Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy
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Unless you are living under a rock, (0r never make it to your local Target,) you’re well aware that Mother’s Day is quickly approaching on the second Sunday in May. Woodrow Wilson proclaimed it an official national holiday in 1914 and ever since then, card companies, chocolatiers and rose growers have rejoiced over every baby born, knowing that yet another woman will need to be celebrated come spring. Hallelujah! We mothers have earned that day, dammit! I’m quite sure even Hilary Rosen would agree.
So, how did Mother’s Day turn into yet another day where we are expected to work?
In the very best of worlds, ours is a day filled with stuffy brunches we need to reserve, bouquets of flowers and store bought cards. Instead of getting the day off, Mother’s Day has somehow become just another day that we need to make our children look their Sunday best, trim stems from flowers that will beg to be fed or quickly wilt away and clean up after well intentioned children prepare us inedible breakfasts in bed. And, that’s the best case scenario.
It’s quite obvious that a man concocted this current interpretation of our holiday.
And, why do we get a single day? Don’t we deserve at least a weekend? Or, a week? Maybe even a National Mother’s Appreciation Month? I mean, there’s actually a National Chocolate Covered Raisin Day. A day, celebrating a dried out grape coated in chocolate. Oh, sure, they’re delicious, but delicious enough to justify a national holiday? I’m quite sure a chocolate covered raisin has never dashed to the ER at 3AM with a screaming ear infected toddler or extracted a penny from a two year old’s nose. What’s to celebrate?
There’s also National Hug an Anchor Day. Are news anchors really that in need of affection? National Catfish Day celebrates the “value of farm-raised catfish,” and National Grammar Day celebrates… good grammar. There’s even National Scrapbooking Day and National Chicken Dance Day. And, just like the fish and the scrapbookers, we mothers get a single stinking day. It’s certainly nothing worth breaking into the Chicken Dance for.
So, this year, I’m taking my day back. We mothers spend our entire existences putting everyone else first and I’m sick of it. If I’m given a day, I’m going to take that day and make it my own. Enough is enough. This year, I’m asking for – no demanding — an Anti-Mother’s Day.
For one day, all I want is to be left alone and not be a mother. I want to sleep late and be the spouse who plays dead when the children holler for breakfast. I want to pee with the door actually closed and not wipe a single nose or behind. I want to shower without an audience for a change. I want to not wash laundry and not do the dishes and not be the one to find the missing mate for the shoe which seems to simply have walked off on its own. I want none of it, for once.
At the end of my day, I will surely miss the little faces I so adore. I’ll tire of the peace and quiet I constantly crave. I’ll long for their hugs and slobbery kisses and I will savor hearing what they’ve done with their day away from me. I won’t even mind getting splashed as I give them their bath or reading the same bedtime story twice. I’ll actually enjoy it all again, having been given the rare day off. And I’ll count down the days until I get it all again.
364 and getting closer every day.
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I will be at work taking care of heart surgery patients like I do every mothers day. Bonus is I get paid $$$$$$$$
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I’m totally taking your approach this year. Amen.
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Amen, sister! I’ve already decided to leave the house before the kids wake up and I am not even thinking of coming back until they are in bed.
This is an EXCELLENT idea. I think I’ll do this too, lol!
Yes, leaving the house is the best way to accomplish this. Amen!
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AMEN!!! I’ve always pooh-poohed Mother’s Day as it’s just another day when retailers are out to rip us off and really, why wait one day a year to ‘celebrate’ mothers?
You’re right, give us a day off, and we’ll be happy bunnies.
Alison@Mama Wants This recently posted..The Second Time
Amen, sista! I took Mother’s Day back last year. Planned the day I wanted, and it was lovely. Will be doing the same this year. It’s MY day, damnit! ;)
Sounds good to me. My most favorite mother’s day was the one where my husband took the kids out for the entire day so that I could stay at home in my pajamas and do nothing in peace. It was wonderful.
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Ive actually asked the husband for one night in a hotel by myself. I want to check in at 3pm and not leave. Just eat in bed, sleep, take a bath and check out the next day. It doesn’t even need to be a nice hotel, just a clean room with a bed and bath and no rodents. I have had three months with a colicky baby and he gets to be out of town every second week for work, which means sleep for him, one night away is all I want.
