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You don't want your kid to play with my kid?
  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    This is likely why I have no friends and don't care to reach out very often.....

    On the weekend, I found out a new family moved down the road - a husband, wife and two children (one is a boy my son's age, 3, the other is a 14-month-old baby girl).

    Anyway, they were outside on Saturday while DS3 and I were on a bike ride so I stopped in to say hello. They seem like a nice family and our two boys hit it off instantly. I suggested she bring her boy over to play with mine and we could have a coffee, sit outside and chat. She said she would come Sunday after lunch.

    Sunday was a gorgeous day and we were outside at 9 a.m. doing yard work, playing and building a new sweat lodge. As usual, DS3 was in his sand box, digging dirt with his Tonka trucks, getting water from the pond to make sand castles, etc. He was filthy dirty (as usual) but happy as a clam.

    Neighbour Mom came over with her DS3 around 1 p.m. My little guy ran over to greet his new friend with a huge smile and a wave. My DS3 is pretty affectionate and wanted to hug him. Neighbour Mom took one look at my sand-covered muddy son and snatched her kid away from him, a look of disgust on her face.

    She asked me why my DS was so dirty and I told her we'd playing outside all morning. She told me she didn't want her son to get dirty and she was disgusted at how dirty my son was. Yep, she went there. I said it was just sand and a bit of muddy sand from making sand castles. Didn't matter. Even though he son was wriggling around in her arms, anxious to play with my son, she said she thought they'd "best be going home now."

    I was so shocked, I didn't even say anything. I didn't flip out or anything, just stood there in shock. My DS3 was absolutely crest-fallen that he couldn't play with his new friend. He asked me why he went home and what the FUCK could I tell him. Poor kid. I felt so bad. It was obvious his little heart was broken and he was confused.

    So, there ends my chance at making a friend and my son's chance at having a kid next door to play with.


  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,715Confessional Manager
    One day her little boy will come home muddy and gross and she'll realize she was over reacting. If she thinks he will never get dirty well that's pretty funny... He's a boy! I'm sorry she was so rude to you and your little guy. 

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  • SchweddyBallsSchweddyBalls
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    Fuck her.......and the germ free bubble she lives in!!!!!! :D
    I'm the nicest person you will ever meet, UNTIL you fuck with me or the betches I love.......
  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    Yeah, it's not me I feel the most bad for, it's DS3 because he doesn't understand and right now, there's no way I can really make him understand.

    He was so excited to have a friend just down the road.
  • momofdbbmomofdbb
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    :( I'm sorry. Their loss.
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  • SchweddyBallsSchweddyBalls
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    Worm hunts will get his mind off of it.......then you can sneak over and hang them on the front door knob!!!!!
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  • SammieSammie
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    :O

    I'm at a loss for words. Can't even believe it. Your poor little dude!

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  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    LMAO @schweddyballs - I have been plotting my revenge, very quietly. I'm not quite sure what I'm gonna do.

    My DH is a stone sculptor and he creates massive amount of dust. That dust WILL blow into their yard on a windy day and if water gets mixed into it, it turns into a sticky, goopy, clay-like substance that is fucked to try to get rid of......Hmmmmmm
  • SammieSammie
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    If it makes you feel better my kiddo just came in from playing with her sandbox and water table. She's filthy. Stripped off her clothes and then she decided to decorate herself from head to toe (literally) with her markers. That was more fun than construction paper obviously. I know she looks like hell, but she's having a blast, making her own choices and being a KID. If someone doesn't like that then they can kick rocks!! I'd welcome a sandy hug from your sweet boy and my little ragamuffin would too!!

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  • shouldcleanshouldclean
    Posts: 2,541Member
    :( kids get dirty. I wouldn't want to play with her. That is terrible. I'm sorry your son was disappointed the good thing is kids get over it fast
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,785Member
    This is CRAZY!! @Four_winds better expect to be greeted by a mucky toddler tomorrow!!
    What a weird woman! I feel sorry for HER!! I feel most sorry for your little guy :( He will find someone with a less neurotic mum and hit it off!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • crazymama2twocrazymama2two
    Posts: 843Member
    this makes me sad...i say to both my kids "that's what washing machines and bath tubs are for"  WTF?! im sad for your little guy.  i want to taco punch that bitch.
  • broken_dawnbroken_dawn
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    I'm sorry she was such an ass. I'd be happy for my son to have a friend his age he could get dirty with, even a whole morning outside. It's kind of hard at my apartments.
  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    @crazymama2two - I say that ALL the time too! LOL!

