I had three baby showers. One was family, one from my husbands work and another from my doula/midwife/coworker friends. The family baby shower was huge, my mom and aunt went all out. I got a ton of stuff as the family guest list was 75 people deep. Maybe this lavish baby shower got my SIL jealous because she has always had issues with us having more than them.... but that is beside the point.
Last year, when my sister in law was pregnant (also with a girl) I gave her our baby swing, boppy nursing pillow, excersaucer, custom rocking chair, baby bjorn, high end bassinett (that I got from one of my celebrity clients) two huge bins of baby clothes clothes, a brand new peg perego infant car seat (I got 2), the matching stroller, Snap and go stroller, a pregnancy body pillow, high chair, blankets, burp cloths, etc. It filled up the whole back of their SUV!
Now that we are TTC, I am thinking of asking for them back. I dont really know how to approach her. (I'd only want the baby bjorn, poppy, body pillow and small items back) We live a few states away so shipping would get costly, that is why I am only asking for small/light items. Last winter, We moved away and were not ready for another baby and.... they don't have a lot of money anyways so I thought I'd help them out. By the time I have my next baby her daughter would have grown out of the newborn essentials...
My sister in law didn't invite me to her baby shower (maybe because I lived too far? She said she sent one--never got it) and never sent a thank you card for all the stuff I gave her, not to mention I sent her over a box worth well over $400 in baby stuff and a gift card to Babies R Us. I also sent her a custom diaper bag and a big order of Baby Gap stuff. I know she uses everything because I see her FB and her daughter is either wearing the Baby Gap clothes or what was in the bins I gave them.
Never got a Thank you card for any of this... :-q Personally, and maybe this is old fashioned, but I am really big on thank you cards.
Ok, so I admit, I am quite bitter. Apart of me wanting this stuff back is out of hurt for never getting a Thank you. They are coming soon for a visit and I want to ask her to send back the small stuff, but dont really know how. I am worried I'll sound like a bitch and dont want to start any family drama.