3 year old daughter tried to put a toy in her hoo ha

Zombee

ahh!!! I have joint custody of my 3 year old daughter, on her daddy's week to have her, she gets dropped off at my house until he and his mom are finished with work and they pick her back up and keep her over night.. Well, this morning, My ex's mom drops her off and says that while DD was in the bath, she tried to stuff a toy in her hoo ha... I have no idea where she would have gotten that from.. I asked DD later where she learned that and she said i dunno and I asked why she did it and got the same response, I told her that we shouldn't do things like that and not to put things there and not to let anyone else do it to her either and she seemed to understand.Is this normal exploratory behavior or what? I am so lost on this one... I hope some of my Scary Mommas on here can help!!

GlitterQueen

My dd also 3 uses her Fingers and possibly a small toy brush. But the.brush I am not sure about.

shadylane

Idk, it seems pretty weird that she's never done anything like that before and then suddenly decides to do it when she's at their house? She had to have seen or heard something, hopefully that's all it was.

Gingersnap

I don't have a daughter, but I have a friend who does and her little girl has tried to hide small toys in there. To the best of our knowledge, the girl has not been abused. She's 2.

AnonUser24

My daughter (3 in 3 months) just discovered "a hole down there" (her words). I think she was putting her fingers in there while in the tub. She was just playing in the tub and I was sitting on the toillet and she says, "mommy I have a hole down there!" Lol. I was just like, "um yep you do have a whole in your vagina. Be gentle." I think its natural to explore down there. I can see a little girl just thinking, "hey I'll hide my toy!".

Zombee

That is what I am thinking Thanks guys!! :)

Fabaudsaenz

Well my dd3 try hiding something inside her nose when she was 2 lol so I guess she's just exploring.

Love

Jesus. That makes me wonder what DD has tried to "hide"...

MarySunshine

It is common for little ones to explore their Nether regions...teaching PreK I've seen and heard all kinds of interesting things. You did right by telling her that it's not good to stick anything up there or let anyone else. If you need to remind here again (and again, and again and again, as you do with kids lol) make sure it's said in a matter of fact way. You don't want to inadvertently make her feel ashamed...that can lead to a very boring sex life a looooooong ways into the future. Stick with, "It's ok to explore, but we do it at home and we don't stick toys up there. That could hurt."

Seriousness aside, one of my dearest friends and coworker had a little boy pull his pants down during rest time, whip it and start spanking it in the middle of the room. I had a little girl who would hump her pillow before she napped...and both definitely came from a safe, reliable and loving home. Hell, my lil sister did what we called the worm dance in the morning when she woke up...she'd hump her pillow! LOL :-)

Gingersnap

@CallieFlower - DS 4 stumbled into the kitchen one crack-o-dawn morning, naked from the waist down, and started to hump my leg with his morning wood. I extracted myself and redirected the child.

MarySunshine

@gingersnap I can only hope DS stays in his room to finish his business. DH and I joke a bit about when he and the one on the way hit puberty. I told DH it was his job to tell them to jack a lack in tissues and not their socks. They can have all the fun they want, but I'm not touching spunk encrusted anything. And they have to hide their spank banks someplace good, I don't need to see them....or I might give them to DH if I find them.

shadylane

Omg I didn't even know there was a hole until I was like 8! And even then I never thought to stick anything in there till many years later lol

bec9

My little cousin tried to stick a Barbie leg in her hoo-hah when she was 3. Then my DD did it at that age as well. It freaked me out SO bad bc my first thought was how does she know there's a hole down there! But come to find out she was just exploring her body and i just explained to her that she could really hurt herself and she never tried it again.

wh05

Well I have 4 girls. 2 out of 4 I have got exploring they're hoo ha at 3/4 doctor said it was natural. Yea when oldest DD did it I panic thought someone touch her. My DS is ALWAYS touching & exploring his self. He's only 6 has been doing that since 3 I can only imagine when he becomes a teen lol

wh05

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SouthernButterfly

It's totally normal, I remember my sister and I both doing that as kids. (On OURSELVES not each other lol.) My DS is almost 7 and he will hump his stuffed dog once in a while before he goes to sleep. I've explained to him in matter of fact terms, that it's okay for him to explore his body, but only in the privacy of his bedroom, and that under no circumstances is anyone else to touch his winky unless it's his doctor at his check ups. It's only natural I think, I think kids figure out at an early age that it feels better to touch certain body parts than it does others. I would only worry if she suddenly starts acting out in a very innappropriate sexual way, that could be a sign she's being abused, but otherwise just tell her to keep it in her bedroom, and don't try to stick anything up there because it could hurt her.

unforgiven

My daughter just turned 2 and I've already seen her a couple times poke at her little lady. I know she's just exploring and it's completely normal... I just told her to be gentle. I try not to make a big deal out of it.