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And then there were none..
  • akmom
    Posts: 17Member
    Hi y'all, I'm 'anonymous' from the 'is an affair the right thing' thread.

    DH and I have talked some over the weekend, and I'm pretty sure it's over.  We're going to go to counseling together, but part of me feels like I've already thrown in the towel.  He brought up stuff that we've hashed over and over again, and that I thought was resolved a long time ago, and everything is all about how I'm such an awful person and he's a victim.  I'm tired of playing that game.

    And, of course, the relationship that never really was (with the other guy) is ending, too.  All of the angst of a full-blown affair, with none of the sex.  Bleah.

    I am so fricking scared of being alone, but I just don't see how not to be. 
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member

    Hugs!  You will LOVE being by yourself!  Especially after ending a bad marriage.  Tons of time to spend with friends (or make friends!) and do the things you love. 

     

    I say:  Good for you for getting out of a bad marriage!

    =D>
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    Its all for the best, u won't ever be able to have a healthy relationship until u are healthy. U have to get comfortable with urself and enjoy ur own company. Find out who u really are and then u will find someone who loves u for being u.
    ~slim shady~
  • AnonUser24
    Posts: 2,607Guest
    It can be a scary thing, going into unfamiliar territory such as being alone. I think you will end up being a lot happier though! It may take time, but I bet that you will end up in a more fulfilling and loving relationship. Hugs and good luck with your future >:D<
  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,315
    there are worse things than being alone.................like being in a bad realtionship--everyday is miserable. good luck.
  • breezybreezy
    Posts: 3,483Member
    Glad you decided to talk with your dh about it. On a side note I grew up in AK @anon.
  • akmom
    Posts: 17Member
    Not from AK, my kids are A and K.  :)

    I'm going to give it my best shot with my husband.  I think that the other guy has managed to piss me off enough over the past week that I can ignore any feelings I have for him, even if we never do get around to talking about what is (or is not) going on between us.  If my marriage ends, at least it will be for the 'right' reasons, not because I'm obsessing about a fantasy.

  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,617Administrator, Moderator
    @akmom that's a really good perspective to have. 
    I love this site because it allows people the opportunity to explain a situation, and receive actual, thoughtful advice, or comfort. 
    I'm so sorry you're going through this, but you appear to have a really good head on your shoulders, and I know you'll come out of this all as best as you can :D

    community-manager


  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,315
    good for you. i wish you luck with this situation.
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