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This is just creepy
  • AnonUser31
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    (186123): 7 yr old DS is watching a movie and masturbating on the couch. "I... love... you..... Mommy!" he grunts. Creeped right the fuck out.
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  • AnonUser31
    Posts: 327Guest
    Im supporting the OC in the fact that, yes, it is creepy
  • Voldemorta
    Posts: 19Member
    yup, definitely creepy. possible oedipus complex maybe?
  • DaBOMB
    Posts: 275Member

    1st thing is that masterbation is a private thing.  That little boy needs to be taught to do that in his bedroom or the bathroom.  You don't jerk off on the couch while someone else is in the room.  Period.  It's just not ok. 

    2nd he's feeling the physical thing but maybe doesn't yet understand that he can't grow up and marry his mom.  He loves her more than anything.  So naturally he would put the two things that make him feel awesome together.  But he needs to understand that you can't marry mommy. 

    3rd yes... I would be totally skeeved over this.  Completely and totally skeeved.

  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,753Member
    Ew
  • AnonUser27
    Posts: 1,779Guest
    I don't think I could even confess something like that. And you should see the things I have confessed.
  • DaBOMB
    Posts: 275Member
    I feel bad for her. Clearly she's freaked ou! I would be...
  • AnonUser31
    Posts: 327Guest
    My 6 year old has known he has to do this is HIS room since he was 4.
  • Desilou
    Posts: 22Member
    Yeah, my eyebrows went pretty far up when I read this one. Whoa....
  • MegsueMegsue
    Posts: 1,864Member
    What the hell did I just read? :O
  • Mommyto2AngelsMommyto2Angels
    Posts: 21Member
    This is why I am glad I have girls... Next time DH starts pushing for another one so we can try for a boy I am going to bring this up... just.. no..
  • anonamoose
    Posts: 24Member
     
  • boring_nameboring_name
    Posts: 667Member
    @Mommyto2Angels girls do it too... it's just about teaching them appropriate time/place. 
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  • AnonUser31
    Posts: 327Guest
    Yes. @boring_name my friend has a 9 year old daughter and she says her little girl humps like a mad man.
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,489Member
    @anonamoose hell, my dd was 2. Everytime I changed her diaper her hand went straight down and started trying to rub her little chacha. I just deflected her attention. Moved the hand and busted out a round of itsy bitsy spider or something, lol.
    Ds7 is constantly trying to pull on his weenie. I just remind him that isn't something we do in front of people. It's private, he should only do that in his room, etc. like @dabomb said. A couple weeks ago I got him out of the bath and told him to go put on some jammies. About 2 minutes later I came out in the living room and he was humping the couch. I have to say it wasn't one of my finest moments. In my surprise I sort of yelled, "Jeezus, what in the hell are you doing?! Put some dang pants on young man!" He was embarrassed... But I was mortified!
  • LargeMargeSentMe
    Posts: 120Member
    Yes, it's creepy and I would have to put a stop to that fast because i'm afraid that if my kid started creeping me out I would start distancing myself/treating him differently. 

    At seven I doubt that the masturbation is attached to a fantasy of his mother so it is probably more normal than it initially seems but he really needs to stop doing it in front of other people.
  • DontpooponthedogDontpooponthedog
    Posts: 240Member

    I'm just happy that the comment didn't get an "OMG ME Too." 

    Poor momma.  

  • OtakuHimeOtakuHime
    Posts: 357Member
    One of my guys is constantly rubbing up against things..the problem is he's special needs so sometimes when he's staring out the window "thinking" I don't catch it, because he does the kinda moving his body slightly back and forth when he does that, but if I catch him rubbing up against something that's in front of the window I usually remind him that's something to do in private. I kinda feel bad that we live in a small apartment and don't have a lot of room for private.
  • JodiKayHughes
    Posts: 8Member
    Wow ... poor mamma I don't have words ... put a stop to it sooner than later! And when did seven year olds start masterbaiting?
  • DaBOMB
    Posts: 275Member
    JodiKayHughes said:

    Wow ... poor mamma I don't have words ... put a stop to it sooner than later! And when did seven year olds start masterbaiting?



    At that age its not about sex. And if it is there's something much more serious going on. They only know that it feels good. And there's nothing wrong with it. But teaching your kids boundaries is part of being a parent. Teaching your kids where its ok to be naked, to close the door to go to the bathroom, that certain things are not bad... just private. Its just part of the job. Masterbation is not BAD... just private. Now if he's actually having sexual fantasies about his mom... that's a whole other thing. She needs to talk to the boy. After she calms down. Keep a poker face and be clear that its not a bad thing and that he's not a bad boy. But ask why he was doing that in the living room.
  • DaBOMB
    Posts: 275Member
    Oh and just so I'm clear... I would be completely freaked out if I walked in on my son. I know he does it... I do the laundry that proves it. But still...
  • BeerWenchBeerWench
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    Holy cow I would freak, especially if he talked and said he loved me.

