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My Babies Are Missing - UPDATE - BABIES ARE HOME SAFE !!!
  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    I was invited here by another person & was told that telling my story here would help to spread the word & possibly could help bring my babies back home. Here is my story:
    I am the Mother of three children. My oldest son is with me, because he has a different father. My fiancee & I are expecting his first (my 4th, hence the screen name) in August of next year, which is bittersweet, considering the current circumstances:
    My two younger children, my son (just turned 5 on Dec 11th, we missed his birthday) & my 3 year old daughter, have been missing since April, 2011. I last saw them on April 8th, 2011.
    Their father had visitation for one week each month. I took them on April 8th & was supposed to get them back on April 15th. I went to our meeting place (Thomson, GA) & waited for several hours--they never showed.
    This was not the first time he had kept them from me, he had kept them for one month in January, too. He kept them & filed for an 'emergency court hearing', because they (him and his psycho family) said that my children were being 'neglected', because my son wasn't talking & they said that the kids had 'terrible' dental health. I had just taken all three kids to the dentist in December & the dentist couldnt praise me enough on how perfect & wonderful my kids' teeth were!! I had proof of this, so the Judge asked 'what else' they had to show "neglect". They said that my son wasn't talking. I broke down crying right there in court...I knew it was happening again. 
    Let me explain what I mean by that....when my son was 2 years old, he quit walking while at his fathers house, but functioned normally at my house. He was regressing when he was away from me, when at his fathers house. Their father would have him evaluated & my son would be regressing. I would have him evaluated & he would pass with flying colors. So, now that he was 4 years old, he was not talking. The Judge ordered the babies returned to me asap. In fact, I had three Judges (2 male, 1 female), in two states order for me to have the children.I had my son evaluated, he functioned at the 6 yr old level! He was TWO YEARS ADVANCED! This made me so happy. But what hurt worse was that he was continually being forced to go to a place that he didn't want to go to--his fathers. Theyve been going since my son was about 2 & my daughter was only a few months old, so it doesn't affect her as badly, but still it affects her. I am her Mommy.
    The day that I took them, my son was screaming & crying that he did NOT want to go, he wanted to stay with me. He was kicking his feet & was visibly upset. I felt terrible when I had to make him go, but it was court-ordered. 
    Everytime I think back to that day, with him & that look on his face as I hugged & kissed him, & told him I would see him "in a few days", it makes me absolutely sick. I feel like I lied to him! I almost wonder if he knew something was going to happen, but he didnt know how to tell me. My son told me that when he was at his fathers and he would cry for me, they would tell him to go take a nap, or to be quiet about it...they never let him call to talk to me, so I could try to soothe him. The more I think about that, the more it pisses me off! How many times have they asked for me & those bastards denied them! I just wanted to give you that background, so that you could understand more about my absolute desperation to get them back home. My daughter's name is Trinity Grace Grant, she is a bright blue-eyed, blonde-haired angel of a girl--so absolutely adorable and brilliant, that she amazed me on a daily basis. Her brother started calling her "TeeTee" because he couldn't pronounce her name, so that is what we all call her. My son's name is Larry Alan Grant, Jr., we call him "Junior". He has the most wonderful sense of humor & is the sweetest most gentle boy you've ever seen, so compassionate & caring that I wish most adults could take a lesson from him.
    Now, here is my biggest fear....possible molestation of my son, by his stepgrandmother. I will give you a few reasons why we think this:
    1. When my ex husband & I were talking one night: we discussed his stepmom. Then he jumped off-subject & told me that he had been molested by a babysitter when he was younger. His stepmom WAS his babysitter, that's how she met his father! I asked him if it was her & he wouldn't look me in the eye. When I think about it, it literally makes me nauseous. 
    2. My ex husband told my mother & grandmother that he remembers being little & being taken into a room where there was a naked woman on the bed. We aren't sure who it was, or what exactly would happen (he didnt tell them), but we have a feeling in the pit of our stomachs that it had something to do with his stepmother.
    3. Last Thanksgiving '10, I let their father have them for an extra week, because his week fell the week before & he wanted to have the kids for that holiday, so I agreed. After that two weeks, my son came home being extremely aggressive toward his sister; he was NEVER mean to her before. Not even the 'normal' sibling squabble, he let her have her way and that was that, they NEVER fought. 
    Now he was being mean to her; hitting, pushing, screaming. I was shocked at his behavior! The biggest disturbance was, he started talking about his "peenee" all the time. He had NEVER done this before! He tried showing it to us at the dinner table--and to his big brother! 

