Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy
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You know those kids who you see out shopping who are so misbehaved that you can’t even be annoyed because you’re too busy pitying the parents? Or those children who belong to friends of yours, whom you bitch about all the way from from dinner and count your blessings that you didn’t breed those little monsters? Or, the obnoxious delinquents seated near you at a restaurant that you spend your whole meal glaring at? Yes? Well, I do, and unfortunately, they belong to me.
I don’t know what’s going on– whether it’s backlash from the move, from the new school, from me working or if they’ve all suddenly just morphed into unlikeable little beings. What I do know, is that they are each pretty unbearable at the moment. Sure, they’ve gone annoying phases before, but usually they seem to subconsciously coordinate with each other so they aren’t all suffering through them at once. It’s much appreciated. But, now? No such luck.
Ben, who is usually the easiest and most agreeable by far, cannot seem to speak a word without whining it. Everything is a fight– what I pick for him to wear, what’s for dinner or what the temperature happens to be. Everything. It’s exhausting. Lily has been acting like a spoiled little brat. I am the enemy in every situation and she goes from sweet and agreeable to a screaming lunatic in an instant. I have actually wondered if she seriously suffers from multiple personality disorder. It’s really quite bizarre. And, Evan is just an all around disaster. He is manipulative and demanding and just plain impossible.
Once you put the three of them together, the result is pretty unbelievable. Yesterday I left them unsupervised for 5 minutes to pay some bills and came out of the office to find my family room couch in the dining room. Every pillow was thrown off and all three were jumping from the table to the couch like wild animals. You wouldn’t believe what the morning routine or meal times are like. We’re Nanny 911 material, folks. Of, course, I love them to death. That goes without saying. I just don’t like them all that much at the moment.
If history can be any indicator, once I blog about a problem, it usually resolves itself. In this case, I’m counting on it. Something has got to give, or you’re going to be watching us in prime-time. And, trust me, you don’t want to have to see this.
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Are you SURE you don’t have MY kids? Or maybe that the spirits of my children have not POSSESSED yours??? Because this sounds very familiar. TOO familiar. And yes, It think they totally resent when you have to ignore them for a bit to work or pay the bills so they do WHATEVER they can to get your attention which is usually followed by DISASTER! I feel your pain, sister. And btw I make a MEAN Asian Pear Martini. =)
An Asian Pear Martini sounds like my kind of drink. I’ll take three, please!
Aren’t you glad summer is around the corner?
.-= DC Urban Dad´s last blog ..What did you learn this weekend? =-.
Take it back.
Oh yeah, been there. You got a kitten they can constantly harass and torture too?
Hope it clears up; although I have to say that I’d watch if you made it to Nanny 911- definitely.
.-= jen´s last blog ..customer service epic fail =-.
I have just vented ….erm make that ranted….. about the exact same feelings!!!!
Yeh of course we love them…. but I , like you too, just don’t like her much right now. It feels like we are constantly tested. I’m not sure if you do but I know I’m looking straight into an attitude mirror LOL.
Now that is a hard one to swallow.
AND YOU HAVE 3!!!! oh that hurts my head ; )
.-= msdilemma´s last blog ..I DIDN’T SIGN UP FOR THIS =-.
It’s all the pent up misbehaviour they weren’t allowed to unleash on Mother’s Day. With a side of “that’ll teach you to sleep in until 7″. Sigh.
.-= carolyn´s last blog ..Homemade bread, the easy way. =-.
Your kids gave you a break on Mother’s Day?!
I’d love to see y’all on tv! Then I could claim to know a tv star – cause I’m snobby like that.
.-= cathyjoy´s last blog ..Happy Mother’s Day Mommies!! =-.
Holy cow they moved furniture! May the force be with you momma
Well this just sounds dandy! Not. I would be exhausted too. Hayden has been super sensitive and whiny lately (and not in a good way). I know that I have been stressed (as has my husband) and I think it is showing in Hayden – and it is not a pretty sight.
Good luck with your rowdy bunch. Hopefully this blog post did the trick and they are back to their happy, cheerful, well-behaved selves!
.-= Melissa´s last blog ..monkey minute. =-.
Last night in bed, I turned to my husband and said:
” I don’t know what is going on with the triplets, but if ONE more person tells me ‘NO’ when I ask them to do something, I am widdling me one of those spankin’ spoons I have heard about.”