LOVe it! My hubby actually gave me passes last year. Seriously. Laminated and everything. Love that man!
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My husband is a wonderful man, and intelligent enough to understand that this is what I really want for Mother’s Day. He usually takes the kids to see his own mother(who doesn’t see the kids that often), and I get to do whatever I please! This usually includes a kid-free shopping trip with my mom (aka Nana-the best sitter ever). Everyone wins! :)
I’m in! And after I sleep in and not clean up breakfast I want to go shopping. I want to shop for me, not for someone else, not because so and so has out grown their whatevers or stained their only nice pair of pants. Thank-you.
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I’ve only celebrated one mother’s day with my kids. Every year my parents take them to Thailand on a trip and every year they go in May so they’re gone for mother’s day and my birthday. It is both a blessing and a curse.
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This is exactly how i spend Mother’s day each year. My husband gives me the day ( until about 5:00 pm and I help get the kiddos ready for the week to come). It is great. And this is what we do for Father’s day as well- My hubby gets to do what he wants for thr day and not be a ” Dad” for the day. No gifts given or received although the kids do make a breakfast and typically cut a flower from my garden and put it on my tray for breakfast in bed. It is FABULOUS!
We can dare to dream!
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Every year this is the edict I pass in my house. I want to only do what I want today. I don’t want to help anyone else do anything unless it was my idea to do it in the first place. I don’t want guests I don’t want anything at all unless it is MY FREAKING IDEA!!!
Every year I make breakfast for everyone because I make it for myself and get asked is there some for me?
Every year my boyfriend tries very hard to make is a great day, but ends up just making me crazy.
Every year my kids want desperately to do the right thing but generally just miss the boat.
This year I will try again to have a day totally for myself and as if this wasn’t my 16th year that this game I will naively think that this year unlike all the others will be different. A girl can dream!
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We do a family day with fun things for the kids. Last year we all went paddle boating. Then we let Melissa pick the restaurant. That is our new tradition.
I’m not “officially” a mother, but I have to act like one for MY MOTHER and MY SISTER. They act like kids! They’ve been acting like kids for years. It is very frustrating and I wish I could have a day off!
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This totally justifies my plan to lock the bedroom door (with only me on the other side) and lay in bed all day watching HGTV and eating cake. Yeah….. :D
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AMEN!! I’ve felt this way for years. Actually, we always spend mother’s day with plans centered around my MIL. It never feels like MY day at all. Not to say I get ignored, but no one asks ME what I want to do for mother’s day. When I once told my MIL that I would love to actually have the day off on mother’s day, her comment was that that day was meant to be spent WITH your kids, celebrating them and letting them celebrate you. Ummmm….My kids range in age from 16 to 4. I’m ALWAYS with them. One day I’m going to start a tradition of a mom’s weekend at the beach for mother’s day. Or at least I can dream.
This year I left my husband, so, I have the kids on mother’s day, I love my kids, but if I could sleep late, not remind kids to pack for school the next day, make sure the wash is done and oh yeah I moved in with my parents, so I still have to be a daughter as well, and do for my mom, whom I love dearly. the only bright side I came up with, I only have to see my mom, hee hee, He gets to see his, with out his kids.
Oh hell yes! A thousand times over!
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I’m not a big celebrator of these days, so I just want to avoid doing something I do NOT want to do. Like go to a car show or take both kids to the ER or something like that. I’m planning on avoiding those activities.
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It should be OUR day regardless. I love a weekend off. It is a lot of work to prep.
Great post!
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Hooray hooray for a REAL Mother’s Day celebration, and a chance to regain our sanity!! I’m especially excited this year because Germany’s Mother’s Day is different than ours. I’ve already declared that I get to celebrate twice! :-)
hear, hear!!
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The Anti-Mother’s Day is an amazing idea. This is the stuff dreams are made of…for a day…just enough time to appreciate the underappreciation again!!
I’ve said that this is what I wanted to do for the past 2 years to my husband…and he had the balls to tell me I was selfish!
Selfish!
For asking for one stinkin’ day ALL TO MYSELF!