    I spoke with many people about this, and they ALL have said it sounds like something happened, because he was exhibiting this behavior. I had him evaluated by a child therapist, that specialized in abuse situations, but of course, they took him into a room without me, so he wouldn't talk.
    I know that this post is incredibly LONG, but I need you all to know the severity of the situation & of my desperation to get them back, before much more harm (possibly irreversible) is done to my children. 
    If you could, please share these links (below) and re-post everywhere that you can think of. One is from Facebook (please 'like' and 'share' the page), and another is from the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. Share them both, everywhere. I also made a Youtube video, if you would like to see it and repost it, as well.
    The US Marshals are on the case, but they're also on 200,000 other cases as well.
    The story was in the newspaper a few months ago in MS, and was featured on TruTV InSession in September. 
    My children have been sighted everywhere from WI, to MS, to WV and possibly back in GA, the Macon, Villa Rica areas. The family lives in/near Dallas, GA. 
    I currently live in SC, near Charleston.
    Links: 


    Thank you all so much. 

  • AnonMomAnonMom
    Posts: 2,430Member
    Oh honey, my heart is breaking for you!  I will post the links on my facebook page.  May God watch over you and your little ones and find it in his plan to unite the three of you once again.  Amen.
  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    Thank you SO much. I am so glad that I was guided to this page, it is wonderful.

    We are hoping praying that this helps, maybe someone somewhere will see them...and they will be returned home.

    We have missed so much already, my sons birthday, the Holidays. It is breaking our hearts.

    My oldest son, 11 years old, was diagnosed with PTSD a couple of months ago, because of this. He has been talking to a therapist at school and is doing much better in dealing with his anger and frustration about what has happened with his little brother and sister. 
    The three of them have always been very very close. My oldest son always wanted a baby sister, he got a baby brother first and then a sister, and he absolutely adores them both.
    This is tearing him up, as badly as it is tearing me up. He comes to me sometimes, and just throws his arms around me and lets loose the hardest sobbing cries...it KILLS me to see him going through this, too. Christmas was very hard. Even he wasn't looking forward to it--he didn't want to decorate and didn't make a big deal about it.
    We are coping, but it isnt getting easier to deal with as each day goes by--it actually gets harder...
  • lovinmom
    Posts: 694Member
    I shared it on my fb I am so sorry you are going through this.
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,865Member
    I know this is a very difficult & heartbreaking time for you. Many prayers being said for your family, especially for the safety of your 2 little ones.
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,968Administrator, Moderator
    I shared all 3 links on my Facebook. I'm so sorry for what you and your family are going through!

    community-manager


  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,778Administrator, Moderator
    I've shared on facebook too, I am so sorry you're going through this. I'm sending you light and love hunnie, we're here for you. 

    community-manager


  • ImWendyImWendy
    Posts: 6,562Member
    @mommy_of_four I'm in Aiken... I know it isn't much, but considering how close they've been to Augusta, there's a chance they could still be in my area. I promise I'll look at every child I see to see if they're yours.
    deus ex machina
  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    Thank you ALL. You have no idea how much this means to me....youre all wonderful beautiful ladies! <3
  • GlitterQueen GlitterQueen
    Posts: 2,507Member
    I posted it on my FB
  • AnonUser24
    Posts: 2,610Guest
    Omg I am so so so sorry! I can't imagine the pain you are going through. I will definitely post this on my fb.
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,359Administrator, Moderator
    I am SO sorry that you have to go through this. Can't even fathom the pain, fear and heartbreak you feel. Not even for ONE second. I will share these links on my Facebook as soon as I can get on my PC. I will also pray for the safe return of your precious babies.

    When was the last time your children were spotted or reported being seen? At least there is some tiny solace knowing that people have seen them and they are safe. I know the police have probably interviewed his family members, but one of them HAS to know something! He's got to be getting money from somewhere. Ugh what a slimeball.

    You've done everything right by reaching out to spread the word, making sure the police stay involved, etc. I would continue to contact ANY and ALL media outlets. Tell them your story and beg them to show your kid's faces. Local networks are wonderful, but national networks are even better. Do you have a lawyer who could help you explore these options further?

    Again, I'm VERY sorry and I'm praying for you and your babies!

    community-manager


  • crazylazymommycrazylazymommy
    Posts: 249Member
    I am so sorry you are going through this. I will definitely share this on my FB since i have friends in several states.
  • loveurfaceloveurface
    Posts: 31Member

    @ mommy_of_four

    your youtube video made me cry =,(, i posted  them fb/youtube on my fb,  you will be with your babies soon and your  ex will pay for what hes done!! you and your family will be in my prayers every night, the biggest (((((((hugs))))) to you!

