No one deserves to have their bodies publicly scrutinized like this
Having a healthy relationship with our bodies is not always easy for women. Being in the public eye would be especially difficult, given total strangers feel they have a right to comment on a woman’s appearance. But one news anchor had a delightfully direct message when a viewer decided she had a say in the anchor’s wardrobe choices. And it didn’t go well for her.
One viewer used the power of social media to tell the world via a now-deleted Facebook post that she was just not feeling Demetria Obilor’s outfits. “Has anyone seen Channel 8’s new morning traffic reporter? Her name is Demetria Obilor & she’s a size 16/18 woman in a size six dress and she looks ridiculous,” Shedd wrote.
Jan is big mad. Don’t be like Jan. pic.twitter.com/ytAKJHMXBy
— Mother of Draggings (@fabfreshandfly) November 3, 2017
Apparently Jan is so mad she decided she isn’t going to watch the news channel anymore. It wasn’t even the “biased reporting” or “political correctness” that pushed her over the edge — it was another woman’s attire. Perhaps Jan needs a beach vacation because she has lost her damn mind.
Obilor addressed the shamers in a video posted to her Twitter account, saying she’s received comments the past about her “crazy hair” or that her body is “too big for that dress.” She said when a person has a body that is a little different than the norm, “people think they can talk to you a little different.”
And that is simply not acceptable.
Obilor has the perfect message for those critics: “This is the way that I’m built. This is the way I was born. I’m not going anywhere, so if you don’t like it, you have your options.”
She said she is grateful for those that have come to her defense, those that have stood next to her and reminded everyone that women don’t need to take this kind of negativity. “We’re all in this together,” she says.
It’s hard getting to a place of self-acceptance as a woman, making it harder on another person isn’t just cruel, it’s unacceptable. Kudos to Obilor for speaking up and letting everyone know we don’t need to stand for it.
Obilor received a ton of support from people everywhere:
I HEAR you. SO much. People feel it’s okay to comment rudely about my frame. I was born this way, it’s prob never gonna change please stop☝️— Ashleigh Murray (@iamamurray) November 4, 2017
You’re beautiful. Your body is beautiful. Your spirit is beautiful. Your vibe and energy beautiful. Your eloquence beautiful.— Sofiya Ballin (@sofiyaballin) November 4, 2017
BIIIIIIG MAD https://t.co/E9yzWbU9m8— Chance The Rapper (@chancetherapper) November 3, 2017
Jealousy sure is ugly, and you sure are gorgeous. Thanks for standing up & staying strong ♥️♥️— tara strong (@tarastrong) November 5, 2017
As a reporter I understand the struggle/image this industry tries to push on us & from a sista to a sista I think your body is beautiful— Jasmyn Willis (@JasmynWillisTV) November 4, 2017
Why spend time tearing another person down for how they look? Women should be building each other up in all aspects of our lives. It says a lot about a person when they feel in order to feel better about themselves they need to knock someone else down in the process. We could all take a lesson from Obilor on how to treat ourselves and others.