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Male Teachers in Grade School
  • ChristyJChristyJ
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    In First Grade my son will have his first male Teacher.  I really like Senior A as the kids call him (he is the Spanish Teacher for 1st) and my son is estatic.  He is a great guy who is great with the kids and you can see the pride in him when his students do great.  I really cannot wait.  Unfortunately, due to all of the bad examples of male teachers out there, my DH is not enthusiatic even though he has met Senior A and likes him.  What do you other Mommy's out there think? 
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  • TrEr02TrEr02
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    I think if he is a great teacher and loves what he does and is great with the kids then I wouldnt sweat it..it sounds like is a great teacher :)
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  • MarySunshineMarySunshine
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    I'm fine with male teachers, but before moving I was a teacher. I taught with 15 other PreK teachers and we had one lone guy teaching with us (he applied to 2nd grade position and got moved up, lucky bastard).

    I think men are completely capable of teaching younger students...just as they are capable of raising their children. KWIM? There are some douchebags and weirdos out there, but that's the same for ALL walks of life.

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  • bombkittybombkitty
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    My daughter's kindergarten teacher is a man.  He is absolutely great.  I think sometimes, that a male teacher is even better, because some kids expect to be coddled by a woman.  As long as we teach our kids about appropriate and inappropriate behavior (from adults), I don't think you have anything to worry about!

  • DemandaDemanda
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    The kindergarten teacher at my son's daycare was a (super hot) guy.  He was great and I'm not just saying that because he was super hot.  All of his school teachers have been women thus far but I don't think it being a man would make any difference.  I think it's sexist to assume that a man isn't as fit to teach young children as  woman, but I haven't heard of any stories of bad male teachers in elementary schools.
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  • luckymama
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    I think its wonderful when kids have a good male role model outside the home. I think this can be especially important for boys since school can be an overwhelmingly female influenced setting.
  • etherieletheriel
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    I think we need more good male teachers for our younger kids. There are so many kids from broken homes that have no good male role models. All kids can benefit from knowing that they are cared about by both men and women and it also helps break down gender stereotypes for both boys and girls.

    There are just as many examples of bad female teachers out there as there are of bad male teachers.

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  • PigeonPigeon
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    2 of the best teachers I ever had were male, 1 was elementary and 1 was high school. They both got me a decent passing mark in math lol.
  • LA_PygmyHerderLA_PygmyHerder
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    I don't think being a man has anything to do with them being a great teacher or not. It's all about their personality and teaching style. There are as many stories out there of women teachers doing the nasty with their male students as there are male teachers having affairs with teen girls. Ds8 had an awesome male teacher this past year (3rd grade) He related well to the students. He was also the first long haired tattooed teacher I had ever met. He taught math and science and ds LOVED his class. The teacher would even call every once in a while to give me feedback on ds's progress because ds has had issues with adhd, not seeing well, and being too smart for his own good. Gender has nothing to do with if a person can do their job and do it well.
  • ButterflyButterfly
    Posts: 80Member
    I'm with all the others -- Don't let one Worm spoil the whole orchard of apples. There are plenty of great male teachers in elementary school and female teachers in highschool. (Remember the females who have affairs with their highschool boys?)
    My (slight) issue isn't with the sex of the teachers, but with the ages of teachers in highschool -- I don't think it's professionally appropriate to have 22 year-olds teaching 17 and 18-year-olds; the lines of teacher/friend often become blurred.
    In my school district, we had a young choral highschool teacher who was very chummy with a lot of her chorus members (mostly girls). When she moved cross-country, she left a group of clique-ish girls with whom she still communicated via email and facebook, and she was not supportive of the new chorus teacher, who has had a group of "mean girls" fighting her every step of the way. Upon her departure, the younger teacher had her chorus members convinced that they had the right to demand to be on the interview committee with the Superintendent, Principals, Music Department Staff, etc. Really???
    Teaching is a profession of great responsibility, not only for what we teach from the curriculum, but for the responsibility we are given when children walk into our classrooms, and are in our care. Often (but not all the time), a new teacher cannot professionally distringuish between 'friend' and 'student'. And unfortunately, there's no training for that in the Education Programs in Colleges, or in the Orientations in School Districts.
  • chaosmomchaosmom
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    I have no problem with male teachers. As long as a teacher is qualified & can comminicate with their students & parents, then I am happy. Gender plays no role in it.
  • LesboMomLesboMom
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    I don't think that male teachers are any different than female teachers except for the fact that they are male. They can do the same things that we can do. I like male teachers. I had a few when I was in the younger grades. I don't think that I would have a problem at all with a male teacher.

