Despite feeling like I have the most impossible children in the world sometimes, I recognize that I have it pretty easy. I face no special challenges or particular obstacles. My kids can be enormous pains the the asses, but as kids go, they are really pretty easy. I have the utmost respect for my friends who parent gracefully when faced with challenges like special needs, severe allergies or single parenthood. I really just can’t imagine what it would be like to have that added stress.
My friends who have multiples, however, ignite an entirely different reaction in me. I can imagine what it would be like to have multiples of any of my children and honestly… the thought fucking terrifies me.
When Evan is having a tantrum, it takes all of my might not to get in his face and scream at him just as ridiculously as he is screaming at me. If there were two of him? God help me. The sound of Ben whining trumps any other annoying sound I have ever heard in my entire life. If I were to hear a similar sound coming out of two mouths at once? I’m not sure I would make it. And, just flashing forward to more than one Lily suffering through adolescence is one of the more horrifying thoughts I’ve ever had.
Now, I know that twins and triplets and all multiples have entirely different personalities and you aren’t merely cloning one child. Of course. But, it’s still the same age and stage times two. Or, three. Or, God forbid, four. Pairs of newborns up all night screaming. Multiple terrible twos. Numerous fresh fours. Teenage years on steroids. I probably ended up with singletons because the forces that be knew it was all I could handle. It’s definitely all I can handle.
Seriously, moms of multiples, I don’t know how you all do it. I suppose along with the double drama and double tantrums and double sleeping trouble, come double the first smiles and laughs and kisses and that makes it all worth it. Of course, it makes it all worth it.
I just hope you’re having double the drinks at cocktail time. You’ve certainly earned them.
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definitely double the drinks.
They deserve more than double the drinks. For sure.
Isn’t that the truth? I often wonder how moms of multiples do it. One at a time can seem too much. But like with everything else, I’m sure they do it because they have/want to. And then you gradually get used to it and it doesn’t seem so hard. Though man, I can’t imagine.
I had 6 in 6 years with the last being triplets, I don’t remember much about the triplets first 2 years, just a blur of existence, but now they are 7 – 13 and a joy – well sometimes. I think all us Mums just muddle through and do our best whatever comes our way!
6 in SIX years? You deserve a medal. 6 of them.
My cousin just had triplets last Friday and they already had a six year old, a four year old and a two year old! I can’t imagine doubling my family overnight and I only have two.
Of course we’re having multiple cocktails! It’s the only way, right?!
Hey, thanks for the love. As a mom of triplet toddler girls, I can tell you I’m scared to death about the upcoming teenage years. The only thing I can think is that with that many kids, my chances are just that much greater of being cared for in my old age, right?
Yes, that’s true. But, my head does hurt for you just thinking about age 12 on. Oy. Let’s hope they don’t all get married around the same time!
I don’t know about triplets, but I have twin girls who are 15 and puberty was rough. They’re starting to settle back down now and we have more good days then bad, but I’ll tell ya for a couple of years there I really wanted to smother them in their sleep most nights! Sit back and enjoy the ride and develop a thick skin!
Well, I do have an older daughter who’s 14 and she’s giving me practice. The fear is real, but we’ll get through. When the little girls are her age, maybe she’ll remember those days and help her mama out a bit (at least be a reminder that we can all survive – assuming we do survive through this first bout of teenage years.) :-)
Thanks scary mommy for recognizing us!! :)
I can’t fathom it for one minute… 2 Kaishon’s would put me over the edge.
I have 5 year old twins. I enjoy my double vodka with double chocolate chip cookies while waiting for my double-long, twice-weekly therapy appointments. I did not, however, employ more than one method of contraception, and so also have a 3 year old. Life is a neverending joy. No, really.
http://daysofwhineandroses.com
I take it now you use quadruple contraception? May I suggest it? :)
At times, its fucking hell with triplets. Other times not so much.
There’s to triple the wine.
Anytime ‘double trouble tantrums’ are happening, repeat this in your mind: “Let your inner calmness subdue the storm.”
