Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy
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I went to high school with a girl who had the perfect hair. It was long and straight and brown and shiny and everything my mass of frizzy hair was not. I sat behind her in French class and would day dream about what it would be like to have hair that could be easily thrown under a baseball cap, or brushed in three seconds. It looked great in a braid or a pony tail or just cascading down her back. It was perfect. In my next life, I wanted straight brown hair just like hers.
But, I didn’t have to wait that long. Lily was born with dark brown hair that has grown into the most enviable head of hair I’ve seen on a kid. It’s super thick and shiny, and manages to look beautiful and tangle free barely being brushed.
But, last night she proclaimed: Straight hair is boring. I hate it. Will you put my hair in braids and I’ll take them out when I wake up?
You want curly hair, I asked, hopefully? It would be so poetic if she longed for hair like mine after I’d lusted after hair like hers my whole life. Is that how it works? We girls will never be happy with the card we’re dealt. Oh, the irony.
Nooooo! Not like yours, she gasped. Like mine, just a little wavy. You know, pretty.
Well, then.
So that’s how it works.
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Fantastic! I hope she keeps that sense of self confidence. And you have gorgeous hair!
Laugh/snort. Perfect. I love kids! I agree with Jess you’ve obviously done something right because she’s confident and happy with herself. And her hair is gorgeous, as is yours! I love curly hair, probably because mine is ramrod straight.
How funny–I posted about hair today too!
I’ve always liked my hair, but like most girls with straight hair, sometimes I wish I had some curl! Just because it can feel so boring. It’s true what they say…in fact, I think there’s even a song about straight haired girls wanting curly hair and curly haired girls wanting straight hair. Either way, it just comes down to the fact that women are obviously never satisfied. LOL!
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I have one with hair like that except it is lighter, nearly blonde. She won’t let it grow past her shoulders…sigh*
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I have straight hair and have always wanted curly hair. My office mate at work has beautiful brown curly hair. I stare at the back of her head half the day and jealously! I think this is the case for every woman. We always want what we lack, whether it is hair type/color, those arms, those boobs, ass, whatever. So I feel your pain and I am sure so do millions of other women.
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Hahaha! I have heard this exactly! My red, frizzy, thick hair does not appeal to my little darlings.
Oh no! Haha… kids do say the funniest things sometimes! You have gorgeous hair, and so does Lily! :)
From the girl with the Dorothy Hamill haircut during the harsh middle school years, don’t cut that kids hair. Let her be miserable in her own beauty!
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Oh the age-old grass is greener. ..and while I am not much of a believer – I do believe someone is giving us these gifts.
I am a girl with stick, straight brown long hair that I HATE. I always wanted the waves of my mother. Guess what my firstborn has – beautiful curls. Ahhh. (and yes, she hates them)
Love this.
xoxo,
Tracy
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I used to have perfect hair then it fell out and now i look like i have pubic hair on my head. I’m thinking of shaving my daughter’s head in her sleep and making myself a wig. would that be bad parenting?
I HAD curly hair. As the time went by, my hair became what I wanted my whole life, without straightened it up or burning it with all sorts of tools.
The final transformation was in the day I got married. I remember beeing so stressed out, fighting with my mother. From that day, I no longer have even wavy hair like your daughter wants.
I like it. Becarefull what you wish for, cause you might get it! For good.
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I know full well that my eldest will one day curse me for having such fine, straight hair. She has my hair and all my life I have lusted after curls…
Of course she wants hair that’s different from what she has. That’s just how it goes.
I can’t wait until my toddler’s hair grows in, right now we have the same receding hairline. Except, I guess hers is proceeding. Definitely not a good style for a little girl.
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proceeding, lol
I cannot stop laughing.
She does have amazingly gorgeous, enviable hair.
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i was the girl with the massive curly hair too.
and back then there was no paul mitchell to tame my ferious head of hair. so i hated everyone with straight perfect hair.
now that we have product, i finally love my hair.
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Of course! This is something my Diva would say to me. Like the other day I was gussied up and she proclaimed “Wow, I didn’t know you could look like that.” After holding back the urge to throat punch her, I just smiled and said thank you.