Now, I am not an advocate of spanking, but I feeling desperate to find a way to get my children out of the alien bodies that have clearly abducted them over the past few weeks.
Just be glad they are not barricading their bedroom door with their mattresses as once happened to me.
Spring Fever?
.-= The Grasshoppa: Triplet Plus Two Momma´s last blog ..The Risky Business of Blackberry Messaging =-.
I simply cannot begin to imagine triplets– I think you are a rock star for merely surviving.
I feel your pain I don’t have triplets but I still managed 3 under 3 and let me tell you they all three are never on the same page….GRRRRR…..I was having one of those scary mommy moments about 5 min ago
I was having one of those pity moments last night at the grocery store. I was thinking how happy I was to be out of the screaming toddler stage. I ate my words when I got home and had to deal with the screaming teenager stage. Does it ever end????
I feel your pain. Every…single….day.
I think… not. Sigh.
Here is a remedy : Take 3 tablespoons of Cointreau, 6 of vodka, 1 of creme de cassis or cranberry juice and add the juice of a whole lemon. Serve cold in a pretty martini cocktail glass. Not for the kids, just for you. Trust me it will do you good.
That does sound like it would do the trick!
–>It’s why I could never work at home. I hope it does get better before you really do turn into Scary Mommy!
.-= WebSavvyMom´s last blog ..The little known other stage of grieving: Distraction =-.
Oh girl.. Today my daughter turns 21. I was able to write a beautiful post about how great it was being her mom. I left out how many times I thought about sending her to a special school because she blacked her brothers eye. How many times her brother sent me to quiver in the shower balling my eyes out and how many times a drive to the store sent a flash thru my mind to just hit the road. Hang in there, do the best you can. Hoping your story will turn out wonderful and your post will cure it all just like you said.
So, 15 years, huh?
OMG, sorry to say but I laughed out loud when I read they moved the couch into the other room! I have 4 boys but lucky for me (for now anyway), the 3 oldest are between 9 and 12 and know better. My 2 year old is the holy terror and he would move the couch all by himself if he could. Thanks for your blog, my husband and I love it and read it all the time!
.-= Rebekah´s last blog ..Happily Ever After, Thoughts on Mother’s Day =-.
I’ll keep you in my prayers and then I’ll have another drink for you tonight. I’ve had great success with the parenting tips series from Musings of Housewife, don’t know if you’ve checked that out or not. Either way, good luck.
.-= NotJustAnotherJen´s last blog ..like i know =-.
I haven’t, but I will- thanks!!
Yikes. I’m right there with you on the whining. Just ONCE I would like a request/question/statement to be spoken instead of whined. It’s slowly sucking my soul and I cannot wait for this phase to be over. I cannot imagine dealing with this and two others…our infant has yet to develop into the master manipulator I’m sure she will one day become. I bow down to you, and will watch religiously if you ever get your own show!
I don’t know if this will do the trick for you, but I recently told my children that I have special ear plugs that make it so I can’t hear whiny voices, and I ignore them until they speak to me calmly… We’re only three days into this experiment, but it’s been getting good results!
I love them like crazy but oh boy do I agree with your assessment—let’s hope speaking these words via blog is the cure!!!!
.-= mom´s last blog ..My Children Are Driving Me Crazy =-.
Sounds like you need a pen outside where you can let them loose. :)
Hopefully this is just temporary.
.-= Kelly Deneen´s last blog ..Random Tuesday Thoughts: Abandonment, Oil, and Funny Things Kids Say =-.
Sending you positive thoughts…hoping they become darling little angels overnight!!!
.-= christy´s last blog ..The bounce pit =-.
I think this must be going around or something. My kids have been relentless on driving me nuts lately. Part of me thinks it’s because my husband was home a lot more this winter, and they are having trouble adjusting to him being gone again. My daughter who is usually my angel seems to have a switch that goes from Angel to Demon Child just like that. The teachers at preschool did not believe me until one day she was having a fit here for almost an hour because she did not want to eat her cheerios, so I loaded her up over my shoulder and took her to preschool (which is right across the street from us). There she continued her tantrum for another 45 minutes and apparently beat up an innocent chair. The one teacher who was not there that day still doesn’t believe it.