It really does work by the way. It’s like “Zen and the Art of Being a Parent.”
Even though I don’t have multiples, I do have 5 kids (7, 6, 5, almost 2 years & 3 wks. The 3 oldest are step but I love them like my own!) it gets pretty nuts around here sometimes… I’m thinking I’m stealing this quote & going to use it! Darn that I didn’t read this earlier today as the youngest 2 were screaming by the time we got home from running an errand.
As cheesy as the line sounds, it really just means that your kids will always follow your vibe and reality as long as you believe it enough. If you react emotionally to their tantrums, it tells them that what they’re doing is something effective and accepted in society, so they’ll do it more. If you don’t respond to it emotionally, they’ll realize it’s not part of your reality/worldview. I hope my psychobabble had some nugget you can take with you. Off to an Incubus concert.. ta ta!
I don’t know what I would do with multiples …. my daughter just turned 13 the age of PMS, attitude & smart assery. So quite a few times a day I contemplate locking myself in my room with an alcoholic beverage just to get a break from it lol.
Right now? I honestly have to say, while the rest of the world is cursing Mondays, I count down the freckin’ minutes until Monday comes. Weekends, 24/7 with twin 2 1/2yr olds (let’s not even talk about the damn LONG weekends) are all levels of hell at the moment.
I was actually reduced to tears last weekend (a long one, remember? Ah-hem).
Cheers for the ode; it’s really one damn day at a time ;)
I don’t know how these moms do it! I only have 2 and I need lots of wine at night. Still contemplating the 3rd….but after reading this post & reminding me of a few horrors, I am thinking NO.
It’s hard in the beginning but then you don’t have to play chutes and ladders with them because you can never get the rules straight. They’d rather play without you.
That’s what I love most about having 3– that they can entertain each other. It’s the best.
One of the draw-backs of an only…. no in-house playmate. For a year or so, the following sentence came out of his mouth so much, it became a family joke: “Mumma, watch me play.”
When you meet people on the street who don’t have twins, they all say “look- twins! You’re so lucky.”
Meet someone who has twins and they say “it gets easier.”
But I get to mess with other people who think twins have weird connections. Especially identicals.
Can’t imagine what people with triplets go through. Wanted to jump out of a one-story window lots of times.
Meeting someone on the street who doesn’t have multiples is pretty interesting, especially if you have triplets. We do get the comments. My DH and I started giving the typical comments numbers, just to make it easier to relay what someone said. It’s the funniest when people use 2 typical comments one right after another without thinking – i.e,:
Stranger: “You have triplets?”
Me: “Yes.”
Stranger: “Are they all yours?”
Me: “Uh..”, chuckling, “yeah, that’s generally how triplets come, but I swear sometimes I think one of them came straight from the devil.”
(Oh, all right, I really don’t say the last bit, but it does make for a funnier story, right? And sometimes I do think it, especially about the one we call “Angel”)
Thanks for the love. Most days are great, others make me want to jump into a bathtub holding my hairdryer. 1 girl and twin boys, 15 months apart, might as well be triplets.
Ouch! I thought I had it bad. My twins are 2 1/2 and baby boy is 5 months.
I agree! I cannot imagine.
this made me laugh. it’s definitely intense.
This made me laugh!! As a mom of twin (almost) 3 year old boys and a 5 year old girl, I certainly need twice the drinks!!!
I have twin girls, identical who are 6. It has een tough, ut it is also the collest thing that has ever happened to me. When they turned 4, I had another girl…now if she was a twin, I would be in the nuthouse!!!!
Nice spelling, obviously twins has made me a moron.
You are completely forgiven for all misspellings in life. You have twins, after all.
Hi there…
I am a mom of a 10 year old boy and TRIPLET 7 1/2 (gotta have the half in there or I will get yelled at) GIRLS!
They make me cry, drive me insane, anger me so much, but at the end of the day they make me laugh and give me more love than I could ever ask for.