I don’t call him selfish for going out w/ the guys to watch hockey, I don’t call him selfish when he goes out for drinks after work w/ co-workers from time to time. I don’t call him selfish (but I do call him lots of other things!) when he gets to go away for a night or two on business. “But it’s not like i’m having fun! I don’t get to see anything! I’m in an airport, on a plane, in a hotel room, at a meeting, etc”
Key word is “hotel room” aka Sleeping in peace!! Not having anyone following you around whining, etc!
so this year, he can suck it. I’m doing what I want, when I want and that’s the end of the story.
I am with you all the way, as a matter of fact I told my husband yesterday that all I wanted for Mother’s day was a full body massage(by a professional) and a facial. My day to get pampered and have peace and quite. I have forward him this post hopefully he will get the idea. Thank you so much.
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Not only am I doing what *I* want, I’m leaving on a redeye to NYC on the 10th and not flying home until the evening of the 13th. By myself. While daddy does THREE WHOLE DAYS by himself.
I have my cousin’s wedding to attend, and I don’t want to drag the kids across the country (I’m in SF) and take them out of school. And I want to luxuriate in my hotel bed and sleep in. And drink a lot at the wedding. And sleep in.
I already told my husband this is the BEST mother’s day present EVER.
So funny, my hubby and I had a talk about Mother’s Day last night because I get to share it every.goddamn.year with his birthday. JOY! AND to boot this year he has to work that entire weekend and has drinking friends coming from out of town to stay with us that same weekend. I told him the only thing I DON’T want it for Mother’s Day to be the same as every other day. I don’t want to have to wake up and deal with the kids, entertain his friends while he’s at work, and have to clean up their drunken mess from the night before. He offered to switch mother’s day to another day for me. So sweet (NOT!)
We deserve a week… heck a month!
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Sorry, this one I don’t agree with. I love nothing more to spend the day with my kids on Mother’s Day. They are the very reason for that day. But I get to choose how I want to spend that day, whether it be at a “stuffy” brunch (yum!), hanging out at the arboretum (done this a couple of times and LOVED it) or even going to the amusement park (since I’m a big kid at heart and love roller coasters). One year I screwed up and scheduled a trip to Las Vegas for me and my hubby (for our anniversary, which is a couple of weeks before Mother’s Day) and didn’t realize we’d be gone during Mother’s Day. I was so bummed.
I tears here, for 3 of the last 5 mothers’ days my husband has bought me rose bushes, that I had to subsequently plant, water and prune. I think he meant well at least. The worst was the year we all went for a special mothers day brunch to a resultant that DID NOT have a changing table in the men’s room. I had 2 kids under the age of 3 1/2, you do the math.
I vote for an anti-mothers day retreat as well, even if its only in guest room and a bubble bath.
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My solution to Mother’s Day is to take a day off from work and do whatever I want.
Although this year I did ask for something: Passports for the whole family.
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I love this! It made me cry even thinking about it. Isnt it kind of funny how we have to be told ( Not all the time) that we deserve something before we start thinking we do deserve it. Thank you for writing this one. It was definitly in the time of my need.
I’m not going to lie. When I read “Hug an Anchor” day I thought of the kind attached to boats and was thoroughly confused.
At any rate, my mom has always made it known that Mother’s Day is her favorite day of the year, hands down. While I’m hypersensitive to making her happy on this day, I would do it even without the gentle reminder that she pushed me out of her cooter. You ladies deserve more than a day, that’s for sure, but you know the house would be a mess if you were granted that wish. After all, you are irreplaceable!
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We have a two-mom household, which means that we not only have to do all of the typical mom stuff, we also have to buy crap and make the other mom feel special, potentially by doing some crappy, messy craft project with the kiddos for the other mom. I can’t wait until the kids are old enough to feel guilt about this. Until then, I’m taking applications from two-dad households to share duties between Mother’s (Mothers’) and Father’s (Fathers’) Days. It seems like the only sensible solution.
I am with you. I get two days off a year — Mother’s Day and my birthday — not because my husband is thoughtful but because i demand it. Take no prisoners, sisters. Take what’s yours.
