As a mother of three, there are very few things that are entirely mine. My bed is inevitably invaded by all of the kids sometime throughout the night. My favorite foods are devoured by mouths other than mine and my cosmetics are used for dress up these days as often as on my own face. My car is filled with car-seats and stale Cheerios and my purse is so stuffed with junk for the kids that I can’t even carry my own sun-glass case. But this blog? It’s mine. All mine. And that’s what I love about it.
I am not perfect. I can be sarcastic and stubborn. I can be pessimistic and judgmental. Though I teach my children not to hate, I admit to feeling the emotion myself and I can hold a grudge forever. My children’s eating habits suck and I’ve been known to let them run around naked outside and hose them down instead of bathing them. I’m Scary, sometimes. But if you question my love and devotion for my children, I have to question your reading skills. Because, if nothing else, I think those things are pretty obvious here.
And then there’s my language: I’ve been told on numerous occasions by “social media experts” that in order to really be successful, I need to clean up my act. Apparently, there are quite a few readers and advertisers who are turned off by bluntness and four letter words. So, I’ve tried to edit myself a bit. I’ve cut back on the four letter words that come so naturally to me and made an effort to be less crass.
But, apparently, even that isn’t enough: “Speaking of blogging etiquette, I find the words “prick,” “balls, and “pisses the hell” inappropriate for use in online content. Save these for verbal expressions on the construction site, wharf, or wherever the uncouth reside but do not use them in any written form on the Internet. They are unnecessary, improper and out of place. If you wish me to take you seriously, please use words that to do not offend or lower my expectations of what you are striving to communicate.”
For those of you who want to read sunshiny-perfect-curse-free mommy blogs, there are plenty out there. Take your pick. And I’m not going to apologize for not being one of them. Hell, no. But, if you stay, I thank you. You’re my kind of people.
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HA!! Finally. Someone other then me who doesn’t give a shit. :) Thank you!
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Seriously?
What is wrong with people? If they don’t like “prick” then maybe they should stop being one.
Here’s what gets me- why do “mommy blogs” have to be one or the other? Why can’t we love our kids, our lives and also talk about someone being an ass or rant about a crappy situation?
I don’t use the profanity on my blog- and trust me, it forces me to be a bit creative…. but I do respect that people often have little eyes around or get really thrown off by an f bomb.
What I don’t get it why someone would leave you a comment like that. ASS. Prick. AssPrick.
{See, I am totally creative.}
Don’t change a thing.
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One reason that I started my blog is to express myself. If I cannot do that without being scrutinized then what is the reason for doing it at all? It’s like the saying “customer is always right.” Well, not, customer is not always right and we cannot please every single reader. There are choices out there. But if you like this blog, keep reading it and take it!
Yeah…
I don’t read any sunshiny mommy blogs. i don’t have any interest in it. i think part of who you are is being real. since i am not a mother, i appreciate your honesty and i think people who are blinded into thinking motherhood is perfect are in for a wake-up call!
Aimee’s last blog post..what I used to eat
Hell yeah! I love reading you fuckin’ blog. Whoop whoop! :)
I have raised my 3 kids they are 23, 20 and 18, so I guess you could say I have been there and done what you are doing. I love your blog!! it is so Real and Honest and isn’t like other mommy blogs that make motherhood sound like its all happiness and fun!! Being a mother and raising kids was the hardest job I have ever done in my life!! And it isn’t always pretty and fun but I wouldn’t have changed how I did anything raising my children and they have all turned out to be wonderful young adults. So keep up what you are doing, it gives me a laugh and brings back memories of being in the trenches, raising my own children.
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That’s like coming in some one’s home and criticizing their decor or getting in some one’s car and changing the dial on the radio. You don’t do it. This is your place and unless you are holding people hostage here, it’s just plain rude to tell you how to run it.
Go on with your bad self :)
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Don’t you just love those self-styled “social media expert” pricks. I had one or two such comments on my own blog. I think they are both hilarious and pathetic. The thought that not everybody might enjoy reading only sanitized and politically correct bullshit all day (because it’s fucking boring) never even crosses their narrow little minds.
People (no matter if they’re mothers or not) are different, they talk differently, they write differently. I really don’t see a problem with that. Besides, if you try too hard to not offend anybody, the result is usually pretty much unreadable.
