Community Code of Conduct

The Scary Mommy Community is a place to find support and camaraderie with amazing moms who love to help one another. We are scattered all around the world, of all different colors and sizes and lifestyles, united by a single thing: motherhood.

Nastiness and bullying has no place here and will not be tolerated. You are, of course, free to passionately state your opinions, but please do so in a respectful manner. We are all people, behind these computer screens, and let’s remember to treat each other as such. Basically, don’t be an asshole.

To ensure that we keep this community the supportive and positive environment that it is intended to be, please take a few minutes and read the following:

• No trolling. If you have nothing constructive to say, move along.
• No personal attacks. If you disagree with another’s statements, please address that message specifically. Criticize ideas, not people. If you have a problem, take it to a private message or ask a moderator for assistance.
• Respect the privacy and anonymity of others. Do not post other’s phone numbers, addresses, pictures, etc., without their permission.
• Be respectful to thread posters. Going off on tangents is hard to avoid, but please stay on the topic for which the thread was intended.
• If you find something offensive, please flag it or private message a moderator to bring it to our attention.
• Have a question, comment, complaint, concern? Private message a moderator. A list of moderators can be found at the bottom of this Code of Conduct, and on the right sidebar.
• Only positive reactions to specific confessions will be allowed. Attacking a confessor is the exact opposite of what Scary Mommy is about.
• No bashing this site. We want this site to be as open and welcoming a place as possible, for as many people as possible. If you don’t like it here, please leave.
• If a moderator feels that a thread is getting out of hand, they will message member(s) and ask them to reword their posts or disengage in the conversation. If this does not help, a warning will be issued on the thread. Further disintegration of the thread may result in the closing of the thread along with an official warning to member(s).
• ScaryMommy does not allow solicitations of any kind without express prior approval.
  This includes, but is not limited to, monetary solicitations, donations, advertising, press, or sales. All such endeavors must be dealt with directly with jill@scarymommy.com
• The X-Rated category is hidden to non-registered members and is, indeed, an interesting read. In an effort not to look like a major sketch-ball and creep us all out, we ask that you refrain from posting ONLY in that category. If you just want to talk about kinky sex, there are other sites better suited for your needs.
• Bullying will not be tolerated under any circumstances. We reserve the right to ban a member with no warning and without reason for the safety of the community.

Failure to comply with these rules will result in termination of your account.

Termination process as follows:

Strike 1: Warning via PM
Strike 2: 48 hour site suspension
Strike 3: Termination of account

{In extreme instances, members may immediately be banned, without warning. This is extremely rare, but will happen if necessary.}

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My name is Jill, and I own this website. You can always reach me at jill{at}scarymommy{dot}com or PM me with any questions or concerns.

The community managers are LesboMom, Sammie, CanadianMama, Love, and unforgiven. They are here to make the site a better place to be, and you can feel free to reach out to them for any and all issues.

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If you are suicidal, please, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) The number will automatically direct you to the local crisisline/suicide hotline based on your location. There is also a national chat crisis line at www.crisischat.org.

If you or your children are in danger please, please contact The U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. This is their website and they are are far more qualified than any of our members to offer real-life assistance and help. What we can offer is virtual support and lots of cyber hugs.

Here are some other resources that might be helpful, too.  Please know that you are not alone, and things can get better.

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Further rules of the site can be found under the Terms of Service, which you signed upon joining. .