Right now I'm a sahm. My dg is really good about playing with the kids when he gets home so I can have a bit of a break. Diaper changing is usually whoever doesn't call "not it", or whoever had the last stinky one lol.
I usually cook, but dh grills a lot on the summer, and in the winter he "cooks" maybe 2x a week (one is usually either pizza or a restaurant). I do almost all the laundry, but whine about it a lot, until he gives in and helps me fold and put it away.
On weekends however, he helps me do some deep cleaning like the bathrooms. I give him a choice as to what he wants to do, and what is the most dirty. So he mostly pitches in on the weekends. he works about 12-15 hours a day tho, so he is usually very tired after my kids tackle him at the door.
Every so often I will get a wild hair up my ass and get mad about the fact that I do most of the cleaning. But he usually does pitch in after I point out all I've done in the week around the house.

I cook dinner Monday-Friday. I do dishes every night. I do all laundry. I clean the house, do grocery shopping, take care of the critters and run errands for df with dd8mos. I'm lucky if df spends 20 solid minutes with dd in the evening. at this point he pays bills but not much else. i do all night feedings and 99% of diaper changes. before dd was born we made the agreement of me taking care of dd at night (we breast feed) and he can get the morning shift. not once has he done that. he works 10 hour days and has rental property but I don't find it as an excuse to not be able to see his kid. but when we're in public.....he acts like he's freaking father of the year!

My STBXH has changed perhaps 5 or 6 diapers since our 5 month old baby was born. He has never gotten up at night with him, nor will he voluntarily do any parenting stuff (pick the baby up and comfort him when he cries, change his diaper, etc). Which is part of why he's my soon-to-be ex. To his credit, he will usually do things for the baby if I ask him to, but he takes his time. (For example, one time I was in the middle of cooking dinner and I heard the baby poop. I asked STBXH if he could change it, and I even brought him a diaper and wipes, and he sat there on the couch playing with his phone for 20 minutes before he got around to changing the diaper. But he did eventually do it, so...)

I'm ready for everyone to hate me here ;)
I am a stay-at-home mom and wife. I say wife too because my son is in school full time now. I do most of the parenting, but DH will do everything I ask him to if i need it. He just knows I enjoy doing most things, and plus he works all day and should get to relax more I think. My daily routine goes like this - Get up, get kiddo up, feed him & drink coffee & feed all 5 pets, make kiddos lunch, get us ready for the day, walk kiddo to school. Go home, walk the dog for 45 minutes to an hour, do whatever dishes there are, tidy the house (Mondays & Fridays are heavy cleaning, washing floors etc.), do a workout, make any phone calls that need to be made, pay bills, think about what to make for dinner and hang out on Scary Mommy lol. then I pick kiddo up at school, make dinner and relax until bed. So you see, it's not super strenous lol! I do all of the laundry but DH will help if i ask. He also cooks from time to time if I don't feel like it. He's a good hubby :)

Does anyone have any advice as far as getting S.O. to help with baby from the get-go?  Did ya'll actually sit down and have a conversation about how things were going to be, or did a routine just kind of settle itself?  How do we get them to participate equally (or as much as they can)?

This is about to be my first experience actually living with the baby's daddy so I'm kind of nervous; worried about whether or not he is going to help out as much as I think he should!  He only works part time (and collects SSI which is good for the $ but clearly does not count as work) so I feel like he ought to be helping me with the feedings & diaper changes a pretty good deal when he will be there...