Did we want triplets? No. Did we use fertility? No way. Au Natural baby. From being extremely terrified to completely exhausted to so freaking broke to unbelievably filled with joy in the last 7 1/2 years is amazing.
It is normal to me now. And I would not change a thing.
I have 2 girls 1 year apart. They look the same and same size. Everyone thinks they are twins, they might as well. It’s very hard anyways with them but it is twice the love…
Ladies, I’m here to tell you everything will be all right and I have lived to tell about it! My identical twin boys just turned 24..I guess I shouldn’t call them boys anymore huh?
I was/am a single parent from the age of 4yrs old (them not me) the only thing I can say is I didn’t start to like them till the were around 9 years old. I swear I never thought I would ever say that I want all of those years back!!
I didn’t realize how close they actually were until they went away to college. They chose the same college, they have the same Under Grad Degree, they roomed together, joined the same Fraternity, and they are both currently sharing an apartment in Manhattan.
I’m very proud to say they have survived my madness, and not so perfect parenting skills both of them are college graduates and one of them just got his Masters Degree in Finance.
So…I am telling you this as a Mom that rushed every stage, I wished away the years, and now I want them back. .I know you all are constantly going, and it can be overwhelming…savor every moment and drink a lot of wine!
Thank you, thank you. :) Us moms of multiples have it rough, but we also have it good. Doublely good!
I’m a mother of B/G twins. & to tell you the truth I don’t even remember the first year. The twins will be 2 in Sept & I’m counting down until they are in Kindergarten. & some days when they are 18. lol
Most days are hard. But when they tell you that they love you or give you a kiss & hug it’s all worth it. But then they both gang up on you & your back to tearing your hair out. I just take it minute by minute. My goal is to get thru the day.
I’m 7.5 months in with my triplets (1/3 starting teething), & I still refuse to acknowledge that future stages are going to induce binge drinking. Some might call that naïve or ignorant. I call it a survival tactic. They are tons of fun and gooey-heart makers, though!
I am in awe of people with only one child… The thought of multiples is terrifying! Y’all are totally AMAZING :)
I had twins after having my first two kids 15 months apart, twins were easier, really they were. With the first two, they napped at different times and woke up 2-3 times a night until 2. When the twins arrived I read the baby books and followed them religiously, the babies slept through the night by 4 months, and took 3 hour naps in the afternoon, at the same time. (they even popped at the same time). Twins were easier, they are 12 now, ask me in a year how its (hormonally) going.
Thank you for the recognition. It *was* hard, the first ten years anyway, but now we seem to be on vacation. I understand that will change around 15. I gave up alcohol when I was pregnant but found chocolate does just as well in its’ place.
Thanks for the shout out! With my twins as my 1st kids, I luckily don’t know how hard one kid can be — having two (and now 3) is all I know! But I did learn that it’s all relative.
The sucky part IS when one sets the other off for no reason whatsoever. And now? We’re potty training. Double the accidents. But it seems like quadruple the laundry.
Thanks, Scary Mommy. It is definitely an effort and most of us moms of multiples drink copious amounts of wine and other spirits. Really.
Thanks for the respect Scary Mom! You hit it – it’s not so much that there is more than one – it’s more than one at the same developmental stage! They drive me fricken crazy at times! When both of them have been screaming I’ve asked them “ok what are we going to do if mommy starts screaming, because I really want to” – generates some of the most confused looks I have ever seen from 2 year olds.
As a mom of triplets and three singletons, one aspergers, one juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, one severe food allergies, I thank you for giving me my props. Ps just got back from a girls night out, lots of fun and laughs, but home ready for bed after barely two drinks! None of us moms have it easy no matter how many kids we have. I’m enjoying the fact that they still don’t mind being seen with me, and somewhat fearing the tween and teen year! Afterall I was once that age ugh!
You know, whenever folks have asked “How do you do it?’ it’s always a pretty straightforward “You just DO!” :) What we DO elect to do (and one of the few things we CAN control, whether moms of multiples of otherwise) is how we choose to see our glass. Mine’s doubly full….in every possible way. :) :)
Love to you and your beautiful crew, Scary!
