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Could our kids be penpals?
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
    Posts: 785Member

    Morning! (Afternoon?)

    To jump straight in - When I was in about 9,  I had an asian penpal through school. We stopped talking after a few years but I've been thinking lately about how my DS7 would probably love the idea (his school doesn't have a penpal program). He kind of needs a purpose when he writes, and he's really interested in other countries and cultures. And he's sad he never gets mail lol I've looked online but I'm a bit irked by all the sites.

    So I got to thinking, we Scary Mummies are from all around the world, and maybe our kids could connect through us? I think it'd be really cool, it would get our kids writing, they'd be open to the world - I know my son would love it :D  

    What do you think ladies? 

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  • AnonUser30
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    @aloneoverseas lives in new Zealand has a boy about that age.
  • Jessiesmom
    Posts: 196Member
    I think that is a great idea!! I have a dd9 who would LOVE that! She is pretty much a tomboy, she plays soccer and softball. But she loves meeting all kinds of new people.
  • BakingmommyBakingmommy
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    I'm sure DD9 would love it, and it'd get her extra practice with handwriting (see sneaky mom there)
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  • SchweddyBallsSchweddyBalls
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    My youngest crotch fruit LOVES writting letters!!!!! We currently reside in the exoctic state of California :D
    not sure if that's far enough away to make it exciting......lol
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  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
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    Ohh thats and awesome idea I have a 9 yr old demon girl.
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • MyInnerGoddessMyInnerGoddess
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    I have a 9 yr old ds that would be up for it.  We're in Minnesota.
    "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, make them."
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  • Jessiesmom
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    Oops...we are in New Jersey...talk about not exotic!
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
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    @Jessiemom at least you guys have good food! Sorry thats my chunky talking.
    I live in texas. Dont make me break out into a song.
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • momsaidnomomsaidno
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    @schweddyballs were in Maryland that's the opposite side of the us i have a 8 yr old boy..

  • many_moons_ago
    Posts: 338Member
    I live in New Zealand and have a 7 year old girl and a 6 year old boy both who would love a pen pals if any one wants to pm me.
  • AnonUser29
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    I've a 9yr old daughter, she loves to write. This would be amazing!
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    Aww so happy to have quick responses :D The idea's been rolling around my head for a while now. I live in Australia, postage doesn't worry me personally, but I totally understand if that makes this all a bit too awkward for some.

    I love that it's a really sneaky way to get kids writing. We could probably email but letters are a bit more personal.

    Info would definitely have to be exchanged via private pm's. Any idea how we could work it all? Do we just pick a kid lol I have no idea past this point! 

    So, whats the plan from here???? @jessiesmom @bakingmommy @LesboMom @SchweddyBalls @Deviltwinsmomma @MyInnerGoddess @toyoungtofeelold @many_moons_ago @silentscreamer

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  • Jessiesmom
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    I don't know...does someone want to take the time to organize this? I will...but I am non-stop busy until next week. Probably we should start a pm with the general info about our child who would like to participate. Then we can either go through and pick a match ourselves, or someone can be in charge of matching. What do you think ladies? Any other ideas? My daughter is already asking me who her pen pal will be!
  • CalliopemarieCalliopemarie
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    my ds8 would love it
    i am insane!!! mwahahahaha
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    I can do the organising. Maybe a loose matching system will work better then just picking, that way no kids miss out? There's quite a few 9yr old girls so far :) So how fussy is everyone? Like with boy/girl pairing, ages being the same? etc
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  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    @LesboMom don't we have a resident spreadsheet magician? lol kinda made me think of a kids tv show, like quick, to the batmobile! Quick, to the spreadsheet!
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  • AnonUser23
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    My dd6 would LOVE this!! We are in the ever so exciting state of Connecticut.
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    @LesboMom I am sooo clued in! I totally knew that, I was just trying to ummm just like, test you and stuff :D lol so, do you wanna spreadsheet this LesboMom?  

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  • hallfamily727hallfamily727
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    My daughter would love this, too!  She's 10 and we live in oh-so-exotic Iowa.  LOL! 
  • AnonUser30
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    My DD5 would love to exchange cards / pictures.

    And, if anyone has a teen that would like an email buddy (female) my oldest DD might like it. Depends on her mood. ;)
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    I'll also add my 2 eldest nephews who live with me (with their mum and bro's) age 7 and 5 :)
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  • ChibikoChibiko
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    DS6 would LOVE a pen pal!  Sign up up!

    ETA:  We live in Iowa.  :)
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  • LA_PygmyHerderLA_PygmyHerder
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    I have 8 and 9 year old boys who love learning about different people and places. DD6 ccan't really write so much yet, but she'd draw another little one some pretty pictures lol
  • MyInnerGoddessMyInnerGoddess
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    I was just thinking the same thing @LA_Pygmyherder.  I have a little guy that is 6...his writing is fabulous, but I think he would be more interested in drawing, though he does like to write.  His whole world revolves around Super Mario tho, lol....mostly.
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    ~ George Bernard Shaw~
  • MyInnerGoddessMyInnerGoddess
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    I believe @Lesbomom is going to do the spreadsheet?  I will pm you then :)

    Btw, I think the timing of this is awesome.  Kids need to stay in practice with their writing over the summer.  Thank you for this idea @Dovahkiin..this is fabulous!
    "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, make them."
    ~ George Bernard Shaw~
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    I think drawings will work as well, especially for the younger ones. And who knows, give it a while and they might start writing too :)
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  • many_moons_ago
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    @Dovahkiin (or someone else) could we just pm you with our kids names/gender and ages and you pair them them as best as possible then pm us with the other mums username and we can pm them for details.

