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Almost 16 month old not talking
  • PaperDoll
    Posts: 5Member

    Hello everyone! I just signed up today but I've been around for about a week or so. You all seem like a great group and very supportive of one another and I really could use some advice...

    My DS will be 16 months next week. I took him to the doctor yesterday for his 15 month well child check-up. I mentioned to the doctor that he doesn't really have any words he seems to use consistently and she recommended that we take him to be evaluated for EI. She said that there is probably nothing wrong and he may just be a delayed talker but this absolutely scares the crap out of me. I have always thought my son was a very bright and advanced child. He has hit all other milestones early or on time and talking is the first thing he has had a delay in. He babbles constantly and uses gestures to communicate what he wants. He knows some letters of the alphabet and can point to them and tell you what letter it is. He follows simple requests ie. "Go get your cup." Where is your ball?" "Wave bye-bye." So I guess my questions is, should I be concerned? Do you think it is to early for EI? DH thinks I'm crazy and over thinking this. What are your thoughts? When did your kiddos start talking?  

  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,614Administrator, Moderator
    DD started saying more than just one or two words when she was about 18 months, and even then it was just a few words. The last couple of months her language has developed a lot more (she turns 2 this month). I would say don't worry about it. Every kid develops at their own rate, and 16 months is still very young! I completely understand your concern though, my parents had me wondering about my own daughters language skills when she was that age. 

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  • Mommyp
    Posts: 43Member
    Try not to worry too much!! If there is a problem, early intervention is key! He is still young too!
  • ohjoy
    Posts: 87Member
    Same thing is happening with my 17 mo old, it worries me also...
  • AutumnAutumn
    Posts: 898Member
    My son doesn't say many words either. Mom, dad, boo, ya.. That's about it. He will be two in March. It worries me! But he memorizes his books and movies and knows his animal sounds too. I guess he will talk when he is ready.
  • SouthernButterflySouthernButterfly
    Posts: 322Member
    Don't worry mama, mine didn't get his talking straight until he was 4. He is 7 now, and he will talk your ear off now. Kids develop at their own pace, don't worry unless it seems your little one is really have a problem.
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  • meandmy243meandmy243
    Posts: 6,356Member
    The good thing is you know he can hear and understand my ds didnt talk or understand at 18 months... After speech eval and a trip to the ent we found out he was partially deaf but would grow out of it (he has some type of primordial dwarfism the ear canals were still growing odd yes) by age 3 he could hear and talk well... We also had his tonsils and adenoids removed and that helped in giving his ear canals more room to grow and develop..
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  • BabyNurse
    Posts: 28Member
    My son did not start talking until 19 months and now he is 25 months and is talking more but many things are still hard to understand. Boys are slower and research shows that. I feel if the child is hitting milestones and follows commands ad such I would wait it out. If there is behavior that warrants an evaluation then I would do that. Now a days drs are so quick to place a label on a child for something that is normal for that child. Do what your mama heart is telling you to do. Good luck
  • PaperDoll
    Posts: 5Member
    Thanks ladies for all your comments. DS started saying mom!! I'm so excited I can hardly stand it. I think I'm just being a nervous first time momma. DH and I are going to just keep working with him and see how it goes. If we don't think he is making good progress in a month or so I know we can always take him in to be evaluated. Reading all your responses helped me feel better. Thanks again!!! 
  • CrashCrash
    Posts: 8,215Member
    I think the ideal is 50 words by age 2. That's just words. No sentences. I think your son will be fine, @Paperdoll.
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  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,283Administrator, Moderator
    I think the ideal is 50 words by age 2. That's just words. No sentences. I think your son will be fine, @Paperdoll.


    I was told the same thing by a speech pathologist @curious. Also, there is literature you can purchase, or if your lucky borrow from the library. It's a bit expensive, but you can find it on sale on Amazon and Ebay usually. It's called 'Takes Two to Talk'. It's a guide that teaches skills, exercises, etc that actual speech therapists use in practice and recommend. Check your local library and see if they have it!  