It is so rewarding and your right they are totally different. my girls are now almost 4 months old. they are really good babies so it helps. i have double the drinks for sure when i need to. patience is the key though. rock on M.O.M.
Thank you. I have two sets of twins. People ask me how I do it, they say they would lose their minds. To that I say, yes, yes, I have, lost –my —mind. Bwah ha ha ha !
Yep, we rock!
It’s a lot of hard work being the mom of multiples. But it’s fun too. Plus, there’s the whole built-in playmate thing. And your kids are a little more indepentant (because they have to be) so it works out.
Ugh – ditto on everything. I have triplets. They are 5. I wear ear plugs everyday. The hardest part is the arguing and noise. This is by far the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I love them dearly, but I’m so ready for them to go to bed at night. Honestly, having newborn triplets was much easier than having preschool triplets. I was sleep deprived but didn’t deal with the stress level I have now.
That is too funny! But much appreciated. So many people think having twins is just two for the price of one, or getting it over with. it is actually nice to hear someone who doesn’t actually have to get it, understand some of it.
Luckily however, they do not often freak out simultaneously. Or at least not mine. But man can they fight! And yes the terrible twos times two can be hellified!
But thanks none the less! :)
You are so right, Jill. Hilarious.
I silently thanked my lucky stars when my sonogram came back with one heart beat. But honestly, my son has so much energy I feel like I’m parenting four children anyway.
That pretty much sums it up! I feel like I’m constantly running laps!
Thank you! It’s about time we got some respect;) What I really need along with my two sets of twins is a twin liver to keep all those cocktails in check!!
I can barely handle the two that I have and they are 5 1/2 years apart. I can’t imagine 2 (or more) the same age.
As the mother of multiples, boy/girl twins, it is everything you describe and then some.. but somehow you manage, and yes double the drinks help..
Thanks for the recognition. Your right we do get twice the love as well as twice the headaches… I wouldnt have it any other way. I am dreading the teenage years but since I have double kids I have a double plan, I call it the double V…. vodka and valium!!! I am stocking up on it now. Being a twin is special and being a twin mum is even more special.
With the first I was hoping for twins, with the second.. not so much
I had an adorable baby boy. 19 months later I gave birth to twin daughters. Two years after the girls were born, I packed them all up and moved three hours away from my good-for-nothing husband. I found that raising him along with the three kids was just too difficult. So for a few years I was a single mom of multiples (whole other set of challenges). Like someone mentioned in an earlier post, “I just do” became my standard answer for “How do you do it?” I’m remarried now, and my kids are 11, 9 and 9. It’s definitely easier these days since they are all out of diapers and daycare, but I can already see those hormones heading our way, and all I can do is fasten my seatbelt for the bumpy ride.
I’ll drink to that!
Awesome! Double the drinks for me and plus one! Lol. It’s us hard. Kids are hard. There is just enough insanity every day that makes me question all my decisions and then just enough joy that confirms I am blessed. Love the post!
wb
I remember Jeff’s grandma (she helped raise her twin granddaughters) saying to me before I had kids, “don’t let anyone tell you that twins are double the trouble. They are like 10x’s the trouble/work.” Those words came back to haunt me when I found out I was pregnant with twins. That first year was a blur. That’s all I’m saying.
I’m a triplet… I don’t know how my mother did it with all us girls and I thank God I didn’t have multiples. I’m with you Jill, I couldn’t handle it. Needless to say, I don’t call her when I’m having a kid-crisis-mental-moment. She’s seen it all, done it all and has very little sympathy…
I always thought it would be SO MUCH FUN to be a triplet. So… is it?!?
Wow!! Thanks for responding!! ‘Rubbing elbows’ with THE Scary Mommy!!
Being a triplet was fun, it had it’s benefits. I was never alone in doing things, wether it was a dentist appt. or family reunions… They were my posse and I was theirs. Even now, I haven’t spoken to them in a couple of weeks, but when I do-we pick up right where we left off.
