily.com/the-beginning-signs-of-abuse/?utm_medium=rss&utm_source=outbrain&utm_campaign=articles&tc=120043&subid=articles&utm_term=foreign
and I know many ladies on here struggle or have struggled with difficult/abusive relationships, so I thought it might be useful here.
When we choose to be in a relationship with someone, it’s never because we’re attracted to a less-than-admirable quality; it’s because we see something that we value. But what happens when the time arrives where your partner’s true colors can no longer be hidden? What if your partner starts to demonstrate attributes that cause you to have reservations, or even fear?
We all have the right to be treated with respect and kindness. Whether you believe it or not, we do. No one has the right to belittle you with words, or bruise you with hands. No one has the right to use threats to get you to do what they want. If you’re in an abusive relationship, you might not even realize it. Sometimes someone has to point it out to you, and other times you might just realize it once you’re removed from the situation for a little while. If you lack self-esteem, ask yourself “why?” And if you constantly feel guilty, again, ask yourself “why?” Abusive people feel the need to gain complete control and they’ll intimidate you, threaten you, and make you afraid of them in order to gain it.
A child, woman, or man can all be subjected to abuse. It can happen to anyone. Abuse, whether it’s physical or emotional, all too often gets excused, especially the emotional kind. Because it only scars one’s insides and diminishes the spirit, it’s easier to dismiss.
The following questions are tell-tale signs of abusive relationships, from helpguide.org.
Your Inner Thoughts and FeelingsDo you:
Your Partner’s Belittling BehaviorsDoes your partner:
Your Partner’s Violent Threats or BehaviorDoes your partner:
Your Partner’s Controlling ActionsDoes your partner:
Normal, healthy relationships are what we all want. If any of these questions can be answered with a “yes,” it may be time to rethink your relationship. We need our partners to lift us up, not physically or emotionally beat us down. Healthy relationships are full of love, respect, value, consideration for each other, equal compromises, and general happiness. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. It just might save a life or a spirit.
I'm so glad you posted this. Awesome. It's everything we always tell the women in abusive relationships, and all in one place. I have a feeling we are going to reference this thread a lot!
crazykidlady said:I could check off yes to almost all of those. I honestly have put my foot down lately with him. Now, I feel like the abusive one. But I am not afraid to leave. I am just afraid my children will wind up without a father figure like me.
I could check off yes to almost all of those. I honestly have put my foot down lately with him. Now, I feel like the abusive one. But I am not afraid to leave. I am just afraid my children will wind up without a father figure like me.