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we ALWAYS want what we can’t or don’t have….
but good. that should make you feel awesome!
xxx
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Oh wow! My daughter had the most adorable curly hair when she was born. It was dark brown and was just the perfect little ringlets. Now that she is getting older (5) and her hair is growing out the curls just don’t “curl” anymore. She looked at me one day and said that she wanted hair like mine. Straight. What she doesn’t realize is that I had curly hair for a long time too. I was lucky to be able to make it look nice straight but if I wanted it curly I could do that too. Once I got pregnant with her my hair went stick straight and I would give anything for my hair to have a nice curl to it again. But because I love my daughter I run a straightening iron on the low setting about once a week or whenever she needs it straightened out.
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I have red curly hair with a daughter who has beautiful full blonde straight hair. She will sometimes say when i straighten my hair that she prefers it curly. But then when I ask about her hair she says she is fine with hers being straight… It’s the red color she wants.
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yup, I am that girl. I have red curly hair. my mom – straight, thick, blonde. she wanted mine, I wanted hers. in the end she has mine now and I have learned to love mine. since I was little I always swore I would never, ever, ever, want to have a little boy boy with red curly hair. but guess what! that is exactly what I have now and I wouldnt change it for the world. often he says: “momma, I just love your hair.” “awe baby, I love your hair too!” but I know grey days are coming because no one loves what they have always.
In my corporate life, I work at a hair school and my students are banking on the masses being unsatisfied with their hair… =) That being said, my 5 yr old has the most incredible red straight hair. People stop us in stores to admire it and she has developed quite an attitude about it.
She has gorgeous hair. I as a child had very unruley hair. I never had dislike for it but it was a challenge. My hair has just enough curl to have the perfect amount of body, as long as you have a good haircut!!! It’s thick! Like enough for 4 people thick….I have worn it anywhere from down to my bum length to 1 inch.. and it’s great… but there is a lot of it. It looks like my girl will have the thck hair too.. just to see now as it grows if it will be fine like my sisters and tangle like mad, or be like mine and be good.
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love it! my daughter said she’d like to have my hair..just not so kinky, without the gray, a little lighter, and with different bangs. hey…you take the compliments when they come and don’t question them. :)
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LOL!!! That is funny! :-)
too funny! i come from a family with generations of GORGEOUS hair! my mom, dad and brothers had dark, thick, curly hair. me? board straight, no body, did nothing! my mom would perm my hair until it fried in hopes of having a daughter with beautiful curly locks. alas, no hope. thank God for scrunchies!
Ahh, so sweet. My daughter is 5 and trying to look like me as much as possible. I am enjoying it now, so when she hates me in a couple of years I will have something fond to remember….
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I totally understand this. I always wanted long blond hair like my daughter so that I could style it in fun ways but she won’t let me come near it. *sigh*
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Everybody has what they don’t have. People are always complimenting my hair which is curly like yours. Normally I don’t mind it…especially since I found the right products because with curly hair…it’s always about the products.
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We all wanted curly hair in the late 80s… Hence all the perms. I have semi-wavy hair and it’s not pretty. Just a frizzy version of what Lily seems to be going for. She should stick with straight and shiny.
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I love it!!
Hair is a wonderful thing…if you have it. Some of us don’t have the same amount that we used to. However we have daughters who cut off ten inches of their hair for locks of love.
Said daughter loves her daddy so much she tries to glue some of her extra hair to his head. Good times my friends, good times.
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I have curly hair and have always wished it were not so… My daughter has it, too, and it pains me every time I see her brush hers straight when it’s wet and bemoan how it always ends up curling anyway. Add to that the agony of feeling like a hypocrite every time she walks in on me with a flat iron on my own head!
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Lily’s hair reminds me a lot of my own. Perfect. But with the addition of a slight wave…even better. Can she be my daughter please?
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That last comment sounds too serious…I should clarify that I was joking before I’m attacked by one of your crazy commenters.
Leaving now…
Mama Kat recently posted..Entitled
–>As a curly haired person, I can relate. I was jealous of a girl in 7th and 8th grade hair with the perfect, long brown hair. Now I just relish in the fact that I leave for work with it wet and get to sleep 15 minutes longer.