My son seems to think that whatever I say is wrong. He is constantly arguing and getting into things. Both of them are boycotting my cooking which annoys me because I am actually a good cook. When I take them to my shop, they are constantly breaking the rules there too which is distressing seeing as how I plan children’s parties and am quite good at it. However, I am terrified that someone is going to come in to book a party, see my kids acting like hooligans and walk right out.
My husband is gone for weeks at a time and doesn’t understand it but cannot help the situation. When he is home, they tow the line and make me look like I have been lying about it all. So, yeah, I understand your pain very well. I keep thinking I should call Supernanny.
.-= Lesa Rumbalski´s last blog ..Mother’s Day Ramble =-.
Lily’s teachers would NEVER believe it either- I should capture on film as proof. Of why I am insane.
Ooh, that sounds like a good idea. However, I would probably save it for potential blackmail material for when she gets older and possibly would like to date or something.
.-= Lesa Rumbalski´s last blog ..Mother’s Day Ramble =-.
It’s got to be in the air – the Little Man, who granted is usually clingy and only wants mama to hold him starting at 7pm each night, decided last night – in the middle of my husband’s “family” work function dinner (which I was attending without him….since he had to work) – that being held by mama was not going to suffice unless he was also screaming at the top of his lungs. Starting immediately after dinner arrived. Which meant I couldn’t leave until I could flag down the waitress for the check….45minutes later…
.-= Domesticated Gal´s last blog ..A Momentary Lapse of Sanity =-.
You got a problem with the kids? Tell you what. Tie ‘em to a tree and call me. I’ll bring over my paintball gun. After that, whenever you say the word “Target”, they’ll whip right into shape.
.-= lceel´s last blog ..Tuesday Tale – Roses a Penny =-.
Good plan, Lou. You’re on.
Sigh. Yeah. Mine have been going through those phases lately too, and it’s driving me nuts. I even posted something about not liking my son much at the moment on Facebook, though I (of course) noted that he wasn’t liking me much either, and that really it was a good thing I love him anyway.
.-= TeacherMommy´s last blog .."my prayer": a mother’s day poem =-.
The offer still stands–I’ll toss Miss M. into the mix and we can sell them for cheap, in bulk, on eBay. ((hugs))
.-= TheKitchenWitch´s last blog ..Veg-Head Monday: Zucchini Stuffed Tomatoes =-.
Our children should never meet. You and I should, but our children? Never. They’d give each other ideas.
.-= Julie´s last blog ..Conscious? Unwillingly So. =-.
Make sure you hide the car keys. . .
All kids are a**holes if you ask me. Or just ask my kids.
(it’s cristin by the way. I’ve changed my name and joined the circus)
.-= tulpen´s last blog ..Betty White’s Front Bum And A List Of Demands. =-.
I called my kid an asshole to somebody today…. it was nice to read your comment.
I pray that everything works out! We went to a barbecue the other day and I thought it would be better if I just went and hid in the bathroom. He was acting like a crazy animal! They go through these crazy phases! Patience is the only thing that can help us! Now where can I buy some?
.-= Pres. Kathy´s last blog ..Spring Giveaway! =-.
I’ll be keeping an eye on the comments here because my 3 have also gone crazy. I mean, as a parent of 3 it’s a given that I can’t go to the bathroom without being hounded or finding a disaster waiting for me in the living room, but the whining? OH THE WHINING! And honestly, I thought that once the boy got to the stage he could actually play with the toys that he would no longer feel compelled to empty each shelf and basket of it’s contents, but instead the urge seems to have infected his older sisters, too.
.-= Cranky Sarah´s last blog ..Looking back on a Sucky Sunday =-.
Sounds like mine… no really! Hope it all settles out soon – either that or your stay at the Mental Institution is calm and best of all child free!
ps – if you get there before me, save me a top bunk.
M
OMG they moved the couch?? That’s hilarious. But not.
I hope your blogging trick works. I’m doing a similar thing today: taking the fussy 1yo to the doctor because his ailments always mysteriously disappear the moment we walk into the office.
.-= Liz @ Peace, Love & Guacamole´s last blog ..Sunday Grace =-.
If it’s any consolation, you are probably driving them crazy, too.
.-= Alex @ LateEnough´s last blog ..If My Family Had Genetic Disorder, It’d Be Underwear Obsession Dysmorphia (UOD) =-.
I am picking up the phone now and calling Nanny 911. Because that is the type of friend I am. Plus, if you get a spot on the show, I totally want to fly in and be the counseling, supportive, and super cute chick who shows up and saves the day. Kinda like Super Nanny, but without the accent and weird car.