The sensitive souls that get scarred from reading a word like “fuck” or “prick” should just stay away from blogs like yours (and mine, for that matter) and go read stuff about butterflies and rainbows or whatever the fuck they prefer. The internet is a huge place, there should easily be room here for all kinds of blogs and nobody forces anybody to read anything they don’t like. Coming to a blog and telling the author how to run it is just totally moronic und uncalled for.
I don’t read a lot of mommy blogs (god, I even hate the name), but I definitely enjoy yours.
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If all the reader can focus on is one word, they didn’t read, nor comprehend, what was written and presented to them. They have no fucking reading skills.
This high and mighty holier-than-thou crap really grates at me.
Anyone who claims their kids eat the perfect diet every meal, have them cleaned up and dressed right at all times, and have every hair in place and never say a cross word, are OCD and are creating some of the most neurotic people that will ever be released upon the rest of the world. That is not healthy or normal for a child to not have a break from routine and enough room to be a kid.
That, and I think mac and cheese, cold hotdogs and chocolate ice cream for lunch is just what a kid needs to grow. And lots of dirt. Especially around the face and under the nails.
My son thinks it’s the bees knees to pee on the tree in the back yard, just like our dogs do. He shares a little pool out there with our westie, too. They both stick their mouths in the water and paddle around in it. Yes, there’s dog butt in that water.
You’re an awesome mom. Of course you love your kids. That’s why you let them be kids.
I think you are great to read
In my bookmarks I have about 15 blogs all up that I read everyday, most of them are MommyBlogs. Yours is the only one that I recieve email updates from.
Its nice to read a Mommy blog which is real. It is like actually listening to someone speak, but reading.
Prefer to read swearing and language over the stupid fluffy “My kids, family and life are perfect” type of blogs.
Thanks for that!
Very Well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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i like your posts – i am not a mom but love children so very, very much and can’t wait to have (four) my own! i love your writing style, i appreciate your candor and honest, and feel you come across as more human with the use of your language, i love your writing style and hope you keep it up!
The day I start censoring myself on my blog is the day that…err…well, it’s not happening. I can’t stop laughing at the comment that you quoted. Perhaps whoever left it saying that those words were inappropriate for online content confused the concept of online content with “Vatican”.
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F that.
There… I hope I toned down my comment enough for the censors. :)
I can’t read those sunshiny “read about my perfect kids/husband/life” blogs. They make me want to puke. I read your blog b/c I can relate, b/c you are funny, and b/c you are real.
It’s evident you love your children. It’s also pretty apparent that some people are so full of themselves that they can’t help but try to shove some of their over-flowing bullshit onto others.
To those prudes, I say: NOT NECESSARY. Back the fuck off.
DON’T CHANGE A THING!!!!!
Here, Here to all the other comments that point to the fact that there lots of us out here that appreciate a REAL Mommy blog. It helps us feel connected because even though we don’t always say it — we are right there with you!
A sign on my door when I was in college read, “Censorship causes blindness.” Please don’t censor yourself. This mom will read no matter what words you print. And – your love for your children IS evident if anyone with half a brain is reading.
What a prick… that just pisses me the hell off. I can’t believe someone had the balls to write that.
I guess that means I won’t pass the muster of any “social media experts.”
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i dont swear much in real life. never have.
bu thats not the point, i think, the point is that i read blogs that are real. the ones you can really hear the person’s voice. like yours.
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Wow. It never realized that it was our right to tell you how to write your blog. Cool.
That’s really obnoxious to continue to read, but then ask you to change your tone. Why read you in the first place?
Social Media Experts? I can’t even comment on that. Must.Bite.Tongue.
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Cussing is an integral part of the language and has a valid place. I’m not sure what a Social Media Expert is but I’d be willing to wager that their mothers cussed – probably frequently. I get criticized for my overuse of “the F word” but I simply haven’t found a substitute with the same power. When my kids were little I had it pretty much eradicated via substitution – “crumwaggit” was my cuss of choice. But there’s no way a Real Live Swear Word isn’t going to come out of my mouth when I drop a just-baked birthday cake on the floor!
Keep up the good work, Scary! There is no law that says that being an actual human and a Mommy are mutually-exclusive states, and anyone who thinks they are is either childless or a REALLY scary mother.
