Comments on: The Terrible Threes http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/ A Mommy Blog written by Jill Smokler, a Baltimore mother with three young children Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:04:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Quitta http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-63962 Quitta Wed, 09 Feb 2011 02:02:51 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-63962 Wow. My son has no grandparents for me to push him off on and frequently tells me he wants a new mommy. One day in tears and frustration, I packed his lil Batman backpack and took him to Taco Bell. I told him to choose one...anyone he wanted. Of course he conceded and wanted me....til we got back in the car. he wasnt my friend and didnt like me. He tells me to sleep on the couch and he will sleep in my room and tries to "make" me cook his dinner when he demands it. My son speaks very well and is very smart so I sometimes forget he is a child. I have picked up quite a few bad words and a very short fuse in the last 6 months...God help me! Thanks ladies. Wow. My son has no grandparents for me to push him off on and frequently tells me he wants a new mommy. One day in tears and frustration, I packed his lil Batman backpack and took him to Taco Bell. I told him to choose one…anyone he wanted. Of course he conceded and wanted me….til we got back in the car. he wasnt my friend and didnt like me. He tells me to sleep on the couch and he will sleep in my room and tries to “make” me cook his dinner when he demands it. My son speaks very well and is very smart so I sometimes forget he is a child. I have picked up quite a few bad words and a very short fuse in the last 6 months…God help me! Thanks ladies.

]]> By: Rhonda http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-55122 Rhonda Mon, 15 Nov 2010 19:10:42 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-55122 My daughter is 3.5 years old. Up to age 3 she was absolutely perfect! I felt so lucky...she had my temperament! Then, omg...overnight she changed. Lots of possible reasons...these all happened at once: increased time with dad, started preschool, mom got new boyfriend, nasty cold that lasted months. Yesterday she had a full on tantrum in a crowded airport because I wouldn't let her push the stroller onto the plane. She tells me to "go away right now!" and is quite bossy. I have to remind her now to ask nicely...I have older children and I remember the three's being the worst...quite irrational. It comes on strong,and then its over. Be consistent, and loving. Its hard, but don't respond in anger. My daughter is 3.5 years old. Up to age 3 she was absolutely perfect! I felt so lucky…she had my temperament! Then, omg…overnight she changed. Lots of possible reasons…these all happened at once: increased time with dad, started preschool, mom got new boyfriend, nasty cold that lasted months. Yesterday she had a full on tantrum in a crowded airport because I wouldn’t let her push the stroller onto the plane. She tells me to “go away right now!” and is quite bossy. I have to remind her now to ask nicely…I have older children and I remember the three’s being the worst…quite irrational. It comes on strong,and then its over. Be consistent, and loving. Its hard, but don’t respond in anger.

]]> By: Becky http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-37608 Becky Thu, 22 Apr 2010 17:39:48 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-37608 OMG! Just stumbled upon this blog at the perfect time. I have spent the whole morning in tears wondering if we will make it through the terrible 3's or not. You made me laugh. I love mom's who can be real about the feelings of motherhood....if more were then there wouldn't be the postpardom depression...can you have postpardom three years after birth?? Ha!Ha! OMG! Just stumbled upon this blog at the perfect time. I have spent the whole morning in tears wondering if we will make it through the terrible 3′s or not. You made me laugh. I love mom’s who can be real about the feelings of motherhood….if more were then there wouldn’t be the postpardom depression…can you have postpardom three years after birth?? Ha!Ha!

]]> By: Allison http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-37525 Allison Wed, 21 Apr 2010 01:17:06 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-37525 Love this! Yes, I am also in the middle of the 3 year old hellstorm. I naively thought the mild difficulties of the 18 months-two year old ages were the "terrible twos", and when they subsided, all was well. Yeah, until my once easy-going child turned three, and the defiance and daily power struggles started. Can't say I'm not entertained though, when he says "I don't LIKE that!!!" or tells me "no sit down in chair", as he sits down in the chair to eat dinner. Hilarious the level of control that he wants to have over every single thing. It did make me feel better when his preschool teacher told me that she thinks about her preschooler "how can I not control my own child, when I control a whole classroom full of children each day?" It always helps to know that you are not alone w/your three year old. Looking forward to 4, and crossing my fingers that it'll be easier. Love this! Yes, I am also in the middle of the 3 year old hellstorm. I naively thought the mild difficulties of the 18 months-two year old ages were the “terrible twos”, and when they subsided, all was well. Yeah, until my once easy-going child turned three, and the defiance and daily power struggles started. Can’t say I’m not entertained though, when he says “I don’t LIKE that!!!” or tells me “no sit down in chair”, as he sits down in the chair to eat dinner. Hilarious the level of control that he wants to have over every single thing. It did make me feel better when his preschool teacher told me that she thinks about her preschooler “how can I not control my own child, when I control a whole classroom full of children each day?” It always helps to know that you are not alone w/your three year old. Looking forward to 4, and crossing my fingers that it’ll be easier.

]]> By: Allison http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-37302 Allison Sat, 17 Apr 2010 20:57:58 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-37302 I'm so glad I saw this! My son is three and is suddenly such a horrible person to share a home with that it led me to start my own blog about it. I felt like this 3-year-old phase needs to be better publicized!! We need to know about this shit! Like you, I spent his 2's blissfully happy that we seemed to skip the terrible part. He was so hilarious, sweet and kind. Now he is not kind, he is not sweet, but he's still hilarious. I love him so, so, so much...when he's sleeping. I’m so glad I saw this! My son is three and is suddenly such a horrible person to share a home with that it led me to start my own blog about it. I felt like this 3-year-old phase needs to be better publicized!! We need to know about this shit! Like you, I spent his 2′s blissfully happy that we seemed to skip the terrible part. He was so hilarious, sweet and kind. Now he is not kind, he is not sweet, but he’s still hilarious. I love him so, so, so much…when he’s sleeping.

