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Santa
  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,614
    How does everyone explain Santa? Mine is still tiny, but my parents told me that he's the spirit of the season, not that he didn't exist. I think I'll do the same.
  • GlitterQueen GlitterQueen
    Posts: 2,507Member
    A santa (St. Nicholas) did exsist but he didn't do everything they say he does now. You could try that
  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,614
    Oh, I know about the real St. Nicholas. I just mean the fun child-like aspect of Christmas. My parents didn't want me to lose that, and I was just wondering how many people explain the history or just tell them there is no Santa or find a way to let them still believe in some creative way.
  • GlitterQueen GlitterQueen
    Posts: 2,507Member
    Dd thinks.there is Santa or men who dress like him. She sees it as a cartoon kinda. She doesn't think he brings presents I don't think she does anyway. I will find out Sunday morning LOL. I guess I am lazy with her like that
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,779Guest
    There is no Santa?! :O :((
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,762Member
    @masshysteria LOL! My dad alwasy told me santa was the spirit of christmas too!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    My parents did the whole santa with presents thing... I remember telling my mother when I was around three that santa couldn't possibly exist, that it just wasn't logical to think a man his size could fit down chimneys or visit every house in one night. I told my brother when we were six or seven, and he was pretty devastated.
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,779Guest
    My BFF told me the Easter bunny wasn't real when I was about 5. From there I gathered there was no Santa. I was pissed. I cryed and yelled to my parents "you LIED to me! How could you?".
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,865Member
    None of my kids believe in the Easter Bunny but 3 of them still believe in Santa. Ds13 just realized there was no Santa 2 yrs ago. He's kinda oblivious about stuff like that lol. Ds7 is starting to question it & anytime he asks, I just throw it back to him with "what do YOU think?". He'll figure it out soon enough just like the 2 little ones will. I was never devastated by the realization & they won't be either. We have always impressed upon them that Christmas is about family, love & giving to others.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,188Member
    I believed in Santa, and the Easter Bunny, and it certainly did no harm to me when I found out the "truth."  Nor do I think Santa takes away from the true meaning of Christmas.  We do Santa here, and dd3 loves it...though admittedly it was just this past Christmas when she really understood what was going on...when you ask her what Christmas is, she tells you Jesus' birthday.  The two are not mutually exclusive as both are about love, family, faith, and giving.

    I have a beautiful poem/prayer that says exactly how I feel about Santa on a Christmas ornament:

    Santa's Christmas Prayer 
    On Christmas Eve the other night 
    I saw the most amazing sight, 
    for there beneath the Christmas tree 
    was Santa kneeling on his knee. 
    His countenance was different than 
    that all-familiar, jolly grin; 
    his head was bowed, with hand to breast, 
    and slightly tucked into his vest. 
    For there in a nativity 
    was Jesus and His family, 
    and as I heard him start to pray 
    I listened close to what he'd say. 
    "Lord, You know that You're the reason 
    I take pleasure in this season. 
    I don't want to take Your place, 
    but just reflect Your wondrous grace. 
    I hope you'll help them understand 
    I'm just an ordinary man, 
    who found a way to do Your will 
    by finding kids with needs to fill. 
    But all those centuries ago, 
    there was no way for me to know 
    that they would make so much of me, 
    and all the gifts beneath the tree. 
    They think I have some hidden power 
    granted at the midnight hour, 
    but it is my love for You 
    inspiring the things I do. 
    And so when they begin to open 
    gifts for which they have been hoping, 
    may they give You all the glory, 
    for You're the One True Christmas story." 

    Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_poem_from_the_Santa's_Christmas_Prayer#ixzz22mUaM7Py
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • twinmommy2004
    Posts: 252Member

    my children believe in Santa, I have not discouraged this.  The odd twist here is that we are Jewish and I even allow "Santa" to leave them a token present (one) for them on Christmas Day - for 2 reasons. 1, we are one of maybe 5 Jewish families in our small town so they don't know anyone else who DOESN'T get visited by Santa and 2, on their own they have decided to leave cookies out for him each year (they see it on TV and want to do it)


    I figure one of their friends will break it to them one day or they will figure it out on their own.

    the secret to happiness is not getting what you want, it's wanting what you get
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,968Administrator, Moderator
    In our house, Santa is part of the season frivolities, just like Rudolf the red-nosed reindeer, and Frostie the Snowman. Just for fun. We don't do Santa gifts. (But we don't do ToothFairy leavings, or baskets from the Easter Bunny, either.)
    I've explained to my kids that other families do certain things a different way, so don't spoil it for everyone else, though!
    That keeps them from spilling the beans to their smaller/younger cousins and friends, but it also makes them feel like they've been included in a grown up secret conspiracy or something LOL

