The Most Stubborn Boy in the World



In most ways, Ben is the easiest of my children. He wakes up in the morning in the most cheerful of moods, never needing even a moment to acclimate himself to the day. Generally agreeable, easy to please and predictable, he’s usually quite a joy.

Usually, I said, because, man, the boy is stubborn. I thought I was stubborn, but he makes me look mild mannered and forgiving. If Ben doesn’t want to do something he will not do it. Pure and simple. Unlike Lily, he refuses to be manipulated or convinced into anything. On the nights when he doesn’t like what’s served for dinner he thinks nothing of going to bed hungry, much to my dismay. Breaking him of bad habits, such as sleeping on our floor or using a pacifier prove nearly impossible and never fail to drive me crazy in the process.

Last spring, after becoming increasingly displeased with the preschool program he was enrolled in, I decided to send him to the school Lily had just graduated from. From the day I introduced him to the idea, he threw an absolute fit. No way, he cried, I will not go to that school… never!

Naively, I assumed that after a few months he would warm up to the idea, but I should have known better. I left him at school today kicking and screaming about not wanting to be there. I will not have fun, he wailed, as tears filled my eyes too. The teachers assured me that he would soon stop and I nodded my head in false agreement.

Those poor folks have no idea what they’re in store for.


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  1. 1

    Sharon says

    We should introduce him to my stubborn boy Liam – who does exactly what Ben does only throw in a bonus of him screaming “you’re a fuckin'” when I want him to do something he doesn’t want to do.

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    Amy Flanagan says

    That stubborn streak will give him conviction as an adult and he’ll be a millionaire someday. Right? Right? That’s what I keep telling myself….
    .-= Amy Flanagan´s last blog ..As I drop my mother off at the airport after a three-day visit she says, "Amy, you look so pretty. Much prettier than when we arrived." =-.

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    Beth says

    Is he potty trained? If yes, BELIEVE ME, he is far from the most stubborn kid in the world. My daughter, who is now almost grown up, had him beat by several miles.

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      Scary Mommy says

      He does pee on the potty, but I am quite sure that I will still be putting a diaper on for him to shit when’s he’s 15. We’re making NO progress there.

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    Lady Mama says

    I know that stubborn streak all too well. I think I passed it onto my toddler. Hopefully your son will realize there is actual fun to be had at preschool and will come around to it.
    .-= Lady Mama´s last blog ..Daddy go wine? =-.

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    C @ Kid Things says

    I’m pretty sure my oldest would give him a run for his money. He throws an absolute fit whenever we try to get him to do anything he doesn’t want to do.
    .-= C @ Kid Things´s last blog ..Weekly Winners Vol. 5: Zoo Edition =-.

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    Ri, The Music Savvy Mom says

    Mine three year old is just as stubborn, but throws no fits. Seriously. Rarely cries. He chooses a much more Machiavellian route…
    He says in a very calm, sweetly commanding voice: “No, mama. I don’t think so. Not right now. Maybe later, but I NOT doing that right now, okay?”
    <I normally stand there with my mouth hanging open and then, when my brows begin to knit and he can tell I'm annoyed, before I can say anything, he'll interject:
    " I love you, but that's the way it is. Thank you, go 'way now, I'm playing. You need some coffee. It's okay, Mama."

    …I’m not sure what’s worse, frankly. (But I hope you have a happy pick up today!)
    .-= Ri, The Music Savvy Mom´s last blog ..Mothball Monday: A Post from the Vault =-.

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    WackyMummy says

    Stubborn kids are tough. Funny… I had a blog post today too about having trouble with a preschooler! Hope it gets better for you.
    .-= WackyMummy´s last blog ..Confessions =-.

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    Lynn from For Love or Funny says

    At least he knows what he wants, huh?! There’s no wishy washiness to contend with, so you never have to guess what he’s thinking, no? (Just trying to put a positive spin on the hardheadedness thing.)
    .-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..I’ve got WAY too many teeth =-.

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    Cookie Crums says

    I’m going to be expierencing the kicking and screaming tomorrow…. it’s my little one’s first day of preschool. He has been kept by my mom from day one……… I have shed a tear or two myself. :( I know it will be good for him but damn it’s going to be hard.
    .-= Cookie Crums´s last blog ..Crazy Neighbor =-.

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    dawn says

    today was the first day? well let’s see if your phone starts ringing. fingers crossed, right?
    .-= dawn´s last blog ..banana custard tartlettes and julia & me =-.

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    Keyona says

    I bet they will learn soon. It’s hard when these kids have such strong personalities. They have a mind of their own!
    .-= Keyona´s last blog ..Not What I Had In Mind…But OK =-.

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    Val says

    As my son’s optimisitic and slightly insane preschool teacher said, that shows leadership qualities…
    Good luck with that!!
    .-= Val´s last blog ..Weekend & Chick Flick Review… =-.

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    Missy says

    He sounds like a perfect match for my Tomboy. They could have a duel to see who is the most stubborn and throws the biggest fit.
    .-= Missy´s last blog ..It is definitely an Are you there God? time. =-.

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    Loukia says

    Oh… I know about stubborn boys!! If my oldest does not get his way… Well, let’s just say we don’t go there too often… Too scary! Good luck… I hope he adjusts and loves it soon!
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..The fear of flying… with children =-.

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    Jennifer says

    My oldest is quite stubborn herself. It took until she was past her fourth birthday to get her potty trained. And sometimes she will still pee in her pants if she doesn’t want to go to the bathroom. She just didn’t want to do it. And she is also manipulative so a lot of times she will hold out until I offer a compromise and then give in. I guess it is a good thing I’m stubborn too because on somethings I can hold out forever. LOL
    .-= Jennifer´s last blog ..My friend Lizzie =-.

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      Scary Mommy says

      It wasn’t horrible. But, I picked him up after just 2 hours- normally he’ll stay longer. He carried on for about 20 minutes and calmed down, but still wasn’t himself. He did tell me that he had an ok time, but will NOT go back. Tomorrow should be interesting…

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    Lolli says

    I dread the day when I send AJ to school. He has been and probably always will be a momma’s boy. He clams up and holds onto my leg when I take him to unknown, unfamiliar places. And when I leave the house, oh boy! He pitches a fit. I sure hope that Ben warms up to the school idea. Good luck!

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