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#211961 Overwhelmed by filthy house
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    MY house is beyond filthy and I don't think I will ever get it clean...I am overwhelmed
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    #211961

    This is not my confession, but I am one of the OMG me too's. I am just curious as to what constitutes a "filthy" house in your book?
    I have shit everywhere. I dont have a place for everything. I hate putting clean laundry away so it sits in a pile on top of my dresser most days. I always have dirty dishes in the sink even right after I run the dishwasher because my boys are pigs. I need to vacuum and mop more than I do especially since I have a huge dog that sheds... Well, I guess Ive scared off every SM from wanting to visit me. LOL
    Next...
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • AnonUser27
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    I think filth as in what you see on hoarders. Like really really disgustingly dirty. Not so much clutter or surface dirt/dust.
  • blkrosemommablkrosemomma
    Posts: 296Member
    Yea I agree with @MassHysteria. I generally have dishes in the sink. Not a ton mind you but there are days where a load will get backed up. I hate folding laundry as well and a lot if tines clean clothes will sit dry in the dryer or in a basket for days. :/ My apartment is a bit unorganized because we thought we were moving and didn't finish settling in. We're working on it now.
  • pdxmama
    Posts: 1,470Member
    MassHysteria said:

    I think filth as in what you see on hoarders. Like really really disgustingly dirty. Not so much clutter or surface dirt/dust.



    this. There is a big difference between filthy and messy.

  • katz_meowkatz_meow
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    filthy to me is uninhabitable. like needs to be vacated. food crusted on counters and stove, piles of dog shit all over, flies and cockroaches everywhere, dirty diapers scattered about, trash heaped on every available surface...yes, sad but true, I've seen places like this.

    I, too, live in the land of clutter, but filth? no. never.
    Judgement comes in many forms but never scarce or shy
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
    Posts: 5,784Member
    Thats just disgusting! I, unfortunately, have seen that too. Mine's just a clusterfuck!
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • mama2tutnkcmama2tutnkc
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    Ithink filth is when you have mold growing your sink, feces on the floor, bags of garbage piled up ect..that's not the same as messy. I battle with messy daily. FOLDING LAUNDRY IS THE DEVIL!!! My kids room looks like a bomb exploded EVERY DAY and I put our clean laundry in my room. Everybody has their own basket & we basically live out of them. I don't have dishes in the sink bc just me & the kids don't use that many (&I admit to being un-eco-friendly and running my dishwasher half full) but there is CRAP every damn where. Boxes of pictures/important papers, shoes, ect. Its not filthy but its just...ugh.. I prefer the term "my home looks "lived in"" rather than messy lol
    feels like *home* to me
  • undercoverbanana
    Posts: 7,904Member
    I get overwhelmed, too. Mainly when everybody just fucks it all up right behind me.....and then get distracted....pick up everything to sweep, and then I notice dust bunnies. Hit some dust bunnies.....then find dirty socks in a weird place....then I see my daughters stuff all over the house......easiest thing is to work up a caffeine buzz, pick up all random shit and throw it in a laundry basket, and hit one room. Make that one room spotless. Take a break. Hit another room. I've noticed it really helps a lot to make a list, and cross things off the list. It feels better, too, when you can cross something off the fucking list with great feeling.....of course, with little kids, its a lot harder.
    i'm nekkid.
  • OxiMOMOxiMOM
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    I agree filth is like a hoarder situation.  Messy/ cluttered is a whole different ball park  then filth.   My house got way behind with DH being home for 3  months.  Yesterday alone I did 4 loads of laundry still have another 2 to do today and everything needs to be brought up from the laundry room and put away still.  I did almost vomit yesterday though, we only have one  railing on our stairs  and tend to put our hands on the wall  when going up or down, I took a bucket and some soapy water and a rag  omg EWWWWWWWWWWWW the wall was so gross and the water turned almost black  it looks much better now but i was so utterly grosed out. 
  • deviltwinsmommadeviltwinsmomma
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    LOL my home is clean but don't open the closets or desk,kitchen, bathrooms drawers Or cabinets that's where I hide my clutter.
    my mother used to sing me a song. It went like this: "Life is short, life is shit, and soon it will be over.
  • regpregp
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    To me:
    Messy:
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    filthy:
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    pretty Messy:
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    filthy:
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  • WildandFree
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    Exactly! @regp
  • DemandaDemanda
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    I'd agree with @regp's assessments. My house is sometimes messy, but never filthy.
    The mess tends to stay in the playroom, unless I'm swamped with schoolwork, then I totally make a mess of the kitchen and my office.
    My bathroom is always very clean because I'm OCD about it. Hell hath no fury like me seeing toothpaste on the mirror or in the sink. That's the only room I'm anal about though. I think it's because it's the only bathroom and it's tiny...it takes less than 10 minutes to get it sparkling like a Mr Clean commercial.
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • regpregp
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    @demanda
    this one's for you 
    :D