    Did that even make sense?

    I would do it but expecting baby anyday now.

  • many_moons_ago
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    oh sorry just saw MyInnerGoodness's post.
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    Awww @MyInnerGoddess said my idea was fabulous! I feel so special! @-)

    If anyone wants to PM their kids info, I can start getting it all together and then maybe @Lesbomom could help with her spreadsheet awesomeness when she's back online? And yes @many_moons_ago that makes sense :)

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  • [Deleted User]
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    My DD6 loves writing and drawing!  She's still a little rusty with spelling but I think she would love it!  Sign  us up!
  • momsaidnomomsaidno
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    I don't mind if my sons pen pal is out of country or state or whichever! he will just be happy for something neat to do!

  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
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    My dd has no problems with here penpal being a boy. She is so excited to write to someone
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • SchweddyBallsSchweddyBalls
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    Pm sent @Dovahkiin ......my 12 boy wants in on it too......he's TOTALLY ok with writing a girl 8-| :D
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  • MyInnerGoddessMyInnerGoddess
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    You know...this could be ...not just great for the kids, but very informative for us parents too.  My oldest daughter had a penpal from the ages of about 10 til she was 14.  Granted, at first, I never really paid much attention to their interactions, as she would tell me things here and there that they would talk about.  After a while, she stopped mentioning it altogether and after a couple years, I kinda got curious about her.  There were just some things that I had a "feeling" about.  Well, I went and checked up on some of the correspondence.  There was never anything along the lines of confessions per se, but she and her penpal were very "in-the-know" about things that I never knew existed, or that I didn't find out about til I was a few years older.  Not that I wanna give anyone anything to be apprehensive about, but it is an interesting way to find out about your kids sometimes.

    I also have a good friend that married her lifelong penpal.  They had written to each other for almost 13 years without ever having met.  Yes, they sent pics back and forth and things like that, but it's neat to see that they have been married for 17 years and are still like newlyweds...truly soulmates.
    "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, make them."
    ~ George Bernard Shaw~
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    Ok, I'm not sure if theres a tag limit, but I'm gunna tag everyone I can! @Jessiesmom @Bakingmommy @Lesbomom @SchweddyBalls @deviltwinsmama @MyInnerGoddess @toyoungtofeelold @many_moons_ago @silentscreamer @daystar8531 @handtowelLady @hallfamily727 @LivinTheDream @Chibiko @LA_PygmyHerder @notthemama

    If you could pm me (or lesbomom) the following for now -

    Your kids name/s

    Age/s

    If you want the same sex or don't mind

    If you only want within your country (or state even)

    Your address, or at least your state/country

     Thanks guys :D (I hope all that tagging works lol)

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  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    *BUMP* just thought i'd bump this before I go to bed :)
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  • AnonMomAnonMom
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    COUNT ME IN!!!  My son is 9.  I'd love to have a sneaky way to get him to write...and he LOVES receiving mail.  He wouldn't mind a boy or girl.  Closer to his age the better.  Gets along really well with older kids.

    I'll PM @LesboMom with my information...unless there's a PM with everyone in it already.  Let me know!
  • DovahkiinDovahkiin
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    @Anonmom quite a few have PM'd me so far, I have a spreadsheet going to pull all the info I have together, and then when @LesboMom  is online, i'll email it to her or something lol if you wanna, pm me some basic info I can put it in :)
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  • AnonMomAnonMom
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    I PM'd the spreadsheet source aka @LesboMom with all the info!!  Thanks @Dovahkiin!!
  • momsaidnomomsaidno
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    I Pm'd lesbomom last night

  • OpheliaOphelia
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    My dd is just learning to write her name. If there is anyone else who has a preschooler that wants to do this, I am willing to be her reader/writer til she is old enough to do it herself.
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  • pdxmama
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    My ds7 would be totally excited about this! I can't start a pm from my phone but if @lesbomom or @dovahkiin would pm me i can respond with our info!
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
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    @ophelia my twins are preschool aged too they are also learning too write their name. If you want ur dd can have my twins as penpals
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • OpheliaOphelia
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    Sounds good to me @deviltwinsmomma. She'd love that
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  • momnipotentmomnipotent
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    wah I want a pen pal :( anyone got a 20 year old kid I can write to??? lol too bad lil mans so young hopefully years from now wjen he can write or even talk thhis will still be an option! awesome idea @dovahkiin
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  • AnonUser29
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    @momnipotent... I'll be your pen pal.. although most of the time,  I don't have MUCH to say.
  • Still_ur_mommy
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    I'm in! My son is 6, we live in las Vegas Nevada.
  • momnipotentmomnipotent
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    @silentscreamer hell it doesnt even have to make sense. send me a copy of your grocery list if thats the best you got, I can work with that lol I just want mail thats not telling me some service is about to be cut off lol I sometimes question whether I still exist or not, I feel like collection agencies are the only ones who know my name anymore lol
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  • AnonUser29
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    @momnipotent...You've got mail!
  • momnipotentmomnipotent
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    @silentscreamer oh ohh can I be tom hanks??
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