The Perfect Hair


The Perfect Hair

I went to high school with a girl who had the perfect hair. It was long and straight and brown and shiny and everything my mass of frizzy hair was not. I sat behind her in French class and would day dream about what it would be like to have hair that could be easily thrown under a baseball cap, or brushed in three seconds. It looked great in a braid or a pony tail or just cascading down her back. It was perfect. In my next life, I wanted straight brown hair just like hers.

But, I didn’t have to wait that long. Lily was born with dark brown hair that has grown into the most enviable head of hair I’ve seen on a kid. It’s super thick and shiny, and manages to look beautiful and tangle free barely being brushed.

But, last night she proclaimed: Straight hair is boring. I hate it. Will you put my hair in braids and I’ll take them out when I wake up?

You want curly hair, I asked, hopefully? It would be so poetic if she longed for hair like mine after I’d lusted after hair like hers my whole life. Is that how it works? We girls will never be happy with the card we’re dealt. Oh, the irony.

Nooooo! Not like yours, she gasped. Like mine, just a little wavy. You know, pretty.

Well, then.

So that’s how it works.


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    Tanya says

    Laugh/snort. Perfect. I love kids! I agree with Jess you’ve obviously done something right because she’s confident and happy with herself. And her hair is gorgeous, as is yours! I love curly hair, probably because mine is ramrod straight.

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    Lessons in Life and Light says

    How funny–I posted about hair today too!

    I’ve always liked my hair, but like most girls with straight hair, sometimes I wish I had some curl! Just because it can feel so boring. It’s true what they say…in fact, I think there’s even a song about straight haired girls wanting curly hair and curly haired girls wanting straight hair. Either way, it just comes down to the fact that women are obviously never satisfied. LOL!

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    Alisa says

    I have straight hair and have always wanted curly hair. My office mate at work has beautiful brown curly hair. I stare at the back of her head half the day and jealously! I think this is the case for every woman. We always want what we lack, whether it is hair type/color, those arms, those boobs, ass, whatever. So I feel your pain and I am sure so do millions of other women.

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    tracy says

    Oh the age-old grass is greener. ..and while I am not much of a believer – I do believe someone is giving us these gifts.

    I am a girl with stick, straight brown long hair that I HATE. I always wanted the waves of my mother. Guess what my firstborn has – beautiful curls. Ahhh. (and yes, she hates them)
    Love this.

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    annie says

    I used to have perfect hair then it fell out and now i look like i have pubic hair on my head. I’m thinking of shaving my daughter’s head in her sleep and making myself a wig. would that be bad parenting?

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    Andreea @ Our Journey To USA says

    I HAD curly hair. As the time went by, my hair became what I wanted my whole life, without straightened it up or burning it with all sorts of tools.
    The final transformation was in the day I got married. I remember beeing so stressed out, fighting with my mother. From that day, I no longer have even wavy hair like your daughter wants.

    I like it. Becarefull what you wish for, cause you might get it! For good.

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    From Belgium says

    I know full well that my eldest will one day curse me for having such fine, straight hair. She has my hair and all my life I have lusted after curls…

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    Distracted Dadddy says

    Of course she wants hair that’s different from what she has. That’s just how it goes.
    I can’t wait until my toddler’s hair grows in, right now we have the same receding hairline. Except, I guess hers is proceeding. Definitely not a good style for a little girl.

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    vanillasugarblog says

    i was the girl with the massive curly hair too.
    and back then there was no paul mitchell to tame my ferious head of hair. so i hated everyone with straight perfect hair.
    now that we have product, i finally love my hair.

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    Mom of Wild Ones says

    Of course! This is something my Diva would say to me. Like the other day I was gussied up and she proclaimed “Wow, I didn’t know you could look like that.” After holding back the urge to throat punch her, I just smiled and said thank you.

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    Jayme (Random Blogette) says

    Oh wow! My daughter had the most adorable curly hair when she was born. It was dark brown and was just the perfect little ringlets. Now that she is getting older (5) and her hair is growing out the curls just don’t “curl” anymore. She looked at me one day and said that she wanted hair like mine. Straight. What she doesn’t realize is that I had curly hair for a long time too. I was lucky to be able to make it look nice straight but if I wanted it curly I could do that too. Once I got pregnant with her my hair went stick straight and I would give anything for my hair to have a nice curl to it again. But because I love my daughter I run a straightening iron on the low setting about once a week or whenever she needs it straightened out.

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    Kristine says

    I have red curly hair with a daughter who has beautiful full blonde straight hair. She will sometimes say when i straighten my hair that she prefers it curly. But then when I ask about her hair she says she is fine with hers being straight… It’s the red color she wants.

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    Babs says

    yup, I am that girl. I have red curly hair. my mom – straight, thick, blonde. she wanted mine, I wanted hers. in the end she has mine now and I have learned to love mine. since I was little I always swore I would never, ever, ever, want to have a little boy boy with red curly hair. but guess what! that is exactly what I have now and I wouldnt change it for the world. often he says: “momma, I just love your hair.” “awe baby, I love your hair too!” but I know grey days are coming because no one loves what they have always.

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