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Why read this blog if you don’t like what you are reading? That person sucks. I think your funny, that’s why I read. I mean, us moms need some sort of outlet where we can say what we want when we want to. Screw the “social media expert”.
Anywho, if you take the time to document the life of your children and family in a blog, then you really love your kids. If you didn’t love them, you would not spend your free time talking about them.
Also, I am impressed at how well you handled the controversy that the comment post brought. I appriciate that you read all of our comments and responded to them. It is one of the reasons I continue to comment.
I like your blog. Don’t change. And fluffy, pretty mommy blogs are over rated. I hate being reminded daily that I’m not as perfect as they are.
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Please tell me you are kidding? Really – people have nothing else better to do than THAT?!?!
BTW – “Pisses the hell” is awesome!
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I love the bluntness. I have a potty mouth myself, it’s nice to know that not everyone is perfect! There are enough perfect and polite mommy blogs out there. This one is for real.
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Dear person who left quoted comment – According to Technorati data (circa 2006 mind you) there’s over 50 million blogs floating out there. Find another one to judge.
I love reading moms, dads, people, etc. who do not censor themselves to please their reading audience (that includes content as well as language) – you either like it or you don’t. I’ve learned all sorts of things by reading blogs that I never thought would interest me – such as the word asshat. I adore that word. It fits so well in so many circumstances.
i.e. That commenter is an asshat who takes himself/herself far too seriously.
Perfect.
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YES!
I couldn’t agree more. I could drop all the bitching, complaining, and swearing from my blog, too. But then I’d be writing FICTION.
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What is it with “experts” trying to tell people how to write on their own PERSONAL blogs??!! Seriously find something else to read then. And I’m guilty of the “pisses me the hell off”…..Sorry~!:)
I have to say that I do censor my blog a little bc my in-laws read it along with some other family members. So I’m not a point blank and as “real” as I could be…..but neither am I all “sunshine and roses”.
Have a good one!!!
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I’m relatively new to this whole blogging thing, but in going through people’s archives and reading similar stories to this one, I’m confused. On one hand there is such a wonderful community of moms (and some dads!) out there, just waiting to lend support, advice, or just an ear. Then, there are these ATTACKS on other bloggers. I don’t get it. If you don’t like someone’s language, or the fact that they have ads on their site, or that they feed their kid Goldfish crackers and chicken nuggets, DON’T READ IT. It’s not like someone is forcing you to read. I thought blogs were about giving people a place to tell their stories and voice their opinions, not to be judged. I was really excited about this blogging thing, but I’ve gotta tell you, I’m a little disappointed lately.
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You’re the best! This person obviously wasn’t in line when God was handing out funny bones. Oops – I said bone. That must have offended virgin ears.
Parenting “experts” are a bunch of pricks with no balls, and they piss the hell outta me!
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Wait, did someone leave you that comment here? Seriously? SERIOUSLY!?!?
Well, eff them!
:)
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Sounds like someone’s not getting any…they need their ass spanked and their hair pulled and they’d feel much, much better. And you can tell them I said that.
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Yeah, ’cause it would just suck if the internet actually reflected the ‘outside world’ in any way! I mean, really! I know everyone goes around talking in sing-song and thinking happy thoughts all the time, but online we like to be a little ‘out there.’ Oh…wait.
….you be you! It’s your blog…your space. Use it as such! And enjoy every minute of it! Even those that you spend mocking your critics! Actually…enjoy those moments the most. LOL!
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anyone who can’t appreciate the word prick certainly couldn’t appreciate having me tell them to go suck my balls. thus, is totally not even kind of worthy of any amount of time or thought.
Right on sister. I don’t edit myself. It’s who I am, love it or leave it.
You rock – I love that you swear. I’m embarrassed to say I swear all too often in front of my kids and wouldn’t you know it – my 3.5 year old says some words that are completely inappropriate! Guess I should save my bad words for the Internet and not at home, right? ;)
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Who are they, the blog police? Did you write them a letter asking them to start reading and to take you “seriously?” Honestly, if I didn’t have my family reading, I would write as I speak, too. I just don’t feel like hearing it from them..