The downside of being a triplet… well, without being too specific, I was the odd-one out. K, that sounds weird… We were 2 eggs, they were one, I was one. We have many similarities but they do look like twins, which only magnified any time someone asked about us. At the time, I felt left out and all I wanted was to fit in. Strange how even in a trio, there was still division. Regardless, it made me a stronger person today and I am very thankful for the great relationship we still have.
Thanks again for responding!!! You TOTALLY made my Monday!
At the risk of sounding ass-kissy… great article!
First of all, you’re too sweet. Secondly, interesting. Three is always an odd dynamic, I think. But, still, two sisters! I’m totally jealous.
Wait, I also can’t forget our older sister, older by 5yrs. Like I said, I don’t know how my mother did it and I’m sure counting my blessings that it was her and not me!! Also, our dad… how the heck did he manage with SO much estrogen in the house??
After I became a father I had to thank/apologize to my parents. There was a point where they had twin infant daughters, a 3 year-old girl and a very active 5 year-old boy to deal with.
And mom did it with no help- now I understand why she would sometimes fall asleep reading stories to us.
I have 4 y/o triplets, on the down side there are three of them and just one of me, on the plus side I have never played a single game of chutes and ladders or candyland, because there are three of them :)
I am the mother of seven kids, most of them teenagers. I have four boys aged 19, 16, 14 and 5, and three girls aged 17 (moved out) and 14 (non-identical twins). I ‘inherited’ the twins when they were 8 and I got together with their dad (we have full custody).
It has to be said that our home is almost always chaotic, rarely quiet but always full of love and laughter.
I don’t have multiples, but I think the saving grace as they get older must be that they have one another to play with. A constant playmate has got to make it worth it.
I have a t-shirt that says “I have twins, make mine a double!” with an image of a very happy mother holding a cocktail. That sums up life with multiples! I had 2 sets of twins and ended up with 6 kids in 5 years. Bring on the cocktails!
bring on the cocktails indeed! my friend has a shirt that says “I laugh at your ONE child”
cheers!
wendy @ mamaonetothree
I’ve got to get me one of those. Fab.
As a mother or triplets and 2 singletons ( born 14 moths apart!) I thank you for expressing that parenting multiples is defiantly different than parenting singles :)
Thanks for the shout out. Multiples are hard, the rewards are great and I think we parents of multiples single-handedly keep the wine industry in the black. I wouldn’t give it up for the world.
I’m with you. Definitely life in stereo. Or surround sound. Anyway, brutal.
My preemie b/g twins will be 7 in September. I think the only thing that has helped me so far is seeing what my friends with more than one child go through. I was pregnant 8 months. They’ve been pregnant YEARS. Everything I have done they have had to deal with for twice the length of time. Diapers, breastfeeding, terrible two’s and potty training. When we are done with a stage that is it. We gladly get to move onto the next and not have to lather, rinse, and repeat.
The drinking does help, too. :)
I have twin 9 year old boys. The first year was super hard. They hardly ever slept at the same time, one of them was ALWAYS awake!! Things are much easier now. They are each others best friends or worst enemies. Double the trouble, but double the fun. And the drinking does help!!
When my first son was born, I wondered how in the world people handle more than one baby at a time. Seven years later, I was pregnant with twins and FREAKING out just a little bit. :) It all worked out well and I even ended up nursing the twins longer than I did with my first-born. :)
I’ve no idea how they do it, either. If I had 2 Dimitry’s, with all his loudness? I’d be deaf by now! But I also don’t know how moms of three kids do it, either… how DO you do it? ;)
Single mom of 17 y/o triplets here, and I’ve been in recovery for 25 years, so no triple the drinks!
So far, all honor roll students, no delinquents, and I still have all my hair. (although it is turning gray faster than I can keep Loreal in business, and, they don’t have their drivers’ licenses yet).
We all do what we have to do, and no doubt you would have found a way to do it too.
