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I did it.
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,735Member
    I broke up with him.
    We are going on holiday to the north cause my mum is renting a house. A free holiday!
    We leave next saturday.
    I've told him when we get back, we are on a break. That is IF he comes! And I have a feeling the break will be totally permanent.
    I'm sick and tired of it all and I've actually stopped trying and stopped caring. He picked up on it and I was brutally honest. I didn't want to crush his soul all at once so I told him its a break. I felt awful, but I'm glad I did it!
    I don't feel the relief quite yet, but I can't wait! And I'm a bit terrified of how I am going to cope!
    But.. Finally! Eh?
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • LesboMomLesboMom
    Posts: 2,858Confessional Manager
    Good for you. I am so proud of you.

    confessional-manager

    Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow. -- Helen Keller
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    Good for you hun! I hope you can make it permanent as well, you are so young, there is no sense to wasting your life with someone who isn't going to be a partner for you. You deserve much more. 
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,795Administrator, Moderator
    PallasAthene said:

    Good for you hun! I hope you can make it permanent as well, you are so young, there is no sense to wasting your life with someone who isn't going to be a partner for you. You deserve much more. 



    Yes this ^. It's been a long time coming, and I know that YOU know this is for the best. For everyone.
    Big hugs, honey!

    community-manager


  • AloneOverseasAloneOverseas
    Posts: 2,240Member
    Nice!! :)
    I love purple; I love cats. Imagine if cats were purple ...
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,735Member
    *bad mum alert* I'm broke as a joke, but benji got birthday money from my dad. I'm going to take a little and buy myself an awesome dildo as a treat to say well done, and so there's never any temptation!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • CanadianMamaCanadianMama
    Posts: 9,617Administrator, Moderator
    PallasAthene said:

    Good for you hun! I hope you can make it permanent as well, you are so young, there is no sense to wasting your life with someone who isn't going to be a partner for you. You deserve much more. 



    Yup this.

    He's an asshole, you deserve WAY better!

    community-manager


  • CalliopemarieCalliopemarie
    Posts: 4,343Member
    Happy for you!!  you'll be fine
    i am insane!!! mwahahahaha
  • unforgivenunforgiven
    Posts: 12,701Confessional Manager
    I'm so happy for you! I love you and just don't want you settling for less than you and Benji deserve.  :x

    confessional-manager

    "What looks like torture is a time to rejoice
    What sounds like thunder is a comforting voice
    When what is beautiful looks broken and crushed
    And I say I don't know you
    But you say it's finished"
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,650Member
    Yeah:) and I LOVE the dildo treat =))
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    @irishlass Get a vibrator instead... trust me :)
  • French_momFrench_mom
    Posts: 1,541Member
    Great!  You will be way better in the long run and probably find someone who will be the one for you. 

    As for the dildo... anything that make is good for you! Go for it mama. 

    It is for me to know and you to dot dot dot.
  • BlessieBlessie
    Posts: 1,496Member
    irishlass said:

    *bad mum alert* I'm broke as a joke, but benji got birthday money from my dad. I'm going to take a little and buy myself an awesome dildo as a treat to say well done, and so there's never any temptation!






    Happy Mommy is a better Mommy!
  • BirdieBirdie
    Posts: 1,756Member
    Proud of you!

    SMSM_s_5

  • PrimalbitchPrimalbitch
    Posts: 1,283Member

    Irishlass, hey girlie!  You're going to be just fine!  I know it!  And I'm totally down with buying yourself dildo! 

    I want one too!  :((

  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,250Member
    @IrishLass:  you go (I would have added the "girl" but I think it's about the dumbest thing since "girlfriend")!  There's someone out there just waiting to find you and who will treat you right!

    @Primalbitch:  try Amazon...:\"> ;) ;;)
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,735Member
    @pallasathene isn't a dildo the same thing as a vibrator? Oh dear. I'm so uneducated!

