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Is it just me?
  • CoffeeQueenCoffeeQueen
    Posts: 227Member
    Good morning! I think I must've gotten up on the wrong side of the bed today. I need a sign that says "Bang head here". lol  I have a teenager <shudder> and a 7 year old. I struggle to get them to help out with minimal chores. My teen used to be pretty good about it, but that is a thing of the past. One of his few chores is to empty the dishwasher. Not hard, very helpful. However time and again its left undone, and time and again I empty it so I can reload. So this morning, once again I am putting away dishes, his alarm goes off, he must've hit snooze, and usually when he does that, I'll go make sure he gets up, because he doesn't leave himself time for breakfast. Well this morning I decide if he can't be bothered to do his chore, then I won't make breakfast. so he sleeps another 20 minutes, giving himself 20 minutes to get ready. He showers, etc. and then comes down, and sees me obviously frustrated and doing HIS chore. He says "why don't you tell me when it's full". ahhhhhhhhh! Am I the only one with eyes? I detest when he and DH play DUMB and turn it back around on me! DH is all the time saying "well I don't know what you need done, you have to speak up". You don't know how bad I want to smack the crap out of him whenever he says that! LOOK around, you can plainly see if laundry baskets are full and need carried up, or if dishes are piled in the sink, or tufts of dog hair are rolling across the floor like tumbleweed! I swear my family does not appreciate me! I can see why some moms drink! Thanks for listening to me rant, and now off to get some coffee and TRY to get myself in a better mood. DH is home today, so this might be a challenge, unless he develops the ability to see what needs done without me holding his hand telling him "see the doggy hair down there? That's a clue that it's time to vacuum" LOL
  • OnmylastnerveOnmylastnerve
    Posts: 1,648Member
    I think men don't do anything until asked because what if they do to much and then women get expectations and so they just wait till we ask them to help. Assholes!
    not my chair, not my problem
  • cr8zy_mom_of_4cr8zy_mom_of_4
    Posts: 49Member
    hahahaha!!! my dh is the same way. i don't have teenagers yet ( mine are 6, 5, 3, and 3 weeks) but my older ones know what their chores are. such as making their beds and pickin up their toys. but dh knows what needs to be done and just doesn't do it. he just likes to act dumb when it comes to certain things. lol i think all men are alike in this.
  • CoffeeQueenCoffeeQueen
    Posts: 227Member
    I felt like a raving lunatic this morning, and on many other occasions, as I banged around in the kitchen putting things away and twitching. I do not ask the teen to do a whole lot, just a couple basic things, keep his room somewhat picked up (a path from door to bed bare minimum), empty dishwasher (sometimes this isn't even a daily chore!), take trash out.  Oh but my newest one, since he is a towel diva, and won't use a towel more than once, he gets to do his own laundry. Yay for you Buddy! I literally have to fight the urge to not go in and just grab all the towels and other dirty duds and just do them while I'm doing the rest of ours. But I've resisted for a whole week! I'm so ocd....
  • ZidashaZidasha
    Posts: 830Member
    =))  I think it's a guy thing, seriously.  Dh does the same friggin' thing and I'm like, "DUH!! you have eyes, you can see what needs to be done so do it!"  My almost 7 y.o. has been doing that for a few years now too and it irritates the piss out of me.  *sigh*

    "I have a theory that placenta is brain matter I push out, so with each child I get dumber and dumber." ~ Unknown

  • CoffeeQueenCoffeeQueen
    Posts: 227Member
    Update! the husband, after listening to me bitch with a look similar to a deer caught in headlights, is now vacuuming the family room!  I knew he had it in him! My family has awful problem solving skills. you would think, after all these years, they would know that to avoid me having these morning melt downs, they should simply do a few essentials to keep me happy. Because we all know, when MOM ain't HAPPY...nobody is!!!! Guaranteed, after vacuuming one room, he will need the praise of a 4 year old and later act like he did much more than he actually did. But...I'll take what I can get for this moment.... baby steps LOL
  • lj41120
    Posts: 27Member

    i feel the same way, as far as the kids go. i have 4 kids under 11, the youngest is 3. i have a huge white board and write thier daily chores on it. its in the dang hallway by their rooms at eye level, and the still dont get it done, and they have 2 chores a day. they even earn money for chores. my dh is a one of a kind i guess, bc when he comes from work, the first thing out his mouth is do need to help with anything?, but i always say no, go sit and relax for a bit. well, he goes straight to pickking up after the toddler. and has takien over trash to the curb (the kids take trash out to garage) the dishes, and folding socks. i hate socks, well folding them anyway!

    @coffequeen, i know its comin hard for me in a couple yrs though. lol

  • LA_PygmyHerderLA_PygmyHerder
    Posts: 1,239Member
    You are not alone. This is a never ending battle in this house. I have Dh, ds9,ds8, and dd6. ALL of them pull that crap 24/7. I want to beat the living hell out of them about 98% of the time.
  • CoffeeQueenCoffeeQueen
    Posts: 227Member
    DS is home and moody, apparently we are going to play a little game called the silent treatment. Which, to me is not a punishment. I welcome the silence. LOL  He is the one who is in the wrong, but he is awful at admitting it and apologizing. I feel for his future wife.
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  • regpregp
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    @mammateeroll -  =)) 

    My DD11 can't be bothered to do her chores and gets mad when I remind her they need to be done. She kept telling me I was "nagging" her. I told her if I wait a week for you to do something and you still haven't and I mention it again, that's not nagging, that's reminding! My parents never reminded me. If it wasn't done, I was in trouble.
    DS7 is usually pretty helpful actually, but he has a great example. My husband is the "if it needs done, do it right now" kind of person and I love it! XH would literally drop trash next to the full trash can rather than take the trash out.
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  • squishsquish
    Posts: 786Member
    It's the total opposite in my house. My Dh has to tell me what to clean or I'll just ignore it because "it's clean enough". Even my 14 month old can wipe his high chair tray down, wipe down glass doors, and load the washing machine to his best ability and under supervision.

    I guess this clues me in to how Dh feels. Ive been a very bad wife :-\"
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