Thanks, but we’re not as special as you give us credit for. :-)
Thanks for this one! As a mom of 8 month old twin girls, sometimes I feel like life is nothing more than waking up, changing diapers, making bottles and making sure one does not scratch out the others’ eye… because that seems to be the new discovery this week (after sticking out tongue and drowning me in drool…)
But then again: I wouldn’t wanna miss them!
Thanks for the shout out to multiple moms. Having 3 in 2 years (girl and then twin boys) has been incredibly challenging, but you know, you just learn to manage. The hardest thing is having 3 kids who are relatively close in their emotional neediness. I am always outnumbered. And speaking as someone who is in the throes of “fresh fours” with 2 *ahem* exuberant twin boys, my answer is I have no effing idea how I do it. Caffeine and pharmaceuticals, mostly.
After my twins were born, I thanked god they were triplets. Twins are hard enough. High praises to those with more multiples.
*weren’t triplets. Stupid brain.
I have two babies 10months apart and a friend who has teenage twins. She said to me that she didn’t know how I coped with my babies (I have 3 older kids too). I asked her what she meant, She has twins!!!! So she said because I have to feed them two different stage foods use two different size pampers and do different age appropriate activities with them. So I said “true but you have twins!” her response? “oh twins are easy (!!!???!!!???!!) nothing compared with what you’re doing” is she crazy or what?? But I love her because just at that time it was exactly what I needed to hear! ; )
Before I had any kids I wanted 4 and adored the idea of twins. Now I have three and that’s my lot. And the twins thing? The idea of twins on top of these three is absolutely terrifying!
The only thing I wondered about (and maybe someone would like to educate me) was whether twins are naturally better at sharing? I know that’s probably a dumb question – who enjoys sharing right?! – but you hear of the great bond, especially between identicals, so I just wondered if that made a difference?
I always wanted twins, but clearly God knew I could only handle ONE Ellie. She is dear, but the thought of two children swinging from the lights & doing tricks and stunts throughout the house would raise our health insurance for sure.
Kudos to moms of multiples… I couldn’t do it…
A-greed!
I can’t even imagine…. I feel like I am barely holding on as it is with mine. Once I dreamt I found out we had an oops baby and it was surprise triplets. Let me tell you, I have NEVER been so happy to wake up and realize it was all a dream!
This reminds me of how I just read something in the newspaper today about Nadia Sulleman and how she flew to New York alone with all but 2 of her kids (the oldest two stayed at home?). Anyway she had no help and the kids were going bonkers on the plane and she just shrugged and basically said something along the lines of ‘there is nothing she can do, kids are rowdy.’ Apparently, the whole plane full of people were frustrated with her.
But yeah, my kids were the kind of kids that make colic kids look like happy and quiet babies. The colic crew has it easy, those kids only cry for 3-4 hours up to about 3 or 4 months. My first cried from sun up to sun down (vampire?) for the first four months! My second cried from birth until about three months old all day and all night. Also, I had to hold him 24/7 or the crying got much worse.
Off to fill myself a drink.
I have 6-year-old twin boys (and if that’s not daunting enough, both are markedly affected by autism to boot!), and at any given time I’m sure I’ve got it easier than many, yet harder than most. Bottom line, this business of raising kids is effing HARD, and there are just no easy ways to go about getting it done. But we’re all doing it, just the same. :-)
God bless you my friend! And you are right – raising kids is hard – challenging in a different way for every mom.
Hi! I have a confession- bringing home my twins (numbers 4 and 5) was easier than bringing home baby number 3…my twins slept, ate and often pooped at the same time, and mostly they cried for the first three months with colic all night long together too…but after that-easy peasy!!!!!!!seriously…they like the same toys, same tv shows etc….the other three, they were a different story, because they were always at different stages, even though they were close in age…thinking you should come to my house for a visit and see how easy they are!?
There is something really special about having multiples and then there is something really “special” about having multiples. I love how mine bond and are so close to each other but they can get into trouble like no other. What one doesn’t think of the other does. My singletons could NEVER come up with the things that my surviving triplets can. And potty training more than one child at a time? So, so “special.”