    I'm so grateful for the support, I didn't expect anything cause I've gone on and on about this but I FINALLY got the courage and I wanted to thank everyone for supporting me for so long and giving me the boost I needed!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    Nope, not the same... although you can get vibrating dildos ;)
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,735Member
    @pallasathene then I want a vibrating dildo!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • AnonUser28
    Posts: 2,083Guest
    Good choice ;)
  • katz_meowkatz_meow
    Posts: 4,254Member
    @irishlsss. might I suggest a rabbit type toy? you get the penetration still and the "ears " vibrate for your clit. I couldn't have survived being single without one.
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • Thefinder
    Posts: 1,637Member
    Wtg @Irishlass!  So proud of you.  :D   (I am so happy I am tearing up for you)

    Yeah I suggest a rabbit like toy too. ;)
  • ImWendyImWendy
    Posts: 6,561Member
    Wands are good too! You can use them to penetrate, but the vibration is better and you can put it exactly where you want.

    As for the break, I am proud of you! You deserve more and you've given him so many chances!
    deus ex machina
  • loveitloveit
    Posts: 1,738Member
    Yay I'm so proud of you! Stick to your guns girl!
  • SammieSammie
    Posts: 7,283Administrator, Moderator
    loveit said:

    Yay I'm so proud of you! Stick to your guns girl!




    ^This. 

    You know I'm proud of you. I think this is what you've wanted/needed for a long time now. It won't always be easy, it's an emotional ride, but in the end it will be better for you and for B. I truly believe that. You've got to do what @loveit says though: STICK TO YOUR GUNS!! Ride out those times of feeling sad, lonely and torn. Let yourself feel it, pick yourself up and move forward. Once you do that a few times, you'll realize just how strong you are and just how much happier and free you will feel when you're not supporting all that extra weight. Love you!!

    community-manager


  • BeautifulDefianceBeautifulDefiance
    Posts: 755Member
    katz_meow said:

    @irishlsss. might I suggest a rabbit type toy? you get the penetration still and the "ears " vibrate for your clit. I couldn't have survived being single without one.



    ^^^yes this! It will change your life. U may never need a man again lol

    ;) :D :-)) >:)
    I prefer not to think before speaking. I like being just as surprised as everyone else by what comes out of my mouth.

    SMSM_s_5

  • chaosmomchaosmom
    Posts: 3,846Member
    Sammie said:

    loveit said:

    Yay I'm so proud of you! Stick to your guns girl!




    ^This. 

    You know I'm proud of you. I think this is what you've wanted/needed for a long time now. It won't always be easy, it's an emotional ride, but in the end it will be better for you and for B. I truly believe that. You've got to do what @loveit says though: STICK TO YOUR GUNS!! Ride out those times of feeling sad, lonely and torn. Let yourself feel it, pick yourself up and move forward. Once you do that a few times, you'll realize just how strong you are and just how much happier and free you will feel when you're not supporting all that extra weight. Love you!!


    All of this ^^^
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,735Member
    LOL I LOVE you guys! This thread is hilarious! Nowhere else in the world would you get 'buy a rabbit vibrator' and 'stay strong, you can cope with life' in the same 2 mins!

    @sammie I am big on retail therapy, (which is unfortunate given the current financial situation lol!) But if I can treat myself, even to a chocolate bar or something really really cheap on sale, then it lifts me and I don't feel so bad! We all have our crutch, huh?
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
    Posts: 8,250Member
    @Irishlass:  at the risk of repeating my self:  AMAZON!  and two sets of rechargeable batteries!  >:)
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • DemandaDemanda
    Posts: 4,492Member
    :-bd
    Stick to your guns! You can do it!
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • shadylaneshadylane
    Posts: 3,037Member
    why does he have to go on the trip with u, wouldn't it be a lot more fun to go without him newly single? i would tell him to be out by the time i got back
    ~slim shady~
  • irishlassirishlass
    Posts: 6,735Member
    @shadylane in some ways it would! But benji and I have no way of getting there without him driving us, and its a massive family thing. He fits in well with my family and I want to have a babysitterso I can have fun with my sisters! I know it seems like I'm using him, but its also so we can end on a positive note and in a nice setting. And we can get some time to arrange a custody agreement without normal life around us, kwim?
    Also he can pack up in 10mins. He doesn't officially live here even, so it doesn't take long for him to leave!
    "Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." - Dr. Seuss
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