You are both beutiful but man I have to agree, I would give a lot for hair like Lily’s.
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haha! My daughter tTHINKS that, but has yet to SAY that to me. (I have curly red hair, and always felt the same way you do about curly unmanageble hair). Cudos to Lily for her honesty! (sorry about your bruised ego, though–yikes!).
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Well, if it helps I had long, brown, straight hair and I would love to have a big, thick head of hair like yours. I always wanted big, curly hair.
LOL. The grass is always greener.
My daughter does the same thing. She has beautiful straight hair but she doesn’t like it. Instead she wants curly hair. She asks all the time for braids in her hair at night so it will be curly in the morning.
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Right behind Jennifer–I had long, brown, limp hair, and I *longed* for curly hair. And I can still smell those nasty perms.
I guess the grass is greener!
Jill, …I envy your hair so much … as I too was born with the straight flat hair …. I always want full bodied curly hair. Hair my best friend Kathy has and I never could understand why she hated it. Are we all creatures that want what we dont have. *sigh*
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My hair is thick and frizzy and I hate it. No matter what I do, it sticks up. If I put expensive creams in it I’m sure it would listen but I refuse to pay more than $10 for hair products. I’m cheap like that.
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Funny. Insert “white blond” for “brown” and our daughters could be twins. I have coarse, curly, dirty-blond (except for the *ahem* white streak in the front) hair and hers is stick straight, silky and white-blond. She is also now a fan of wet braiding at night. I kinda hate her.
I have curly hair and my daughters hair are wavy. My eldest had beautiful curls when she was little but nowbit is hik an gorgeous. I had to learn to embrace my curly girl and have’nt looked back since. Granted I just went from past my shoulder curls to a pixie but now it is straight for a week. Oh well grass is greener, sometimes.
LMAO! Kids are so painfully honest sometimes. Her hair is gorgeous, though. It took me a long time, but I really love my curls-even if they did become coarser after having children. Thanks, stupid hormones.
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My hair is blong and looks like ….hay. Evil has the prettiest, straightest, thickest mane of chesnut brown hair. I would kill for it. She is only 4 and is asking me to put it in rollers every night.
She said curly is cool.
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Once apon a time I had straight hair. I hit puberty and it became curly. Love it now that i know how to care for it. I can wear it both ways.My daughter wants her hair curly too. She has super straight hair and a curl never stays. We all want that “Perfecr Hair”. oh well such as life.
Nothing like the innocence of a child to set you straight, huh?
I always longed for straight hair. It wasn’t until I was 15 years old that I finally figured out how to manage my naturally curly hair. Until then, I would often BRUSH it out. Such a nice look, that frizzy afro of mine.
Now? I wouldn’t trade my curly hair for anything. I love that all I need to do is wash it, add a little creme gel, and blow dry with a diffuser and I’m set to go. No straightening, curling, etc.
Kmama recently posted..I Will Be Okay
I have hair like Lily’s. I am usually happy with my hair to the point of being obnoxious about it, but every once in a while, I’d like for my hair to at least stay curled for a few hours after I’ve used hot rollers. I’d also like to have kids with hair like mine, but such is not to be. Oh well.
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When I was in high school my best friend at the time sat behind me in English. She had amazing curls and mine was stick straight. She confessed once that she hated me for my straight hair that required little to no maintenance and would scowl at it when she sat behind me.
Her hair, though, was like a trademark. It had these glorious curls and, though I knew she spent hours dealing with it daily, I wanted those curls.
I guess the grass is always greener.
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I snorted at your daughter’s comment … oh I so understand!
As another Jill … with the SAME hair as you, I get it.
And thus the only way I was able to de-frizz my hair was to have the Brazilian Blowout…
LOVE it!
I *always* wanted straight hair. And my mom always told me girls with straight hair wanted curly hair.
The lesson in all this?
My mom was a filthy liar.
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THAT would have made me bust out laughing.
“No…ummm..not like yours, mum.”
My kids always tell me they’re grateful they didn’t get my “yarn hair.”
Nice.
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Ah. Reminds me of the time my friend’s five year old daughter asked her mother, “Have you ever thought about trying to, you know, look pretty?”
The mouths of babes. Just made for bars of soap.