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  • scholarmom4
    Posts: 568Member
    We just talked about this in one of my classes!! lol! I think it is great! It is proven that men have different ways of parenting/interacting with kids and it is really beneficial. Esp when you think about kids who have no father figure or healthy male relationships in their lives! That is so great for them to have a good man to look up to! I think it is sad that more men don't teach kindergarten and the younger grades! Men are more physical and will get down and play. I think it gives kids a great role model and a different point of view. It is sad that there is a hesitation to teach these grades for guys because of some scumbags who gave men a bad name!!! I would love it if my kiids had male teachers in their younger years! Here it is only in the junior high and high school.
  • scholarmom4
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    You hear all the time about these dumb ass women screwing their students!! I think men shouldn't hesitate to show that they can be a great teacher to younger children because of stereotypes! Look at the idea of a man being a stay at home dad! Twenty years ago this would have been look on like he was a lazy asshole but a woman who stays home is where she is supposed to be! With her family! I think male teachers can be great positive role models for boys and girls!!
  • ChristyJChristyJ
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    Thank you ladies, I agree with all of you, but wanted to see your thoughts, I will share all of this input with my sometimes idiotic DH later tonight.  Sorry about all of the "greats" above, I was still half-asleep.
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  • ChristyJChristyJ
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    BTW, his school is only 4 years old and has video cameras in all of the classrooms, so no matter the Teacher, everyone is protected which makes it easier to not worry about safety and or abusive conduct concerns.
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  • canadamom
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    My son had a male teacher in grade 4 - best behavioural year of his life to that point.  The male teacher GOT him you know - how he thought, why he needed to move etc.  That teacher took no guff from the boys and didn't give him chane after chance and fall prey to the puppy dog eyes and crocodile tears that the female teachers did.  The female teachers continue to fall for his manipulations to this day in grade 8, despite me telling them that he is playing them.

    I wish more male teacher were in the younger grades - I think some of those problem kids need the male authority figure.  I know my son responds much better to a male than a female - he always listened to his dad better than he did for me as well.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    good teachers are hard to find, and if he's a good teacher it doesn't matter what the gender!!!  some of the best teachers I had were men, though I didn't have a male teacher until the 6th grade, where I had 2 who "team taught."

    and while most of the bad press for women has been in older grades, there seems to be just as many women teachers taking advantage of students as men.  I just don't think it's as big of a problem as the press would like us to believe.  And don't schools do pretty extensive background checks now?


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  • jacigirl6354
    Posts: 199Member
    Our grade school is getting two makes teachers for the first time in a very long time and the students and staff are very excited about it. Some of the kids have no positive male influences and our administration is hoping these gentlemen can have an impact. Hopefully your DH comes around, best of luck!
  • jacigirl6354
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    **male, not makes, sorry
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
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    The best kindergarten teacher in DD's school was male.  Everyone loved him.  He wasn't "her" teacher, but at her school they all kind of work together as a team.  Honestly, a great teacher is a great teacher.  Shouldn't matter whether male or female
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  • ChristyJChristyJ
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    I cannot wait until 3rd grade, I already know who we are going to have as Alex is in a magnet program that has one set of Teachers for each year.  You should see that guy.  Makes me want to leave my husband, do anything to become a size 3 and take 10 years off of my age.  He is South American, a Champion Martial Artist and georgeous. My poor husband.  I really do love him.
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