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In the immortal words of Darryl Hammond playing President Bill Clinton, “Suck on it”. You rock just the way you are.
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Well, so much for etiquette. ‘Cause I don’t think telling someone what to write on their own personal blog falls under the rules of common courtesy.
I’m glad you don’t self-edit. Keep it real, sister.
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Oh don’t you change one bit!!! I love you, exactly the way you are!
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The hell? The fact that “prick” and “balls” is on that list pisses the hell outa me;P
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Girl I hear you on that one! Curse words are just WORDS. I dont know why people get bent out of shape about them, (unless someone is yelling them in their face) ha…
Also dooce.com is a clear indication that you can be a successful blogger and drop the f bomb in public, out loud!
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Don’t change a thing…I mean, the reality of parenthood can sometimes be…well…scary, and having just had my second there are days where you just wanna pull your hair out. Using your blog as an expression of that is a great idea. You have a great readership, which is clearly shown in the comments you have on nearly every post, so I don’t think the occasional slip is bothering more than a small percentage of your readers.
I, for one, enjoy the honesty of your posts!
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Some people just like to bitch for the hell of it, especially on the internet. There are always going to be those people. Take it with a grain of salt and move on. There’s nothing wrong with telling it like it is.
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Oh please. Why even bother with a comment? Apparently, someone hasn’t seen Bambi. (“if you can’t say somethin’ nice, don’t say nothin’ at all”). Or at the very least, if you don’t like what you see, don’t read it! Haters. It’s like walking into someone else’s home and telling them their choice of color scheme makes you ill. Who does that?
Calling them out! Good for you – and may they be shamed by all the comments here about them.
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It is your blog and you can say whatever you want. Isn’t that the entire point behind a blog??? Swear all you want, we don’t mind!:-)
These “experts” obviously have never heard of Dooce. Part of the reason I love your blog is for the honesty. Keep it up!
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Don’t change anything, your blog is perfect just how it is!! I had someone tell me once that if people didn’t like my blog or wanted to complain about something on it I should just think to myself “Fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke” and it works! Some people just go through life having to try and screw it up for someone else–usually it is the pricks!
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My husband read my last blog entry and thought I shouldn’t put in the bit about my MIL swearing… She’s never going to figure out how to get to it… It’s all mine! And really, my sisters don’t read it anymore. They know my number and can get the full scoop anytime they want. It’s ALL MINE!!!! MuuaaahhhH!!!!!
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Wow…I wish I had something original to say…but I think everyone has already touched everything…Shame on people who think they have the right to critizize…They don’t pay to read you, so they can just stop, and move on…Blogs are personal and private, so by using the words prick and such, you are obviously not catering to people like her…so she is free to move along to something more to her liking…
Whatever…people suck. I have left many a blog I did not like…I don’t do the overly religious ones…but never once have I concidered commenting about how offensive I find their blog…Ugh…some people!
If you change a thing about your content, I swear that I will stop reading.
OK, maybe that is stretching the truth a bit, but it would totally shatter my image of us hanging out someday, swearing, drinking red wine together, and gabbing about our kids.
-Francesca
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Don’t change a thing! One of the many things that I have loved about your blog from the moment I started following it is how you tell it like it is! You are awesome just the way you are. And I would never in a million years even think of how someone could question your love for your children. You rock Momma!
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A sunshiny-perfect mommy blog like MINE right? Cause you know, I would never say ‘balls’ let alone drop the f-bomb…
ok enough sarcasm… that’ll be the fucking day when someone tells me what kind of language to use on my blog… don’t like it? Don’t fucking read it. Please.
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What kills me is that there’s actually a person who finds words like “prick”, “balls”, and “pisses the hell” to be inappropriate for online content. It’s the Internet. Most online content is much more colourful than this. As is much literature, in fact. Perhaps this kind soul should be attending a good old fashioned book burning to deal with publication of terms he or she finds offensive.
To quote Dr. Cox from “Scrubs”:
I’m fairly sure that if they took all the porn off the Internet, there’d only be one website left, and it would be called “Bring Back The Porn”.
