The Most Stubborn Boy in the World



In most ways, Ben is the easiest of my children. He wakes up in the morning in the most cheerful of moods, never needing even a moment to acclimate himself to the day. Generally agreeable, easy to please and predictable, he’s usually quite a joy.

Usually, I said, because, man, the boy is stubborn. I thought I was stubborn, but he makes me look mild mannered and forgiving. If Ben doesn’t want to do something he will not do it. Pure and simple. Unlike Lily, he refuses to be manipulated or convinced into anything. On the nights when he doesn’t like what’s served for dinner he thinks nothing of going to bed hungry, much to my dismay. Breaking him of bad habits, such as sleeping on our floor or using a pacifier prove nearly impossible and never fail to drive me crazy in the process.

Last spring, after becoming increasingly displeased with the preschool program he was enrolled in, I decided to send him to the school Lily had just graduated from. From the day I introduced him to the idea, he threw an absolute fit. No way, he cried, I will not go to that school… never!

Naively, I assumed that after a few months he would warm up to the idea, but I should have known better. I left him at school today kicking and screaming about not wanting to be there. I will not have fun, he wailed, as tears filled my eyes too. The teachers assured me that he would soon stop and I nodded my head in false agreement.

Those poor folks have no idea what they’re in store for.


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    Sharon says

    We should introduce him to my stubborn boy Liam – who does exactly what Ben does only throw in a bonus of him screaming “you’re a fuckin'” when I want him to do something he doesn’t want to do.

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    Amy Flanagan says

    That stubborn streak will give him conviction as an adult and he’ll be a millionaire someday. Right? Right? That’s what I keep telling myself….
    .-= Amy Flanagan´s last blog ..As I drop my mother off at the airport after a three-day visit she says, "Amy, you look so pretty. Much prettier than when we arrived." =-.

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    Beth says

    Is he potty trained? If yes, BELIEVE ME, he is far from the most stubborn kid in the world. My daughter, who is now almost grown up, had him beat by several miles.

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      Scary Mommy says

      He does pee on the potty, but I am quite sure that I will still be putting a diaper on for him to shit when’s he’s 15. We’re making NO progress there.

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    Lady Mama says

    I know that stubborn streak all too well. I think I passed it onto my toddler. Hopefully your son will realize there is actual fun to be had at preschool and will come around to it.
    .-= Lady Mama´s last blog ..Daddy go wine? =-.

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    C @ Kid Things says

    I’m pretty sure my oldest would give him a run for his money. He throws an absolute fit whenever we try to get him to do anything he doesn’t want to do.
    .-= C @ Kid Things´s last blog ..Weekly Winners Vol. 5: Zoo Edition =-.

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    Ri, The Music Savvy Mom says

    Mine three year old is just as stubborn, but throws no fits. Seriously. Rarely cries. He chooses a much more Machiavellian route…
    He says in a very calm, sweetly commanding voice: “No, mama. I don’t think so. Not right now. Maybe later, but I NOT doing that right now, okay?”
    <I normally stand there with my mouth hanging open and then, when my brows begin to knit and he can tell I'm annoyed, before I can say anything, he'll interject:
    " I love you, but that's the way it is. Thank you, go 'way now, I'm playing. You need some coffee. It's okay, Mama."

    …I’m not sure what’s worse, frankly. (But I hope you have a happy pick up today!)
    .-= Ri, The Music Savvy Mom´s last blog ..Mothball Monday: A Post from the Vault =-.

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    WackyMummy says

    Stubborn kids are tough. Funny… I had a blog post today too about having trouble with a preschooler! Hope it gets better for you.
    .-= WackyMummy´s last blog ..Confessions =-.

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    Lynn from For Love or Funny says

    At least he knows what he wants, huh?! There’s no wishy washiness to contend with, so you never have to guess what he’s thinking, no? (Just trying to put a positive spin on the hardheadedness thing.)
    .-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..I’ve got WAY too many teeth =-.

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