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  • lokaloka
    Posts: 32Member
    Question... what do you do, or post as a status. when someone posted something you think pertains to your life.... and it baffles you.. however, it really sounds like it's you. whichever way you look at it.. I could be paranoid, but then again knowing the person and the people surrounding her it is as if no one close to her pertains to that description.... as much as I want to confront the person. I wouldn't mind doing so however being close to her and confronting her ain't a solution she looks at me like I am a dollar sign, that is why I slowly exit my way as her friend. 
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member

    more details needed.

  • lokaloka
    Posts: 32Member
    loveit,  when we were close she kept on borrowing money from me.. small amount thought but it takes months for her to pay back.... she even tried to borrowed to me at the lowest day of my life when hubby and I had a fight... So, it was then I realized that she's not really a friend, instead of being comforted my so called friend managed to borrowed money from me. as if she was a therapist or something.. LOL...so last time she borrowed money from me I declined, knowing I have money problems too, family issues, etc... then whenever she would send me an SMS I would reply like just normal ppl do, not to much details, got a call wishing me a happy birthday and told her I had to go because I was somewhere else (and yes I was really out with my husband ) and so I sent her a message telling her thank you and sorry because I barely could hear her... this friend knows my personal problems regarding family and knows how my husband verbally abuses me... she just got separated, and for 10 years I am not despite my situation, still running our business, attending the needs of my family and DD.. and I slowly exit our friendship,things were different, I got busy with anything I could be busy with... anyways, a.k.a friend posted something about a girl as if having a perfect life, family, money, physical attributes etc.... and I feel like she is talking about me.. not that I show I have a perfect one.. but I am tactful about my situation.. My life is not a feast.. that is why I love this site, because my identity is hidden. but then again I want to say something.. or maybe just post something... and I don't know what.... 
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    I would just let it be if u don't want to be friends with her.
    ~slim shady~
  • lokaloka
    Posts: 32Member
    yeah.. I guess.. maybe I just felt, annoyed.. I realized it would sound pathetic for me posting something that everyone else would wonder.... but again... Screw her anyway... If that was me. I hope she realize that I am just not vulgar.. I value my privacy and I can't allow people who knows me talk about my life on my back. 
  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,315

    definately not a friend. a user. there are enough of thse. they know that you are being polite, and take advantage of that.

    just flat out say "i don't have it."

    as far as FB------if she is using that to bad-mouth you-----she doesn't deserve your time, or even pretend sympathy.

    let her show her true colors. i'm sure it's not a "new" thing that she is a user, a hater, and a back-stabber.

    hold your head high, kid.  you're not up for election. it's pretty obvious what kind of person she is.

    anyone who has enough brain cells to rub together to make both heat and friction will figure it out.

    hug

    and don't feel bad. users and manipulators are experts. decent people aren't. how would you have been able to deal with an expert user/abuser? chalk it up to lesson learned. she will expose herself for what she is, soon enough.

  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    Its usually best to resist the urge to post about people on fb, but its hard to resist sometimes lol
    ~slim shady~
  • Hopey0_0Hopey0_0
    Posts: 167Member
    just delete her from your friends list. i mean once she see's you off of the list she will prolly get the point. She doesnt sound like a good friend at all, and if she's using fb to talk trash thts no good either
  • lokaloka
    Posts: 32Member
    @ 
    Anonymous mammatroll  yeah.. thanks for the advice but I just let it pass and kept myself busy not wonder about it. .. @ shadylane I agree, though it was hard to resist the urge - glad to say I did... @ Arkroyal hahahah she has two accounts imagine?? I have already hided her posts. @ Hopeyo_0, I tried deleting only one.. hahahha she added me again.. what's funny was she didn't even asked me why I deleted one of her accts from my friends lists...  
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    Yes I would unfriend or hide her! She probably wasn't talking about you but she sounds like she causes you stress so get her out of your life.
  • scotiamama
    Posts: 1,213Member
    Just let it be. Unfriend her or unsubscribe to her statuses or something. She sounds like a user anyway.
    Nothing annoys me more than when people post passive aggressive statuses... My friend does all the time, if she's pissed @ someone, she'll post something on fb, without saying who it is, instead of talking to that person about it. Drives me insane.
  • LifeofchaosLifeofchaos
    Posts: 984Member
    I have a friend that thinks everything I post on FB is about her and its not. She can make anything about her. So so irritating. So finally I did post about her ...."you're so vain you probably think this post is about you" lol
    Why are u even friends with this person anyway??? Delete or unsubscribe her
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