I should also tell you that it is the kids, not you. You are the best, sunshine-y mom on the planet. I often mistaken you for Mary Poppins when I call.
Like Angie, you should consider writing an e-Book. Something like, How to Survive Motherhood and Not Kill Your Children. It is sure to be a top seller.
xo
.-= Mayhem and Moxie´s last blog ..Pregnancy Might Really Be Making Me Smarter, And Possibly Thinner =-.
Fran, did you mean “Like LAURA, you should consider writing an e-book” or is our whole group going into publishing soon? :)
.-= Lolli´s last blog ..Photography Resources from Bloggography =-.
Ha! I clearly should not be allowed to comment. You caught me. I totally had red heads on the brain when I wrote this. No, Angie is not writing an e-Book, although after reading your post yesterday, I got excited about the idea and started asking different people to consider writing one.
Yours is truly the only one I would buy, though. ;)
.-= Mayhem and Moxie´s last blog ..Pregnancy Might Really Be Making Me Smarter, And Possibly Thinner =-.
My mother would tell us (her 3 kids) that she loved us unconditionally…but that she didn’t like us very much at that moment. Of course, it was usually in the midst of moving furniture, drawing on furniture, pulling each others hair out, cutting each others hair, or chasing each other with dangerous utensils or with slimy objects from the backyard.
I never really understood what she meant by that (and thought she was SOOOO mean!). That is, until I had my own child. It’s those memories that make me contemplate keeping the IUD in permanently.
-Aimee
.-= Aimee @ Ain’t Yo Mama’s Blog´s last blog ..100 Posts…And Counting =-.
I think something is going on with ALL kids right now because the ones you described? Sound just like mine. (Except mine are all boys.) I am completely exasperated at the end of everyday. I wish I had a manual because I can’t figure this sh*t out!
.-= Lauren´s last blog ..They’re Playing Leap Frog, Right? =-.
Have your kids always been like this or have they just started acting wild & crazy lately? I have seen those kids you speak of and usually we judge the parents for letting thier kids be wild brats & not controlling them. But usually it is the parents who think of their children as adults and won’t disrespect thier kids with discipline kind of situation where you get kids acting like ferrel cats. Maybe you have gotten lax lately in your discipline because you feel defeated and they are picking up on it. You know kids are like dogs, they can sense things and they know when you are weak and vulnerable. Maybe you need to turn into raging bitch mom and scare them back into submission with your own wild & craziness. Grab them by the neck of their shirt and get up in thier face & grit your teeth and seeth when you talk like serail killer who is about to lose its’ mind. If they think your nutty they may mind better. I swear that’s the only reason mine act right is b/c they fear what may happen if they don’t. They know I may go off the deep end and get nutty on them. I feel bad for you, but ultimately you are going to have to crack the whip and stop the madness. Usually if kids are allowed to act stupid, they will. They aren’t big on self correcting until they are about 30 yrs old unfortunately.
“If they think your nutty they may mind better. ” I’m pretty sure they think I am totally nuts. But, no, they do not respect me enough. At all.
I have tried this. They just kind of laughed at me and went on their way. I had four kids (5M, 7F, 10F, and 12M) and I honestly think I am going crazy. We tried everything!! Time outs are a joke, spankings don’t work, being grounded doesn’t affect them, being nice and supportive and understanding only makes it worse! We have tried literally everything wa can think. Taking away toys or TV or PSP or Wii doesn’t work. They don’t care. They treat me (the step-mom) with such disrespect that I want to hit them! We just don’t know what else to do! I’m at a loss. I find myself crying at least once everyday and yelling at them constantly. I truly think I’m having a breakdown! I went to a psychologist but this woman had one kid and stayed at home with her. I have to work! Plus, I would not be caught dead cooped up with those children all day. I want to ship them off to their real mom or send them to military school or something. I am honestly at the end of my rope! Now, I just go home, throw cereal or whatever at them, and go hide in the bedromm. I can’t take this anymore but I don’t know what to do!!!!
Just add two more onto your pain and you know how I feel some days. Yes, they go through seasons of being absolutely horrible. And then they turn normal again. Mine tend to go through this period about a month after starting school every year. I’ve actually talked to the doctor about it. She said it’s not uncommon for kids to go through a huge behavior adjustment a while after a big change (like starting school or moving…). Usually, at first the new situation is exciting, but when the newness wears off, they turn into temporary monsters.
