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So overwhelmed!
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    Ladies I am so alone and so overwhelmed I need a break from my dd like yesterday. She is teething and clinging on to me like her life depends on it. I've done all I can for the teething and she is better but I need to disappear. I would call for someone to come relieve me but at this point I don't have anyone. :(
    not my chair, not my problem
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,606Administrator, Moderator
    Take a shower. Put her in her crib or playpen, with some toys (depending on her age) and take a long hot shower, or bath : )

    community-manager


  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 1,101
    (hugs) mommy....wish I could be there to help you love......I agree with above depending on the age....more hugs my thoughts will be with you....deep breaths in thru nose out thru mouth....:(
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    I'm breathing deep breaths. I keep chanting One more hour till I can put her to bed. I just hate all that I have done for friends and family and I'm alone with no support when I need it :( just one more hour
    not my chair, not my problem
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    Put her to bed early, I've done it and I don't feel guilty. Well maybe a little
    ~slim shady~
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    It's only 619 here I figure I'll put. Her down @645. I just her a massage and now we are cuddling and I finally gave her a pacifier she only gets one at night. I'm feeling a little better
    not my chair, not my problem
  • scotiamama
    Posts: 1,213Member
    Yeah put her to bed early, it won't hurt her and give yourself sometime to chill :) >:D<
    Anytime you feel stressed, putting her in a playpen or crib with a few toys, hopping in the bath or shower, like @canadianmama said, will do good for both of you. Mamas need to take a time out once in a while too, don't feel bad :)
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    I took your advice and put her down no tears no nothing I am now going to take a nice bubble bath with a huge glass of wine. It might be time for a drive to my moms and see if she take her for a day
    not my chair, not my problem
  • scotiamama
    Posts: 1,213Member
    Enjoy your bubble bath. Hope your mom takes her soon so you can get a break :)
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,700Confessional Manager
    Enjoy your wine and bubble bath, you deserve it so much mama!  >:D<

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,277Administrator, Moderator
    Will she take the pacifier throughout the day or only when she's sleepy? If it was me, I'd just bite the bullet and give her the paci. It will give you both some much needed peace. It may help soothe her through that awful teething pain too. No matter what medicine we give them, I'm sure those little gums are still so sore/tender. 

    Enjoy your wine and your bath. You deserve it, mama!

    community-manager


  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    That sounds so nice right now.
    ~slim shady~
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    She will take pappy anytime but I have been trying to wean her off of it so it's now for bedtime only but I gave it to her at 6. Otherwise I'd be in a mental hospital!
    not my chair, not my problem
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    I just never knew the mommy guilt was so consuming. I always feel like I'm doing something wrong
    not my chair, not my problem
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 5,232
    @onmylastnerve, I may get chastised for this, but maybe waiting until she is done teething to wean her from the paci would be helpful. I felt like DD wouldn't ever stop taking on. ACTUALLY, the ladies who have been here a while might remember my relentless posts about it, LOL.. Anyway, it might save you and her some trauma just to let her keep it until the teeth come in..
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,277Administrator, Moderator
    ^^^^Totally agreed! :) 

    community-manager


  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,606Administrator, Moderator
    I agree with rap. Rylee never took a pacifier, not because we didn't try, but just simply because she wasn't into it. Teething is so painful, if the pacifier gives her any comfort I would give it to her : ) hugs mama and enjoy your bath!!

    community-manager


  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    @rap422 I think your right about the pacifier. I know her life is changing too much right now (no formula, no bottles, ect...) it's only fair to let her have it for a little while longer. The reason I want to take it away is I have crooked teeth and I'm afraid if she has it for too long she will have them too. I just don't want her to go through the self esteem issues I have just because I didn't take it away soon enough...
    not my chair, not my problem
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    Thank you @canadianmama I love having the Internet on my phone I bubble bath, wine, and scary mommy! What else could a girl ask for?
    not my chair, not my problem
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 5,232
    @onmylastnerve, DD had hers until she was almost 2. Her teeth are perfectly straight.:D
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,726Member
    @Onmylastnerve sorry about the stress! My boy is almost 2 and a half and he still has his paci! (he calls it a brum!) His teeth are absolutely fine, the bottom ones are a tiny bit spaced out, but thats fine! Remember these are baby teeth and they will fall out, so i dont worry about B's tiny spaces. He still has one at night, or in a v difficult situation, or if hes not well or something. How old is your daughter? Shoot me down, but I dont think its such a big deal!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,726Member
    i mean having a paci isnt such a big deal!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    @irishlash my niece has "pappy teeth" and she's almost 4 I finally was able to talk to my sil about it and they took it away. It's me being a little irrational about her teeth. She has a lot of spacing in her teeth. I get some babies need the pacifier longer but Chloe hasn't really cared except when she sleeps.
    @four_winds Im going to try the carrot. It sound horrible but we gave her some cold hard beef jerky and she was happy for hours!
    not my chair, not my problem
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    My dd is 26 months and she still takes a pacifier at night. I'm just happy she's not obsessed with it anymore and doesn't have to have it at all times. She never even took one until she was like 18 months and then they gave her one at daycare and it was all over.
    ~slim shady~
  • ScaryMommyScaryMommy
    Posts: 3,348Administrator
    Mommy guilt is the worst. But, my kids all used pacifiers and totally survived. There are way worse things... Like miserable mommies. :)
  • mericksmom
    Posts: 388Member
    I would say put on Nemo get a Popsicle with round edges for baby (and a soft towel those things get cold.) Sit back take a break, crack it a lil so baby can get a taste (if you want). 



    http://www.target.com/p/munchkin-fresh-food-feeder-2-pack/-/A-13991507

    These were my FAVORITE thing for when my DS was teething.  I could put melon or cucumber or frozen grapes in it and let him sooth his teeth as well as get some flavor and nutrients.  Cleaning sometimes was a pain but I loved it.


  • Mommyliciousx4Mommyliciousx4
    Posts: 1,769Member
    @mericksmom I had those too and hated them. The cleaning sucked.
    It was fun watching the kiddos have a blast with it tho.
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