Husband pens viral post about loving the many versions of his wife throughout their marriage
For some, monogamy seems like another word for boring. And sure, once you’ve been married long enough that your marriage license starts to develop dust or you’ve been living together so long that you no longer bother putting on cute pajamas at night, things can start to feel a little stale. You love your partner, yes, but being in a long term relationship comes with a trade-off, mainly the lack of mystery and intrigue that you get from a new relationship.
But Dale Partridge disagrees. The author, dad and hopeless romantic recently penned an ode to marriage that reminds us how people change during their lives, meaning the person you fall in love with will continue to change too. That’s pretty cool for those of us in long term relationships and marriages. We get the best of both worlds. We get to be with the person we love the most while also falling in love with someone new over and over again.
“Men are so worried that marriage will leave them with “only one woman” for the rest of their lives,” he writes. “That’s simply not true. I fell in love with a 19 year-old rock climber, married a 20 year-old animal lover, started a family with a 24 year-old mother, then built a farm with a 25 year-old homemaker, and today I’m married to a 27 year-old woman of wisdom.” Partridge wrote a non-fiction book about leadership, but clearly he missed his calling as a romance writer. Pretty sure those words are sweet enough to make Nicholas Sparks swoon.
His thoughts on marriage are giving everyone who reads them major feels. In less than a week the post has been shared over 273,000 times and has over 645,000 reactions with many people commenting on how happy they are in their own long term relationships and marriages.
I’ve been with my husband for nearly a decade. And while he swears he loves me and my chicken parmesan recipe forever and ever, I’ll admit there are times when I worry that one day he’ll grow bored of me, or I of him. But when I think back on our relationship, Partridge is absolutely right. It’s true that I’m a completely different person now than I was at 23 when I met my husband. I’ve switched careers, had twins and developed new hobbies and interests. My body’s changed along the way too. I’m not sure my former self would recognize me and I’m positive she’d be appalled by how hard I laugh looking at cat memes. I’ve changed. But still, no matter who I am that day, my husband tells me he loves me, and we choose to be with each other. In fact, he sends me those cat memes that I love so much.
“You’ll actually become overwhelmed with how many beautiful versions of her your get to marry over the years,” he says.”Don’t say no to marriage, say yes and keep saying yes until the day you die.”
Anyone else feel a sudden urge to go look through their old wedding album?