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haha this is so funny and that picture is gorgeous!
LOL! oh man, leave it to kids to really tell you what they’re thinking.
I think you hit the nail on the head with wanting what you don’t have. I spent all of high school perming the hell out of my fine, straight hair.
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I sat behind Janet Turnock (sp? I was only 5 after all) she had perfect white blonde straight long hair. Mine was a frizzy mess, cut short so my mum could get a comb through it. My four year old daughter has that blonde mass of curls and frizz too. Right now she loves it because it is like mum’s, and she knows we love it too. God, I hope it stays that way.
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I’m just recently (at 30 yrs old) starting to enjoy having a naturally curly mop on my head – and secretly delighted that my 2year old seems to have inherited my curls. I know that more than likely she’s going to hate them at some point, possibly for a long time (I know I did!!) but some day I hope she loves it, as I’m learning to (finally) love mine. :)
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Okay, so you know you have a gorgeous head of hair, right? And I did want curly hair! I would sleep in curlers and wake up w/ Shirley Temple curls (hilarious, looking back on it) and brush it out and voila! A Finn with a fro!
HA! I love it. And as someone with curly frizzy hair that gets a good dose of Keratin every few months to manage it, I completely relate.
I always wanted long straight hair but, in my case, I wanted it to be blond like the majority of the other girls in my SoCal school near the beach. I also wanted blue eyes, of course. Well, that wasn’t going to happen. But here’s the thing – my husband (also a brown/brown) and I produced the most Aryan looking child I have ever seen (quite weird for a Jewish kid, I might add). He’s got the biggest deep blue eyes and has the most gorgeous mane of blond hair. I basically created the very child I always wanted to look like, which is really strange but kinda cool.
The best part though is that as beautiful as I think my child is, I no longer envy that look. The older I get, the more I like (and even love) the way I look. Just wish I felt that way at 7, 17, or even 27.
-Aimee
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Funny, had the same dream when I was a kid and was always envious of my cousin’s straight long hair. And now they have their hair curled because they were bored of it all their life and they didn’t know how lucky they were to have it. :) Guess you’re right, girls will not always be contented.
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omg…they make you stand on the rug and then pull it right out from under you, huh???
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ha! i envied jennifer from middle school who MASTERED teased bangs. they were perfect without a hint of hairspray and magically stayed straight up and puffed out all day long, while mine were clumpy and just fell down. fingers crossed my son doesn’t master the perfect teased bangs…
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ok. so one of my friends on facebook posted your entry about ‘how to piss off a pregnant woman.’ i clicked on it and have read a handful of your entries and cannot stop laughing. i’m bookmarking you so i can indulge myself tomorrow during the kiddo’s naptimes. you know, instead of vacuuming.
and i feel like i just committed one of your comment evils because this had absolutely nothing to do with your post.
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My hair used to tangle itself into such incredible dreads that I just gave up and cut it all off! Now my two girls – both of whom have envious hair want a pixie. Go figure.
1) Your hair is awesome. Curly hair may be the reason Felicity was my favorite show. Well, maybe Scott Foley. I can’t be sure.
2) Her hair is pretty awesome too.
3) Greg’s mom always tells a story about Greg saying “I just love your beautiful black hair” to her when he was a child. Contrasted with his sister saying, “You have ugly black hair, I have beautiful blonde hair.” It’s a girl thing!
Don’t you just LOVE kids?
So freaking adorable.
I’ve been considering selling my own honest six year old for a while now.
Then she goes and makes me a paper mouse holding cheese that says “I love and miss you mommy” on it while I’m at work.
Urgh, that biological pull to care and love for her is too strong.
Guess I’ll have to go through her adolescents with the honesty about my squishy belly, my short not beautiful hair, and my “freckles”.
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OH NO!! The heartbreak!!!! But….on the other hand…she knows what she wants and she has uber awesome self confidence
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**lol** Your daughter is awesome!! I think I’ll probably have the same type of conversation with my daughter as my hair’s super frizzy and hers is really straight and soft (might have something to do with the fact she’s still a baby, but I hope she gets to keep it!). I *love* Japanese hair straightening because it gives me perfect hair for 6 months… If only it wasn’t so ridiculously expensive!! (It’s been over 2 years since I last had it done, I’m hoping to start up again soon!)