My dh does school & work & I’m the sahm, but my birthday & mothers day he always gets me 2 cards from him & the girls that always makes me cry & my fave dinner & cake AND he watches the girls all day & I do w/e I want
I *thought* that when I became a mother, that I would get the silly flowers and unedible breakfast… and I do. But I quickly learned that even though I have now earned the right to be celebrated, that it’s not about me, rather, its about the grandmothers. And I now have to plan the day around them… and I never get to do what i want… which is exactly what you laid out here. :(
Oh, AMEN!
The worst is having to share it with my mil. She needs her own day so that I don’t have to spend MY Mother’s Day doing things for her.
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YES!!! I told my husband that I wanted to go get my nails done and to have a relaxing day at home, him doing all the “work” associated with parenting. That’s a true Mother’s Day to me.
This is exactly what I ask for every year. I have yet to get it.
We usually spend the day at my mother-in-laws house celebrating her. Seriously. She got her 18 years of Mother’s Days. What about mine?
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I had to laugh because, my dear husband got me a great gift for Mother’s Day last year – a gift card for a spa. It took me an entire year just to find some time to go, and even then he called me twice while I was there.
I love my kids, as we all do – but a real day OFF would be lovely. Amen!
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We all love our kids (right?) but the day should be about us, what WE want to do, whether that includes saying yes to burned toast and orange juice with pulp or not (how many damn times do I have to say I don’t like pulp? It’s been 17 years!). I guess what irks me about Mother’s Day is the commercialism and the fact that society is telling me that on this day, this ONE day, you are to be nice to your mom. Um, b/c I didn’t like her last week and I’ll hate her tomorrow? Why this one day?
I do love my kids. I love my husband. I’m glad that they get together and conspire about what they’ll do to show me they love me…planning and strategizing…the day before Mother’s Day. I just really want to veg out, really I do.
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I have asked for (and received) this every year since my kids were little. It is the best present ever, if hubby can actually be in charge for the whole day and you can actually keep your hands off the laundry and dishes and kids. Do it.
Mom’s guilt. Every year. My kids get so excited to spend the day with me, so we go out and have a family day together of things I want to do. But on Saturday or Monday when they go back to school, I make sure to do something special for myself. It works and sometimes it’s better because I get the best of both worlds.
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Just be careful on that “Day Off”….. if you’ve seen the Mother’s Day episode of “The Middle” (it aired May, 2011) you know what I’m talking about! Hope you have a great “Not a Mother Mother’s Day”.
I had the luck to deliver twins on May 13. So far, two of their 6 birthdays have actually fallen right on mother’s day. DD is allergic to peanuts too, so I spend the ramp up to Mother’s day prepping safe cakes, setting up birthday parties, throwing the parties on Mother’s day, and then adding the expense of gifts for the Moms’ spending their special days at my kids’ party. This year we’ll actually be in Disney World for my/their special day, so that’s even more work than usual. I’d love to take the day off but it’s not in the cards.
Ha! I asked my husband to hire the nanny to come that Sunday nice and early so that we could both sleep in. He said he was going to make me breakfast with our 13 month old and seemed hurt that I had asked to not spend the morning with my child…. Ahhhhhh…… Glad I’m not the only one who truly wanted the day off.
Single mom here so no time off. But I love the fact that my 14 year old does all dishes on Mother’s Day.
What kills me about Mother’s Day is that it all too often gets hijacked by the Grands – women who generally are no longer actively mothering darn it!
We overloaded Mom’s will make brunch reservations at what will be overcrowded and noise restaurants & force our children to make Grand worthy cards.
That morning we’ll drag our weary butts out of bed to get their grandchildren prepped & primped for an outing they have no interest in anyway, and if we’re lucky, we’ll get a moment to splash some water on our face, apply some mascara over yesterday’s remnants, and rake fingers thru our hair before assembling the wrap & roll knot of snaky, slept on curls atop our head.
Running late as always, there will still be the stop to pick up flowers of some sort, maybe a box of sweets, too.
I know, I know, they mothered us, loved us, wiped our noses, boos & tushes, but Mother’s Day is for those of us in the momming trenches! These ladies know what a battlefield Momming can be, so why is it so many of them refuse to acknowledge their 2nd string status and tend to, nurture or voice a kind word to their daughters & daughter-in-laws?
