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  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
    Posts: 337Member
    I'm already home. Fastest easiest paperwork I have ever done. My df is bringing us a few meals from her church and the cafe down the street offered to fees us a few cooked and delivered. Omg going to welfare Monday for help. Thanks again ladies
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  • TottyCake
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    You just did the bravest, most selfless thing you could do for your daughter. She is everything. Don't forget. I applaud you!
  • SammieSammie
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    Oh, I am SO SO SO proud of you!!! You're doing the right thing, mama. You are doing the right thing and your future is bright. I promise. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. You've got this!! Keep your head up, ok? You rock!!  >:D<

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  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
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    Thanks everyone. Just got home from hospital. Chlo fell and her teeth went through her lip. She is home they used derma bond glue . What a long day!!
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  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
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    Her teeth are fine. No chips and tightly sealed. She is snuggling in for the night.we are watching ghostbusters together lol. I am not sure how appropriate but she loves this movie! We read 3 books to balance it out. Any soft food ideas? That won't burn her lip or that is easy to eat? Thanks again everyone for the push I needed
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  • GingersnapGingersnap
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    Mother effer that's a long day. Pasta without sauce might be good. Peas might be okay...
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  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
    Posts: 337Member
    Well I have $21.48. Till Tuesday then I get $100.00 in mail from a friend. Hoping Tuesday. I need milk and I have a quarter tank gas. Chlo has fruit cups and I do have oatmeal and pasta. My friends church brought dinner. I think my dd is the only baby that hates mashed potatoes but loves French fries lol.
  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
    Posts: 337Member
    The church gave me the old fashion oats, and spaghetti noodles with a can of sauce. Those oats are so bland I wish I had some sugar or brown sugar
  • MegsueMegsue
    Posts: 1,848Member
    Do you have any maple syrup or even any juice? That will make it edible. How the hell did I miss this going on today???? So glad you're safe. >:D<
  • MegsueMegsue
    Posts: 1,848Member
    Oh, and when you get bored later, and need some reading, look up Bipolar Disorder. I'm not a psychiatrist nor a psychiatric nurse, but my father was Bipolar. And holy balls, dude was batshit crazy without medication. Suicidal one minute then laughing and enjoying life to its fullest the next. Medication was the only thing that made him human again. It came out of nowhere too (or so it seemed).
  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
    Posts: 337Member
    I have strawberry smuckers ice cream topping that's just like jelly! Would that work? I feel so pitiful. I hate living life like this. I'm just going to cry a lil bit alone on my kitchen floor.
  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
    Posts: 337Member
    I do have low sugar apple juice. Moths for tots stuff.
  • MegsueMegsue
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    As long as the wee one doesn't have an allergy to strawberries! That sounds good actually (I'm an oatmeal nut).

    And go ahead and curl up on that floor and have a good cry. You deserve it, and you need to get it out.
  • MegsueMegsue
    Posts: 1,848Member
    Ooh, even better. You can either cook it in the juice or cook it in water then add a bit of juice to cool it off and add flavor
  • kristy2127
    Posts: 94Member
    You did the right thing! Proud of you. Nobody wants to have anyone committed, but for the safety of your children, yourself, and him it had to be done. Stay strong and keep us posted. As everyone else has already stated, we are here for you!!
  • sidsmommy3sidsmommy3
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    chlomom, it is great that you left.  I was the victim of domestic violence for over 21 years.  I personally am so proud of you for getting help for you and your daughter.


    Please continue to be vigilant in protecting you and your daughter.  Be prepared.  The shelter that we dealt with actually gave us emergency cell phones, that were good for 911 use only.


    My ex was on a 5150 hold and one of his friends is a doctor.  Long story short, he got him released and then the ex ran to his parents, where I had him served as well. 


    If he contacts you at all, via text or phone, make sure that you contact the police immediately.  


    If you don't feel safe, call a shelter.  I used houseofruth.org in Maryland.  I don't want to scare you, but please don't let your guard down.  


    Take Care.

    Mary :-)

    Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
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  • Luvlyssa
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    I applaud you! It takes a lot for women to do what you did so GOOD FOR YOU! :) if you need any help at all finding resources... or just a hug come find one of us. @mammateeroll is our mama bear here right now. she'll find everything you need (as will I!)

    Remember today very well. Be proud of who you are! You did the right thing. He needs medication. Hopefully the jail will put him in for a 72 hour hold at the psych unit.

