Taking Mother’s Day Back


Unless you are living under a rock, (0r never make it to your local Target,) you’re well aware that Mother’s Day is quickly approaching on the second Sunday in May. Woodrow Wilson proclaimed it an official national holiday in 1914 and ever since then, card companies, chocolatiers and rose growers have rejoiced over every baby born, knowing that yet another woman will need to be celebrated come spring. Hallelujah! We mothers have earned that day, dammit! I’m quite sure even Hilary Rosen would agree.

So, how did Mother’s Day turn into yet another day where we are expected to work?

In the very best of worlds, ours is a day filled with stuffy brunches we need to reserve, bouquets of flowers and store bought cards. Instead of getting the day off, Mother’s Day has  somehow become just another day that we need to make our children look their Sunday best, trim stems from flowers that will beg to be fed or quickly wilt away and clean up after well intentioned children prepare us inedible breakfasts in bed. And, that’s the best case scenario.

It’s quite obvious that a man concocted this current interpretation of our holiday.

And, why do we get a single day? Don’t we deserve at least a weekend? Or, a week? Maybe even a National Mother’s Appreciation Month? I mean, there’s actually a National Chocolate Covered Raisin Day. A day, celebrating a dried out grape coated in chocolate. Oh, sure, they’re delicious, but delicious enough to justify a national holiday? I’m quite sure a chocolate covered raisin has never dashed to the ER at 3AM with a screaming ear infected toddler or extracted a penny from a two year old’s nose. What’s to celebrate?

There’s also National Hug an Anchor Day. Are news anchors really that in need of affection? National Catfish Day celebrates the “value of farm-raised catfish,” and National Grammar Day celebrates… good grammar. There’s even National Scrapbooking Day and National Chicken Dance Day. And, just like the fish and the scrapbookers, we mothers get a single stinking day. It’s certainly nothing worth breaking into the Chicken Dance for.

So, this year, I’m taking my day back. We mothers spend our entire existences putting everyone else first and I’m sick of it. If I’m given a day, I’m going to take that day and make it my own. Enough is enough. This year, I’m asking for – no demanding — an Anti-Mother’s Day.

For one day, all I want is to be left alone and not be a mother. I want to sleep late and be the spouse who plays dead when the children holler for breakfast. I want to pee with the door actually closed and not wipe a single nose or behind. I want to shower without an audience for a change. I want to not wash laundry and not do the dishes and not be the one to find the missing mate for the shoe which seems to simply have walked off on its own. I want none of it, for once.

At the end of my day, I will surely miss the little faces I so adore. I’ll tire of the peace and quiet I constantly crave. I’ll long for their hugs and slobbery kisses and I will savor hearing what they’ve done with their day away from me. I won’t even mind getting splashed as I give them their bath or reading the same bedtime story twice. I’ll actually enjoy it all again, having been given the rare day off. And I’ll count down the days until I get it all again.

364 and getting closer every day.


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    Alison@Mama Wants This says

    AMEN!!! I’ve always pooh-poohed Mother’s Day as it’s just another day when retailers are out to rip us off and really, why wait one day a year to ‘celebrate’ mothers?

    You’re right, give us a day off, and we’ll be happy bunnies.

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    Elizabeth Flora Ross says

    Amen, sista! I took Mother’s Day back last year. Planned the day I wanted, and it was lovely. Will be doing the same this year. It’s MY day, damnit! ;)

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    Rebeccah says

    Sounds good to me. My most favorite mother’s day was the one where my husband took the kids out for the entire day so that I could stay at home in my pajamas and do nothing in peace. It was wonderful.

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    KaleraeBowlesk says

    Ive actually asked the husband for one night in a hotel by myself. I want to check in at 3pm and not leave. Just eat in bed, sleep, take a bath and check out the next day. It doesn’t even need to be a nice hotel, just a clean room with a bed and bath and no rodents. I have had three months with a colicky baby and he gets to be out of town every second week for work, which means sleep for him, one night away is all I want.

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    Amanda Wilson says

    My husband is a wonderful man, and intelligent enough to understand that this is what I really want for Mother’s Day. He usually takes the kids to see his own mother(who doesn’t see the kids that often), and I get to do whatever I please! This usually includes a kid-free shopping trip with my mom (aka Nana-the best sitter ever). Everyone wins! :)

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    Trish says

    I’m in! And after I sleep in and not clean up breakfast I want to go shopping. I want to shop for me, not for someone else, not because so and so has out grown their whatevers or stained their only nice pair of pants. Thank-you.

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    Tanya says

    I’ve only celebrated one mother’s day with my kids. Every year my parents take them to Thailand on a trip and every year they go in May so they’re gone for mother’s day and my birthday. It is both a blessing and a curse.

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    Heidi says

    This is exactly how i spend Mother’s day each year. My husband gives me the day ( until about 5:00 pm and I help get the kiddos ready for the week to come). It is great. And this is what we do for Father’s day as well- My hubby gets to do what he wants for thr day and not be a ” Dad” for the day. No gifts given or received although the kids do make a breakfast and typically cut a flower from my garden and put it on my tray for breakfast in bed. It is FABULOUS!

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    Sweety Darlin says

    Every year this is the edict I pass in my house. I want to only do what I want today. I don’t want to help anyone else do anything unless it was my idea to do it in the first place. I don’t want guests I don’t want anything at all unless it is MY FREAKING IDEA!!!

    Every year I make breakfast for everyone because I make it for myself and get asked is there some for me?

    Every year my boyfriend tries very hard to make is a great day, but ends up just making me crazy.

    Every year my kids want desperately to do the right thing but generally just miss the boat.

    This year I will try again to have a day totally for myself and as if this wasn’t my 16th year that this game I will naively think that this year unlike all the others will be different. A girl can dream!

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    Corey Feldman says

    We do a family day with fun things for the kids. Last year we all went paddle boating. Then we let Melissa pick the restaurant. That is our new tradition.

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    Bridget Ilene Delaney says

    I’m not “officially” a mother, but I have to act like one for MY MOTHER and MY SISTER. They act like kids! They’ve been acting like kids for years. It is very frustrating and I wish I could have a day off!

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    Debbie Weiner says

    AMEN!! I’ve felt this way for years. Actually, we always spend mother’s day with plans centered around my MIL. It never feels like MY day at all. Not to say I get ignored, but no one asks ME what I want to do for mother’s day. When I once told my MIL that I would love to actually have the day off on mother’s day, her comment was that that day was meant to be spent WITH your kids, celebrating them and letting them celebrate you. Ummmm….My kids range in age from 16 to 4. I’m ALWAYS with them. One day I’m going to start a tradition of a mom’s weekend at the beach for mother’s day. Or at least I can dream.

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    samantha pertle says

    This year I left my husband, so, I have the kids on mother’s day, I love my kids, but if I could sleep late, not remind kids to pack for school the next day, make sure the wash is done and oh yeah I moved in with my parents, so I still have to be a daughter as well, and do for my mom, whom I love dearly. the only bright side I came up with, I only have to see my mom, hee hee, He gets to see his, with out his kids.

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