Don’t worry–your kids will be back someday soon.
.-= Lolli´s last blog ..Photography Resources from Bloggography =-.
maybe it is the new school. kids act weird to stressful situations…
.-= cheri´s last blog ..the day after =-.
Ugh, that sucks. I only have one and he’s more than enough some days.
Hopefully by the time this comment reaches you, all will be resolved. Here’s to wishful thinking.
.-= Allison´s last blog ..Tropical Traditions Expeller-Pressed Coconut Oil Giveaway =-.
Totally been there. Usually my kids are vying for my attention or testing a new behavior and I’m almost totally nuts before I catch on. Consistency is the hardest thing for me, but helps when I can dish it out. Luckily they have each other!! If we only had one child, he/she would be miserable due to my constant corrections, input, encouragement, controlling focus, etc. I think it’s important for children to bond with their siblings and realize how much fun they can have together, and how much they love each other – even at the expense of mom’s sanity… Sounds like you are doing a great job.
.-= Liz´s last blog ..Some Effective Parenting =-.
I really appreciate you sharing this timely post. I’m also going freaking insane. Why do they fight so much? Why do they only respond when my voice is raised? And to think summer vacation is what, a month away??? My husband has taken a new job (that will have him no longer working from home and helping me out). Does this mean I’m destined to become an alcoholic? Why does my mother have to live so far way? I am so screwed. xoxo
.-= RLG´s last blog ..Mudroom on the Brain =-.
Couch movement is a big deal…you’re screwed! Hopefully your streak will continue and now that we’ve all heard about it, problem will be resolved. Hang in there!!!
.-= Rebecca´s last blog ..My Own Personal Mute Buttons =-.
Wow- couch moving is impressive I must say. I am thinking that maybe you have my little monsters at your house too. There must be something going on, spring fever?
.-= Rachel´s last blog ..Mother’s Day Re-Cap =-.
I only have one and she can be a pain in the butt…..especially with the whining! Thankfully she can’t move the couch on her own yet!! Fingers crossed it will sort itself out xx
.-= Emma´s last blog ..I got love for you if you were born in the 80′s, the 80′s…… =-.
You know I can relate to this… I should do another installment of “my children are gross and annoying.”
.-= Kate Coveny Hood´s last blog ..Coach Kate’s Play Book – the Good News and the Bad News… =-.
Yes, I think once you blog about this AND reach 48 comments the problem will go away. Oh look, I’m #48. Let’s hope I bring some luck.
Sincerely though, I do hope this passes. As funny as your post is I know this is serious and it can be very tiring.
.-= Live.Love.Eat´s last blog ..Lemon-Raspberry Mousse Squares =-.
I’d been struggling with the question of an allowance for a while now, when I finally landed on the idea of experimenting with incremental allowance (up to one quarter per day) in reward for specific behavior. In FOUR days, we have gone from having a six-year-old whose default response was whiiiinnnniiiiing… over an unfamiliar vegetable, a tussle with his sister, a “computer time’s up” or any other perceived unpleasant thing…to having a child who makes it through the whole day without whining. A whole day without any whining is good for a quarter. The deal is: one whining incident and he goes down to a dime, two whines, a nickle, after that, no coin at all. The daily reinforcement (every night we talk about his progress that day) has made him so much more conscious of his own behavior, as well as motivated. I am going to give this two weeks or so, until I can see that whining isn’t his default mechanism, and then we’ll move on to a new goal. My four-year-old daughter’s goal is to sleep in her own bed all night. It’s working for her too, though slightly less well. She is less money-motivated, and frankly, a giant high-five every morning would probably gratify her just as much. But the single-task focus, and the daily reward, is working like a dream. Something like that might be worth a try for you, perhaps?
.-= MommyTime´s last blog ..On the Joys of Food: Random Questions Edition =-.
That’s a really good idea- I need to follow through on that one.
I just need to say that I can totally relate. There are times when I can’t stand my children.
.-= Jen´s last blog ..How Do You Do It? =-.
When Nanny Jo comes to visit, be sure to pass along her tips to the rest of us.
Well, at least to me.
.-= Shannon´s last blog ..Table Topics Tuesday: Vacay! =-.