  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    @Sammie...I have an attorney in GA that has been helping me with this divorce/custody thing since 2009, and she hasnt charged me a dime, because she believes in my case. She has even come from GA to SC for hearings. She is the most wonderful lady I could have ever asked for, I swear that she is my Angel.

    The last time anyone claims to have seen them--that I know of--was in September, in Macon, GA at a Kroger grocery store. But, law enforcement didnt follow up on it. The law doesnt seem to be making as big a deal about it as I think they should--but, of course, I am there Mother, so...

    They were on TruTV InSession (nationwide tv) back in September, and have been in newspapers too. They're on several websites, too--you can Google their names and they're on about 20 or so sites.
    I have friends and family that have put their posters up at different places around the country, too. I keep trying to get as many people as I can to post and repost their pictures on as many different pages/sites as possible. The more that their faces saturate the internet, the better the chance that someone will recognize them, and will report seeing them, and they could be returned home.

    I have contacted news stations in GA and SC, but got no replies back. Its a 'family abduction', so its not 'big, juicy' like news stations want. 
    For whatever reason, I am the only one stressing the possible ('fact'?) that my son could be being abused. I told the Marshals about it, and they seemed disturbed by the information, but still haven't made a big deal about it. 
    I think that if they did, more media would pick it up. I mean COME ON, the step-grandmother could be molesting my son, and she may have done it to her stepson (my kids father) when he was child, too! 
    She said, in court, that she would NOT help in locating the kids, but we all know damn well that she knows where they are. She has always been creepily obsessed with my son! She told me, when I was about 6 mos along, that if me and her stepson ever split up, that SHE was going to (and I quote) "have that baby"! And let me tell you, there was no argument going on, she said this out of nowhere--in fact I believe I was standing in the kitchen making a sandwich, when she came at me with that. SHE IS CRAZY! And her stepson, my ex, is spineless. They're both the reason that I wanted a divorce from him...she (verbally) attacked me and he allowed her to do it. I think she has an unhealthy obsession with my ex, too. The day we got married (at the courthouse), she found out and came running out to the car; when he stood up out of the car, she tried smashing him in the door! It bent the car door (the frame up around the top of the window), water leaked in after that.
    Sorry for the rant, but the woman is psychotic...she scares me. I am always looking over my shoulder, I dont trust her. 
    His family is very involved in it, and they're all hiding information. 
    They creep me out.
  • SouthernButterflySouthernButterfly
    Posts: 324Member
    You are strong mama! Keep the hope alive, they will be found, aside from being a slimeball, he also seems very stupid. He will slip up and be caught one day very soon! Sending good thoughts your way.
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  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    I pray that youre all right....he isnt the smartest, and neither are they. They will run out of money soon enough....I hope.  
    They got desperate, because the courts werent giving them what they wanted; what they thought they could get with money alone. They spent $40,000 on a GA attorney, but because they lied when filing and my ex lied his ass off in court, the case was dismissed and their money was wasted. They then tried blackmailing their former attorney, to get some of their money back! Theyre evil and crazy!

    They think that them having money, and me living paycheck to paycheck and being a f/t student, that they would 'win'. But the Judges all saw through them....children need LOVE, not MONEY. Only I can provide what my kids need, regardless of now much money I have.

    I am so glad I joined this site...you are all making me feel a little more positive about this. Maybe they will be home soon.

    We have a courtdate scheduled for February, to finalize everything (my sole custody and his visitation being taken away completely)...maybe they will be found by then, and we can move on and start healing.

    THANK YOU LADIES! ***HUGS***
  • GingersnapGingersnap
    Posts: 7,314Member
    Reposted on FB, with a request for it to be circulated. 
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  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,614
    I am SO sorry this is happening to you.  I can't even imagine not seeing my son for 6+ months on end.   I know you mentioned money is tight but is there any way you could hire a private investigator to track his family?  If you had someone who was just focused on your case it might help you find them faster.  I'm sure you have already thought of this but I figured I would throw it out there just in case.  Good luck mama! Keep us updated!
  • dhall602
    Posts: 1Member

    I shop in the vicinity of where you say the kids have possibly been seen. I will keep a look out. As well as tell my sister in law who lives in Villa Rica to look. How about calling Fox 5 news or 11 alive. They do stories that help people get answers all the time. Their investigative teams can find just about anything or anybody.  What about posting a pic of the step mom or a description of the car they drive too. 