I would not have wanted to deal with double newborns, eek.
I sometimes feel as though I have multiples given the three were born in 2 years 8 months, but I still escaped that horror of trying to bottle or breastfeed two starving infants at the same time.
Thank you!
Lmao!!! I have 5 and my last 2 were a set a twin boys, after my 1st 3 being girls! It is absolutely impossible to explain the chaos that our home is constantly in. The living room and/or dining rooms are always being used for some sort of fort or tent or jungle adventure on top of a 24/7 wrestling/super hero fighting match. Most days I am pulling my hair out before dinner and counting down the minutes til bedtime by 8 pm, lol! But, they are the most lovable, kind-hearted, awesome little people that I have ever had the privilege of knowing! Having 2 at one time definitely changed my perspective on motherhood, but I wouldn’t change it for anything!!!
I guess God only gives multiples to those who can handle them. They have their moments, but it is nothing like you describe. I can’t tell you how often I hear these sorts of comments from people and how offensive it is to me and all the mothers of multiples I know. I know you didn’t mean it to hurt, but it is always a gentle stab at our children.
Wow, seriously? This was offensive? As a mother of triplets, I found her article to be refreshingly honest and congratulatory to all mothers of multiples. Personally as an older mom anyway, keeping up with triplet toddlers is tough, so to have someone acknowledge it and say double or triple the kids at the same developmental age is so much different than singletons – even close together. I needed that validation today. Please don’t consider me as a Mother of Multiples offended by this article – nope, I have plenty of other stuff that I can be offended by – this wasn’t one of them.
Not sure why ur offended really. But whatever floats ur boat.
Mom of identical twins
please don’t speak for “all the mothers of multiples” – I totally disagree with you. I wasn’t offended at all and I didn’t see it as a stab at my children at all. the author was not saying *my* children were crazy or too hard to handle, she was saying she can’t imagine handling more than one kid going through the same thing at the same time.
Definatly challanging, i have one teenage daughter and twin boys at the age of six. Sometimes you really just want to grap one and slap the other with him :P
Nahh but i love them and the chaos they implement in this house.
I have twin girls coming home from the hospital at the end of the week. I am definitely afraid. We’ll just take it slow.
good plan my friend, take it slow. My girls were in NICU for 15 days and honestly – it was the best thing ever – gave me time to heal from the c-section and get used to the idea. then, both my sisters took turns visiting and helping. ASK for help from everyone you know – you will need it.
Really well worth it when you see the double smiles and double laughing. When you see them playing with each other and hugging and kissing. Really makes the double screaming and crying worth the hassle.
I have identical twin girls.
As a mother to a 3 boys, a 10 yr old and twin 2 yr olds, I can honestly say I have had it both ways. Thanks for being so real about motherhood and mothering multiples. While I love them, some days I need quadruple the cocktails to deal LOL
As a mother of of 2 1/2 year old twins and a mother of a 14 month old baby with a rare chromosomal disorder – I can tell you… drinks are definitely in order ;) Kristen http://www.alittlesomethingforme.com
@Kristen
I read you blog and am so amazed and touched. I cant find the words but just wanted to say thank you. My twins are 2 1/2 and the twin tantrums are in full force and sometimes I feel at the end of my rope..Thank you for your inspiration. Your children are beautiful.
@Cindy
Thank you. Thank you for the compliment on my kids and my blog. Sometimes I feel at the end of my rope also. The twin tantrums are .. awful – aren’t they?! I hope you keep reading – I don’t know that I’ll always be inspirational – but I hope to always be there :)
My twin (boy/girl) toddlers drive me insane. I (or should I say that hubby and I both agree) that there will be no more kids in our future.
I love my twins to the ends of the earth but I am done with kids. Just done.
Am new to your blog. Its awesome!
Um, no. It doesn’t make it all worth while. at least not yet. My twins are 17 months old and we have a 4 year old as well. So many more challenges than rewards right now.