Sad, but reasonably accurate. So yeah. I think your language is just fine, for online content or anywhere else for that matter. It’s all good. :)
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This post surprises me- your blog is tame, funny, real- people have a choice and if they have a stick up in the nether regions then make them go away, like you said, there are plenty of shallow la-la bloggers out there, few like you…Don’t sell out, Scary J, this IS your blog- YOURS! And it is GREAT! I mean that from the depths of my balls….
I don’t know how anyone could question your love for your children. That is one thing that comes through loud and clear! You like me and probably most of us use creative parenting. So what if they run around naked and eat, they are eating right? In fact my kids are dancing on the table while eating but they are eating and its making them happy so its all worth it.
I think that people who want to tell you what to write on your own blog/website are stupid and need to go away. You don’t want them around any way.
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Has this “etiquette expert” aka prick had the balls to piss the hell out of Stephen King by asking him to stop using all those f-ing adverbs? Didn’t think so. When you have an established readership, you stick with what works, and you, my dear, work very well.
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I don’t have much interest in reading a sunshiny-perfect mommy blog anyway.
And what is this person’s problem? The beauty of the internet is that if you don’t like what you’re reading, you can stop reading it and find something else. Why take the step of a nasty comment or email?
So, yeah. Please don’t change anything!
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I agree – don’t change a thing! And for the record, I take you very seriously. I didn’t realize there was a mom blog etiquette that didn’t allow such “improper” words.
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I definitely agree with Tiffany above me! Life isn’t all pretty flowers, confetti and pleasantries… Why should your blog only reflect the niceties of life?!
One of the reasons I keep coming back here is because you don’t act fakely perfect just to appeal to some wider crowd… You are real, you tell it like it is, and that’s the way it should be! Plus, who DOESN’T slip up with an f-bomb now and again?
Personally, I admire your tenacity in saying what you REALLY think! I wish I could be more like my-REAL-self on my own blog, but until my grandmother stops reading it… I don’t think I’ll have the balls. And you know what? Sometimes THAT pisses me right the hell off! ;o)
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no way, I love you and your bluntness. I’ll be staying right here.
Well, Scary J …First of all I just started reading your blog 2day actually. I found it while I was checking out Twitter for my 2nd day, actually find it quite amusing! Ok, not really amusing like “What the hell is she thinking” but like…”Wow, Im so glad that Im not the only one out there that likes for my kids to ENjOY life!!” Though right now my boys are with there dad 4 the summer, I still have my baby girl (4yrs) whom right now loves to ask “WHY????” about everything! And 4 some reason is scared of the WinD! Poor Baby…AnywHo..keep on doing what your doing girl! Dont let what ignorate ppl have 2 say sloooow u down! ;) C-Ya!! JennyAnn!
You are my kind of people too! I get tired of censoring myself all the time and find your blog refreshing! Keep it real and honest, regardless of what the nay-sayers blab on about. Your posting seems to be working for you.
I’m a blog swearer too.
I am loathe to use the phrase “fist bump” but it’s really quite fitting here.
:)
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#%@$&%*#%#&* you too!
LOL
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Why on earth would you change your blog for someone else? How silly! They should get their own blog and make it as boring as they want. We love you just the way you are!
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J,
I was JUST having a conversation about swearing with a friend. We are both in seminary and soon to be pastors. So a good portion of the world expects us not to swear. Know what I say? Fuck ‘em. Real life is filled with shitty circumstances… sometimes ones in which the only thing to say is “FUCK!”
So while I acknowledge that it might be off putting to some people to swear, I’m going to be authentically myself – swear words and all. Fuck you very much, world.
Alison’s last blog post..The ramifications of my actions…
There are other blogs out there – but you’re really is honest – and that’s why I so enjoy it. Don’t change a thing.
And the fact that you really do love and adore your kids, that is clearly evident!
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Jill,
I LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!! Do not change otherwise I will not read… LOL kidding. I would read you even if you changed it to a G rating.
Much love from NJ,
Sue
xoxo
I think your appeal is your “realness”. Just be who you are.
And, as far as hosing the kids down instead of bathing them. Why didn’t I think of that?
