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Shitty day, just need some hugs :(
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,650Member
    On top of Ds16 telling me he wants to move out, he also told me he thinks about killing himself everyday but doesn't do it because he loves me too much. I have been crying off and on all day. Ive had a tension type headache and lower back pain for a week straight. Just now, I went out to my car to get something and my windshield has a hugh spider like crack in it. Wtf? It was fine a few hours ago when I drove it. Just took a xanax and going to bed soon. Tell me tomorrow will be better :(
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • French_momFrench_mom
    Posts: 1,540Member
    /hug

    It is for me to know and you to dot dot dot.
  • chaosmomchaosmom
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    Oh sweetie, I'm sorry you day/week has been tough. Just let today pass & deal with it tomorrow. Hugs
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    Honey, if that kid is thinking about suicide, get him to a shrink, FAST.  You DO NOT want to go through that with him.  Been there, done that though thankfully not with my child.  Get him some help.  If you need to, get him in on a 72 hour hold/5150.  I do not want to see you posting that you didn't listen to him and now he's gone.

    Tomorrow is a new day, and I would love to tell you it will be better, I hope it is.  
    Bite me, cupcake!
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    well behaved women seldom make history
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  • Twins911Twins911
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    Tomorrow WILL Be A GREAT DAY!

    Talk to your son… he's asking for HELP, don't ignore it. 

    As mothers we have our bad days, our worst days and then the really fucked up wana stop breathing days… it's exhausting! But most importantly WE R MOTHERS! Listen to what ur DS needs, comfort him, if he doesn't want to talk to u, look for someone HE can talk to. Therapist, counselor, even family members might be helpful. 
    Big HUGS, mama!  
  • TurthipoTurthipo
    Posts: 340Member
    I litterally heard the same words from my 15 yo dd about a month ago.... Just lots of love, hugs & support for your boy.

    ((hugs)) here for u
  • AnonUser24
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    ((huge hugs)) I can't imagine how hard it must be to hear those words come out of your son's mouth. Your heart must be hurting. I agree that you should get him into counselling ASAP.
  • unforgivenunforgiven
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    >:D< >:D< >:D< >:D<

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,650Member
    FTR, he's been in counseling. I think a big part of him telling me that he thinks of killing himself is his way of manipulating me. He knows what pushes my buttons. I am a very emotional person and he pulls at my heartstrings to get what he wants. even as a very young child he was a manipulator.
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • DreamerDreamer
    Posts: 2,266Member
    Even still, No mother, or any person for that matter, should ever have to hear a loved one say they think of committing suicide.  My heart goes out to you.  >:D<
    There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Which one are you?
  • Luvlyssa
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    @purpleflowers ... sigh ok. I'm going to go against what the others are saying. yes maybe he IS manipulating you. but... maybe he isn't. seriously put him on a 72 hour hold. he made suicide threats. if he means it? then he'll get help and med changes as needed. if he didn't? then he won't do it again.

    psych wards are not fun. they can be VERY lonely and sad. the food isn't great. you're going to groups and being bored if they aren't for you.

    I'm not saying do it tonight... I'm saying... you know  him best. listen to mommy instincts and see what they say.

    as for windshield... insurance covers them being fixed :) just have to have them come to you and do it! most places drive out and do it at houses and businesses. call your insurance in the AM and see who they cover doing it... they usually do it same day! with little/no deductible

    *hugs*
    Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do? We swim, swim.
  • BirdieBirdie
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    Big huge hugs mama! Praying for you!

    SMSM_s_5

  • StarsStars
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    I've been going through this with my eldest son he's 17.  If you need to talk I'm here.  Do seek him someone to talk to at the very least.  Better safe than sorry.  big hugs to you!  >:D<
    apsycho

  • OpheliaOphelia
    Posts: 3,339Member
    Huge hugs
    Nothing left to do but smile, smile, smile.. -Grateful Dead<3
  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
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    I'm so sorry momma. I don't have any words of advice beyond what has already been said. Just wanted to give you a big squishy hug!
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  • missmama5missmama5
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    *hugs* i hope tomorrow is a better day. sleep is your friend!
  • KellynnKellynn
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    I agree with @Luvlyssa. A friend had a daughter who did the same thing. She thought she was being manipulative, but had her admitted just the same. You just can never be too sure. After 3 days the girl was begging to come home. The pysch place was hell, and she didn't belong there. That stopped everything. I know of a place near you, if you want I can pm it to you. Hugs.
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  • MegsueMegsue
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    Big giant hug. These ladies covered the rest. >:D<
  • OxiMOMOxiMOM
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    :::huge giant biggest in the worlds hugs too you:::::  tomorrow is a new day  and it should be better... but if it's not  the day after will be better.. easy to say sometimes hard to believe i know but you are a SM and have lots of ladies who love you and will support you and be there for you no matter what. 
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,227Member
    I'm sorry, I can't abide by suicide threats.  Too much personal experience with them..If he's talking about it get him help, whether or not you think he's serious.

    I'll say it again, I really, really don't want to see a thread that he did in fact do something to himself.  I don't want to see another mommy go through that kind of pain.
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • lovinmom
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    If it wasn't for my mom listening to me when I was 17 I wouldn't be here now. You never know for sure if its manipulation or real. It's better to be safe right now. Big hugs!
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
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    HUGE TEXAS HUGS >:D<
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
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    Huge hugs. What a horrible thing to have to hear a loved one say. I'm so sorry today sucked for you. Hope tomorrow is better for you.      
    >:D<
  • kristina
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    I'm right there with you. My son was 15 when he called a crisis hotline in the middle of the night. Woke to the sound of 5 cops banging on my front door. It was one of the worse nights of my life. We had him placed in the hospital for about a week. I still don't sleep well when I think of what he could've done. That was almost a year ago and he now takes an anti depressant, sees a pychologist and goes to therapy twice a month. It is so hard as a mom to see him suffering....hug hug HUG and take care of yourself, it sounds as though your son is letting you know how he feels....trust your gut...
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