]]> By: WISassy http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-34377 WISassy Mon, 08 Mar 2010 06:12:23 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-34377 I either have selective memory or had an extremely idealic bunch (5) of kids...including boy/girl twins 'n a 15 month old girl next in line....essentially triplets...LOL....my older two boys were great also....honestly there were so few memorable issues...until......................................... 2006 I brought my youngest adult DD 'n her 10 day old son into my life 'n home....I essentially was coparenting him...about a year later she was able to strike out on her own successfully.....however, she works in the medical field with alternating shifts...many 12 hrs....I am alternate daycare...meaning all weekends, nights, etc.... Here is where there incredibly exasperating terrible threes come in! My Stars 'n Garters! I am 60 years old....LOL 'n there is not enough wine in the world to compensate....LOL...it is a constant battle of wills, mouthiness, meltdowns, etc....How did this loving little boy I refer to as Himself become this creature?! DD 'n I were discussing his latest meltdown he had for me 'n I said "Honey I simply do not remember any of you having these kind of reactions." She has a steel trap memory for family trivia...LOL....'n she agreed, saying neither do I mom.... You are not alone young mothers.....we oldsters are experiencing it also :) I either have selective memory or had an extremely idealic bunch (5) of kids…including boy/girl twins ‘n a 15 month old girl next in line….essentially triplets…LOL….my older two boys were great also….honestly there were so few memorable issues…until…………………………………..
2006 I brought my youngest adult DD ‘n her 10 day old son into my life ‘n home….I essentially was coparenting him…about a year later she was able to strike out on her own successfully…..however, she works in the medical field with alternating shifts…many 12 hrs….I am alternate daycare…meaning all weekends, nights, etc….
Here is where there incredibly exasperating terrible threes come in! My Stars ‘n Garters! I am 60 years old….LOL ‘n there is not enough wine in the world to compensate….LOL…it is a constant battle of wills, mouthiness, meltdowns, etc….How did this loving little boy I refer to as Himself become this creature?! DD ‘n I were discussing his latest meltdown he had for me ‘n I said “Honey I simply do not remember any of you having these kind of reactions.” She has a steel trap memory for family trivia…LOL….’n she agreed, saying neither do I mom….
You are not alone young mothers…..we oldsters are experiencing it also :)

]]> By: MommyNamedApril http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-34095 MommyNamedApril Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:49:00 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-34095 i agree. three is kind of awful. :-( .-= MommyNamedApril´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.aprilslittlefamily.com/2010/03/cookies-everything-is-better-with.html" rel="nofollow">Cookies! Everything is Better with Cookies!</a> =-. i agree. three is kind of awful. :-(
.-= MommyNamedApril´s last blog ..Cookies! Everything is Better with Cookies! =-.

]]> By: The Jade Garden http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-34084 The Jade Garden Tue, 02 Mar 2010 08:02:18 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-34084 I am getting mixed emotions reading the comments. I have girl turning three in two months and an only boy going 4 and a half in a couple of months as well (the two other siblings are college a college freshie and a sophie). I had recently quit a fifteen-year career (finally) so I may be able to watch the terrible twos(?), threes and even fours to unfold before our eyes. Sadistic, yeah but those are some of the episodes I will tell them about when they grow up, (i did not have much to say about the first two as they were darling angels) as much as the happy (cute) moments. It's not to say I don't work as full-time referee, (and cheerer, cash register, cook and nanny) but it takes my anguish (and momentary fits of anger) away because I get lost in those moments when I try to take mental pictures, simply because my camera isn't around most of time when I need to film my actors. I lost most of the chance with my teenagers, I wouldn't want to screw these last two chances ... again I am getting mixed emotions reading the comments. I have girl turning three in two months and an only boy going 4 and a half in a couple of months as well (the two other siblings are college a college freshie and a sophie).

I had recently quit a fifteen-year career (finally) so I may be able to watch the terrible twos(?), threes and even fours to unfold before our eyes. Sadistic, yeah but those are some of the episodes I will tell them about when they grow up, (i did not have much to say about the first two as they were darling angels) as much as the happy (cute) moments.

It’s not to say I don’t work as full-time referee, (and cheerer, cash register, cook and nanny) but it takes my anguish (and momentary fits of anger) away because I get lost in those moments when I try to take mental pictures, simply because my camera isn’t around most of time when I need to film my actors.

I lost most of the chance with my teenagers, I wouldn’t want to screw these last two chances … again

]]> By: Peaches http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-34078 Peaches Tue, 02 Mar 2010 05:51:12 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-34078 I whole heartedly agree. My number three is right in the middle of his terrible threes and it's well, terrible. .-= Peaches´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.peachoutofwater.com/2010/02/big-give.html" rel="nofollow">The Big Give.</a> =-. I whole heartedly agree. My number three is right in the middle of his terrible threes and it’s well, terrible.
.-= Peaches´s last blog ..The Big Give. =-.

]]> By: Kelsey http://www.scarymommy.com/the-terrible-threes/#comment-30090 Kelsey Thu, 28 Jan 2010 15:07:37 +0000 http://www.scarymommy.com/?p=1442#comment-30090 Completely agree!! Nobody told me how hard 3 would be. I am anxiously awaiting our little boys 4th birthday, surely year 4 will be better :) Completely agree!! Nobody told me how hard 3 would be. I am anxiously awaiting our little boys 4th birthday, surely year 4 will be better :)

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