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I HATE HIM (and hate that I do)
  • BassmomBassmom
    Posts: 245Member

    So I was raised to believe that "hate is a strong word", and you shouldnt hate people.  There have been people that I "strongly dislike", and other than my sons "sperm donor", I have never felt true hate for another person.


    This person is my boss, the owner of the company I have worked 6.5 long years for.  It has not been an easy job.  In fact Im not sure any job I happen to have after this one will be as stressful and mentally draining.  I am in a position where I have seniority over all non owners.  There has been talk for several years to make me part owner.  I run the office, and do the work of two people, and get no thanks for it.  Perhaps I shouldnt have shown them my capability, because the attitude is well, she can do everything, lets pile it on (with no pay raise mind you).


    So my boss is unlike I have ever met any one in my whole life.  He walks around boasting loudly how rich he is and seriously has his head stuck up his ass.  He does not live in the "real world", as far as knowing what its like to live paycheck to paycheck, actually WORK for a living other than barking orders, actually have to take care of ANYTHING personal or otherwise.  Everything is done for him.  He holds over our heads that "he signs our paychecks", and doesnt want to hear excuses (EVERYTHING is an excuse to him).  Im not sure why he asks why things are the way they are if he thinks every response is an automatic excuse.  He constantly demonstrates that he doesnt trust his own employees and believes we are always trying to cover things up and go behind his back.  And then he gets pissed because he has SO much work, things that HE specifically asks for and if they are not done, we get yelled at.  This man is a prime example for showing that your damned if you do, damned if you dont.  I used to be afraid of his reactions, but came to learn that what pisses him off today, may not piss him off tomorrow.  So its a gamble.  He loves to make our lives hell, pitting one against the other, yelling for no real reason then just to yell and be an ass.


    I seriously hate this fucking job.  It has always been this way but I guess its wearing me down and I can no longer shake it off like I used to.  The problem is that I have a felony and do not want to go through the background checks when I look for another job.  I have to wait a WHOLE entire year before I can request to have it expunged from my record.  I would quit now but it is our main source of income and we would be screwed without it.


    I guess this is a vent.  Im not sure how Im going to survive this next year.  Does anyone else have to deal with this kind of bullshit?


     

  • momofdbbmomofdbb
    Posts: 9,096Member
    Wow you described an exboss of mine to a T. He was such a PITA !! He usually managed make at least on employee cry a week ! Ok quite often me. He swore up and down that no one should ever go into debt for anything , including buying a car and a house. He paied cash , and you should too. I only worked there a year. Decided to become a SAHM for a while. I feel your pain. I am sorry. Does he have white hair by the way ? My exboss had snow white hair but was not really that old.
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  • fatchickonabikefatchickonabike
    Posts: 5,499Member
    Find yourself a mantra, even if it's only "Twelve more months." Repeat it to yourself when things get bad. Sometimes focusing on getting out is the only thing that helps us stay in.
    "The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof bullshit detector.” - Ernest Hemingway
  • BassmomBassmom
    Posts: 245Member

    He likes to think that since he can do things a certain way (buy a home, have brand new cars, etc etc) that we should too.  He seems to forget that we dont have the type of money he does.  One of the other owners tells him that we could live off what he throws away.  I mean its just sick.


    He does have very gray hair, actually he has culdesac balding hair and uses a toupee or whatever and has it fixed up every tuesday.  He call it his beautify day.  ick.


    I hate looking at him he disgusts me.

  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,757Member
    My boss is a pompous ass. He's constantly on vacation, and when sales suffer because he's not here to run the leads, it's everyone's fault but his own. He's always broke and in the hole because sales are bad right now, but it's still okay to hope a cruise to Aruba or a flight to Cali whenever he gets the chance. It's a family owned and operated company, and his poor son can't stand him either. He's boastful and arrogant, and worse, condescending. It sucks, but like you, I'm in no position to quit since I'm the only one working right now and the job market here is DRY. Hugs to you @Bassmom. I totally feel your pain!
    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • GritsGrits
    Posts: 3,757Member
    Bassmom said:



    He does have very gray hair, actually he has culdesac balding hair and uses a toupee or whatever and has it fixed up every tuesday.  He call it his beautify day.  ick.




    Bahahahaha! My boss is the same way! Only he's not balding. He's graying and almost 60 with fucking highlights. It's gross. It really is!

    "I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles." ~Audrey Hepburn
  • BassmomBassmom
    Posts: 245Member

    ha!  yeah its funny cuz he is much more of a girl than I am.  I mean I have never had a real mani/pedi other than doing it myself and only had my hair did for weddings and prom.  he prides himself in his appearance and used to say alot "you know what, I looked in the mirror today, and guess what, I am the most handsome guy I know!"


    Please, shoot me now.

  • Luvlyssa
    Posts: 2,976Member
    ROFLMAO.... Well he certainly sounds.... special.

    Ok so one year til your felony is expunged. make that a monthly thing 11 months... 10 months.. 9 months... and then at 3 months?

    Start sending out resumes.

    actually ok that's a good idea but...

    Felonies are funny things. some companies only care about certain ones (theft etc) others care about EVERYTHING. I would maybe get your resume up to date... and a decent cover letter... and put it out there. Be up front about the felony when asked "Yes I have a felony on my record for xxx, I did x amount of time (or probation), It will be expunged out of my record in 11 months and 3 days"

    The more open you are about it the better off you are. yeah you may not get some jobs if you "skated around the truth"... but people can be pretty willing to deal with that stuff. Some have STRONG policies against it. ....

    babble babble babble.

    basically? I'd try to start looking. it won't hurt you and you may luck out. :) and remember that any interview is a good interview. it's good experience.
    Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do? We swim, swim.
  • BassmomBassmom
    Posts: 245Member
    Thanks @Luvlyssa, perhaps I should start looking and all that.  Its just that the last time I looked for a job (before landing this current hellhole), I really got some shitty reactions to my felony (its only possession of controlled substance) and I shudder at having to go through that crap again.  I mean I felt like the biggest piece of shit being treated like that.  I would prefer to have the expungement done before I start looking, to save face I guess.  I suppose I need to figure out whats more bearable, ,rejection or this fucking asshole who at times can rob me of a good day.
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