  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,359Administrator, Moderator
    Yes, a private investigator is a brilliant idea. With the nature of this case, they may be willing to do pro-bono or steep discounts on their normal fees. Your lawyer may even have a few contacts. Unlike the police, a PI can focus solely on finding your kids.

    community-manager


  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    We have definitely thought about, and contacted PI's. They want nothing less than about $3,000-$5,000 retainer fee, to start searching. They said it was because they would have to do so much traveling, to get information, etc.
    I know that if someone could just follow the grandparents, or my ex's stepsister, then they would most likely lead them right to my ex and my children.
    My fiancee wants so badly to get a few of his friends together, rent a few cars (so they wouldn't recognize any vehicles, esp as being from SC) and follow each of them around, everywhere that they go. We figured that up, and to do that for about 2 weeks would be no less than about $2,000. That's for about 2-3 cheap little rental cars, and gas.

    I started a fundraiser type thing, on a site I found yesterday, called ChipIn, it works through PayPal, so I had to open a PayPal thing too. I have NO IDEA how the whole thing works, but I posted it on my FB once yesterday. Dont know if anyone saw it, or if anyone 'chipped in'. That PayPal stuff confuses me.

    We know that if we can have them followed, or follow them ourselves (disguising and hiding our faces, etc, of course), we could be led right to where my kids are. I suggested this NUMEROUS times to the Marshals, and the main guy handling my case got pissed at me. Sent me an email saying that they're not my 'personal investigations service' and that if I want one then I need to hire one. Kinda pissed me off when he sent that email. Made me upset, but at the same time, I understand...there are no less than 200,000 other missing persons cases at any one time, in the US. 

    Most PI's are not willing to do anything reduced or free...it costs them a lot to travel around, get information and to follow people. 
    So, I am doing it the only way that I know how....the internet. Its faster and its free.
  • ScaryPoohBear
    Posts: 91Member
    My heart just teared up watching this video and what they must be going through right now. I'm doing everything I can to help out even though I'm way up here in Canada. My thoughts and prayers going out to u and your family.
  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    @ScaryPoohBear...I am not sure why, but the Marshals asked me if my ex or his family had any connections/ties/family/knowledge of Canada. Dont know what part in particular they would be referring to, since I had no clue about anyone being in Canada. Just thought I would throw that out there, maybe you could keep your eye out for them...?

    Also, I was asked about New Mexico, as well. Again, not sure why.
  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
    Posts: 5,449Member
    I'm bumping this up...and will keep bumping it up. And I'm posting the links on my FB, too. We have friends all over the country including the South. You all will be in my thoughts! Stay strong Mama!
    I'm as sexy as a burp mid-kiss. Watch out!

  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,778Administrator, Moderator
    @Mommy_Of_Four Is there a way for you to edit the description of the youtube video to include the ChipIn account? I think once people see that video, they would be glad to pitch in and help you get the funds to get your kids back!

    community-manager


  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    @CanadianMama...I never thought of that. I guess I could add it to the description. Thank you for the wonderful idea!
  • ScaryPoohBear
    Posts: 91Member
    @mommy_of_four for sure I will keep an eye out for your kids and that ex of yours, it's all that I could do for now. Once again my prayers going out to the kids, hope they r doing ok.
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,778Administrator, Moderator
    No problem!!! I want to do whatever I can to help you!!! My heart hurts for you : (

    community-manager


  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,359Administrator, Moderator
    @Mommy_of_four, I would post the links to your video, your facebook, and the missing children's fliers on every media outlet that has a Facebook page. Each day. You never know who might be looking at those pages, and who will be willing to circulate that information further. Those pages get a LOT of traffic. They also get flooded pretty quickly, so posts get moved down fast, but it's worth it to take the few minutes to do it each day! Also, it may cause another news media outlet to pick up the case and air it on their station! 

    Great idea @fractured.

