Tess Holliday reminds moms they still deserve to feel sexy
It may shock you to learn that once you become a mom, there is a large segment of the population that thinks you should turn your sexy card in. Um, do these people not understand how becoming a mom actually works? Logically, we’re sex goddesses — duh.
Tess Holliday posted a little reminder this week for those of us who need it:
You’re sexy as hell.
“Gentle reminder to myself that as a mom, I deserve to feel sexy & desired,” she captioned a photo she posted this week. And yes, she looks sexy as hell.
Holliday wasn’t just speaking to moms, she was also giving a shout out to those of us who may be a little curvier than the rest. “Fat women & moms are robbed of our sexuality so I’m here to tell you to stop that shit,” she writes. “Ok?”
Can't get enough of this look yet? Yea, me neither🤷🏻♀️@hisvintagetouch is the king 👑 of vintage hair dos & really made my Dolly / Priscilla hair dreams come to life👌🏻 Thanks to @shablamgela for giving me the most correct glam & my handsome hubby @nickhollidayco for creating the concept for this look / shooting it / helping me get my hair in & out of the car. It takes a team, but damn if it isn't fun to play dress up for a living! 🎉(yes this is all my hair!) #bighairdontcare #effyourbeautystandards
Tess Holliday is unapologetically herself, and it’s awesome. In a world that puts so much importance on how much space a woman takes up (spoiler alert — we’re not allowed to take up much) Holiday repeatedly screams “Eff your body standards!” and struts her sexy self. And her transparency about how hard the transition to motherhood can be is refreshing.
Her first child just turned one, and she’s been very open about her struggles with new motherhood and the havoc it can wreak on your body image.
This is the reality of being a mom. I've been up since 3 am, & every time I get Bowie to sleep & try to lay him down, he wakes up. He is teething & has no clue I have to work today, & most days I can work 15 hour days, take care of both boys & put some lipstick on & deal with it. Most days I drink my coffee & smile at every little thing he does thinking it's the best thing in the world, but not today. I've been crying for nearly two hours, & I'm crying as I write this. I've reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest. My confidence has taken a blow with this birth & it wasn't until this morning I realized why. The pressure of "looking good" for a living is too much today. When your face is breaking out from the hormones of breastfeeding + total exhaustion from lack of sleep, bags under your eyes, patchy red skin & to top it off no energy to work out or leave my bed.. how do you do it? How do you feel confident in your skin & feel like you aren't letting the client down by showing up exhausted & disheveled? Yes, I chose a career based on my looks & I'm the first one to say that beauty isn't what should drive you, it's certainly not what motivates me. As a working mom in an industry that's as critical as mine, where is the line? The balance? The compassion? Is any career understanding when you show up at negative 10% because your kids wouldn't let you sleep & you want to hide under your covers & cry? Not many. I hope one day that changes & society views mothers as the flawed human beings we are that are just trying to keep our shit together like everyone else. #effyourbeautystandards #workingmoms #disruptperfectmomsyndrome
“My confidence has taken a blow with this birth,” she admitted in a post in February. “I’ve reached my limit, exceeded it to be honest.”
As moms, we need this kind of transparency to know we’re not alone.
And yes, we’re still sexy.