i have the SWEETEST, NICEST, LOVING, thoughtful, artist, hardworking, sincere, intellegent and beautiful 17 YO daughter........except for 9 days a month. she drives me CRAZY. i don't know WTF i'm going to do. 99% of the problems i have with her those 9 freakin' days didn't even START until she started birth control last year. she tried 2 different pills (one was yaz) and we finally settled on neuvoring because it had such a low dose of hormones. i don't want to get her an IUD because i had so many problems with mine---i don't want her to have them. genetically, the kid's almost my mini-me......she has sperm donor's coloring, but my features, interests, build, etc.
taking her off all birth control is NOT an option. i'm at the point that I want to have my own appointment with our OB-GYN and talk to him, and THEN we both go in together......
those 9 days, she goes from incredibly irritable & rude, anxious, teary, angry, (and weird cravings, water-weight, etc DO NOT help!)..asks me questions about stuff, interrupts me up 14 times (i counted), and then when i finally get to spit out the answer, she ARGUES WITH ME! so.......if you don't like the answer, why the hell did you ask?!?!? everything makes her mad, or makes her cry, or both! slamming doors, when i ask her to do one stupid little thing for me----gets mad and asks me why can't i do it, since i'm on the computer all day..................................................excuse me, little girl?
if i was on the computer all day, how did i manage to do 4 loads of laundry, do most of the cleaning in your room, your brother's room, pick you up at one school at 9 every day,, take you to the other school (every day), clean the kitchen 4 times, sweep the house, be at my friend's house an hour a day (the one that broke her hip last year) clean up YOUR shit you leave lying around more than twice a day, take your lunch to school that you forgot, make sure your uniform was clean, take you to work, make dinner every night, clean the kitchen AGAIN every night--------------in the last 2 fucking days? and by the way, who the hell do you think you're talking to? you aren't too big for me to whack your ass right now! you will NOT speak to your mother that way. next time you do, find YOUR OWN ride to work! after i whack you! and truly, if she's not PMSing or on her period, i don't have this crap! she's an angel! (other than destryoing the kitchen, and leaving a path of all her crap like a little snail or something)
and she starts sobbing................................oh....my....GOD.......i'm having a drink right now.....and almost regretting throwing away some of my FIL's meds!
WTF? and this shit is ONLY those 9 days a month..................anyone have any suggestions? i'm pretty sure it's the birth control. there HAS TO BE something else, with a very low dose of hormones................because i'm tellinng you right now, she won't live to see menopause if i have to keep dealing with this shit....................because i am going to LOSE IT. and go postal on my precious and sweet little bunny rabbit.
@gingersnap----oh, i know. i know what you meant. and i think if she wasn't already so self-concious, it would be helpful. but she would be SO embarassed and horrified it would do more harm than good. we have "stress phrases"
ex: get a hold of yourself right now or i am going to beat you with packages of chocolate chips and potato chips until you come to your senses----------------yes, that actually came out of my mouth.
no, i would never mistreat chocolate that way.
Yaz did the same thing to me...All birth control does but Yaz as BAD! I told my doc and she said it was suppose to do the opposite...blah, blah, blah. I just quit taking birth control altogether but previously one that worked for me was the patch. I don't know why that one never messed with me like the rest but it was litterally the only one i could handle for more than 2 months.
And I agree with @CanadianMama Midol works like a champ. There is also this lotion that is homeopathic (sp?) that is suppose to help and a tea. B vitamins help with mood and energy levels.
my dd is totally pms-y and has 0 energy but cant stand to be around any of us so she hangs out in her room...thank God!
she's @ work (her internship)........................i will let the heavily tatooed ex-con mexican chef deal with her.....(he's actually a great guy and has taught her a lot. with my luck, he's terribly frightened.) and then spending the night with her BFF.
the worst part i guess i can chalk up to empathy, because we are really close, and very much alike.....when she's like that, i start feeling angry and moody and irrational and anxious, and i'm the one who has to be in control, calm, the grown-up, etc---but jeez, she broadcasts like a damn radio tower!
ex: not 10 minutes ago i was listening to shinedown "crow and the butterfly" and about to start bawling over every damn pet i ever had (and the neighbor's late dog).......................keep your damn estrogen to yerself, young 'un!
@MommaCop, you just reminded me of another (natural) PMS remedy. Actually, two: one is evening primrose oil, which if I'm not mistaken also has a lot of omega 3s in it; the other is calcium. Take 1,000 mg of calcium a day (preferably with vitamin D) and you should see an improvement in PMS symptoms within 6-8 weeks. (Two cycles, in other words). I did the calcium thing and it really worked for me.
And yeah, PMS and a gun can't end well!
My daughter is only six but I can tell you from my view when I was a teen. My mom didnt understand, she had perfect 3-5 day periods with almost no symptoms. I however went anywhere from 9-14 days, had to use those stayfree overnight diaper sized pads and OMG my emotions were all over the place. I was argumentive, then felt like she was being mean. I bloated and nothing fit right and went to school so embarassed about it, etc etc.
I was on several different B/C pills trying to just control my periods. Finally my aunt took me to the GYN. I cant remember the brand name, but he did finally find a pill that helped. I know, im not really helping, but definately a trip to the dr would be in order. If she doesnt want you in the room with her, ask the dr for some time before the appt so you can explain all the symptoms to him ahead of time. (((hugs))
orthotricyclin was the 1st one she tried. she gained 8 lbs of water weight in 2 days--freaked me out because it's really bad for your body & your heart to gain or lose weight that quickly. also, it was scary how it affected her moods. they market seasonale like it's a big thing, they just have fewer placebo pills. and my daughter is CONVINCED that she has to have a period every month, she thinks it'll "build up"--i've explained all that her, but she's convinced she has to have her period. hell, she could leave her neuvoring in for 4 weeks, and just put in a new one, but she won't.
she's on birth control because her cycle is so wacky, and she's since become sexually active. there's no way i would trust a teenage boy to use condoms correctly every single time.......and i got pregnant with both my kids using condoms as birth control....he uses condoms anyway, but because i've threatened his life.
I don't have periods on my own. I have to take Prometrium for 2 weeks every 4 months in order to trigger a period. My OB GYN said that 3-4 periods a year is perfectly normal and safe. I've been doing this for 6-7 years with no issues. Maybe your OB GYN can talk to her personally and explain that it's totally ok? And yes, please talk to your Dr. Something has got to give. Imagine her in college with a crazy roommate and incredibly hard classes all while she's away from home. That will be just awful with those mood swings! Hopefully you can get it fixed soon!