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  • StillTryingStillTrying
    Posts: 54Member
    I wouldn't worry.  My son only had 2 or 3 words at that age.  I was worried too.  But right around the time of his second birthday he had this huge language explosion and now at 27 months there is little he can't say and NOTHING he can't repeat, save for the putting 'W' in for 'L'.  

    That being said, I run a home daycare and have two other 2yos who still don't say much.  One has no words but mama, race, and no.  The other is right on the cusp of his breakthrough.  I would say they are both right where they are suppose to be.  In their own time they will be chattering my ear off.  I'm sure of it.

    Try not to worry!  I'm sure your son is perfect!  IMHO - don't focus on "5 words by one" or "50 by age two" - it can make you crazy and it's just a guideline and just because your kid isn't hitting one in particular does not mean there is a single thing wrong. He's just doing things in his own time.
  • NY2ATL
    Posts: 140Member
    I agree with all the mommies on here. U don't need to worry, every child move at it's own pace. My daughter moved a lot faster than my son. I usually hear that boys are much slower. Now that I am experiencing it and can actually say that it's true.
    My daughter is 20 months and she's using sentences and my nephew in almost 3 and just recently he's started to put sentences together. He didn't start saying any words until after 2. So it varies with every kid especially boys.
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    Don't listen to anyone! You know if there is something wrong. Dd didn't walk until 16 .months or pull up until her first birthday...they told me to take her to ei even though I KNEW she was fine. Well, she was fine. All the other kids in there were very far behind and it wasn't doing much for dd. After about a month I pulled her out and she did everything in her own time! She is six now, does gymnastics and ballet, and pretty much gets all A's. I'm sure you baby is just fine.
  • My DS had only a few words at 18 months. He also hit every other milestone early/on time. He is going to be 2years in April and just the past 2 months started using more than 10 words or so, and in the last 2 weeks began putting 2words together. My ped also said to get him evaluated at 18, which I did. He scored slightly below average in language, but hes caught up in just the past month or so. I was so scared when he first got the evaluation since he had multiple ear infections when he was first born and they started discussing speech therapy as a possibility. However, my Help Me Grow worker, who did the eval said some kids just dont feel like talking. If he can communicate other ways hes not in any rush.. what she said. But now hes doing just fine! Lots of kids start slow and then around 2 start spewing multiple words like its nothing. My younger sister was the same way (shes 3 so I know all her developmental milestones too). Don't worry! I'm sure your DS will be just fine!
  • Squeak
    Posts: 5Member
    I didn't read all the responses but my daughter didn't talk until almost 18 months. She turned 2 last week and now she doesn't shut up. I wouldn't worry as he hits all his milestones. My pedi said at 18 months that if she wasn't talking at 2 we would send her to speech therapy; it literally took off overnight!
  • Squeak
    Posts: 5Member
    oops! double post.
  • catzfan
    Posts: 346Member
    You also might get hearing tested.....youngest son wasn't reliably talking by 2-2 1/2 and it turned out to be minor hearing loss remedied by tubes in the ears. Now he never stops talking....

    :)
  • AnonholeMomAnonholeMom
    Posts: 406Member
    Had my baby evaluated at 16 months for a delay in gross motor skills.  (She was a butt scooter and saw no reason to walk.  Scooting worked for her.)  But like you, I was totally freaked out when the doctor wanted her evaluated.

    The testing was so simple--and I learned things about my daughter that I didn't realize!  The tests were stacking blocks, identifying animals in pictures, putting a raisin in a tiny jar and getting it back out again...  She tested higher than should should in every area other than Gross Motor Skills, and the evaluator said to give her a few more months.  My girl was singing verses of The Wheels on the Bus--she was just focused on other areas than walking.

    You're son is probably the same way--focusing on walking/running/climbing and not on verbal. 