    Definatly time to set boundaries about where that is appropriate.
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  • [Deleted User]
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    Oh man. Just think..if we are this freaked about it, can you imagine what that poor mama is going through? I would hope that there's more to the story. Maybe she didn't notice it until that point or something. I would hope she wasn't just allowing him to jerk it in the living room :-&
    @DaBomb is totally right. It should NOT be about sex at that's age, but rather something that feels good to them. Unless, of course, something has happened to him. Oh my word, I don't even know what to think. So many things we don't know. Hopefully it was just a case of being able to set boundaries and be done with it. Yikes.
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  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,071Member
    Oh my god this is exactly why I don't want a boy, at least with a girl u don't have to clean up after them. Ewww I actually never thought about that do u have to clean it up all the time? I mean they just shoot it wherever? Or u have to teach them to use a tissue? Gack
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  • ImWendyImWendy
    Posts: 6,562Member
    Sex boosts all the chemicals associated with love in the brain, and since a 7yo would still love his or her mother above all, it makes sense that he might think of his mom at that moment. So weird and awkward, sure. But it wasn't about sex or that his mom turns him on. So yeah, talk with him about when and where to do that, maybe even have a talk about how sex is between two grown ups who love each other, but he probably didn't even equate that with sex.
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  • shadylaneshadylane
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    Now I'm thinking about this way too much, can boys that young actually ejaculate? I thought everything down there wasn't developed and working yet
    ~slim shady~
  • FoulMouthedSailorFoulMouthedSailor
    Posts: 1,891Member
    @shadylane theoretically no, usually a males first ejaculant dosent happen till right before puberty, and then it's just prostate fluid, its clear and doesnt containt actual sperm.
    At his age it probably just feels good, and has no cognitive thought behind the relation of feeling good and sex.
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  • ImWendyImWendy
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    @shadylane No, not until puberty. But the extra sensitive nerve endings are there from birth. At that age, they aren't doing it for orgasm or anything like that. It just feels good is all.
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  • ImWendyImWendy
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    Oops. Typing at the same time @foulmouthedSAILOR.
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  • pennypenny
    Posts: 796Member
    Am I the only person who LOL'ed reading that confession? Yes, it's kind of creepy, but it's also freaking hilarious.
  • WildandFree
    Posts: 1,582Member
    Dude. That is creepy as fuck! I have a 5 year old and taught him a long time ago that we don't play with our private areas in public even if it feels nice. I've never caught or seen him do it since (my littlest isn't there yet lol) and I would be TOTALLY skeeved out if I did regardless of the fact that it isn't about sex! *shudder
  • MamaT
    Posts: 56Member
    I'm not gonna lie, that was my confession. He was watching a movie, in the semi-darkness and I was folding laundry in the kitchen. I saw him when I walked into the den. And that's when it happened. I didn't know what to do so I turned around and walked right out - then confessed here! I honestly don't know WHAT to do! I had NO idea that kids that age did that, or thought that, or whatever. I totally don't get it. I was expecting to have this conversation in about 4 years! Not now! He is my first (and thankfully ONLY) boy. His Daddy is away this weekend for hockey playoffs and I have never wished SO HARD that he was here to explain this and to deal with it!! 
  • AnonUser30
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    @MamaT - my 5 year old girl humps like nothing. It's normal. Talk to him about "that's private. In your room, door closed only" etc. and - hugs!!
  • AnonUser31
    Posts: 327Guest
    Playing with themselves is totally normal! Although it's hard for us moms and dads to deal with, it's completely normal. For sure talk to him about doing that in his own bedroom! Big hugs!
  • DaBOMB
    Posts: 275Member
    @mamat. Completely normal!! Big hugs!! And for the record my dh has never ever ever had any type of conversation with our son about anything sexual. Its always me... ALWAYS!!! I just do my best to stay calm and direct. Answer his questions without scaring him. You'll do fine...
  • ChristyJChristyJ
    Posts: 882Member
    My DS at 4 constantly had his hands down his pants.  Constantly.  Everywhere,  We just kept telling him that is something we do in our room, not in the grocery line.  He got it.  Thank goodness.
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  • primalmommaprimalmomma
    Posts: 1,137Member
    I've seen girls and boys as young as 3 masturbate.  No set age I think.  Yes, time to teach that private moments like this belong in the bedroom, alone.  It's a challenge, too....because the way a parent reacts will shape his/her sexual attitudes/feelings for life.  Making it something "bad/shameful" or something "private" ..etc...

    Good luck! 
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  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,489Member
    Absolutely @primalmomma, shaming a child about masturbating will totally skew their feelings about sex. They will grow up thinking that sex and their bodies are bad or dirty. It's totally normal for kids to explore their bodies, and of course when they discover that something feels good, they want to keep doing it. Who doesn't?
  • asktraci2
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    It's hard to have THAT talk with your kids but it's all a part of being a parent. Just do your best but definitely make sure you address it.
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  • AnonUser33
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    That weirded me out too.

    When our son was 3 we were out camping and put him in the trailer for a nap. I went in to check on the kids and her he was, eyes rolled back in his head, diaper off rubbing two flat cold rocks all over his junk. I was shocked. I had no idea that kids that young did that. I was so freaked out I took the rocks, put his diaper back on and left. I didn't say anything to him about it then. However we talked many times after that about him needing to do that stuff privately.

    Fast forward 10 years, I went to bed several hours after him and as I do every night I opened his door to check onhim and turn off his light. Well, I should have knocked. There are somet hings a mother should never see. I have never told him that I saw him and probably never will. Now I tap lightly on his door before I ever open it. I also make him do his own laundry. HEHE

  • theirMYdorks
    Posts: 5Member
    Our son(10) was taking care of business face down on the living room floor, with the rest of us around. I had my husband remind him that some things are private after I left the room. Now, if I could just get my husband to knock on the doors before he walks in on something noboby wants to see. Can't say he wasn't warned!
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