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I’ve always wanted gorgeous curly hair like yours! You can have my straight boring black hair.
never happy with the hand we are dealt :)
People used to comment on how pretty my (dyed) red hair was. My son wanted to dye his hair red too. My husband was so mad about my son saying that.
Ha! Loved this. And that photo? It’s wonderful too. Makes me want to reach out and touch her hair!
Liz @ PeaceLoveGuac recently posted..Listen up
Growing up, I’ve always had brown hair that was poker-straight, fine, and oily. Constantly. I kept it long and tried to make the best of it, but I never had that thick gorgeous hair that other girls had. My husband’s hair (although you wouldn’t know it because of the military-cut) it thick and curls around the ears when it gets longer, but I never dreamed of what he would pass on to my daughter. She has beautiful brown curly hair. And not frizzy curly. She wakes up with perfect spirals it would take me hours to achieve with an iron. I can’t wait to see it long, to find out if her thick hair will weigh it down and pull it straight, or if she’ll have curls draped down her back. :)
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Oh no! Sorry, but I totally snorked at that one. What a stinker. :)
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My hair is NOT so great. Some of it is curly, some of it is just wavy, but ALL of it is frizzy! However, my daughter has beautiful, golden curls, the kind that I have always wanted. They are perfect spirals, an look best when they air-dry after a bath. True, it is a HUGE pain to comb through her hair every morning, and there are a lot of tears and yelling as I tame the rat’s nest that her gorgeous hair becomes after a night of rolling around on a pillow, but that is a small sacrifice, as far as I’m concerned.
My daughter, though, often says that she wishes she had straight hair, because it would look longer and not be so difficult to comb. Then one morning, she found me in the bathroom straightening my hair, and immediately asked if she could do it, too. I explained that Mommy’s hair is not nearly as nice as hers, and that I must straighten it in order to be able to leave the house and hold my head up. She just looked at me like I was crazy and walked away.
That’s just the way life goes, sometimes, isn’t it?
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Oh no she didn’t say that! Holy crap your blog is going to be good when she’s 13.
Oh I completely agree! My oldest has perfectly straight hair and my youngest curly. They both want the others and constantly whine to me about it like there is something I can do.
I love that she loves her hair….and wants to change it a bit.
My daughter asks me to get her a hair cut and get it “cut like V’s…straight.” Sorry honey, you won’t have straight hair without heat or chemicals.
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I love how feisty she is already, but ouch!
At least you’ll never have to worry about teasing, she’ll put any grade school bully right in their place!
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So funny! I have thick, super curly, dry, frizzy hair. People have always told me they envy my curls, but I’ve always longed for soft, silky, smooth hair. Hair that I can run my fingers through without getting them stuck in knots.
I love it when kids know exactly what they want. I am like so many of you I had completely straight hair as a girl, so I would pay for my curls! Then at 32 I got cancer and all my hair fell out, I was so happy when it started to go back in because it was the perfect curl!!! I was in love with it and the I had to another round of chemo and when that was done it came back supper curly. I mean the kind that you can do nothing with other than a hat, hated it. I had yet another chance for it come back perfect again and this time it was inbetween the perfect and the one I hated, ok I could live with it and adjust well. The ..yep you guessed it I had another round of chemo and it has grown back straight as a board, I can’t get it to even take the curls you have to pay for it is that straight. So I have lived everyone’s nightmare and dream. All I can say is that most of the time I wish I was just bald and could change my hair everyday with a wig. LOL Good luck ladies!
My kids are still pretty little (5,3,1) and all have already made fun of my hair, which is an unmanageable fro-ish mess most days. Yesterday with rain & high humidity I looked like Bob Ross the “Happy Painter” from pbs. Awesome.
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This is hilarious and I hear and feel ya! My daughter also has kick ass hair. Blond, and manageable, shiny, etc. She says things to me like, “Mommy, I really like your hair when you wear it smooth. Little does she know, that to achieve that it takes hours. Product, big round brush, blow dryer, straightening iron, and lots of prayers for 0% humidity. It is nice to know I am not alone. :)