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162583 - drugs, alcohol and children
  • BeerWenchBeerWench
    Posts: 2,820Member
    LivinTheDream said:

    @Laurie Judgey McJudgerson



    =))

    I'm going to change my name to BlazeMistyHollow ;)
    :¦:-•:*'""*:•.-:¦:-•** She who leaves a trail of glitter is never forgotten**•-:¦:-•:*'""*:• -:¦:-
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    K, the OC didn't bother me much, and I would pretty much have to agree, but there was one comment near the top that pissed me off, saying that people who use recreationally need to grow up. Hello! Just because I became a mother doesn't mean I am not entitled to have any fun, and just because I drink the occasional glass of wine or have an occasional toke, does NOT mean I am immature. You have no idea how hard I work on a day to day basis, what I sacrifice for my family, or exactly how much "growing up" I've been obliged to do in the past few years. SO kindly fuck off with your sanctimonious judgements. 

    And my hooker name would be Varmint Troy. Terrible. Sounds like an old cowboy who chews tobacco and spits everywhere. 
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,726Member
    @aloneoverseas i would tend to agree! I just kicked bf out (finally) because of the toxic atmosphere he created by drinking to excess every night. I too judge those who drink irresponsibly and take loads of drugs around their kids. I dont know anyone who would say thats a good idea! Everything in moderation!!

    Also, my first pet was called muffin.... Muff Gardens???? Cyprus Muff??
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    The confession just says parents of young children, it doesn't differentiate between those that do it around their kids and those that don't. I took it to mean that parents of young children shouldn't ever drink large amounts of alcohol or do any drugs.
    ~slim shady~
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,164Member
    @schweddyballs I heart you xD brownies sound amazing !!!

    @aloneoverseas
    That all makes sense, I actually agree with most of your comment, what I should have mentioned also is that I'm not an abuser, I don't neglect or abuse my children, and I don't sacrifice their needs for mine. If there's not enough money, I don't get any "candy", you know??
    So I guess what I'm seeing, after reading other comments, is that this confession is more towards an abuser to the point where it affects their children's well being. That is not the case for me, and therefore I.consider myself excluded from this particular judgement. I think I took the confession personally, as my kids are young, and those who know me on the boards know I'm a midnight toker ;)


    @booseneca
    I love that!! My friends and I did that in high school, my porn name is Delilah Dyer xD

    booseneca said:

    Hmmm not sure why when I posted my comment it wouldnt post?  No, im sorry, not Seneca SC, my screen name came from what we used to refer to as our ficticious "porn star name".  You take the name of your 1st pet and combine it with the name of the 1st street you ever lived on and viola' you have a "porn star name"!!  hahaha! So juvenile but an "easy to remember" screen name!! LOL



    SMSM_s_5

  • JConnJConn
    Posts: 14Member
    The one thing i cant stand is when people have a birthday party for their kids and it just ends up where the parent has the party and it overshadows the kids. This one girl, my sister in law didnt invite me or my twins to her daughters b day party, i thought, how frikkin rude, her daughter loves my boys but we dont get along so i wasnt invited. Im now glad i didnt go. my sis in law in front of all the kids got so drunk, drank so many matrtinis, she was givin lap dances and then beligerant and arguing with everyone. THats the last thing i would want my 4 year olds to be around. I would never want my boys to experience that at a kids party. 

    Me, i like to drink when i am out and if my kids are around i will have a beer or a few with friends or family. I have my kids full time so its not a big deal. But i draw lines and have boundries. I firmly beleive that KIDS SHOULD NEVER KNOW WE ARE HAVING MORE THAN ONE DRINK. I mean that WE SHOULD NEVER BE SO DRUNK OR MAKE IT OBVIOUS AT ALL THAT WE HAVE HAD MORE THAN ONE AND WHEN ITS A KIDS PARTY, ACT LIKE IT. Adults , we can have our own seperate parties on a different day
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    Yah, that is fucked up @jconn. 
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,726Member
    @Jconn that is the worst! I dont get how a childs birthday party is considered a reason to get absolutely hammered. My friend was off her face at her sons christening. I had to put him to bed. Im just glad my son wasnt born yet!! 
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,726Member
    Absolutely @laurie.
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 1,551
    Wait I need to cancel the kegger and bongs for DDs birthday party!? :((

    Lol j/k, I agree with you @jconn, alcohol is a huge no at a kids bday party!!!