    BUT, the test was actually kind of fun, and I now recommend that Moms take their kids in!  Even if there is no problem, it's pretty awesome to see how well your baby is doing.  Go for the test!  You won't regret it.
  • yarrrrrrrr
    Posts: 207Member
    My DS started talking early and at age 3 he hasn't shut up yet.  Count your blessings. 

    I KID!  I'm sorry.  I know it's worrisome.  BUT my DS goes to a preschool a few days a week and even now at age 3 several of the kids in his class aren't big talkers, especially boys.  It may be because mine never shuts up and gives them time to talk, but it's probably because everyone is different.  It's not an intelligence issue.  It's a personality thing.  Don't sweat too hard.  If getting the test would give you some relief, do it.  If you'd be more comfortable giving him a few more months, do that.

    Maybe when he points, you could say, "Tell Mommy with your words," or do other things to encourage him to talk.  Like if he wants juice and he points to juice, pick it up and say "Juice?" and try to get him to use a word to communicate that he wants it.  I know there are tons of suggestions out there on how to encourage them to use words when it's time to use words.  Fifteen months isn't drastically late, by the way. 
  • kissmyrose
    Posts: 18Member

    I wouldn't worry about it. My son only said 5 words until he was 2 1/2, and then over a few weeks, out flowed at least 100. Now he is 4 and is rarely silent.


    I have heard that it is normal for boys to talk later, but also the first child can go slow. My girls talked much earlier, the 3 year old spoke in sentences at 18 months, and my 15 month old is trying to say sentences now.


    Every child is different. I wouldn't run out for testing just yet. Some children try to say words and copy you, some don't. My son made no attempt to talk except for those 5 words. Everything else was some variation of  uhh. It is best not to push talking. It will happen in time.

  • Photomom
    Posts: 1Member
    Please consider getting him evaluated. My son wasn't talking at 17 months, and he was diagnosed with an expressive language disorder. The difference between what he understood and what he could say was huge. I got signing time dvds at the library to learn sign language while we were on a waiting list for speech therapy. He had about 25 signs learned before he started speech therapy.  He's 4 now and talks a lot, but he'd be much further behind if we had not started speech therapy and had him evaluated. Good luck.
  • dragonfly7805
    Posts: 41Member
    He is so young it is hard to say whether or not you should worry at this point. He may hit 2 and have a HUGE language explosion and then you will have no worries, orhe may hit 2 and continue on path he is on. I have 2 speech and language impaired ds's who are 5 and 3.5. Mine have receptive as well as expressive language delays so it is good that your ds is showing clear signs of understanding. It wouldn't hurt to call Early on. Here's the thing, they WILL diagnose a problem, because they are diagnosing based on standardized tests, and because he is falling in the later end of the milestone he will almost definitely qualify for services. So don't freak, basically calling htem means you will get services. If they think it is severe it will be once a week, if they think it is a minor issue it will be a once monthly appt. This is all great as long as YOU like the speech therapist who is coming and you feel involved in the process. Some great books to get that will help you help your son develop speech at home (in a VERY natural way). Play to Talk, and Communicating Partners (both by James MacDonald. They are great books you can get them on Amazon (the books are created for all Late Talkers, not just those with autism, so if yousee autism in the description or title don't freak, they are intended for any child that is talking late, including but not limited to, those with autism). It is clear even just by what you've described about your son that it is highly unlikely he has any underlying major neurological issues such as autism. BE CAREFUL some overzealous interventionists sometimes like to look for trouble that doesn't exist. If ever you are concerned about that, I would suggest finding Dr. Thomas Sowell's books, particularly The Einstein Syndrome. Hopefully, your son's language will explode at 2 and you'll laugh at your concern later. If not, hopefully the books I've recommended can give you a good guide path to start with. Good luck!
  • JaneDoe
    Posts: 26Member
    First daughter started talking a lot at maybe 18 months and hasn't shut up since. Baby girl started closer to two for real communication, but did the types of things he is doing at that age. My baby did have some speech issues due to being tongue tied, so we figured that was the problem. I think people jump to EI and other things too fast now a days.