    That said... a lot of people have lived with these diseases for so long they know how to act to get out of things ... including getting you to let him back in. Be strong! Do this for your baby :)

    Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do? We swim, swim.
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  • CalliopemarieCalliopemarie
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    anything you need let us know. is there an sm near you? pm any one of us if you want to talk ok? big huge hugs and happy you are safe
    i am insane!!! mwahahahaha
  • momtomany74
    Posts: 294Member
    Wish I had more to offer you than good thoughts and virtual hugs...:(
  • seamstressJ
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    Will be thinking of you!
  • Charlotte_SometimesCharlotte_Sometimes
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    MammaTeeRoll said:

    Please go to a food bank first, before you go anywhere else. Many of them have social workers there, or know them by name. A food bank won't let you go empty handed, and may be able to do some of the paperwork for you for food stamps, and anything else you need. They can call people they know, and smooth the way for you. Bring your I.d., and all legal papers From today, and your last medical bill.



    Yes, I second this.  The food bank in my city can actually do the entire food stamp application and interview for you so you don't even have to deal with the welfare office at all... but sometimes the welfare office is faster.  Either way it's a good starting point and there's nothing worse than being at the welfare office alllllllll day long with a hungry, cranky little one.  I have done that!

    So proud of you for taking this step!  And what is it with the mothers of guys like this?  They are always just soooo blind about their "little boys".  ::::sigh::::
    "But a lesson must be lived
    In order to be learned"

    Ani DiFranco, Manhole
  • MistressHeidiMistressHeidi
    Posts: 973Member
    I just saw this thread when I got home from work. What a day you've had. Good for you, I'm proud of you for taking that step to protect yourself and your little one. Big hugs!
  • jezebeldelilahjezebeldelilah
    Posts: 337Member
    Well I had a doctors appointment today and came home to a fully stocked kitchen. I only have one person that has a key to my house besides me. A dear friend whom gathered a bunch of her close friends and all of them went grocery shopping for dd and I. I am so grateful I cannot even put what I'm feeling into words. My doctors office said they will not charge me for my next couple appointments until my medical card comes through. I feel like buying lotto tickets its been such a lucky day. Thanks for all the support everywhere!!
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
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    That's great to hear!! You are so strong and so brave, I really admire you!

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  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    I am so happy to hear that you have awesome friends that stepped up for you. Hope things keep improving!!
  • beambeam
    Posts: 1,070Member
    Sitting here in tears reading this - so proud of you for being so brave, so proud of the wonderful women here with their advice and knowhow and so proud of the people around you that have come to help you.
    "Magic things are fond of deceptions.” ― Tom Robbins
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,470Member
    Oh what a wonderful thing to come home to! I totally missed this thread yesterday, but just want to say that you did the right thing! Be Strong mamá.
  • BeerWenchBeerWench
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    RonansMum said:

    You just did the bravest, most selfless thing you could do for your daughter. She is everything. Don't forget. I applaud you!



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  • seamstressJ
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    So glad to hear things are looking up! Since we have an uncommon "malfunction" in common, I'm definitely gonna keep close tabs on how things are going :)
  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
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    Wow ... All this while I was sleeping! Bloody hell, what a day and what an accomplishment! Good for you! Here's hoping life continues to improve for you! :)
    I love purple; I love cats. Imagine if cats were purple ...
  • Katescrazymom
    Posts: 1,849Member

    I'm so glad you are getting help from these ladies and your rl friends! 

    You're a great mom, so have that cry when you get a chance!

    >:D<   and  ~O)
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,727Member
    Wow!! This has been a huge emotional rollercoaster!! You did such an amazing thing for your daughter. You should be incredibly proud of yourself!
    You deserve that help, take it gratefully and one day you will be able to pay it forward.
    I really admire what you've achieved with your incredible strength! You are a wonderful mum xxx
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • Peace
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    chlomom said:

    Well I had a doctors appointment today and came home to a fully stocked kitchen. I only have one person that has a key to my house besides me. A dear friend whom gathered a bunch of her close friends and all of them went grocery shopping for dd and I. I am so grateful I cannot even put what I'm feeling into words. My doctors office said they will not charge me for my next couple appointments until my medical card comes through. I feel like buying lotto tickets its been such a lucky day. Thanks for all the support everywhere!!



    Aww, I love this! I'm so glad people are coming through for you!
    Feel the love, everyone believes in you.. >:D<
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