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    I'm on the Internet Explorer!
  • mama2tutnkcmama2tutnkc
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    Haha.. way to make her skin crawl @regp
    feels like *home* to me
  • weezerweezer
    Posts: 290Member
    I have a really low threshold for "filth" personally. To me, "mess" is a few toys on the (recently vacuumed) floor or some books laying out on the coffee table. "Filth" is dirty dishes in the sink, food wrappers sitting out, or a bathroom that hasn't been cleaned recently enough (like, a week ago for me). So right now I think my house is messy AND filthy, but it's Martha Stewart Living compared to anything you'd see on Hoarders.
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  • Mommyliciousx4Mommyliciousx4
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    W four kids, two of which are on summer break, it stays messy. There are times when I feel its gross, but those pix helped. Ty @regp.
    My worst room is the laundry room cause that's where we put the dogs at night.
  • BellaBefanaBellaBefana
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    Well, if the above's y'all's idea of filthy, then thank God, I don't qualify!!! But, OC, I'm right there with you.  My house is a mess too, and it's the messy that gets to me.  I used to be such an organized person, now, there's shit everywhere and I'm constantly stepping on wooden blocks or lego's...until the lego's meet the vacuum!   >:)
    Bite me, cupcake!
  • ChickieChickie
    Posts: 129Member
    Messy = stuff out of place. Filthy = stuff bugs or vermin would be attracted to.
    sometimes karma needs a nudge
  • DemandaDemanda
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    Yikes!  Shouldn't have checked this while I was eating, thanks a lot @regp!   :P
    "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." ~ Gloria SteinemPhotobucket
  • regpregp
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    sorry @demanda lol
    I almost barfed looking at it to post it here, if that's any consolation.

    Things are rarely out of place in our house. That's because hubs is a neat freak and I would rather stay on top of everything than get behind the 8 ball.

    I spent plenty of years with "doorbell dread" and refuse to go back.
    I'm on the Internet Explorer!
  • KiinuKiinu
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    I always say my house is a disaster, it's never dirty though.. it's messy and lived in an cluttered and all those things.. bt it's never dirty. We had a room mate living in or addition, oh my god. She was gross. When she left she just, left. Like didn't pay rent, her bed and her kids crib were left behind and they just never came back.. we had to clean it. I had to pick feces out of the rug in there, not to mention the mold.

    After cleaning that shit up, I feel awesome about my house lol.
  • undercoverbanana
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    i would say my house is a constant, everchanging mess, but not filthy........the kids' bathroom can get pretty gross, though. i psyche myself up before i poke my head in, a couple times a week.
    i'm nekkid.
  • PurpleFlowersPurpleFlowers
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    Those pictures are so fucking gross!!! OMG, do peole really live like this? I will never call my house "filthy" again. This thread did actually inspire me to bust my ass cleaning today :D
    Stay away from my chocolate and nobody gets hurt!