Maybe there is a full moon? ’cause I definitely feel your pain. I thought I was reading about my own brood. Hang in, hopefully this shall pass…quickly!!!
.-= Mrs. Schmitty´s last blog ..I’m A Lucky Lady, In More Ways Than One =-.
This sounds completely exhausting and you can only hope that by sharing all the problems with the internet that they will fix themselves. Because of course you have to reveal you are not a perfect household to everyone before anything changes. UGH.
It probably is related to the move but that does not make it any easier! I sure hope things get better soon even though I love to feel better about myself after watching families on reality tv.
.-= Brittany at Mommy Words´s last blog ..One Mother’s Courageous Choice =-.
I can totally relate. I swear sometimes I would love to give my kids back. My 6 month old is my favorite right now. She is excited to see me when I get home from work. She doesn’t yell at me. The other two. I swear. My son. I was just thinking exactly what you said this morning. I used to look at other boys and think they were completely obnoxious and I would never have a boy like that. Well I do. He drives us all crazy. He takes the whole couch apart daily and jumps from everything. Throws the cushions around like he is fighting them. I hope it gets better. I always pictured myself enjoying parenthood but lately not so much.
P.s. I wish I could write like you. I really enjoy your blogs.
http://parenting-happinesstochaos.blogspot.com/
.-= Tiffany´s last blog ..You Know You’re a Mom When… =-.
I swear there is something happening with the planets and stars cause my own kids have been crazy lately and I’m not even going to talk about the 20 I deal with in my classroom. Everybody is ready and NEEDS summer vacation to come quickly. Hang in there!!! and drink extra wine…it helps…trust me!
.-= Mel’s Box of Chocolates´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – A Wheelbarrow Full =-.
This post gives me hope that there is just something in the air! My kids have been the EXACT same way! Except, you have 3. I’ve only got 2. So you win. Not that either of us wants to be the winner when it comes to whiny, needy kids!
.-= Chrissy MacCEO´s last blog ..Kidorable: Review & Giveaway =-.
You must be living in my house… Except that I only have two little darlings. They seem to wait until I am (a) getting in the shower, (b) trying to get chores done or (c) trying to work to break out in their alter-egos. My daughter once argued with me that she didn’t do something that I saw her do. I asked her “Who did it then, your evil twin sister, Martha?!?” She answered me “Yes.” Now her alter-ego has a name! My son needs one, too, but haven’t come up with a good one yet… LOL Good luck – hope your situation resolved itself.
Be Patient……it gets better! NOT!!!! I am the “Wicked Stepmom” to 3 grown boys, their significant others, a teenage girl (OMG! Stomp, Stomp, Slam!) and a 11 year old son. BRING ON THE MARTINI’S PLEASE!! They all hate me for having rules to live by. You’d think they’d go away after they are married and have families of their own to torture but “Nooooooo”, there is this floating attitude that Dad and I “OWE” them everything we have worked so hard for and they can just take it or use it or have it at will. They never stop mooching off us and now we can’t retire. I’ve seen this happen time and time again and my husband and I have sworn to be independant but we always cave and we suffer both emotionally and financially. It’s truly depressing. Maybe a couple years in Fiji would help cut those apron strings!!
I understand.
I have two children, ages 3 and 1, and while the 1year old is normally sweet, they’ve both been hellions lately.
It might be the fact that the only break I get from them is when I’m going to school (they go with me to work and everything), but it does seem like they’ve been especially horrible.
They’re all screams and tantrums and whining and omg! I want a vacation. I have a suggestion: Lets get like… 10 nannies lined up, drop our kids with them, and leave ‘em for a week. Or at least 5 hours. Please.
I feel your pain!! Summer is draining my last nerve, adult cocktails have helped some but between my son saying mom, momma, ma, mommy or some version there of 50 times in a row and when I do answer yes honey several times he says no momma and puts his hand up in my face or the fact that my daughter bit her own arm and blamed her little brother to get attention I need school to start now!!!!
I am a single currently ‘homeless’ according to the state as we share our friends home. She and her boyfriend are parents to an 11yr old girl, I have an 11yr old girl and a 9yr old boy and they (the children) plot against us regularly.
My friends daughter is 50/50 between her & her X and my kids are full time in the house. The female hormone pool is deep here, and the boy is an island bent on delinquency!
Is it in the air? Is it in the water? They were so good and cute. When did they become such little monsters?
