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Should I confess or is it not really a big deal.......
  • rockermami88
    Posts: 12Member
    So......me n bf got together almost 2 yrs ago..i have a son with my ex n one with my current bf, he has 2 with his ex wife also, .....neways, we had a little break-up a few weeks ago after i got physical custody of my oldest' n he learned that my son will be here full time in a few weeks.....he went on a businesss trip for training for 2 days, came bk ignored me n then told me he didn't want to be with me...he then said i didn't do anything wrong he just isn't ready to be a stepdad...then said i'm not his type bc i'm not a housewife, n he just wants space............so with the uncertainty of us not getting bk together...i was emotional, then one day he tells me maybe we can try...about an hour later a female friend came knocking looking for him bc they were supposed to hang-out..then he left for about 4 hrs..said shes engaged n they were out with 2 other friends.......i believed him when he said how they met......he's been pretty honest with me the whole time so i gave him the benefit of the doubt....but then........i was at work and went in the walk in cooler n my coworker ive been secretly flirting with for mths followed me in n kissed me....it was awkward...like a side peck then he kissed me again, yet another peck n i walked out n finished what i was doing atm.....he said that's how friends kiss....kiss me again...for real.......but i was like no...neways, should i tell my again bf??? i think it would ruin what we've spent 2 weeks working on........n it's just not worth it...but i feel guilty.............also....a mutual friend of ours showed me a pic of his member....should i feel bad considering my bf, me, him, n his pregnant gf, r all friends???? its so weird....i wouldn't let any of this go further than it has...but geesh........
  • episcopal
    Posts: 1,394Member
    Did you tell the co-worker in no uncertain terms "NO!"?  He made a pass at you.  If you sent him a clear message that he is not to do that, I wouldn't suggest mentioning it to your BF.
  • Redmomma
    Posts: 75Member
    I wouldn't tell the BF about the kiss, you didn't ask for it and hopefully the jerk leaves you alone. Tell the friend to keep his member to himself, and leave it at that for now.
  • rockermami88
    Posts: 12Member
    i did kiss him bk...........but then the next day i was like u should kiss someone...n he was like y it'd b cheating....n i'm like well u're single so no...n he's like well we live tohether still so its disrespectful...............so that point on a lot of guilt.......n the pic thing....i looked at a pic on his phone n he was like don't look farther..n i was like ohhh nudey pics lol of who? n he was all of me..n im like show me...kinda kidding, but then he was like don't tell anybody n showed me........n omg....he was hung lol...my bf is too so its not like it made him tempting or anything..although i have told him if i didn't know his girl n she wasn't knocked up...n he responded with i know....its innocent flirting...no groping or kissing with that guy...just the one coworker.........n i told him the next time i saw him that  i got bk with my bf........n he's bkd off for the most part, that being an occasional blown kiss or wink
  • Redmomma
    Posts: 75Member
    Hmmm.... Well I'd still keep my lips zipped unless you think the guilt is going to eat alive but if I were in your shoes and in your situation, I don't think id feel guilty. Lol sorry not much help.
  • boring_nameboring_name
    Posts: 667Member
    IMO if you want to keep the bf... keep your mouth shut.. wasn't a big make-out session right?? Sounds like your relationship is already on thin ice.. 

    Take care!

    EDIT: Even though I think you should keep your mouth shut about it I need to comment on your title. IMO It IS a big deal. You allowed another man to kiss you while your relationship is in trouble, you kissed back. It is cheating and disrespectful to your relationship. 
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    well behaved women seldom make history
  • rockermami88
    Posts: 12Member
    Thanks everyone :)
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,753Member
    I don't think u cheated. He left you right? But no, don't tell him. None of his business. After all he broke up with u.
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