    community-manager


  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    I put the ChipIn link on the YouTube video and in the description.
    I am now going to flood the GA and SC news stations with the FB page and YouTube video, too. The least they can do is delete them...and if they do, then that's really sad.
    Thanks for the awesome ideas, gals! 
    I am burning up my fingers on this keyboard, now!
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 354
    @Mommy_of_four  Your youtube video had me in tears.  I am so sorry you are going through this.  I shared your links on my FB wall and asked friends to share.  I truly hope they will be home safe with you soon! 
  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    I just sent an email with all links to several newscasters on Fox News and sent messages to CNN, I am about to hit them ALL! I am so excited, maybe one or all of them will pick this up and air it! Oh, what a wonderful gift that would be!
    Thank you, you wonderful, wonderful ladies. <3
  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,865Member
    I finally figured out how to do it so the links have been posted on fb & twitter with a request to circulate. We will get these pics out there!
  • singlemomlongx
    Posts: 250Member
    I too will post this on my fb page as I know several people on there who are in Georgia. Perhaps they will know of other in authority who may be able to help. With all this word going out far and wide perhaps we will get some results. Stay strong. We arebworking on it and most of us scary mommy's are also scary determined!!!
  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    I nearly cried when I saw this...thank you all so SO much! 
    Oh man, if this helps to bring them home (first I will want to kick myself, for not doing this sooner), I want to meet each and every one of you and give you all the biggest hugs ever!!! Thank you!!!
  • anonymommy
    Posts: 1,391Member
    I'm so sorry you're going through this--what an unbelievable nightmare.  My heart aches for you.  I passed your links on to family members in GA.  Please keep us posted.
  • goodmommygoodmommy
    Posts: 1,564Member
    This has got to be heartwrenching to go through. wow. I liked the FB page but I don't know how to share it from my phone
    "Allons-y"
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,891Confessional Manager
    >:D< >:D<

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • shawnmain
    Posts: 111Member
    i am so glad you found this page. i knew that these women were awesome and by having so many in so many places, maybe justice could be served. i have been praying for you and your beautiful children ever since i heard your story. i know its hard, but stay strong, and believe that they will find their way home where they belong and your ex and his worthless family will pay big time.
    >:D<
  • mammadrama
    Posts: 25Member
    I am so sorry. this is so heartbreaking. where is the step mom? is she with your babies and ex?
  • mammadrama
    Posts: 25Member
    i will continue to pray for you and your family. I can not even imagine the pain that you are suffering through. You sound like a strong woman. I know God will bring those babies home. have you wrote to Nancy Grace?
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,359Administrator, Moderator
    Yes!!!! Nancy Grace!!! That is brilliant @mammadrama.

    @mommy_of_four, I believe there is a number to call for Nancy's show if you would like her to air your story. I'm not sure how the process works, but the number is available on her web page I think. Leave her a message with all the details!!! Also, follow up with an email with links to your FB page and video. If you can, have your lawyer call and write as well. Writing is good, but I think you need to CALL too. Let them hear the emotion and live in your voice, so they know how serious this is.

    Also, Dr. Phil?! Call in!!

    community-manager


  • Mommy_Of_Four
    Posts: 73Member
    @mammadrama, the stepmom is in Dallas, GA--last I heard from the Marshals, anyway. She claims not to know where my ex and the kids are, but there is absolutely NO way she would go without seeing any of them. I dont know how theyre doing it, but she is seeing them somewhere, somehow. That's why they need to be followed absolutely everywhere that they go. I bet, after as short as a week or as long as a month's time, that she would go see them and they could be caught/found.

    I have written Nancy Grace, several people have. I havent called, not sure if anyone else has. 
    I will definitely try that, though...maybe it will work.
    I do know that NCMEC does a lot of that, too...they contact shows and try to get stories aired. They also send the 'missing children' posters around the country, to different types of places.

    Thank you for the ideas.
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,778Administrator, Moderator
    We can organize an email blitz if you would like.

    community-manager


  • mammadrama
    Posts: 25Member
    My hubby and I both wrote to CNN ... It sounds like you need to hire a prvate detective... i know the missing children are running a FB page but it may not hurt if you start one as well. that way you can Blog everyday and maybe even find more help if you start a public Fb support page. lawyers or private detectives may offer services free of charge
    plus it would be healthy for you to share thoughts with the public
  • mammadrama
    Posts: 25Member
    i seen that you moved to another state but did you try following the family members step mom exc before you moved?
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 1,109
    I will be all in on the email blitz!! Great @CanadianMama
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,359Administrator, Moderator
    Is there someone, ANYONE near you that is a private investigator OR has PI connections? Maybe if we all wrote to him/her to plea on your behalf then we could get the ball rolling here? There's strength in numbers and it would not hurt to try. I really just think that the PI is crucial at this point especially if you've moved to a different state since they went missing. I realize that you can't make money fall out of the sky, and I'm NOT judging you, I'm just wishing/hoping/praying we could get a good PI after his ass.

    community-manager


  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,614
    posted it to my facebook page here in north carolina I will keep you in my prayers
  • Anonymous
    Posts: 29,614

    I completely agree with Sammie.  I am not trying to judge either but is there any way you could take a second mortgage, take out a loan, get a second job, etc to raise money for a PI?  It really seems to be the best and quickest way to be reunited with your children. 

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