I am just here to agree that motherhood will suck the life out of you. I feel like I have been scamed by movies and other mothers into thinking this would be sweet. Not only do we have to be good mothers and have perfect children, these days we have to be super models making lots of money also. Be a chef like on the food network is expecteed as well. I am a fool, i thought this would be fun. There is those magical moments that relieve you for a second, but then the guilt, any kind of guilt will eat you up. (cookies, candy, not wanting to play, beeing annoyed, leaving them with the nanny, wanting to get wasted all the time….) Anyway, what a life.
Cant blame anybody but myself, thats the worst part.
my kids have been goin crazy here lately and i know the reason is bc we had to live with his sister n her kids and they just started picking up more n more bad things not even habits just plain bad stuff ne ways and now that they r all gone its been 9 months and they are still just getting worse it seems i mean it got better until spring break n then ever since then they have just went nutts no joke like in wal-mart last week my 2 were literally on the floor fighting while i was at the check out line like what do you when that happens but apologize to everyone around im mean its so embarrassing and theres not much u can do in the store to discipline them and by the way this is 2 girls we r talking about lol
This is exactly how I feel the very moment. I’m bawling my eyes out and I find this and it made me laugh, while still crying. Just wanted to say thanks and it’s good to know I’m not alone.
Oh my God! You are my twin soul! I was just asking my sister-in-law how I could be raising such hellions! I have 3 boys ages 6, 4 and 2, and I actually feel a little ashamed when other people outside the family get to see how they act together and with their cousins. People would think I keep them in a closet all day with nothing to do as wild as they get. It gets so wild I have to pee with my door open so I can discipline from afar. (Couches and tables have ended up legs up during unsupervised times!) Glad to hear I am not alone!
It’s a wonder we continue to procreate at all!!!
Thank you so much for this post. My kids are doing the same thing, it is like they are trying to send me to the crazy house. Reading this made me realize that it is apparently normal and not because I am a horrible mother or a horrible person for not liking my kids right now. Thank you a million times over
Thank you for this post, knowing that I’m not the only one is the closest thing to normal that I’ve experienced in a long long time.
I cry when people tell me they’re pregnant, then I lie saying its tears of joy. I’m a widow and have been raising my son on my own. Dad was there the first year but we all know how much Mommy has to do. Even Daddy said it wasn’t fair.
My 4 year old fights me on everything… and complains constantly. I pulled that crap once when I was a kid and I was sent off in the field picking stones, where I could “complain all I want and don’t come back until done”. To this day I think twice before venting.
My In-Laws buy him a Video Game systems… and anything my child could ever want. Really another toy store shopping spree? Yep over compensating. Yes I want to see my boy happy too, but this insane.
I’m not the same person anymore. I’m held hostage with my child deciding how he is going to ruin every moment. Freaking out, breaking stuff, peeing on me. Nothing surprises me any more. I’m considering taking a second job. Just to keep my sanity and be away from him.
Yet this whole time I’m really alone in this battle. At school and day care, “He’s the best kid ever, I wish they were all like him!” Family and friends call him a delight and yes,”The Best Kid Ever.” 20 seconds later, when we are alone he has me on the brink.
I’ve tried everything…
Kids are not cute happy bags of joy. They are evil and criminally insane. And the worst part of parenting is… that one day really soon we’re going to miss all of this.
I can totally relate. My 3 boys are making me insane. Thought we would go to a nice relaxing library day, they ended up getting yelled at by the librarian for fighting over books(literally). Cut to mom putting all books down bee-lining home and sending them to bed!
and…….it’s not that their even big readers, it’s a control thing. Every day. All day.
I am right there with you girl. I have three boys that are 3, 5 and 8. Their personalities sound very similar you your kids. My oldest is the stubborn, whiney one, my middle child is usually easy-going but has his moments of stubbornness, and my youngest is a wild child – very fun when he is in a good mood, but screams when he doesn’t get his way and often likes to push his brothers’ buttons. It is a very rare moment when everyone is getting along. I am so stressed out I sometimes dream of leaving this place and never coming back. I never would do it, but really wish I could just get a break. Getting them ready for school this morning has brought me to this sight – a place where I can vent without judgement, so thank you!
I have 2 boys,and 2 girls. Boys: 8 & 5, Girls: 3 & 2.