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  • lostinthewindlostinthewind
    Posts: 1,051Member
    Dd9 and DS10 both still believe... I think. I have a feeling once they figure it out their feelings will probably be hurt a little but then I'll explain the real story and explain the reason parents fill in for Santa is so they can have a super special o ce a year way to show their kids a special way they love them.
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,779Guest
    I think santa is magical, like jesus. Santa vistis every house in one night, and jesus walks on water.
  • DaBOMB
    Posts: 275Member
    My son decided 2 yrs ago that santa was a stalker. Said it was creepy that some old guy is watching you and leaving presents. I couldn't help but agree. Lol!! So I spilled the beans, read him the story of the real St. Nick and its all good. We do the stocking and he brings us milk and cookies before he goes to bed. And he doesn't talk about it to younger kids at all. Ever...
  • LLB
    Posts: 3,311Member
    We do Santa. I tried talking dh out of it when we first had children but he really wanted to do it so I agreed.

    I personally find the thought of an old fat man that watches your every move, sneaks into your house at night while you are sleeping and leaves you candy and presents kinda creepy and stalker like. You know the kind of people you tell your kids to watch out for, certainly not to invite into your home!!!

    But alas dh thought we would be taking away part of their childhood by not doing the whole Santa thing. We both grew up believing and no it didn't traumatize us by believing so that is what we do. Santa doesn't leave as many gifts as mommy and daddy do though! I want credit for the big stuff!!!

    I will NOT bring my children to sit on the creepy old man at the malls lap for pictures though! I use the $$ as an excuse to my kids but it's really the thought of creepy old men getting paid to dress up to fondle little kids that bothers me!
  • bluemom
    Posts: 154Member

    When I was a kid my Mom told us that Santa came and filled our stockings, but that was it. Our presents were under the tree long before Christmas day so there was no way we would believe Santa brought them. My kids have never really believed in Santa. We didn't actually tell them there was no Santa, but we celebrate Christmas as a day to remember the birth of Jesus and his teachings, so I guess we never spend any time talking about Santa. They do, however believe in the Christmas Elf. You know, that creepy little elf who is supposed to move around your house at night. Go figure.

  • ChristyJChristyJ
    Posts: 882Member

    We do Santa.  DS6 likes to do cookies and milk.  When he was 3 he decided Santa had to be really tired after delivering all of those presents and made us make up the couch so Santa could have somewhere to take a nap.  He was really pissed the next morning when Santa was not there sleeping on his couch.  I even had DH lay down and make sure there was a "sleeping dent." 

    What makes it extra fun is my SIL does not do Santa and her son is less than a year older.  I think we do a good job respecting each others opinions.  Even though she did remark that her son thought believing in Santa was silly.

    To each their own I say.

    Imperfect and proud of it.
  • mama2tutnkcmama2tutnkc
    Posts: 1,039Member
    We do Santa. Santa brings one big gift & fills stockings. I was 10 when I found out and I was just like "Meh...ok" so its not a big deal to me lol.
    feels like *home* to me
  • ADreisow
    Posts: 57Member
    I havent had to explain santa...my daughter just "knows". I let her think what she wants.
  • rorysmom1
    Posts: 64Member
    I tell me 3 year old santa is gonna squeese  down our woodstove pipe... she buys it everytime.
  • dadof3
    Posts: 53Member
    I just say when they are old enough- santa is just a christmas spirit that fills us and makes us want to give and do for others. 
  • shate98shate98
    Posts: 2,751Member
    when my MUCH younger brother was about 10 he wanted proof of santa. So, on xmas eve I showed him NORAD tracking santa's movement across the globe and said, "would the US govt lie to you???" (snicker)

    He bought it hook, line and sinker.

    Later it was explained as 'the spirit of the season". ah, sigh. he's in college now.
    "As you wander through your life, whatever be your goal,
    keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole."
  • sidsmommy3sidsmommy3
    Posts: 2,204Member
    When we were kids, my aunt used to call every Christmas Eve and tell us that Santa just left her place and was on his way.  We were in bed every time!  

    My sister took it over for my kids and my niece.  And...we played with NORAD too!
    Mary :-)

    Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
  • BratsInAZ76
    Posts: 37Member
    LOVE Norad!! I also love the website that you can go to to have santa send a video message to your kids, he says their name and everything, pretty cool and free.  http://www.portablenorthpole.com/home It is not up today as they are doing maintenance, but it is an awesome gift for your kids. My oldest no longer believes and cried when we told her, however we did tell her that santa was real once and that we parents carry on the magic.
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