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I only stumbled on your blog the other day, which of course leads to reading through past posts to get a feel as to whether or not I’d like to stick around and keep up with the blog. I loved what I read. It’s clear that you’re a loving Mommy and a wonderful woman to boot. What’s also clear is that you’re *honest* about what life is like as a mother and a wife. And I can’t tell you how much I appreciate that. I’m prior Navy, so maybe cuss words aren’t as offensive to a sailor as they might be to someone else (haha, stereotypical sailor moi) but I love it. It’s *you* and it’s what you’re feeling. It’s never seemed as though you wrote it simply for the purpose of being crass or for shock value. It’s just the most appropriately descriptive word.
I feel bad for people who don’t get that. Because I love it, and you’re stuck with me following you for as long as you’ve got this blog going.
fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke ;~)
and if anyone is seriously questioning your love for your kids they need a virtual bitch slap!!
head_nut’s last blog post..Sometimes….Life Sucks
Sunshiny-perfect-curse-free mommy blogs scare me! I love your real, not always happy, blog and all it’s imperfections. It gives me reason to believe that someday I may have one of my own.
Keep it up my friend!
I applaud you for staying true to you. If others don’t like your blog, that is there problem, NOT YOURS!
As for me, I am not offended by what you write and will happily keep me eyes open for all future posts because I enjoy them just as they are.
Wishing you a scent-sational day!
Patty Reiser
P.S. In time things will change. I say this because way back when language, nudity, etc was prohibited on television. And now look what is acceptable on television today!
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I adore you all. Truly. I can’t even muster up more to say.
And, my extended family did find my potty mouth a it shocking at first– I recall my aunt Bonnie remarking to my mom that I sure to swear a lot. But I think it’s helped them to know me better, which is a nice thing. At least I think it is?
And, I totally deserved some nasty comments after writing a post on how to comment. I had it coming— I was just waiting, really. :)
Kristina, 99.9% of the time, people are supportive and wonderful. I rarely get nasty comments, and what I gain from the blog far outweighs the few I do.
There are ‘Rules’ on how to write a Blog? And no one has shared them with us Newbies? They should post those or something when you start a blog cause ya know, it’s all about playing by the rules and being like everybody else right?
Well shit. I don’t like rules so I guess I’ll have one of those verboten blogs that no one reads because *gasp* I curse and talk about penis’.
Don’t change a thing, your Blogs rocks just the way it is. :)
pissybuggerbitchshitdamnfuckmeupthegoatass.
Schmoochiepoo’s last blog post..Random thoughts from Schmoochie’s brain
Oh, my whoever that commenter was, I would have told her to f**k off. I try to edit myself too on my website, but when I hear from someone that patronizing and judgmental sounding as if they are sitting on their high horse while they are probably just sitting on their ass, with nothing better to do and no writing talent to speak of that could ever be tracked down even with a microscope… well, you know, if you don’t like it, don’t read it.
In fact, next time you don’t like something, feel free to leave and never return, and please do try to resist pulling a stupid comment out of your ass. This isn’t 4th grade and you are not the teacher, sunshine. Get lost.
Did someone really say that to you? I never noticed overuse of four letter words here… Do you think they meant that as an “in general” and not about you specifically (in response to your question about comments)?
I’m not much of a potty mouth – at least not in my writing. But the stray four letter word makes an appearance here and there.
I’m pretty sure that Dooce and The Blogess use “bad language” every now and again, and last I checked they are in everyone’s readers… So I’m thinking the social media experts are full of shit (excuse my french).
Kate Coveny Hood’s last blog post..Guido Beach
You had me at balls!
I love ya girly, don’t change a thing!
Brittany’s last blog post..Extra postage.
Your honesty, sarcasm and “crude” language are what keeps me reading! You are effing awesome for saying what you want to say…blogging is about expressing yourself! And that is why we have free speech people! ROCK ON Scary Mommy! Rock on!
Jackie’s last blog post..Oh Happy Day!
I think you rock.
I also use choice words and I’m not always sunshiny because to be honest, the people who are scare me a little bit. I always want to say, “Surely SOMETHING pisses you off, right?”
I’ve always preferred the blunt bloggers.
Amber’s last blog post..Don’t Sick Dial
Really? Somebody really said that?
Fuck ‘em. Write what and how you want. I’ll still read. (And also, it’s a blog, which by definition is a sort of conversation, kind of, in a way, and do four letter words diminish the quality of a conversation?)
(I mean, I guess they can. Obviously if you go on about fucking the fucking fucker fuck fuck then, you know, you’ve gone too far and diminished your point and the quality of the conversation.)
