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Partners ex partner
  • zoozanna5zoozanna5
    Posts: 156Member
    What kind of relationships ( if any) have you had with partners ex? Do you have good relationship? Bad? Sensible regarding kids? Step children? Does your partner love/hate his ex? Get on? not get on?
    My ex HATES his ex but has tried most of time to get on for his daughters sake.
    She and I have hated each other in the past, learnt to accept each other and even got on well, because she helped me look after DH's sick Mother...
    Recently, when DH and I announced our marriage she suddenly told me my step daughter ( her daughter, ) hated me! She then bitched about me to my DH ( her ex )
    I have chosen to rise above it as its obviously a case of sour grapes....DH refused to marry her, despite her having his child!
    She actually said to me, "How did you get him to do that?"
    Recently DH and ex had a row on phone ( about their daughter starting University) and he called her ( the ex ) a "Gobshite" to her and then to her daughter....
    It was left to me to smooth things over with EVERYBODY!!!!
    Anyone else find themselves acting as "go-betweens"?
  • NewEnglandGal
    Posts: 478Member
    I only have to be the "go-between" for DH and MIL. That's bad enough!
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 2,589
    I'm sorry I have no advice for you. :( I admire your attitude rising above and smoothing things over though!
  • CrashCrash
    Posts: 8,215Member
    I have no relationship with my hubs' ex. This is probably a good thing. Her daughter (my step daughter) hates me, pretty much, jealous, thinks I'm not good enough, etc etc. I posted months ago about this. We went to a family wedding just a bit ago, and me and the ex were cordial to each other, but had nothing to say.
    See ya in another life, sister!
  • [Deleted User]
    Posts: 5,232
    I have no relationship with any of his ex's, nor mine. We are lucky! The only kid that isn't "ours" is ds, and even though hes "mine" his sperm donor is nothing more, and so soon, he will be "ours." BLESSED.
  • LoveLove
    Posts: 12,789Administrator, Moderator
    I am the go between for DH and his ex. Only because she and I can have a conversation that doesn't end in swearing 8 out of 10 times LOL I've posted about this earlier too. She buys me gifts for my birthday and Mother's Day and is really sweet to my face, while talking about me behind my back. Our attorneys (ours AND hers) told us that she's extremely jealous of my relationship with the boys, and thus the friction. We get along on the surface of things, and that's good enough for me right now. She almost didn't live through my pregnancy, though.

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  • Giggity
    Posts: 56Member
    I have no relationship: never talked to, emailed, or seen her irl. The stepkids are wonderful. And his relationship with her is civil. It'd be better but her DH is a jealous guy.
  • zoozanna5zoozanna5
    Posts: 156Member
    Thanks guys....relatively new here so must have missed previous posts regarding partners exes....
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