The 3yr old wakes up every night and wakes us up for a drink! Then she constantly comes in the room in the morning, well what she classifies as morning.. 5:30 to 6am!!! Then she goes in and wakes up the 2yr old! Then she screams that one of her brothers are tormenting her! They are constantly destroying every room in the house! Drawing anywhere and everywhere… Walls, chairs, couches, carpet, laminate flooring, etc… They throw all the couch cushions around… They move the couches… they rip apart the couches… They tore off the blue padding that goes around the trampoline. It’s beyond ridiculous what these kids do to destroy this house! Not to mention they are whiny, ungrateful little stinkers! They are just driving me up the wall today, so I had to vent!! I actually typed in “My kids are driving me crazy” and this site came up!! Nice to see it’s not just my kids, because I seriously wonder some days!!
See I have all you listed above but just with one child. I swear he has it in for me. I love him to death too but I mean there is only so much a person can take. I hope that this is just an age thing and he will grow out of it but I fear for the worst.
I’m so thankful to read “my kid is an asshole” my 3yr old is a demon spawn and everybody looks at me like I’m a terrible mom when I say so. They think she’s a perfect blonde hair, blue eyed angel. And most times were out in public she will act like one she knows how to act and manipulate so well its scary. I really needed to read this blog cause I really don’t like this blonde hair, blue eyed demon right now and I’m tired of feeling like a bad mom for it!!!
Oh my god thank you .I Google “my kids are driving me crazy”and this was the first thing I had to read.Iam a mother of two (soon to be three )my oldest is Logan 4 and Jordan who is 2 .Logan is repeating things over and over in my head Iam screaming “please shut up ” but I only say ok Logan sometimes I say enough please mommy needs a moment and now he is starting the over dramatic cry if I say no .Jordan he is cute as Hell but he is a little crave men I try to feed him he don’t want but if it falls to the floor he eats it in my head all Iam thinking is “are you serious ” he takes his toys and throws them to whatever he thinks is going to break .they use to be so good by 7:30 or 8 in bed now everyday is a fight and in public let’s just say Iam the one you don’t want to sit next to in a restaurants…..sorry for this essay but I need to vent Iam ending up on tears just thinking about what is this baby going to be like ….
I have at this moment retreated to the bedroom in tears after a hard day with my 2 and 4 yr old boys ( especially my 2 year old who is beyond a nightmare at the mo even though I also love them more than anything!) my husband has just come in and is like the toddler whisperer!!!! They have both calmed down and are behaving like little angels, but when they catch a glimpse of me, it will dissolve into whines, ‘mummy mummy’ tantrums and fights!!! :( anyway just wanted to say thank you to everyone for sharing their experiences because I feel loads better and not alone!! Ready to face the front room again hahaha ;) x
I know how you feel. I wake up every morning to my 3 having food thrown all over the house, cushions everywhere, chairs tipped over, toddler bed upside down, toys everywhere, clean dishes everywhere, marker, crayon, ink pen, screaming and yelling all day and night. I have 3 boys aged 2,4, and 5, as well as being 36 weeks pregnant with our first girl. Can’t go to bathroom or any other room without them or they’ll cry or try to break doors down. Holes in walls, cracked tvs, broken movies and computers, clogged toilets and sinks, etc. Anybody on here wanna trade kids for a few days so I can get a break before D-day???
This was the best thing I could have read after a VERY hard day, I am a mom of 4 with a hella lot of patience but today I finally have had it…I bend over backwards,but the lack of appreciation my teenage girl has dec ided to show, (literary the day she turned 13!)is beyond upsetting!!!… Nothin is ever enough!.. I have 3 other kids that I have to do things for ..spend time with etc..but in her thick head she thinks she’s neglected cause I don’t (in her mind) listen enough…now people I wear holes in my socks,shorts, shirts before I give to me before my kids….everything comes first with them and they are monsters!!! My son sets out n destroys, I have n back injury and boy do they take advantage!!!!!… I ask them to wash their own dishes and what do they do? Nothing but pile em up in the sink, or table, ifthey drop trash or fooddo they clean it?.! Nope, I’m tired soooo tired and feel like a damn doormat:(
We have two wild boys 5 and 7 who have been driving us crazy too. Nice to know we are not alone. I took my five year old to the uhaul store and he was climbing on all the boxes and me like monkey. I love my kids but really look forwards to leaving them and going to work where everyone works together and nobody is yelling or having melt down.