A mom got sick of all the questions people were constantly asking her about her twin girls, and decided to make a funny. Unfortunately, the internet doesn’t always handle “funny” well.
Annie Nolan staged a photo where she had her twin girls hold signs addressing the frequently asked questions she gets from people she doesn’t know. She put her two adorable girls in their double stroller and snapped this photo:
Yes, they are mine. Yes, both girls. Yes, triplets would be harder. Conceived by f***ing. It’s hard to believe that strangers would ask someone how they conceived their child, but apparently this is a thing that people do. That’s pretty damn nosy.
Nolan added this commentary to the photo:
I REALLY wanted to leave these signs on the pram today. As a twin mum, you get asked a series of questions/hear a series of statements EVERYTIME you go out. I know most people are coming from a great place and are just curious however many can be quite intrusive and after a while it’s just plain exhausting. And since I was heading into the city, I knew the questions would be coming thick and fast… but I chickened out on the train and took them off!
P.S- it is a joke people 😜
She never actually went out in public with the signs, she merely staged the photo as a joke for her blog page. Well, we can’t let a mother have a sense of humor about her own life now, can we? Offended internet to the rescue! The internet showed up to let Nolan know that she was a jerk for making a joke. They used the usual arguments easily offended internet moms use when refusing to have a sense of humor:
1. The “Blessed” Argument: “You’re very blessed!! I have always been fascinated by the miracle of twins and have lots of questions!… Spare a thought… having a quick chat to you and engaging with your two gorgeous little girls might just make someone’s day! Someone who isn’t as fortunate as you.”
2. The Overdramatic Mom: “Jeez..what a sad world! Let’s all just not look at each other and not talk to each other and whatever we do, let’s not learn from each other! Perhaps we should not go out at all! No risk of being talked to or about then!”
3. ‘This Doesn’t Sit Well With Me’ Mom: “I find this quite rude… For some reason it really doesn’t sit well with me. Not sure why… I love having people stop and talk to me about my babies.”
4. The Guilt Tripper: “So many people who cant have kids or have lost them. Asking one of those questions may bring a little bit of joy to their life. Consider another viewpoint other than your own.”
5. The Straight-Up Mean B**ch: “And what is so wrong about others striking up a friendly conversation about your lovely little girls? You sound like a sarcastic hag (I can’t believe your of language as to how they were conceived, written on cardboard leaning on your daughters.) That is so ignorant of you as a woman and as their mother. Maybe it’s best that you have warned us that you prefer to be ignored. You need your head examined.”
I’m sure Nolan engages people daily and has no problem with it. But surely we can understand that it would be slightly annoying to constantly answer these questions. Anyone who has ever been pregnant knows that benign conversation from well-meaning strangers can get annoying after a while. This photo is simply a commentary on that, and it’s funny. And if you don’t think it’s funny, fine. But no need to skewer a mom who was just having a bit of fun.
Stephen Fry has a great quote about people being offended, and it seems fitting to leave it here:
“It’s now very common to hear people say, ‘I’m rather offended by that.’ As if that gives them certain rights. It’s actually nothing more… than a whine. ‘I find that offensive.’ It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. ‘I am offended by that.’ Well, so fucking what.”