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Jill, you are brilliant!!!
There are a lot of “have to’s” mentioned – just remember, you don’t ‘have’ to do anything you don’t want to! Personally for me, this will be my first mothers day, but I don’t feel like I have to do anything. We send flowers to our mothers and that has always been it there. I will plan something fun and relaxing…..brunch (we always go out to brunch, so no extra stress there) and hopefully a hike or some couch time. We have a couples gift certificate to a spa so might try and do that the following Monday. Mother’s Day should really fall on a Saturday….spend the day with the kids and hire a babysitter so mom can get good and drunk that evening and no one has to be anywhere the next day!
Ha. I’ve told my husband on several occasions that the perfect gift for me is a night in a boutique hotel. Alone. I’m serious.
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Two years ago, I had a reaaallly disappointing Mothers Day. On a friend’s advice, I saw my husband down the next day and laid out my expectations for future Mothers Days. They boiled down to this:
“YOU plan it. Please don’t ask me where I want to eat, or what I want to do. And don’t wait until the day of to decide. We’ve been together for over 16 years (at that point) – you know me better than anyone, so you know what I like to eat and what I like to do. For one day, on Mothers Day, don’t make me make any decisions.”
Last year? Mothers Day was INCREDIBLE. He planned my day, I had no responsibilities, and I felt cherished. I’m thinking of reiterating these rules this week, just to make sure he remembers it’s coming up again…
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I love Mother’s day. I get some sort of breakfast in bed (and no matter what, I eat it!) and then I get to declare what we are doing that day, whether it is going roller skating, me going to a movie alone, painting the kitchen pink :D:D:D or having a picnic where THEY make the food and I am served my lunch with lots of kisses.
Take it back, make it yours, remind them that it is YOUR day and try and make whatever it is you do for your Mum, stress free and pre-organised.
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Frankly, I always thought mother’s day was intended to make us forget that we don’t get maternity leave!
I may be bitter. My husband’s not very good at spearheading a celebration.
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While I totally get what you are saying, as a woman TTC, I think I would love to have a child’s mess to clean up. I just want a baby so bad. I do agree with you though, that day sounds amazing!
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I do this every mother’s day – and for my birthday too …all I want is to spend both those days by myself. Amen.
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I say all mommies plan a day of pampering outside of the house. Go have breakfast with girl friends, get a massage and/or mani/pedi, see a movie YOU want to see, have lunch at a restaurant you would never take kids to w/an adult beverage or two, go shopping for yourself, then come home to a clean house and a husband-cooked meal (I know it’s asking a lot from the men in our lives, but even if this part doesn’t happen, at least you had a nice day until this point).
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I always love your take.
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Last year I took the entire weekend. I left on Friday and didn’t get back til Monday morning. It was lovely. And it was ALL mine.
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Amen. I’m tired of being dragged to brunches and forced to sit and smile for hours on end in a crowded restaurant with crummy food when all I want is peace and quiet and alone time … for one day out of the year.
Amen, sister!
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My birthday is May 9th and virtually every year I have to share celebrating it with Mother’s day. I am totally with you, let’s kill the day.
Heck, a million men are ready to banish Valentine’s Day so might as well end Mother’s Day too. Make it a two for one.
You guys don’t have to do anything and neither do we. Sadly I think that the chances of this happening are about the same as getting a letter from Scarlett Johanssen demanding that I become her sex slave.
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Mother’s Day is also my birthday and it still never manages to be about me. How hard is that?
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High-five on this.
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Ha! I’m sort of with you on this… but… Mother’s Day IS the perfect excuse to get out of the house, and go to a spa all day, totally guilt free… right? :)
With that, I’m loving the idea of Mother’s Weekend…like they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder! (especially after 2 days with dad at the reins) ;)
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I have always felt this way. My husband asks what I want to do and my immediate response is “be alone.” But then I feel like a bitch for not wanting to be with the very things (I use that term loosely) that actually made me a mom! So I then have my day “taken” from me.
I’m with you….I am ready to take it back!
