Nesting Instincts Vs. Sheer Exhaustion: Which are YOU dealing with?
This week you’ll alternate between fatigue and manic energy, as nesting instincts and sheer exhaustion continue to duke it out. It’s hard to find a position that’s comfortable enough to fall asleep, but do try to rest up and save some energy. You’re going to need it during labor, which is OMG SO SOON!
You’re no doubt paying close attention to every twinge and tickle in your body, on the alert for the start of labor. Watch for the baby dropping lower in your pelvis, an increase in Braxton Hicks contractions, passing the mucous plug, or your water breaking (often just a trickle down the leg, not the exploding fire hydrant you see in movies), all of which are signs that the baby will arrive any day!
There are plenty of old wives’ tales about how to make labor start (Pressure points? Pineapple? SEX?!?) — there’s little to no evidence that any of them work, but trust us, pretty soon you’ll be desperate enough to try anything. Yes, even sex.
Your baby is now getting antibodies via the umbilical cord to help protect him from all the germs out in the real world; ironic, since a few months from now he’ll probably find a dead bug on your living room floor and eat it. He also knows your voice; get ready for one of the sweetest moments of motherhood, when your little one turns toward you when you talk! This is apparently a skill they lose completely in the teenage years, so enjoy it while it lasts.
30% of women in U.S. give birth via C-section, either scheduled in advance or as a result of last-minute complications like a lack of progress in labor or signs of distress in the baby. There are plenty of perfectly good reasons to prefer a planned C-section (from mom’s health to multiples to personal preference), and if that’s the vision you have for your birth then DO IT!
However, if you’ve had a previous C-sec and want to deliver vaginally this time, talk to your doctor about VBAC, or vaginal birth after cesarean; just be aware that certain hospitals have a strict no-VBAC policy regardless of whether or not you’re a good candidate for it, so you might need to find a provider who will advocate for you, or even use a different hospital. Finally, if you planned a vaginal delivery and end up with an emergency C-section, remember that they say “what matters most isn’t how you deliver your baby, but that he arrives healthy” because it’s true. No matter how your baby arrives, you are a warrior woman and a kick-ass baby-making mama!