(But if that’s the case, then you’re probably drunk in which case it’s pretty damned hilarious for everyone else.)
(And if you aren’t drunk, it’s still pretty funny.)
(So back to my original point, I’m going to say that no, in 99.99% of cases, four letter words do not diminish the quality of a blog or conversation. I’d even argue that the five letter word up there – BALLS – probably contributes to the quality of a blog or conversation more often than not.)
(Maybe it’s just me. But if you say BALLS, I’ll giggle.)
(Like a schoolgirl.)
(Okay, I’m done here. Honest.)
Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com’s last blog post..Zapped.
So I’m guessing that motherf*cker is also off limits?
I curse my head off on my blog and on twitter, because I can. Don’t like it? Bite my ass.
mrs chicken’s last blog post..Little Girl On The Prairie
Never trust someone who doesn’t drink
And NEVER trust someone who doesn’t swear
Don’t change a thing mate
Fuck ‘Em!
JT
x
jenny talia’s last blog post..made in china
Fuck yes.
If you change your blog… I am finding whomever wrote those nasty comments and keying their BLOGS… oh YES I AM!!!
jerks!
Who has time to think of cruel stuff like that and then FOLLOW through and type it out?
don’t read it if you don’t like it???
Shelle-BlokThoughts’s last blog post..Splash Mountain is deceitful!
Buh? Who the hell writes that? It’s the fucking INTERNET. It was practically built on swearing and oh-so-uncomfortable honesty. This is EXACTLY the place for it.
Keely’s last blog post..HASAY update, and some ducks
fuckidy fuck prick balls?!? someone really said that to you? Oh Piss it all to Hell! I am shocked! This is your blog YOUR blog… let me say that louder YOUR BLOG. Fuck!
(by the way i hate people who cuss)
hope you know i’m kidding about that last part :) *wink wink*
Lizzie’s last blog post..June Featured Blogger: MOM TAXI
I love how you described it in the beginning…this blog is YOUR place, yours alone. And you should do exactly what you want with it! Screw anyone who disagrees.
dysfunctional mom’s last blog post..DysFUNctional Mom and the Crazy, Surreal, Bizarre, Horrible and Wonderful Day
buggery bollocks – prudes really F^&*())~!@#$%%^ me off hehe – don’t change!!!
scrappysue’s last blog post..haven’t done much lately, but what little i’ve done i’m showing you now
I’d only resort to inappropriateness as a response to being told I was inappropriate. In other words, if someone objected to “shit,” I’d tell ‘em to fuck off :)
Seriously what is WITH people dictating what is and isn’t appropriate? It’s judged by the blog owner—if you don’t like it, don’t come here. Simple. I personally don’t use swear words on my blog because of what I write about—mostly it’s spiritual stuff and y’know, what’s the point of swearing? However, I’m not averse to the curse :)
Braja’s last blog post..Love?
And to elaborate, someone’s idea of inappropriateness is really screwed up if they’re imposing it on blogs. As for language: in church? Inappropriate. In schools? Inappropriate. In a family environment? Inappropriate. I could go on. It’s obvious where language is controlled and where it is free. Saying a blog owner can’t speak how they want is saying fiction novels should all be censored and of the one genre so they’re equal. What a loada shit.
Braja’s last blog post..Love?
Go ahead and cuss all you like – if people can’t take words like balls (when did that become rude? My kids play with balls all the time), then they can go elsewhere for entertainment and stimulation.
Imogen Lamport’s last blog post..How to Wear Leggings
Well, whoever the prick was that had the balls to presume to “correct” you had just pissed me off enough to come out of lurkdom to comment. You stay EXACTLY the way you are, and tell them to fuck up a tree.
Ri’s last blog post.."…when we work together, we’ve got the right stuff!"
Wow it’s amazing how judgemental people can be. I’m truely sorry that anyone would question your obvious love for your children – thats just plain silly to me. I haven’t been reading your blog for very long but that just doesn’t make any sense. I don’t have a problem with your language or your content – its YOUR blog and you should ‘entertain’ us however you want and it’s our choice to read it or not. Keep going just as you are – it’s just perfect to me!