BRAVO!
I actually don’t get nothing else but flowers. And I’m very happy with that.
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AMEN sister. I have it all teed up to ask SPECIFICALLY for what I want. I want my butt in the spa for a full day & for it not be scheduled on Mother’s Day. AND, totally agree we need a week. Day 1) For the puking for the 1st trimester (or whole 9 months) Day 2) For the delivery Day 3) For the recovery from labor and bloody nipples and bloody everything Day 4) For the worry in the pit of your stomach wondering if they are breathing Day 5) Toddlerville = enough said Day 6) For pure exhaustion that is sucked out of you like a vacuum Day 7) A day to rest. From all mentioned above. We all need a sabbath, right??
Thanks for your perspective, Jill. Have loved seeing you all over the place. First trip away from kiddos this weekend for me (16 month old triplets..scary, right??) – Plan to read your book front to cover!!!
I have already notified the family that I will be taking the day off that day and going out as a hipster. I will wear cool clothes and actually brush my hair. I will not drive a minivan and I will not eat the kids’ leftover foods on their plates.
Please stop calling me Mommy.
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Debbie Weiner, I feel your pain! The last few years my hubby’s extended family always gets together, so basically the Mother’s day focus is on his Grandma, my MIL and his aunts. All very deserving. But not how I would choose to spend Mother’s Day.
I always get breakfast and the Sunday papers in bed (hubby buys doughnuts or muffins) but the day is spent with his family (he does agree with me that it’s not right) and dinner out that entire weekend isn’t possible. The three local universities all hold graduation that weekend and every decent restaurant has a two hour wait every meal that weekend.
This year it gets better. My daughter is in the children’s choir and they are scheduled to sing at 8:30 Mass that morning and she has to be there by 7:50. Why can’t it be 10:30 Mass?
I think I will have my family celebrate Mother’s Day the weekend before or after when we can celebrate it the way I want.
100% YES!
fucking A! sorry for the profanity but goddamnit yes.
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My son is only 12 days old, but between those few days as a mother and 3 and a half years as a daycare teacher I know that when you take breaks and come back from them the mess that’s been made sometimes isn’t worth taking off. Sometimes no one else does your job while you’re gone. It’s nice to be appreciated, but I won’t be taking the day off for the twice the load the next day.
I have been a mother for 14 years – when my military husband is home – I go stay in a hotel for mother’s day weekend. I have many friends who think I am selfish because I don’t want to spend mother’s day with the people who made me a mother…. but it doesn’t bother me when I’m doing whatever the hell I want to for the WHOLE weekend. I’m a better mother when I come back….just like you said. And since my DH has NO cooking skills – the kids are REALLY glad to see me!
I agree completely. The first year I was a mother, my husband asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day. I told him I didn’t want to change any diapers or cook any meals. It was a perfect day. It’s been ten years since that day and we haven’t gotten much more elaborate than that and that’s fine with me.
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Here, here, Jill! I’m totally with you on this one. On Mother’s Day, I’m going golfing…
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Last week I said to my husband, “Let’s just pretend like mother’s day isn’t happening, okay? I’ll go to a movie by myself or something.”
Glad to know i’m not the only one with a serious case of mother’s day dread.
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My birthday falls on Mother’s Day this year (I’ll be 31). My husband doesn’t care about birthdays or social holidays like Mother’s Day, so I’ll have to be very specific with what I want that day or else I risk being very disappointed. I’m asking for time. I can’t wear jewelry with a toddler anyway.
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A friend of mine and I are going out of town over Mother’s Day weekend. I feel a bit guilty about being gone for the holiday, but my husband agreed it made sense that mommy should have a holiday over Mother’s Day. :)
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Been a mom for 12 yrs. Flowers from hubby and greeting cards from my kids make my Mother’s Day special every year. Anyway, I love your suggestion, I think National Mother’s Month would be great! :-)
Last year, I got a mothers “gift” from my husband, 7 months after mother’s day only after commenting 402.3 times (per day) about the fact that he made suuuuuure to call his mother but didn’t even get me a card and pretend to sign our 1 year olds name or something. Awesome!
Sleeping in would be the best mother’s day present, for sure!