    @Sammie - Oh yeah, my son is exactly like that too. And I think @LivinTheDream said a few days ago that her child was walking around naked gnawing on a chocolate bunny....See, that's EXACTLY what it's like most of the time at my house.

    Chaos, sand, dirt, mud, playdoh, finger paints, markers, you name it.
  • MegsueMegsue
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    Sounds like my SIL, the uppity useless piece of shit she is. Kids get dirty for crying out loud, exposure to dirt and germs builds a healthy immune system. My germophobe SIL wonders why her kids are always sick! Her 2yo DD just learned to walk because she wasn't allowed on the floor because floors are dirty. My DS3 always wants her to come and play, but she's never been to our house because there are toys everywhere which makes my house "dirty."
    I just laugh at the pathetic nature of some people. They are truly the ones who are missing out. Your DS will hopefully find a new buddy soon. Slim pickings like in my "neighborhood" I'm sure (I don't have neighbors, not for a quarter mile or so), but I try to get him to a playground once a week or so, or take him to see my NORMAL SIL with 2 DSs that are permitted to act their age. If you ever come to Maine, let me know, we'll all build sandcastles together, and maybe we won't wash our hands and faces before lunch :D
  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    @Megsue - You've got a date if we ever come to Maine!
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  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
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    For God's sake, it's not like your son had been rolling around in pig shit! What a bitch.
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  • Mommyliciousx4Mommyliciousx4
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    my kids play in the mud puddles and look for worms, i found a dried dead worm by my fireplace

    Poor kiddos.

    That sh..................stuff washes off.

  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    A childhood without dirt and mud is a sad childhood! I love when dd plays with dirt and mud. Not too happy when she tries to eat it but I gotta draw the line some where right? What's the worse that could happen if her little boy got dirty? He would have had a blast and that's their lost.
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  • AnonUser30
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    Hey! How'd my dirty little mess get brought into this?? LMAO - and yeah, she was...it was ugly.....and cute!

    Here, I had something like this happen yesterday - not nearly as bad. My "friend" who LOVES my DD5 (the bunny murderess!) called at the last minute and invited us to meet her at the mall so we could all "hang out". I won't go into all the tomfuckery that went on, but her first comment was "Is there a point where you just give up keeping them clean? Ugh." Now, DD had on sweats and a shirt (yay! clothes!!!) and had to be fought with to get here - so her hadn't been brushed and her face was a little snotty from the crying as I loaded her into the car. WTF is that?????
  • AnonUser37
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    What a bitch! And her poor little boy. My son is a dirt magnet, messy, gooey, walking clump of dirt after playing outside! As he SHOULD be. And I won't even mention how many poor crickets, frogs, worms, grass hoppers, and ants have been loved to death at his hands before I could rescue them lol
    Her son is missing out, and my heart breaks for your little one, I know how hard that is, we had a mommy in our neighborhood who wouldn't let her son play at our home because she didn't think her son seeing a single parent household set a good example. She "didn't want him to think that was acceptable". Noah didn't understand....and I didn't know how to help him. It was awful.

    @megsue I'm not far from Maine! Sandcastles!?!
  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    @LivinTheDream - Because I loved what you wrote, could see it clearly in my head and thought it was AWESOME!
  • BeerWenchBeerWench
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    My kid is ALWAYS in the mud/dirt... now all the neighborhood kids are too. It's fun to play.
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  • katz_meowkatz_meow
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    My kids have eaten more dirt and hair than I could ever even imagine. And guess what, they're never sick.  Shame on the neighbor for not letting her little boy act like one. 
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  • LoveLove
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    Dude! How awful! 
    Maybe she DID freak because she had his 'good' clothes on, and was expecting a polite get-to-know-you visit instead of the mudpuddle? But still, that's no excuse for being hateful and blowing a gasket over nothing but dirt! Those poor kids! 

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  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    @SoCaliBeachMom - No way. She totally judged us. She doesn't get a second chance.

    If church clothes are jogging pants, a sweatshirt and running shoes, then I guess he was in church clothes.
  • i_am_a_thunderbirdi_am_a_thunderbird
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    And furthermore, if she's going to be THAT judgmental about dirt, I can just imagine how judgmental she'd be about everything else. So probably not someone I'd want to be friends with anyway, now that I've seen her true colours.

