I am sorry that your family is dealing with this drama.

Let this be a lesson to all of us who have boys to make sure that they know that girls don't just "get themselves" pregnant. Boys should be wearing protection even if she says she's on the pill. One time without a condom is all it takes to change your life, no matter your gender.

I would strongly recommend that your son get tested for STDs privately before it comes up on his physical for the armed services.

Good luck to all of you.

@krhodes Just wondering how everything is going?  How's your son?

Gingersnap said:

@MamaTeeRoll - It does matter if he signs the birth certificate *before* the DNA results come back. Signing the birth certificate binds him to the child regardless of what the DNA results are. Yes, DNA results are binding, but if he signs and the results come back negative, he would be legally bound to the child for support. (As far as I know). 

In MI this is true. My DH went through this. DNA tests taken when the kid was 3, but he and the mother were young and they didn't know they had to do more than just turn in the DNA results. DH moved around a lot when he was in his 20s, and we didn't find out they were still charging him child support until I was pregnant with DD3. They took the next 2 years of EIC for DD to pay the "back child support", even though the mom admitted in court she knew they were wrongly charging him, and knew he didn't know, made know attempts to correct it, or to let him no so he could. It would have messed up her welfare. (Nothing against anyone who need is. But this was not the only con this chick had going on).

Okay here is the update.  The GF kicked him out today and told him he can just sign over his rights if he wants to.  She called his grandmother, my mother and said my son is drug addict and drunk.  I asked my son about it and he said he works 12 hours a day he doesn't have time to be a drug addict or drink.  He said the neighbor across the street gave him some liquor on my son's bday and they did some shots.  He said he knows he should not have done that but it was just once.  So I don't know what is going on but I glad he is out of that house.

been on my mind as well. I really hope you seek legal advice. and push for paternity testing. and expose all the fraudulent and manipulative and deceptice behaviour and activities going on in that house. but mostly do what is best for your son whatever you feel that might be. glad he got outta there

Hi krhodes, thanks for the update.
What happened with his enlistment? Did her mom talking to them ruin it completely?

He was not able to enlist because of his juvenile record. 

I think @Peace has given wonderful advice. I would report it to CPS and contacting the Pastor at their church for intervention is a wonderful idea. I was a fraud investigator for about 20 years and know that most insurance companies have a designated adjuster in their office that handles things like this. I would have your son call them.

I feel the need to just make a simple observation here.  No one has mentioned the fact that it is illegal to give up parental rights in order to avoid paying child support.  Generally, to avoid paying child support, there needs to be another adult that is willing to take the financial responsibility.  Also, I am certainly not trying to make you or your son feel badly, I just want you to really understand the consequences up giving up any rights to the child.  When this happens, though the parent is able to walk away, there is a child left behind that will one day have a million questions as to why their parent left, why they were left behind, how their life might have been better/different/happier?  Please understand, I am just concerned for your son and how he may feel in the aftermath.  It's a very strenuous time for you all right now, but in the end, the decisions that are made now will have lifetime effects either way.  A visit with an attorney is a very good idea, especially where parental rights are concerned.  I wish the best for you all and I too, think that the advice @Peace gave is spot on.

The father of the GF is on disability.  I am betting that the GF's parents adopt the baby so they can get another check, but who knows really.  They wouldn't allow her to marry my DS because that would mean giving up the SS check.  He has discussed getting a lawyer, the thing is they have a lot more money than we do.  I just don't know what the best thing to do is.  I feel that they saw a boy that had been in a little trouble in the past and didn't have much money so they took advantage of him. 

@goldie I'm not too happy about his job, but he has looked for other jobs and this is all he can find right now.  There are a few places around here that are hiring but they are known to lay-off twice a year.  He got a 1099 and paid his taxes for last year.  He has started putting back for this year too.  I used to complain a lot about his job but now that seems pretty small with everything else going on.

I just got so upset about this whole thing that I didn't update some of the other crazy things they have done.  They just keep acting like he isn't even a part of this.  I swear the mother thinks this is her baby.

He told me yesterday that he wanted to start getting them in trouble for all that they do. I told him to just sit on it, because he is so emotional right now he shouldn't be making decisions.
I will not be the surprised at all if this baby is not his.  Her previous BF also lived with her and there was some drama about him coming around long after she was with my son.  I also know that my son has been upset about other boys at school but I always blew it off as a teenager being jealous about everything.
 

I am so sorry for your situation!! Big hugs! Talk about stressful! Def have everything documented! This family sounds like one big ball of crazy! I kind of feel bad for your son's gf because as far as she knows, this kind of sicko family environment is "normal". Insist on a DNA test!! Your son is young and trusting. Make sure he is fully informed and takes care of his future. I feel bad for that poor, innocent baby that is going to have to deal with this crazy ass family!! Being educated does not make you a good person or parent! There is a lot of white trash with money out there! These people sound like they are batshit crazy!! I hope things get better for you! Stay strong!! :)

@krhodes There was another bf living with her before your son?! SO that was when she was what 14???? Her mom allowed that huh? Wait, that shouldn't surprise me. Not after everything else her mom has allowed and encouraged. One question, not that I think your son should marry this girl, not in the least. But, why would them getting married have any bearing on the gf's dad's disability checks? Or are they getting yet another public assistance check for the gf/unborn child? If the moment is a NICU nurse, how is she qualifying for services at all, aren't most of them based on need and income. God, document the hell out of anything shady that they are involved in. Hope you guys are hanging in there!

@krhodes .....when is this baby supposed to be due?  And I agree.  It should be considered sexual abuse.  She essentially pimped her daughter out.  So vile.

@hallfamily727
The baby is due in July.
@FoulMouthedSailor
Thank you for the advice.  I think he is over the Marines.  I wish he would reconsider, I think the service is over looked by too many. 

He is fully committed to being a part time dad.  We even discussed with him how he has to be nice when she starts dating again.  He knows his role will be limited but he is going to be there as much as they will let him.  He works just down the road from where the gf lives so he plans to go by everyday and offer to sit with the baby while she showers, goes to the store or whatever, and we are hoping for 50/50 custody as well.

Definitely talk to a lawyer! Might be worth getting CPS involved as well??

@krhodes Please call CPS now! both for your grandchild and for the twins they adopted. If there is feces in the house that is extremely dangerous for the health of a newborn, even a healthy term baby. 

@456Iamamom CPS has been called.  Social Security Disability has been called

Just found out the baby was named after a former BF.  We are walking away.  if they push paternity okay....if not, then I guess they know.