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stupid ex and daughter fight - need input
  • darknscarymommy
    Posts: 102Member
    I have a situation I need input on.  My stupid ex is fighting with my dd25 over her long time ex boyfriend.  This exbf was one she dated in high school.  He had anger management issues, was verbally abusive, had BO and really not very bright.  She has since moved on and has a current bf who is incredibly bright, looks like Jake Gyllenhall and treats her really well.  Her old BF is now married and has a baby.  His wife is friends with my youngest daughter.  My stupid ex insists on hanging out with her stupid ex.  In fact my ex and his new little wifey regularly babysit DD's xbf's son.  This whole friendship really irritates my daughter,  In fact, it is becoming an issue between DD and her dad.  He feels like it is very reasonable for them to be friends.  The more DD asks him not to hang out with them, the more stupid ex insists it is a good thing,  He says DD is being unreasonable.  But DD's new boyfriend won't even think about going to family get togethers with her dad because this loser and his wife might be there.  

    I am really on my daughters side in this debate but stupid ex says we are being childish.  What do you guys think?  I need objective input!
  • momofeveryonemomofeveryone
    Posts: 1,709Member

     this is bs! you ex is trying to reclaim his youth or some twisted crap like that by being friends with this kid. you and DD need to start distancing yourselves from him. is younger sister really friend w/ this girl or is she pressured to keep the friendship to keep daddy happy?

     im 27 and i have a very very strained relationship with my dad, we talk once a month about the weather and work, and it works for us now. maybe in the future we can have a hallmark moment, but im not holding my breath.

    we got the house!!!!! i have worked so hard for 5 years to get us in a spot to buy! isnt it cute?!?!?!?
  • darknscarymommy
    Posts: 102Member
    yeah @lizzwizzy that's what I said.  His first priority should be to his own flesh and blood.  @momofeveryone he really does seem to be trying to relive his youth or something.  It's kind of creepy.  He gets some sort of real thrill of knowing he's all popular other people, especially if they are younger.  I'm thinking cuz he wasn't all that popular in high school, but that's just my thinking.  My daughter actually gave him an ultimatum.  He could  either be friends with her ex or have a relationship with her.  My daughter is hurting so bad from this and there is no way for me to fix it!  
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  • darknscarymommy
    Posts: 102Member
    Thank you for the support. I've been trying to support my daughter the best I can, but its kinda driven a wedge between my girls, aa two of the feel bad for their dad, even though they both readily admit they wouldn't want him hanging out with any of their exes. The asshat really knows how to stir things up.
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