    As for expecting a nice, clean visit - I'm sorry but we live in the country and we are hard-working, get down to business, get dirty kind of people. I can't help that my yard has a sandbox for my child to play in and mud when it gets wet.
  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
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    Yeah, she wouldn't get a second chance from me, either. Coincidentally, I also have no friends. Oh, well!
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  • battibatti
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    That's FUCKING. RUDE.

    This makes me want to go @handtowellady on this dirt-ophobe.

    SMSM_s_5

  • beambeam
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    Saw this just a few minutes ago on FB and thought of this thread.

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  • SassySassy
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    But.... dirt and mud = a better immune system, right? RIGHT?! Ha!

    What a rude woman. Wonder what she said to her son....
  • Katescrazymom
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    Your poor DS. She sounds awful. I love it when my kids play, who cares if they get dirty. My sil is like that. What a waste of time.
    I did get peeved when dh fed dd oatmeal for breakfast just before Christmas pics. Blueberry oatmeal. Her other shirt was too light and faded into the backdrop.
  • MegsueMegsue
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    Sandcastles! @Meghann anytime!!! Road trip!!!!
  • BakingmommyBakingmommy
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    I read this entire thread and I still can't wrap my head around boys not getting dirty. DS6 gets outta the shower and within 5 minutes there is dirt on him already (the time it takes to walk from the shower, to his room, and get pj's on). I guess I just don't understand Judgey McJudgerson. 

    But that reminds me of a story my mom told me.  She had a friend when I was just a wee one, and she had a 3 year old son, she would dress in all white, nice button shirts (like polos, white/yellow/blue collared dress shirts etc), nice white or khaki pants, dress shoes and expect him to stay clean. Apparently one time she left him with his dad and my dad while my mom and her ran to the store, and OMG he played in mud and got dirt all over her..errr his white pretty clothes, when they got back from the store, my mom said she just about had a damn heart attack at what he looked like. At which point my dad told her, he's a boy, he's going to get dirty, get over it.
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  • AnonUser37
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    @megsue, sweet! Do you live near a beach by any chance?
    Ps. Your name makes me look twice, every time, my real name is Megan sue :)
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
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    Maybe she has some sort of OCD about cleanliness? Sure, she was rude, but if she is OCD or some other affliction, maybe she just can't help it. Just let her be her, you be you and maybe at some point she will come to accept kids get dirty. May take a while ...
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  • AnonUser30
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    @i_am_a_thunderbird - she didn't have to ask if it was poop or mud did she? Cause I kind of did that with DD's hands (poop or chocolate??) cause I have PMS and I just wanted to lick her off.....But, I wasn't sure about it completely. These kids are so gross!
    :D
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
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    Oh ... Find an appropriate Scary Mommy blog (must be something about being dirty), print it out and put it in her mailbox! Hehe
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  • AnonUser30
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    @MamaTeeRoll - I've got some chocolate bunnies around here to keep 'em busy - or a good chicken fight?? Put those beasts on our shoulder and let them fling mud (yeah. Mud!!) at each other. First mommy to falls is cleaning the towels after we hose off!! >:/
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  • MegsueMegsue
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    @Meghann , I live in the sticks, but my Mom has a house on the beach. Stinky mud flats even!! I do have an awesome fire pit, which does not suck to sit around and drink beer when the kiddos are sleeping!!
    And my name is Megan Sue as well
  • AnonUser37
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    I was sold at "in the sticks" @megsue, I live in them too and I wouldn't live anywhere else!
  • MomToAnOnly
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    What am out of touch with reality biotch...I mean I try to keep my kid clean to some extent but then there is friggen reality. I think I get more hurt on my child's behalf when things like this happen than I ever would for myself.
  • kcsmommykcsmommy
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    As a preschool teacher I see this a lot (parents scared to let their kids be kids)!! We have a sign on each of the classroom doors and where parents sign their kids in and out... Preschool gets messy! We play with markers, paint, glue, sand, dirt, mud, clay, play-dough, water and other various materials that may stain clothing, Please do not send your children to school in nice clothes and please provide two changes of clothing... Thank you school name. We have a lot of fun with all these items most of our kids get very dirty in a day!! 
    The preschool age isn't supposed to be neat and tidy, but unfortunately there are many parents that don't like their kids dirty!! 
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    Geeze, what an uptight bitch. My boys were filthy little shits all the time when they were younger. Hugs to your son who now doesnt have a friend to play with :(
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