    I think I like who I am becoming...
  • regpregp
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    @purpleflowers Google "filthy house" "dirty house" "messy house" like I did and you will be put off your lunch like I was. the things I do for SM lol
    I'm on the Internet Explorer!
  • stevienixxxstevienixxx
    Posts: 119Member
    I have been in some filthy ass houses for work. Like houses that you would see on Hoarders. Literally with shit smeared all over the walls. How do you even get shit on your walls? One time I opened the fridge in a house where the power had been shut of for a week. In July. There was a rotting deer carcass inside. It was like the worst moment of my life! I have lots of similar stories if anyone ever needs to feel better about a messy house. :)
  • AnonUser32AnonUser32
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    Filth, to me, is when the surface underneath the clutter and clothes is dirty, and when you can smell it. Our house is clean and clutter free 99% of the time. We have young babies so we have to keep it up so miss thaang doesn't find stuff on the floor and eat it. I have a girlfriend who tells me she is jealous at how clean my house is. She has a 6mo and her house is wrecked. She is a sahm also. I've gone to her place and it smells like cats *ick* and dirty clothes and old food....
    Without reason you have Rhythm and Rhyme the type of girl who knows how to have a good time... You take what you want except no for an answer... And I know first hand you're one hell of a dancer... So calling all cars and low and behold you're a real livewire with a heart of gold
  • bluemom
    Posts: 154Member
    I am an obsessive purger. I throw away everything, I've been known to throw away the paper before it's been read,lol! So, my house is never really cluttered or dirty, but with 6 kids, it is always MESSY. Toys scattered, shoes piled up by the door, lunch mess on the counter, and I never let anyone in the laundry room because the tower of dirty clothes might fall on them.
  • WhoDatIsWhoDatIs
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    Isn't this a support confession? What if OC lives in what you called filth and is overwhelmed wanting help? I mean obviously people do live that way or there wouldn't be pictures available, and I doubt their self esteem is very high, they KNOW their house is filthy.


    I admit I was an OMG to this confession. My place is somewhere in the middle of your pictures. No food or trash or feces but we walk on top of laundry, toys, papers that came home from school. We have to maneuver around boxes that were my half-assed attempts at sorting through junk. For me it seems to be a symptom of my depression. My brain couldn't figure out where to start I just felt hopeless and that overwhelmed me. The place got messier and then I felt more depressed and overwhelmed.
    Starting an antideppressant now I have finally gotten a clear head. The kids and I have set a plan for daily projects to get the rooms in order before school starts. We broke it down by what's in the room. Today and yesterday we're doing laundry/clothes. Tomorrow we're doing books. Next day is shoes. Each day we leave the mess there we just reduce it by going through and sorting out the themed items for the day and then organizing just those things. Eventually it will be gone. But I could never do this when I was depressed.
    OC if you're in a situation like mine or worse, you should talk to your doctor. There is help.
    You and me, we go way back.
  • regpregp
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    @whodatis - I don't think anyone here is being un-supportive but maybe I missed it? And they are not my pictures, just googled them and the bathroom one - yeah, it made me feel sick. 

    I hope the OC sees your comment and does go to their doctor for help. And I'm glad that YOU took that step and did it too! As I mentioned earlier, I suffered from doorbell dread for too many years (in my case, XH was not only not helpful in cleaning anything up, he actively made serious messes worse than any child) and I hate for anyone to feel that hopeless about their living situation.
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  • battibatti
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    @whodatis I totally could have written your whole comment, sounds just like me and my house.

    SMSM_s_5

  • AnonUser28
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    I have a dust problem... and DH's room does verge on filth sometimes, I'm not allowed in there to clean very often.

    The best thing to do OC is to start in one place. Focus on one room, one closet, one problem area, and make that a project for the day. You work on that until it is done to your satisfaction. Then you move on to the next bit. That keeps it from getting overwhelming. The best way to do it is to empty out the area completely, and then clean it (dust/wash/disinfect). You can then put the items back one by one, throwing out the clutter, and cleaning each individual item on it's way back into its area.
  • WhoDatIsWhoDatIs
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    Hmm I dunno it felt judgemental to me in some parts. The whole thread wasn't but not too terribly supporting either more.like an offshoot of the subject. I dunno maybe I'm thinking about it too hard. :-/
    You and me, we go way back.
  • cheesehead4ever
    Posts: 735Member

    I will tell you what is filthy (all thought the deer carcass rotting in the fridge certainly qualifies).  A local firefighter was telling me about a medical call they went on (obviously couldn't give me location or name).  House out in the middle of the country.  The crew walks in and are just overpowered by the smell.  After further investigation, they discovered that all of the toilets were not hooked up to the septic system and all of the toilet "out" pipes just emptied into the basement.  The basement was at least 2/3 of the way full.

    At least I know my house is better than that one!

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