    That being said I think teaching kids about healthy habits, including drinking, is important. Generally modeling those habits, such as a glass of wine at dinner or a (singular) beer after work shows that alcohol is not evil, but over consumption is.
  • AnonUser30
    Posts: 1,916Guest
    @chocoholic - better cancel the scar mommies as well. ;) Cause we would all brawl on the front lawn, give lap dances and get drunk (NOT in that order!!).
  • JConnJConn
    Posts: 14Member
    yeah haha drinkin is ok but shouldnt be noticeable to kids that ur buzzed.. people that still hold their liquor like a teenager should be more carefeul lmao.. And just save the brawls and lapdances till the kids go to bed and its anything goes for the adults lolol
  • emmaoremmyemmaoremmy
    Posts: 1,310Member
    I took the confession to mean people who drink heavily around their kids on a regular basis, or those who use drugs recreationally.  I've skimmed the replies and have seen Xanax mentioned a couple times.  If you have anxiety issues and need something like Xanax or Ativan, I don't think it's irresponsible at all to take them.  I've had panic attacks while out in public with my kids and Xanax saved my ass.  I'm assuming the OC meant people who abuse drugs (whether they're prescription or illegal). 
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    I just have to add, my porn name would be "nibbles kate" yep... It's awesome huh?
    not my chair, not my problem
  • ToothfairyToothfairy
    Posts: 398Member
    I just had two small glasses of red wine, and I think it improved my parenting skills immensely.
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,742Member
    Toothfairy said:

    I just had two small glasses of red wine, and I think it improved my parenting skills immensely.



    LMAO!! I feel the same way...only mine improve after I sneak out at nap time and take a couple of tokes!!
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 1,551
    Wait, I figured it out. Don't give drugs or alcohol to your children. Right? :D
  • AnonMomAnonMom
    Posts: 2,410Member
    I <heart> @batti.....

    My kid is just fine.

    That is all.
  • battibatti
    Posts: 2,164Member
    @anonmom I heart you toooooo!!! xD
    And @chocoholic I think of you every time I eat chocolate. And I just scarfed half a choco bunny xD

    SMSM_s_5

  • orangesumatraorangesumatra
    Posts: 213Member
    i have a beer most nights with dinner. and hubby has one most nights after. i firmly believe that if you donkt model good behavior for you kids, you can't expect them to be good themselves...so drinking in moderation is part of that. i will not hide my drink. my kid needs to know that alcohol is to be enjoyed responsibly.
  • pam
    Posts: 1Member
    Kids from homes that set good examples  can become a chaotic mess when it comes to drugs and alcohol too.  I know - one of my two is an example of how that can happen.  It's heart breaking to watch and even worse to make them leave when you have no way left of helping them.  No matter what you do, at the end of the day you will be judged. My opinion is to enjoy your life, set a good example,  enjoy in moderation and do your best as a parent. All you can do is lead by example, teach right from wrong, but at the end of the day once those little ones reach a certain age when they wake up in the morning the choice they make on how they will conduct themselves is not within your control anymore and you can only hope they make the right decision.
  • CantGetRightCantGetRight
    Posts: 151Member
    I know at least three people had their kids taken due to a Xanax addiction. thats why I try not to take pain pills unless in serious pain. and am afraid to see a doctor about anything mental too many just throw pills like Xanax and Zoloft at you and say see if this helps.
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