@lawschoolmommy if you were one of my sisters or my bff, id tell you to just keep breathing for the next few days. thats all you can do right now. on monday call your health insurance provider and see what they cover. call around a few dr.s and see which ones take your insurance and what the copay will be. (id look into a man so dh wont feel 'ganged up' on) also do some soul searching of your own. journal a little bit about how you talk to eachother. when he says this what is your reaction and why, when you ask him this are you asking or ordering? doing some pre-lim like this will make it easier when you sit down with him next week and when you go talk to a pro.
hugs!!! it will all work out in the end the way its suppose to.
Reading your post makes my heart ache for you. I have beenthere. It was about a year ago that I went through almost the exact same thing.I know what you are going through. Iknow the pain and the confusion and I know the waiting is brutal. My advice to you for the next few days is to tryto make yourself busy. Take DS for a walk or go to the park or whatever getsyou out of the house for a little bit and try to take some time for yourself toclear your head. Give DH a little space so he can think too. You don’t have to pretend like everything isfine. No matter what the outcome is you will get through this. I promise!!Please let me know if you need anything. I’m pretty new here but these womenseem to be an amazing support group. I wish I had known about this site when I wasin your shoes.
@Sammie, oh i know lol. the way we can get on eachother sometimes? could you imagin the furry of all of us unleashed on one guy?
@Lawschoolmommy couldit be a midlife crisis?
Only thing I can suggest is that you please keep on with the counseling--regardless of whether he goes with you. Please do it for yourself. It won't fix everything, but you will have a place to go and share your feelings. I hope you also continue to share your feelings here.
My now exhusband left me while I was on a business trip several years ago. I left on a Wednesday, came back on a Friday and he had packed up all his shit. I cried for five days. But my point is that I survived, but I know it hurts like hell.
If dh is depressed, he is going to have to deal with that--I have suffered depression for years on and off. There are meds he can take that will help, but it will be up to him to make that choice. I did because I got tired of being depressed.
All I can say is take it one day at a time or one hour or even one minute at a time.
LOL I do silly stuff like this too. My answertone for my ex is Since you've been gone by Kelly Clarkson. I don't know if he gets the meaning behind it but I sure do. Also his ringer is Crazy Train ...also fitting, HAHA
Smile anyway you can get it. :)