The Third Child Syndrome


Months before Lily was born, she had a dresser filled with never-worn, freshly washed layettes and onsies neatly folded in the drawers. From the moment we found out she was a girl, I began shopping for and storing items, some of which are being worn for the first time now, almost six years later. Everything of hers was top of the line, shiny and new. She was my first, after all.

When Ben’s 20 week ultrasound revealed that he was all boy, the shopping commenced once again. He used her crib, stroller and highchair, but they were still in decent condition and his fresh new attire made up for the few scratches and stains she left behind.

I can count on one hand the number of new items I have purchased for my poor third child. Everything Evan wears has been worn before, and knowing that he will most likely be my last, I simply can’t justify making new baby purchases as he quickly approaches two.

The Pottery Barn crib that once was the center of Lily’s lilac, floral room now resides in the hodge-podge that is Evan’s nursery. Barely having survived four moves, I’m amazed that it’s still standing. The once shiny stroller is caked with crusty remnants of snacks long ago. As revolting as it may be, they also serve for impromptu nourishment when I forget to pack snacks– luckily,  my third child has low standards. And, don’t even get me started on the highchair he used until recently. My mother literally gagged while cleaning it. It’s all just so unfortunate.

Luckily, he doesn’t seem to mind. Along with crusty hand me downs, he also makes his own rules and gets away with murder. Seems like a fair trade to me.





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    Kim says

    This is SO true. Sounds like my baby, she gets nothing new because we don’t need to buy anything. Luckily she doesn’t mind.
    .-= Kim´s last blog ..A Little Help From My Friends =-.

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    Rachel says

    Sounds familiar! Long about four or five, though, you have to start buying some new (new as in, purchased at a yard sale, of course!) baby things because the old stuff has disentegrated. Or in the case of my high chair, just not worth cleaning. Yuck! Worst job ever!
    .-= Rachel´s last blog ..Back To School… Finally =-.

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    Ri, The Music Savvy Mom says

    Okay, that pic with the milk? PRICELESS.
    Every time I’ve seen that kiddo, he has an impish grin…or is in the process of mischief. I don’t think it will ever matter to him where things come from or who had them first – that one has much bigger fish to fry. ;)
    .-= Ri, The Music Savvy Mom´s last blog ..Part 2 – Interactive Playlist #4: Movie Soundtrack Music =-.

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    LZ @ My Messy Paradise says

    Sounds familiar. I only have 2, but both girls. M had the fancy room, great clothes, new everything. Poor Abs can barely get me to take her picture. I haven’t really even added anything personal for her to their shared room. Shame on me…she doesn’t mind yet, so I should get on the ball.

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    Loukia says

    So true, Jill! I continue to shop for my oldest son since he keeps outgrowing his clothes, but poor little Dimitry gets most of his brother’s clothes and books and toys. Sometimes the guilt is too strong, though, and I shop for my baby, too! I love the the picture of Evan drinking from the carton of milk!!
    .-= Loukia´s last blog ..From D.C., with love… =-.

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    WackyMummy says

    LOL. Isn’t it always the way. He seems to not mind though, and he’ll get away with a lot more stuff too. Fair trade. =)
    .-= WackyMummy´s last blog ..Breaking Out the Stroller =-.

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    Lady Mama says

    I can well believe it. I’m far more laid back about everything with my second son. The way I see it though, the second or third child already has the best gift – a sibling to play with. Who needs new stuff when you’ve got a buddy?
    .-= Lady Mama´s last blog ..Five Fashiony Things For Fall =-.

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    Swirl Girl says

    he’s so cute!

    My little one , just this year, actually got to pick out her own clothes from a store. She’s been wearing hand me downs (and proudly) for 5 years.!
    .-= Swirl Girl´s last blog ..The One Where It’s All Good** =-.

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    Jen, buried with children says

    I feel the same way about my two middle boys. They have not had a new thing in their lives but thankfully they don’t mind, yet.
    .-= Jen, buried with children´s last blog ..Pancakes for the Cause =-.

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    Beth says

    Funny you wrote this, there has been lots of talk about a 3rd baby in our house lately. Only I would get to go shopping again, because I donated it all to goodwill, because I was so sure I was done after 2. Live and learn.
    .-= Beth´s last blog ..Were Going to Disney World! =-.

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    Lynn from For Love or Funny says

    Do you mean that drinking out of the milk container is wrong? I’d better stop that.

    If your photos are any indication, hand-me-downs just make kids impossibly cute!
    .-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..Labor Day =-.

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    Rheanne says

    I love your posts about your littlest boy. He seems like he is going to keep you on your toes for many years to come.
    .-= Rheanne´s last blog …..about kindness =-.

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    blueskyhi says

    Boy what a cutie. Imagine if you’re a Duggar! I’ve grown to think of recycled clothes (hand-me downs) as an essential part of saving the environment.
    .-= blueskyhi´s last blog ..Book Sharing Monday – How Santa Really Works =-.

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    Safire says

    It’s fun to be the baby. You get everyone’s old stuff (which means more toys and clothes than any other sibling) and you get to KEEP them…meaning no other siblings to give them to! Gotta love being the youngest.
    .-= Safire´s last blog ..Crafts with a Purpose =-.

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    Mwa says

    My daughter loves it when she gets hand-me-downs. She walks around all day telling people who the clothes used to belong to. I did give to charity anything that looked like it had been washed a hundred times, though. I kept all the nice stuff.
    .-= Mwa´s last blog ..Rambling post filled with musings on motherhood, in which I start off pinpointing my perceived failings, and then end up being all mushy =-.

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    Jessica - This Is Worthwhile says

    My second child (whenever that happens) better be a boy because my plan is to sew frills on all my son’s clothing for a girl. And even I know that’s unlikely AND cruel so she’ll just end up wearing lots of brown. We’ll see how it goes :)
    .-= Jessica – This Is Worthwhile´s last blog ..9/3/75 =-.

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