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Please don’t let my wife see this! With a whiny toddler and a miserable 3 month old, she’s the only one that keeps this house sane! :P
But on the other hand, I suppose she deserve at least one day off…. *cough*
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Honey AMEN
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Just to let you know, Mother’s Day was created by a woman who wanted to honor her mother. Of course it is now different than she would have liked but it still did start out with sincerity. Mother’s day is also what you make of it. If you don’t tell you own mother every day thank you for the thing she has done, then at least there is a day to remind you of it. However, the amount that woman has done, it should be everyday. I’ve already started a Mother’s Day tradition with my daughter where we do exactly what i want & my husband does all the child prep for me. Its a day off but a fun day with her.
What a perfect way to celebrate!! And I’m with you on extending the holiday – “Mother Appreciation Week!”
I get gyped this year ’cause my birthday is on Mother’s Day this year. (it’s happened a few other times too) But @ least I don’t have to go to my mom’s and cook and clean this year. They’ll be on vacation. Must be nice.
Exactly what I think too! Pretend you are a single dad for that day and leave me alone. Let me sleep in, even better everybody leave the house at dawn and don’t return until bath time!
I loathe the courtesy rose we get at the brunch place. Please. Because half the staff would be sending us eye darts any other Sunday if we showed up, tots in tow. Not that I would anyway.
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AMEN!!! 363 though, right? What about your birthday? As far as I’m concerned, we get that too. ;)
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Last year my kids gave me a wonderful surprise on Mother’s Day. So I’m looking forward to Mother’s Day this year as well.
I’ve got a surprise planned for them this time around and hope that they really love it.
-Keiraa
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Just see a page which I found wonderful and they have awesome things to share with us. http://www.facebook.com/argington
Seems to me we need more than just the one day a year. I think we should get one day every week. Let’s petition the President — let’s make every Saturday Anti-Mother’s Day!
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I can’t believe you haven’t done this before! This is how I always intend to spend mother’s day. But, I will take care of as many responsibilities as I can the day before, so I won’t feel guilty about it. Stupid guilt.
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yup , i already told hubby i will choose a “gift” for myself, we will order take out, they clean up the mess and I get to play video games all day!!! HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ME!!!
I just want to sleep…and maybe not pick up half-chewed bits of crap off the floor. How do I go about getting those things?
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Love this…glad someone else feels the sameway I do. Since becoming a mother in 2003, I have always reserved Mother’s Day weekend as My Weekend to take a break!!! I do and have always…it’s my tradition. I do not buy into the typical MD tradition. I take the time for myself to relax, and do all the thing that I really want to do for myself…and have never felt guilty over it. My own dear mother has passed and my husband usually takes care of his own mom. I love not pressuring hubs or kids to do silly things for me…leaving me alone for 48 hours is the BEST gift this mom could ever have!
I love this! If there can be a chocolate covered raisin day certainly we mothers can be honored on Mothers Day with a nice break from motherhood. On the other 364 days of the year however, lets celebrate motherhood!
As a survivor of domestic violence and a mother of two sons, I celebrate motherhood now that my children are grown because they are so happy! A widow for the past 15 years, I am now engaged to an author. Eric Bowen has written an anthology on motherhood that originally and humanly celebrates motherhood all over the world. You may enjoy blogging about the book, “Wisdom of Our Mothers” sometime when it’s not “anti- Mother’s Day.” Proceeds from the book support Domestic Violence shelters in Washington State. You can learn more at http://www.familiabooks.com
Thank you for the humorous blog,
Sally Hansen
My boys asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day. I told them I wanted them to get along and work with me in the yard for a day.
They were like, “Don’t you just want some candy instead?”
Sigh.
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I’ve been taking the day off for over 6 years now. It is bliss! If there’s a movie playing, I go. By myself! Sometimes I take myself to lunch, over which I do not hurry! I window-shop just because I can. I bring home dinner from a take-out place of my choosing — too bad if there are no baby eggrolls on the menu — and then my husband does the entire bath/bed routine. And, AND I don’t have sex unless I really really *want to*.
Totally lovely day, after which I’m completely refreshed and ready to be SuperMama again. Highly recommended!