Tiffany’s last blog post..Colbert Report
Don’t change your language! Don’t change anything! Scary Mommy is great for a reason and that is: We get the REAL you! I swear like a sailor all the time, so I love it. If readers don’t like it, move on to the next blog.
Loves you. Don’t change! I “retired” but am pulling a Michael Jordan and coming back………so I can cuss and bitch OUTSIDE of my head!
Annie@Cookies’s last blog post..What if ?!??
What prick said that to you? Oops, but I found it very necessary to use that this time. In any event, I am staying and you’re welcome :)
Live.Love.Eat’s last blog post..Caramelized Onion Squares with Olives
I would say screw ‘em but I’m sure that would infuriate the mommy police out there…and you know who you are. I’ll take the honest, imperfect you any day.
@CuriousDina’s last blog post..LifeTwo Host Yummy Blogging Boomers Carnival #118
people are crazy… If you don’t like it don’t read it. I love your blog and all of its 4 letter words
mariah’s last blog post..Stepping
I’m all for not going over-board and being respectful, but I’m also a huge fan of being genuine. Yeah, I curse in conversation and yeah, I could probably stand to clean it up a bit especially when posting, but I don’t want to sanitize it to the point that I lose my own voice. I don’t want the blogs I read to do that either.
So make room for me on the bench, file me under, “One of us,” and add however many expletives you want. :-)
Reiza’s last blog post..Home is…
Uhh, I think you’re my long-lost sister.
Rho Rho’s last blog post..Disney in a Day
I can totally relate!
Hmmm…. I believe my fondness for four letter words started long before I was actually a project manager on the construction site. I have a foul mouth and admit it freely. I try to not teach my kids all my expletives (they’ll figure them out all on their own thanks to the joys of public schooling). However, don’t try to put word in my mouth or take words out of it. It’s mine and I like it just the way it is thanks!
Christina’s last blog post..HAPPY HUMP DAY
I would have only one thing to say to someone like that. “Fuck you, you fucking fuck.” ;-)
Colleen – Mommy Always Wins’s last blog post..Knocking you out with these American thighs
I like your site because you say it like it is. If you laid off the colorful language I would be less able to relate to you, and I think being able to relate to you is perfectly lovely! So don’t change a thing.
Meh. Fuck ‘em.
LizzB’s last blog post..Is There A Starbucks At Rehab?
I love you just the way you are!
Oh my fucking god. Are you kidding me?
I just LOVE it when people make snarky comments like, “How do you expect me to respect your work when you clearly are unable to {fill in the blank of whatever the prick wants to do himself but doesn’t have the balls to do it}.”
When I get those comments I want to (and often do) scream through the computer “THEN JUST GO CLICK SOMEWHERE ELSE BECAUSE I DON’T WANT YOU AS A READER ANYWAY, DOUCHEBAG!!!”
Rock on, Scary mommy.
Texan Mama’s last blog post..Florida, So Far
I like it when people get to the point and tell it like it is. You have a way of doing that. It’s like being in New York city they tell it like it is and you always know where they are coming from. Having rugrats myself I can relate to very few things being yours. Many times when I need to find things that belong to me they are in my sons room!! Keep on posting.
.-= Rick´s last blog ..Victory is Overcoming =-.
Just keep being who you are, scary and all…from the number of us, it doesn’t bother us one bit, does it ;)?
Yes, it’s your space and you can express yourself however the hell you want to.
Some people just have to be this way though, don’t they? Like my Dad always says, opinions are like a-holes, everybody’s got one!
Keep on keepin on, just as you are! : )
.-= Elaine´s last blog ..Lost Reservation but Great Vacation! =-.
I don’t curse. Well, at least I really try not to…but I could care less if you do! If it makes you happy then you write all you want. I am SO glad you are not a sunshiney perfect Mommy. Life is not always sunshiney and perfect. I love your blog. I can never get enough. I think you are real. Real and wonderful. Those perfect and sunshiney mommy’s give me a headache. Tell them to take off their babies and GET REAL : ). You are wonderful Jill! Rock on Sister!
.-= Life with Kaishon´s last blog ..Our venture =-.
please don’t clean up your act. if your blog was a phony, beautifully painted picture of how perfect you, your kids and your lives are – there’s no way in hell i could stomach reading any of it.
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